Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Zareox]

Yeah so I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. I miss her, but I don't want to be with her. :\

[ScoutKing]

I caught a kid taking pictures of me in the bathroom today
I walk in, I see this guy poking his head out of a stall (the bottom part), he goes into hiding, i think "this is weird, what ever, weird people everywhere ill just get what i came in here to do quickly", i go and bleed the lizard, walk out, wash my hands, and see in the mirror, this kid tip toed and holding his camera over the stall taking pictures.
Fucking freaking out, too creepy for me. Leave, see my friends in the hallway, we wait outside to confront him. Im getting ever more pissed, i feel that he was doing the same shit to me when I had my dick out pissing. we wait for 20-30 minutes, he finally leaves, i see where he goes, what class, and I get a good look of him, I decided not to confront him, but go to the administration about it, because i felt if i confronted him he would just delete any evidence, and if i did nothing, i would do people around me a dis-justice to let a pedo/pervert like that continue to do that (I believe that he was in there for 30 minutes, because I think he was doing the same to other people).
So my question FP-social advice, did i do the right thing about going to the school administration about it? I feel bad/dirty/like a snitch.

[Zareox]

[QUOTE=ScoutKing;40672047]I caught a kid taking pictures in the bathroom of me today.
I walk in, I see this guy poking his head out of a stall (the bottom part), he goes into hiding, i think "this is weird, what ever, weird people everywhere ill just get what i came in here to do quickly", i go and bleed the lizard, walk out, wash my hands, and see in the mirror, this kid tip toed and holding his camera over the stall taking pictures.
Fucking freaking out, too creepy for me. Leave, see my friends in the hallway, we wait outside to confront him. Im getting ever more pissed. we wait for 20-30 minutes, he finally leaves, i see where he goes, what class, and a full description, I decided not to confront him, but go to the administration about it, because i felt if i confronted him he would just delete any evidence, and if i did nothing, i would do people around me a dis-favor to let a pedo/pervert like that continue to do that (I believe that he was in there for 30 minutes, because I think he was doing the same to other people).
So my question FP-social advice, did i do the right thing about going to the school administration about it? I feel bad/dirty/like a snitch.[/QUOTE]

You completely did the right thing. I wouldn't have thought twice about it. That's just creepy.

[editline]16th May 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Zareox7;40664996]Yeah so I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. I miss her, but I don't want to be with her. :\[/QUOTE]

I'm just weird like this I guess.

[GeneralMoosen]

Okay this is sort of a small problem that I'm making a bigger deal than it needs to be but I can't really make heads or tails of it so can you help me out?

Alright so there is this girl I've been hanging out with lately. However, lately she's been having some problems which I will not share and it's been hard to talk to her lately. It seems like the only time I'm ever really able to talk to her is at school. Today I tried to make an effort to make a connection outside of school with her. Before I asked her, she asked me if we could jam together some time (she plays the guitar and I play drums). I say yeah and we start talking over a list of songs we could play together. I tell her to text me the list later and she says okay.

I also asked her if she wanted to chill for a half an hour because I had some thing I needed to do, but she said was being picked up by her mom soon and didn't have time. I left school a half an hour later and as I exited though the front door I saw her hanging out with her friends. I didn't really make a fuss over it though.

Later though I sent her a text asking her if she could give me a small list. She didn't respond. After I while I talked to her on face book. Everything was normal and she acted like she wanted to talk but after I asked for the list she just didn't respond.

I don't really know what to make of this. Even though she was the one that asked me if I wanted to hang with her it almost feels like she's avoiding it too. I know this is probably all in my head and that her problems are a big contribution to it this, but it's just that it's hard to talk to her now outside of school. I'm actually a little worried about her too. I want to try and establish an outside connection so I can just have some closure over my head.

So what should I make of this?

[ramirez!]

[QUOTE=GeneralMoosen;40672303]Okay this is sort of a small problem that I'm making a bigger deal than it needs to be but I can't really make heads or tails of it so can you help me out?

