Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Banandana]

So I made a Tinder account curious what it was all about. Took like 3 seconds to do.

Then I looked at the feeds and I saw my cousin. Yeah nope, I'm out. Deleted the account (Not that I was seriously looking in the first place).

But I did notice, literally everyone my age adds a bunch of filters and shit and it makes them look waaay older than they are.

[editline]15th October 2014[/editline]

I'm sure it'd be great if I wanted to find someone/didn't have someone to hook up with/was bored and whatnot and was actually looking tho

[Remedial Math]

i bet you swiped right, didnt you

[killerteacup]

of course you saw your cousin

you swipe right and then you laugh at them in real life and on tinder its fun

[Banandana]

shit was I supposed to swipe right

I didn't swipe right on anything, I just wanted to know what it was all about

[Remedial Math]

I've considered Tinder, but honestly my biggest reason for not doing it is that I don't have any good pictures and I'm too lazy to take some. My pickup game is stellar, it would totally work.

[killerteacup]

I have no good pictures but I know enough not to sext for my first message

Don't want to end up on here - [url]http://straightwhiteboystexting.tumblr.com/[/url]

[Remedial Math]

you want to get laid? it's easy

text #1: damn girl
text #2, need two for emphasis: if you were a vegetable you'd be a cutecumber

done

[Dooskington]

So, the movie date was a disaster.

I'll start by saying that I wasn't sure how I felt about this girl. I wasn't sure if I liked her or not( Which is what dates are for, I guess ), so I accepted to go on the date with her. I thought that the movies was a good idea, because the alternative that she suggest was hanging out in my house, which I was not okay with. After talking for a while before the movie, I decided that I just didn't really have feelings for her. I didn't feel any chemistry. Her interests are vastly different from mine, and whenever talking to her over facebook, I always have to carry the conversations. I just feel like I am interrogating her instead of having a conversation.

Right off the bat, the movie I chose was a horrible choice for a date. We went to see "A Walk Among The Tombstones", because it was the only thing that looked okay playing at the theater. What I didn't know, was that the movie was about the kidnapping and torturing of women. There was even a scene where a woman has her breast cut off. Not a real good movie to put people in a romantic mood.

So throughout the entire movie, she is kind of edging closer to me. We were the ONLY people in the theater( It was a Wednesday afternoon on a school day, after all. ) I was comfortable just touching shoulders ( I kept the middle armrest up and out of the way ) and by the time the movie was halfway through, her hand was on my thigh and she was curled up against me in the other seat. This is about the point where I start panicking, my leg shaking like I have extreme Parkinson's. She kept turning towards me, obviously attempting to get close enough to provoke a kiss. I managed to delay the inevitable.

When the movie ended, we just kind of sat there in silence as the credits rolled. I didn't want to get up and leave without kissing her because, I mean, that was the whole point ( Even though at this point I had decided I didn't like her ). So, I just bucked up and kissed her (First kiss ever though, woot I guess). Before that, I had absolutely no experience kissing girls, so I am not really one to judge, but god she was awful at it. Immediately she stuck her tongue in my mouth and she was biting my tongue while pushing her teeth against mine. I was in shock, It took me a few seconds to realize what I was even doing. I actually kind of started laughing in the middle of it because it was just a funny thing to picture.

After about 2 minutes of that nonsense, we got up and walked out. I told her that I was being honest and I didn't know what we were going to do after the movie. I suggested food but she wasn't hungry. She wanted to go back to my place. I came up with some excuse, saying that since she is allergic to cats it might not be a good idea, and how my brother was home and we couldn't go there ( which was false ). So I just walked her to the train, told her I would see her tomorrow at school and that I would text her tonight, gave her a hug and she gave me another bad kiss goodbye, and we went our separate ways. It was a fucking dismal way to end a date, but I had to get out of there fast.

On my way home, it hit me that I had to do something about this, tonight. At this point I was in a relationship that I did not want to be in. So I just sent her a message saying that I had fun, but that I felt we lacked chemistry and I would be more comfortable just being friends. I did it as politely as possible. She was pretty disappointed but ultimately said that she understood. Now I have to see her tomorrow, and hopefully this won't be a huge deal.

Do I feel bad for rejecting her over facebook? Kind of. But I just decided I wanted to end it right then and there. It wasn't going to go anywhere, and I wanted to get it off of my mind.

Overall a horrible date, but good experience, I think.

[I][B]TLDR[/B]; I went on a date with a girl I didn't like, made out with her, sent her home directly afterwards, and then rejected her over facebook.[/I]

[Remedial Math]

jesus christ dude

[editline]15th October 2014[/editline]

let me recap this so i understand because i may have missed something

1) you took her to a horror movie which is the perfect place for snuggles because as a man you are the one to comfort her
2) she did not care and/or did what girls do in horror movies and snuggled
3) you went for a kiss and she was overeager
4) she wanted to go back to your place and bone and you had a panic attack and said you had cats which you don't
5) you told her it wasn't gonna work over facebook

[Dooskington]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46245052]jesus christ dude

[editline]15th October 2014[/editline]

let me recap this so i understand because i may have missed something

1) you took her to a horror movie which is the perfect place for snuggles because as a man you are the one to comfort her
2) she did not care and/or did what girls do in horror movies and snuggled
3) you went for a kiss and she was overeager
4) she wanted to go back to your place and bone and you had a panic attack and said you had cats which you don't
5) you told her it wasn't gonna work over facebook[/QUOTE]

No, I do have cats. I lied about my brother being home. I did not want to bring her to my place because I didn't want to have sex with her.

