Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Remedial Math]

I still think that thing you said a few pages back is one of the most important pieces of advice you'll ever get. If someone blows you off it doesn't mean you're something negative, just that you two as people aren't compatible. Doesn't necessarily apply to just relationships, but ANY interaction.

[Dooskington]

I need some advice here.

A girl that I know but haven't really talked to that much recently started messaging me on facebook about two weeks ago. Since then, she messages me every night and we just talk. We have a day off coming up (Wednesday) and she said she wasn't doing anything but if I wanted to, we could "go play pool or watch a movie or just chill out at your house".

I didn't really know what to do so I played it safe and told her that we could go to the movies and check something out, so that's the plan now. I don't know if this is a date or just hanging out or what. What should I do with her afterwards?

[Loopoo]

Out of those three, I would have picked pool! Way more interactive, and you'd be able to actually chat, and drinks if you wanted? Plus, good music (my local pool bar has a jukebox, which sucks when it isn't very busy, but when there's lots of people in, the music is awesome).

You could always go somewhere to eat afterwards. I prefer going to eat before a movie, though. So I can be a total fatass and just sink into the movie seats.

As for "Is this a date?", don't bother worrying yourself over it. Just go out with her, try and have fun, and then I'm sure if she enjoys it as much as you do, you guys will organize something again. You don't have to label it as anything.

[Dooskington]

[QUOTE=loopoo;46230092]
As for "Is this a date?", don't bother worrying yourself over it. Just go out with her, try and have fun, and then I'm sure if she enjoys it as much as you do, you guys will organize something again. You don't have to label it as anything.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Afterwards, I'll ask her if she wants to go grab some food or something. Hopefully all works out.

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46228757]Tae, you're not bad looking TBH. You should post a pic without your glasses - might be worth looking into getting contacts. I used to wear glasses and have felt way more attractive ever since I got rid of mine.[/QUOTE]
I tried contacts when I was 16 and they just did not agree with me. I'm probably going to need new glasses soon though so I'll probably get better looking ones.

Either way, whether I am attractive or not, this city is really limited in the type of people you're going to meet so that makes it pretty tough for me to even find people I get along with. And to be honest I feel like I need to find a girlfriend in university because it will be too hard after.

[Squidman]

Some girl from one of my classes offered to buy me lunch after I did the majority of work on our presentation; (took about 3 minutes and I wasn't totally sober) I gently and repeatedly reassured her that it "weren't no thang at all" but she kept pestering me and I kinda had the drunchies so I eventually accepted. Thing is, I'm already romantically attached so I took pains to act like a complete maniac while intensely enjoying my Chipotle but despite my erratic behavior she hinted (and by hinted I mean blatantly told me) that she'd enjoy it if we did this another time. Thinking quickly, I loudly smacked my lips and told her that while I'd enjoy almost orgasmic pleasure from meeting with her again for lunch I had a particularly complicated and lucrative MLP porn commission to be working on during probably every imaginable time that we could meet for lunch in the future. Wiping my nose on my shirt, I hastily stood up and sloppily curtsied, wishing her a "incessantly tranquil" period of time before our next class together. I then spun on my heel and loped out of the Chipotle in a bowlegged fashion as a man with jungle rot would. Some events might have been dramatized to protect the innocent

[Loopoo]

what

[Remedial Math]

you sound like a fun person

[lope]

if my girlfriend grinds with another guy is that cheating?

[Banandana]

If you aren't cool with it, then talk to her about it.

I'd have a fit if I was in that position

[Remedial Math]

STOP POSTING PICTURES OF BEING HAPPY

you're triggering me

[Guy Mannly]

You two are so adorable together!

[Taepodong-2]

I wish I had someone who would take cute pictures with me

[Guy Mannly]

Guy Mannly+Captain America selfies incoming, ETA 2 weeks.

[zenby]

I've been trying out a new anxiety medication (CBD, from specially bred medical cannabis). Today I talked to a hot girl in my writing class; she saw a drawing I had done and instead of taking the compliment with a quiet "thanks" and then darting into my shell, I said some shit about my opinions on art and why I do it, and we ended up having a conversation about sci-fi and werewolves and shit
And I actually managed to speak up in class, which happens pretty much never

In combination with propranolol for physiological symptoms (and drugs for ADHD and depression), I might finally be able to function kinda like a normal person! And I've joined the 1% of medical cannabis patients that actually use it for a legitimate medical purpose

[Guy Mannly]

So my apartment smells like rosemary mint, Billie Holiday is playing, and I just finished making/eating chili and am now sitting in my kitchen snacking on mint tea with honey, vanilla bean ice cream, and mint chocolate chip cookies. I feel so serene right now. Living alone is amazing.

[editline]14th October 2014[/editline]

Also I just got a text from a friend saying he had an "extra ticket" to the fair. I can't stop laughing at how not-subtle it is.

[Remedial Math]

i'm just frustrated with the way everything is going right now. goddammit

i'm going to vent for a moment so don't feel obligated to actually respond to any of this

i like college and it's going well but it's annoying that i can't seem to be in positions to meet a lot of people, or the people that I DO meet are all really goddamn weird because i'm stuck with computer science nerds who don't know how to bathe and all wear fedoras (i swear to god i saw like eight in class today) and the one place i do find enjoyment doing school-related stuff (the newspaper) i meet a lot of cool people and a lot of cool girls too but it seems like every time i'm interested in a girl she's either dating someone else or there's another person flirting more aggressively which isn't really my style anyway

but it's hard to be in this environment and not treat girls like targets, like i just want to make friends and hang out but if people have a tendency to pair off then i need to get in somewhere and make my move but i don't like thinking about it that way necessarily