Alright so there is this girl I've been hanging out with lately. However, lately she's been having some problems which I will not share and it's been hard to talk to her lately. It seems like the only time I'm ever really able to talk to her is at school. Today I tried to make an effort to make a connection outside of school with her. Before I asked her, she asked me if we could jam together some time (she plays the guitar and I play drums). I say yeah and we start talking over a list of songs we could play together. I tell her to text me the list later and she says okay.

I also asked her if she wanted to chill for a half an hour because I had some thing I needed to do, but she said was being picked up by her mom soon and didn't have time. I left school a half an hour later and as I exited though the front door I saw her hanging out with her friends. I didn't really make a fuss over it though.

Later though I sent her a text asking her if she could give me a small list. She didn't respond. After I while I talked to her on face book. Everything was normal and she acted like she wanted to talk but after I asked for the list she just didn't respond.

I don't really know what to make of this. Even though she was the one that asked me if I wanted to hang with her it almost feels like she's avoiding it too. I know this is probably all in my head and that her problems are a big contribution to it this, but it's just that it's hard to talk to her now outside of school. I'm actually a little worried about her too. I want to try and establish an outside connection so I can just have some closure over my head.

So what should I make of this?[/QUOTE]

I'd say leave it be for a few days at least. If she genuinely wants to hang out she'll probably make attempts to talk to you, etcetera. It may be that she's just busy balancing her schedule or stuff like that and not necessarily avoiding you. I know a few people who tend to just kind of 'shut down' whenever things get busy.

[kaine123]

I met a cute girl while working at a local art gallery tonight. I got her number so I might see about hanging out sometime soon.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=GeneralMoosen;40672303]Okay this is sort of a small problem that I'm making a bigger deal than it needs to be but I can't really make heads or tails of it so can you help me out?

Alright so there is this girl I've been hanging out with lately. However, lately she's been having some problems which I will not share and it's been hard to talk to her lately. It seems like the only time I'm ever really able to talk to her is at school. Today I tried to make an effort to make a connection outside of school with her. Before I asked her, she asked me if we could jam together some time (she plays the guitar and I play drums). I say yeah and we start talking over a list of songs we could play together. I tell her to text me the list later and she says okay.

I also asked her if she wanted to chill for a half an hour because I had some thing I needed to do, but she said was being picked up by her mom soon and didn't have time. I left school a half an hour later and as I exited though the front door I saw her hanging out with her friends. I didn't really make a fuss over it though.

Later though I sent her a text asking her if she could give me a small list. She didn't respond. After I while I talked to her on face book. Everything was normal and she acted like she wanted to talk but after I asked for the list she just didn't respond.

I don't really know what to make of this. Even though she was the one that asked me if I wanted to hang with her it almost feels like she's avoiding it too. I know this is probably all in my head and that her problems are a big contribution to it this, but it's just that it's hard to talk to her now outside of school. I'm actually a little worried about her too. I want to try and establish an outside connection so I can just have some closure over my head.

So what should I make of this?[/QUOTE]

if all of this happened today then there's a very good chance you're just overanalyzing things. she might be busy, just because she isn't talking to you 24/7 doesn't mean she's avoiding you.

[editline]17th May 2013[/editline]

but stop badgering her, if she fell asleep or something it's not going to fucking look good on your part when she finds 40 unread texts on her phone.

[Rhenae]

Soo, anyone got any advice on dealing with anxiety? I pretty much have an anxiety break down if I have to call someone on the phone, and any time I think about the fact I might be getting a call some day soon to go in for a job interview my brain goes into break down mode.
I don't really have panic attacks, at least not by normal description of can't breath freaking out. I can be thinking quite logically but i'm just locked down, and there's a definite panic feeling in my chest, my mind is running in overdrive etc, but i'm also very removed from it as a problem. I mean right now I'm having that problem, I don't feel stressed and I don't have anything to be stressing over now(did when I got home but that was 20 minutes ago) but it just won't settle and go away. Sometimes this happens to me for pretty long periods of time, and I get way too anxious about little things and mistakes.
Tried calm breathing but it certainly doesn't seem to help. So yeah i'm sure this will settle on it's own before I get much of a response but any tips on how to deal with anxiety waves and just how to stop being anxious about things you know you shouldn't be so anxious about and your brain just locks up and refuses to do even if you want to?

edit:
Also how to stop anxiety when you have nothing to be anxious about it just happens or wont go away.