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46245052]
1) you took her to a horror movie which is the perfect place for snuggles because as a man you are the one to comfort her
[/QUOTE]

Didn't think of it like that. Pretty good point.

[Remedial Math]

she clearly wanted to have sex with you though, i'm surprised you weren't on board at least for that

[Dooskington]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46245471]she clearly wanted to have sex with you though, i'm surprised you weren't on board at least for that[/QUOTE]

As odd as it may sound, I just wasn't comfortable taking advantage of the situation just for sex. If I had sex with her and then ended it, it would have been a hell of a lot more complicated.

[Splash Attack]

So today, Ukrainian girl was talking about her Ballroom dance club she's in at our Uni. I mentioned that other than one lesson I had on a vacation, I haven't ever really even danced. She said that there are plenty of people in there that have never danced before and strongly hinted at me joining. It sounds like it could be interesting.

Also, its obvious now that she's totally into me and I should probably get on that.

[Remedial Math]

[QUOTE=Duskling;46245507]As odd as it may sound, I just wasn't comfortable taking advantage of the situation just for sex. If I had sex with her and then ended it, it would have been a hell of a lot more complicated.[/QUOTE]

That's fair, I just think it's a weird reaction. Honestly I bet if you would have been like "Look, I'll be honest, I don't think we really share a lot of interests and I don't think this would work as a relationship." she would have said like "sure but can we still fuck"

and then you make a different kind of friend

[Splash Attack]

It's also interesting to see photos of posters I see all the time in this thread. I suppose I'll contribute.

[t]http://i.imgur.com/n43aD4y.jpg[/t]

[Dooskington]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46246333]That's fair, I just think it's a weird reaction. Honestly I bet if you would have been like "Look, I'll be honest, I don't think we really share a lot of interests and I don't think this would work as a relationship." she would have said like "sure but can we still fuck"

and then you make a different kind of friend[/QUOTE]

Would be an option, but a few days ago when we were just talking about relationships in general, she told me she was not interested in hooking up with guys but she was looking for a "deep and meaningful" relationship. Would have been interesting though.

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;46246357]It's also interesting to see photos of posters I see all the time in this thread. I suppose I'll contribute.
[/QUOTE]

Oooh, fun !
[T]http://i.imgur.com/WCWh3uI.jpg[/T]

[disseminate]

post your picture v. love advice

[img]http://puu.sh/ce4zs/569f0fe891.jpg[/img]

im the one on the left!!!

[Taepodong-2]

How do people get like 1000 facebook friends holy shit. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong if I only have 64 facebook friends but everyone I know has like 200+. You just look at my facebook and know I'm an anti-social loser.

[editline]15th October 2014[/editline]

Not to mention like half of my facebook friends are people I only know from the internet

[Dooskington]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46246971]How do people get like 1000 facebook friends holy shit. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong if I only have 64 facebook friends but everyone I know has like 200+. You just look at my facebook and know I'm an anti-social loser.

[editline]15th October 2014[/editline]

Not to mention like half of my facebook friends are people I only know from the internet[/QUOTE]

I have like, 30 facebook friends. I only add the people that I talk to and or see on a regular basis.

[Loopoo]

I used to have around 800 but I went crazy and deleted a fucktonne of them, now I'm down to 300. People I actually want to stay in touch with.

Having that many friends on FB is crazy, I don't understand how someone can want that.

[Remedial Math]

stop comparing yourself to people

[Guy Mannly]

I have... 30ish. Considering that I moved to a different state when I turned 18, there isn't any good reason for me to keep most of the people I went to high school with, except for the one person from that state who I still talk to.

[Remedial Math]

"hey can we talk tomorrow? at like 10ish?"

that's never a good text to get from a girl

what'd i do

[Rhenae]

I have 121 apparently, I had to go check. I've added maybe 2-3 of them from my old job? I just accept any friend requests I get from people I've met. I really don't use facebook other than to keep in contact with my mum since I moved, so it doesn't matter much to me who I have.

[Guy Mannly]

I use it to keep in touch with my D&D group.

Also, my D&D group isn't just my D&D group anymore. I have friends now.

I'm really glad my ex and I aren't together anymore because I don't think I would be able to enjoy other friendships if we still were. He has a very pessimistic and borderline sociopathic attitude toward most people that makes it hard to uphold friendships. He said a lot of shitty things to me about our D&D host and expressed that he was only friends with him because he knew I could use friends. Now that I'm getting to actually know these guys I'm realizing they're really nice people and much more genuine than my ex was. All the trust issues I had and assumptions that people were only trying to use me are wearing off now that my ex isn't here to reinforce them. I actually have people I consider friends now.

On that note, I'm having a "housewarming" party at my apartment on Sunday with my friends from D&D. D&D host and I both decided to cook a ton of food for everyone. It'll be awesome to just hang out with these people and socialize instead of having a scheduled D&D session like we always used to.

[Remedial Math]

i need to find one of those that isn't full of grognards

[Banandana]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46248245]"hey can we talk tomorrow? at like 10ish?"

that's never a good text to get from a girl

what'd i do[/QUOTE]

clearly wants the D

[Remedial Math]

that's not entirely out of the realm of possibility but i'm not counting on it

[killerteacup]

i would not count on that lol

[OscarLimaEcho]

If it's not your girlfriend it's probably not that bad.