this is all compounded by the fact that it's only week 2 for crying out loud and i know something will happen eventually but somehow i managed to end up rooming with four guys on the volleyball team and they bone down (not with each other) more or less every night and even though that's not something i'm into, it's very weird and annoying to have it constantly happening around me

hell i don't even care about sex i just want to be loved oh god so alone

glad to get that out of my system

[Banandana]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46236904]i'm just frustrated with the way everything is going right now. goddammit

i'm going to vent for a moment so don't feel obligated to actually respond to any of this

i like college and it's going well but it's annoying that i can't seem to be in positions to meet a lot of people, or the people that I DO meet are all really goddamn weird because i'm stuck with computer science nerds who don't know how to bathe and all wear fedoras (i swear to god i saw like eight in class today) and the one place i do find enjoyment doing school-related stuff (the newspaper) i meet a lot of cool people and a lot of cool girls too but it seems like every time i'm interested in a girl she's either dating someone else or there's another person flirting more aggressively which isn't really my style anyway

but it's hard to be in this environment and not treat girls like targets, like i just want to make friends and hang out but if people have a tendency to pair off then i need to get in somewhere and make my move but i don't like thinking about it that way necessarily

this is all compounded by the fact that it's only week 2 for crying out loud and i know something will happen eventually but somehow i managed to end up rooming with four guys on the volleyball team and they bone down (not with each other) more or less every night and even though that's not something i'm into, it's very weird and annoying to have it constantly happening around me

hell i don't even care about sex i just want to be loved oh god so alone

glad to get that out of my system[/QUOTE]

Just start talking to someone, a group of people, etc. and you'll meet a wide range of people. From there, you'll probably develop an interest in a particular individual.

[Remedial Math]

I don't have a problem talking to people, but I just don't usually have/take the opportunity to find and/or talk to them again. Which makes being able to talk to random people more or less useless.

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46236904]but it seems like every time i'm interested in a girl she's either dating someone else or there's another person flirting more aggressively which isn't really my style anyway
[/QUOTE]
Welcome to my life, except girls I'm interested in tend to be straight up not interested in dating anyone if one of those other two conditions is not met. What's even more depressing is when I walk around campus it seems like literally everyone is paired off in couples and here I am barely able to start a conversation with a girl I'm interested in and the few I have been able to talk to have absolutely no intentions to date anyone if they're single and it's nearly impossible for me to meet new people it's just all fucking shit sometimes and I don't understand why relationships come so easily to most people but there's a small minority of people like me who have extreme difficulty with finding anyone they're even remotely compatible with.

And then I have friends who are surprised I've been rejected by every girl I'm interested in. This one girl I'm friend with said she was surprised about it because I seem like a really nice person. Yeah, I seem like a nice person to you because you're my fucking friend and you've actually had a chance to get to know me beyond me being an average looking guy who has no fucking clue how to flirt trying to hit on you.

[Guy Mannly]

Most generically attractive girls aren't going to be single unless they've chosen to be.

If Mav were here he'd probably say "just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score".

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46237186]Most generically attractive girls aren't going to be single unless they've chosen to be.
[/QUOTE]

And that's why it sucks because almost every attractive girl at my university is a generically attractive girl. And then when I see one that's not generically attractive I fucking shit myself trying to figure out how to start a conversation with her or I attempt to without thinking and it gets awkward as fuck like that time a couple weeks ago when I tried flirting with a girl in the library and had no idea what to say.

[editline]15th October 2014[/editline]

I think I should just accept that I'm probably not going to have a girlfriend in university.

[Remedial Math]

yeah but mav is an asshole

[Fire Kracker]

usually i'd say it's uncalled for

but no he was actually an asshole

[Rhenae]

It's been a long time since i've seen Mav mentioned in this thread, I wonder what he is up to these days

[Remedial Math]

he thought he was better than everyone else in the thread, was hilariously condescending, and (imo) wasn't particularly friendly towards women

[Banandana]

Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score, faggot.

[sp]jk ilu[/sp]

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46228773]And here's me since we're doing that?

[img]http://i.imgur.com/26EaJ8z.jpg?2[/img]

[editline]14th October 2014[/editline]

AUTOMERGE[/QUOTE]

txt me

[editline]15th October 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;46237326]It's been a long time since i've seen Mav mentioned in this thread, I wonder what he is up to these days[/QUOTE]

Bodybuilding I guess, except for the muscles he still looks like some chav.

[Guy Mannly]

I'll add your name to the waitlist

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46236904]i'm just frustrated with the way everything is going right now. goddammit

i'm going to vent for a moment so don't feel obligated to actually respond to any of this

i like college and it's going well but it's annoying that i can't seem to be in positions to meet a lot of people, or the people that I DO meet are all really goddamn weird because i'm stuck with computer science nerds who don't know how to bathe and all wear fedoras (i swear to god i saw like eight in class today) and the one place i do find enjoyment doing school-related stuff (the newspaper) i meet a lot of cool people and a lot of cool girls too but it seems like every time i'm interested in a girl she's either dating someone else or there's another person flirting more aggressively which isn't really my style anyway

but it's hard to be in this environment and not treat girls like targets, like i just want to make friends and hang out but if people have a tendency to pair off then i need to get in somewhere and make my move but i don't like thinking about it that way necessarily

this is all compounded by the fact that it's only week 2 for crying out loud and i know something will happen eventually but somehow i managed to end up rooming with four guys on the volleyball team and they bone down (not with each other) more or less every night and even though that's not something i'm into, it's very weird and annoying to have it constantly happening around me

hell i don't even care about sex i just want to be loved oh god so alone

glad to get that out of my system[/QUOTE]

dude fucking programming degrees

I empathise so hard

why did we choose this path