[Heigou]

I've always had shit luck with the ~~gurls~~

Is it because of my god awful and insufferable personality or my looks or both.

[url]http://i.imgur.com/cmpLQbc.jpg[/url]

Serious answers yo.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40684681]I've always had shit luck with the ~~gurls~~

Is it because of my god awful and insufferable personality or my looks or both.

[url]http://i.imgur.com/cmpLQbc.jpg[/url]

Serious answers yo.[/QUOTE]

Definitely your personality.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40684681]I've always had shit luck with the ~~gurls~~

Is it because of my god awful and insufferable personality or my looks or both.

[url]http://i.imgur.com/cmpLQbc.jpg[/url]

Serious answers yo.[/QUOTE]

honestly you are a fairly good looking guy, love the hair, beard is okay, but a thinner beard is in these days so its cool. Get your glasses straightened though. how do you look without glasses?

idk about your personality.

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;40684725]honestly you are a fairly good looking guy, love the hair, beard is okay, but a thinner beard is in these days so its cool. Get your glasses straightened though. how do you look without glasses?

idk about your personality.[/QUOTE]

Well, I can only conclude that my personality is shit. For the beard I'll try, I just get lazy because I'd have to trim every 2 days so I go weeks without trimming just because I'm lazy. I look about the same without glasses.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40684821]Well, I can only conclude that my personality is shit. For the beard I'll try, I just get lazy because I'd have to trim every 2 days so I go weeks without trimming just because I'm lazy. I look about the same without glasses.[/QUOTE]

i dunno man, i find it really hard to connect with people usually, maybe you just haven't found someone cool yet!

[Zareox]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40684821]Well, I can only conclude that my personality is shit. For the beard I'll try, I just get lazy because I'd have to trim every 2 days so I go weeks without trimming just because I'm lazy. I look about the same without glasses.[/QUOTE]

Aw, your personality can't be that bad. Oogala is probably right.

[OogalaBoogal]

I just said I find it really hard to connect with people [I]usually[/I]

Today is not one of those days. I went on a really cool date!

[Babyarm-bat]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40684669]Soo, anyone got any advice on dealing with anxiety? I pretty much have an anxiety break down if I have to call someone on the phone, and any time I think about the fact I might be getting a call some day soon to go in for a job interview my brain goes into break down mode.
I don't really have panic attacks, at least not by normal description of can't breath freaking out. I can be thinking quite logically but i'm just locked down, and there's a definite panic feeling in my chest, my mind is running in overdrive etc, but i'm also very removed from it as a problem. I mean right now I'm having that problem, I don't feel stressed and I don't have anything to be stressing over now(did when I got home but that was 20 minutes ago) but it just won't settle and go away. Sometimes this happens to me for pretty long periods of time, and I get way too anxious about little things and mistakes.
Tried calm breathing but it certainly doesn't seem to help. So yeah i'm sure this will settle on it's own before I get much of a response but any tips on how to deal with anxiety waves and just how to stop being anxious about things you know you shouldn't be so anxious about and your brain just locks up and refuses to do even if you want to?[/QUOTE]

Yo yo, I got generalized anxiety too, from my mom I'm pretty sure.

But the best thing for me is to usually identify why I'm even feeling anxious when the present is fine. If you have everything taken care of in the present there's no need to fret over the past or what might come of the future, which can be applied to problems large and small. "what am I going to do with my life?" to "Oh god what if someone calls me?"

I guess what I'm saying is the best help that I found was to glean some choice nuggets from Buddhist philosophies.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40684681]I've always had shit luck with the ~~gurls~~

Is it because of my god awful and insufferable personality or my looks or both.

[url]http://i.imgur.com/cmpLQbc.jpg[/url]

Serious answers yo.[/QUOTE]

maybe this is just me but i don't think looks play that large of a role in forming relationships with people, you look decent enough and as long as you're well-kempt i doubt appearance should be a concern. but like oogala said it might just be that you haven't met anyone you click with yet
as for having an attractive personality all you can really do is be accepting of who you are, if you think you're an interesting person with interesting hobbies then you can present yourself as someone interesting.

[editline]18th May 2013[/editline]

unrelated,
my roommate got home tonight and told my boyfriend and i rather ecstatically that after his doctor's visit this morning they found out the source of his recent health problems is a tumor in his brain (probably not cancerous). he seemed especially happy when he added that it's expected to cut down his life expectancy by about 30 years and admitted it was because he was never anticipating living past 40.
don't know which of those things is more depressing

[Rhenae]

[video=youtube;OSwsJtSfyXU]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSwsJtSfyXU[/video]
A video just to piss some of you off :v:

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40684681]I've always had shit luck with the ~~gurls~~

Is it because of my god awful and insufferable personality or my looks or both.

[url]http://i.imgur.com/cmpLQbc.jpg[/url]

Serious answers yo.[/QUOTE]

You got too many plants in your room. Girls are just scared they will get hay fever.

[sp]Or they see the black leather Sofa in your room and they think you run a porn casting company, especially with your bed in a heap[/sp]

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;40686467]RWJ should just stop[/QUOTE]

He's going to be seventy years old, in a retirement home - remanising on his life, and he will just be like:
"Why was I such an unfunny cunt"

[skynrdfan3]

I just finished grad night. The last time our graduating class will ever be together all at once.

I've attended this school and lived within 5 minutes of it my entire life.

Our graduating glass consists of 82 people, about half of which have literally always been in my life through school.

Pre-school, kindergarten, elementary, junior high, high school. Learning the alphabet, learning the fucking basics of math, grammar, nap time, recess, awesome parties, awkward moments, inside jokes, awesome handshakes, relationships, football games, basketball games, baseball games, getting caught drinking, getting caught smoking weed, getting suspended... fucking everything.

We have shared our lives for nearly 20 years, and now we part. I have been crying over this for hours.

Only now do I realize just how long I have been with these people and how valuable these years have been. We shared the only time in our lives where we didn't really have to give any fucks about anything. Now we are launched into the real world, doing our own thing.

maybe i'm just a sentimental guy, maybe it's the sleep deprivation, maybe it's the absurd amount of caffeine I've consumed, but this is the saddest I think I have ever been.

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

It's been a blast. Off to college now, I guess.

[thisispain]

my grad night was the happiest moment of my life because i never had to see their ugly faces again
any time i saw them all we did was discuss how different everything was back in school and making shit up about what happened there, ignoring the fact that many of them had no problem stepping on each others faces in order to climb their temporary social ladder

or maybe im just harsh and bitter, its prob a bit of both

[killerteacup]

its always easy to talk to ex-school mates because you just draw upon school

[RainbowStalin]

I had a real shitty time in high school so I never really enjoy talking about it.

[Guy Mannly]

i moved to the us in 6th grade, had to readjust to everyone treating each other like shit instead of my entire grade being close with each other. didn't have any friends for the first year, got to middle school and got picked up by a group of girls who lived sort of near me. after a couple years i realized they only tolerated having me around and actually made no effort to stay friends with me, stopped following them around at school and nobody noticed
had to go back to high school for about 2 weeks before i was able to get my ged and i'm still fucking glad i dropped out. being around so many people that were dishonest with me was fucking exhausting.

[editline]18th May 2013[/editline]

but now i live 1500 miles away from there and am still readjusting to social customs being completely different where i am now, but i still have no interest whatsoever in meeting other people so i'm not sure it matters

[skynrdfan3]

[QUOTE=skynrdfan3;40687333]I just finished grad night. The last time our graduating class will ever be together all at once.

I've attended this school and lived within 5 minutes of it my entire life.

Our graduating glass consists of 82 people, about half of which have literally always been in my life through school.

Pre-school, kindergarten, elementary, junior high, high school. Learning the alphabet, learning the fucking basics of math, grammar, nap time, recess, awesome parties, awkward moments, inside jokes, awesome handshakes, relationships, football games, basketball games, baseball games, getting caught drinking, getting caught smoking weed, getting suspended... fucking everything.

We have shared our lives for nearly 20 years, and now we part. I have been crying over this for hours.

Only now do I realize just how long I have been with these people and how valuable these years have been. We shared the only time in our lives where we didn't really have to give any fucks about anything. Now we are launched into the real world, doing our own thing.

maybe i'm just a sentimental guy, maybe it's the sleep deprivation, maybe it's the absurd amount of caffeine I've consumed, but this is the saddest I think I have ever been.

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

It's been a blast. Off to college now, I guess.[/QUOTE]

this was a straight up emotional breakdown, caused by 24 hours of no sleep, 120mg of Vyvanse, and a shitload of caffeine.

tbh i'm still just as sad to be leaving, but more accepting of the fact.

[Zareox]

Most of everyone faces that sadness when they finally graduate. You've been locked down with a strict yearly schedule year after year with the same people every year, and now you're free. Free to make whatever decision you so choose: Stay in town and take a job, go off to college, leave everything behind and move across the country or join the military. The decision is yours. I know the sadness didn't affect me as much because I already knew what I was doing beforehand so I never really got the chance to see things as "Oh my, I have the freedom to do whatever I want". I'll probably hit that after I graduate college, but everyone experiences it to some degree.

[blacksam]

Aw fuck.
I feel like I am hitting a wall with my Ex.
I talk to her, I just feel like my old self worried about making her jealous or coming up with a romanticized future.
It just doesn't belong.
I feel like everything I worked towards with my friends is worthless if I go out with her again. She was nice. She was caring. She isn't the same. And yet I still feel extremely protective of here. She just has such a shitty situation right now at home and I feel for her.
She wants to start a relationship again and I kindly said I couldn't because I have a busy summer. That's true, but my family said they would never accept her back after she was so awkward with everyone and so possessive. Same with hers. I know her parents don't like me because she told me that.
She said it made her feel better to talk to me about things. I just feel like she emotionally drains me. I feel like I am giving off the wrong intention by talking to her. Like she strings herself along and thinks I want to rekindle what we had. For as gorgeous as she was, she had some huge issues with how she looked or how I was disloyal for literally talking to another girl in my class.
I don't know if I can keep talking to her without feeling like I am losing who I am to her. I just know how much poison she is to me. She claims she'll change, but I can't accept that because I know how emotional bargaining works.

I need a hug.

[Protocol7]

Why is it so hard for some people to be reasonable?

My mom asked me if I think she's being to harsh with my dad. I say yes, and it's really true - she can't speak to him without getting angry for no reason, and she sees fit to tell him how to do everything.

She starts crying when I tell her my opinion (and I wasn't rude about it, I just said "I think you're a little abrasive every time you talk to him") and now she's upstairs throwing shit around.

I'm 20. I shouldn't have to deal with people older than me acting like children.

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;40693264]Why is it so hard for some people to be reasonable?

My mom asked me if I think she's being to harsh with my dad. I say yes, and it's really true - she can't speak to him without getting angry for no reason, and she sees fit to tell him how to do everything.

She starts crying when I tell her my opinion (and I wasn't rude about it, I just said "I think you're a little abrasive every time you talk to him") and now she's upstairs throwing shit around.

I'm 20. I shouldn't have to deal with people older than me acting like children.[/QUOTE]

Yeah I'm 17 and I've been dealing with several people older than me acting like children foe years. My mom's an absolute child most of the time. I know exactly where you're coming from and it's fucking unbearable. Especially when it's not a one-time ordeal, they literally seem to think they're still 16 and in high school, or that they are simply always right, etc.