Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46445072]so I may be able to give some advice in the food department as well.[/QUOTE]
i made a poor decision and drank an entire six pack of mike's hard lemonade last night
how do i make my body stop hating me
[editline]8th November 2014[/editline]
oh also if you want girls to like you there are certain things you shouldn't tell them probably
for example in wow i just made a hunter named fartboner
this will not be enjoyed girls so i will not mention it
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46445097]the problem with just being blunt with someone about asking them out is that it is scary[/QUOTE]
I can respect that. I mostly meant that it's ideal to be open with your intentions, not necessarily forthcoming with them. You don't have to directly say the words "will you go out with me" to get the message across, but it's ideal to accept that the person you're talking to is going to get that message regardless of what specific wording you use. You don't have a huge amount of control over how another person perceives you, but you do have control over whether they perceive you as passive or direct when it comes to trying to get what you want. If you're talking to an attractive woman, chances are she already knows exactly what you want - she's just interested to see how you ask.
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46445106]i made a poor decision and drank an entire six pack of mike's hard lemonade last night
how do i make my body stop hating me[/QUOTE]
Drink lots of water, it's likely you're dehydrated. Aspirin helps (I've found that Midol is a godsend for hangovers because it helps with nausea as well).
[editline]9th November 2014[/editline]
I've been sipping wine this whole time so my posts are going to get less and less productive the more I talk.
i've been hungover all day and i'm apparently super helpful
alcohol is the key to success i guess
Or the key to verbosity in my case.
[editline]9th November 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46445106]for example in wow i just made a hunter named fartboner
this will not be enjoyed girls so i will not mention it[/QUOTE]
Yeah I usually don't mention my former name "Commander faggots, Space Marine" to people I'm trying to impress.
on the other hand if i do meet that one special girl that thinks fartboner is hilarious then i've found a keeper i guess
this girl is majoring in physics and somehow we ended up decided that as far as I'm concerned she's majoring in magic which i think makes her a wizard
i still think that's crazy but i respect her decision b/c she said she did it because she just likes knowing how things work and that way she can know how more things work and hopefully eventually just find out how EVERYTHING works which makes he a bit of a megalomaniac i guess but still that's p cool
she's someone i can finally bounce my useless facts off of because she'll appreciate them for what they are
Why is us drinking together on Skype not a thing?
I'm out of liquor so it can't be right now, but I feel like it would be fun to drink with some of the regulars here.
we should totally do that yes pm me your skype
also i am out of alcohol at the moment and still recovering from last night's poor decisions but in the future if we're both drinking alone we can be pathetic together
seriously im scared to see how much sugar is in an entire fucking sixpack of alcholic lemonade but i bet it's a lot and my body is jsut confused
I cant find the button to send you a message, please send help
Just add me on Steam?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46445208]I cant find the button to send you a message, please send help
Just add me on Steam?[/QUOTE]
i think we are friends on steam already
currently my ign is thumbtacks and i'm playing collar doody
I'm always down for it
Oh shit I didn't know that was you hahaha
[QUOTE=killerteacup;46445223]I'm always down for it[/QUOTE]
Need pimp daddy Captain America to buy me more vodka because I'm 20, but I'll let you guys know when I'm restocked
you should super not ever call him that again
yeah i need to finish my exams first
fuck yeah someone add me
I'll PM remedial my skype id
[editline]9th November 2014[/editline]
*guy
remedial shut off PMs
oops i fixed it now
but just add us on steam that's much easier and also i'm lazy
Sounds like you guys are going to have fun together. I hope you all have a good time on Skype.
By the way, [B][I]Taepodong-2[/I][/B], frankly you have the worst approach when it comes to love. Overthinking things and scrutinizing every tiny thing that you do or say will only be worthless at best or harmful at worst. There are so many aspects that influence love that change with every person and could change any day because of events etc. so there isn't a single tactic that will work with all women. You can't try to use reason to understand if she likes you or not because it's not something it can grasp because it is influenced by personal experiences and fears. The only true way is by [U]intuition[/U], but intuition may seem deceiving to reason and it ends up being discredited. All that I know that works is to feel at ease, be yourself, and notice her behaviour. If she is at ease and is herself, laughing with you, then you've scored a potential girl or a good friend. Either way at those times turn reason off and just go with your heart [I](diabetic love sentence uuuuh)[/I]
Before I got with my girlfriend we were always chatting, we were both at ease, we liked to laugh, we enjoyed our company. While my intuition told me that she did in fact love me, my reason analyzed the chat logs and everything else, leading me astray. What happened was that in the end she actually loves me and we both (thanks to her reason too) got engaged later than we could've.
When you think about it it's not overly hard to catch whether or not someone likes you. You can overcome your issues by being around her, for instance. If you are at ease when you're around her, you have a chance; if you're anxious you might ruin it for both of you.
[B]Tl;dr[/B] Don't overthink, feel at ease and you'll score eventually.
Hey guys, I posted here several months ago. I still feel as equally as bad as I did and I have made very little progress getting over someone. I don't know of what to do anymore.. I don't want to be like this for the rest of my lifr
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;46445755]Hey guys, I posted here several months ago. I still feel as equally as bad as I did and I have made very little progress getting over someone. I don't know of what to do anymore.. I don't want to be like this for the rest of my lifr[/QUOTE]
just think of all of the good times in your life. Think about all of the people who surround you, these people who you like to spend time with, who make you laugh. Remember that in the end, there's always someone (or some people) who will stick by you
two weeks ago, i found out the girl i was crushing on for sometime, and thought i was going somewhere her; ended up dating my friend instead. Needless to say, i was dissapointed, and felt lost, like this one girl was all that mattered, but i soon remembered about the other good things in my life, like all the possesions i have, friends i have, etc.
wanna know who also helped me get over it? one of my close friends, and its only been two weeks. im already developing a crush on another girl
I'm late to the topic, but when you guys mentioned PUA and not texting / replying back within 10 seconds. That's kinda dumb imo. My phone is pretty much always by my side and it's always got internet (unlimited data). Unless I'm doing something that requires my absolute attention (usually not very many things), I can send a message back fast. I've never really thought twice about it?
Even in uni, it's sort of habit to check my phone regularly.
[editline]9th November 2014[/editline]
If someone replies back to a message I sent in under 10 seconds, I don't think "wow what a loser they were sitting by their phone".
For me texting is literally, either embarrassingly immediately, because I don't want people waiting for a response since I live by my phone pretty much every second or a long ass time because I forgot about it thinking about a response or I forgot to press send.
How do I tell if someone is fading me out or just has problems responding to texts?
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;46445755]Hey guys, I posted here several months ago. I still feel as equally as bad as I did and I have made very little progress getting over someone. I don't know of what to do anymore.. I don't want to be like this for the rest of my lifr[/QUOTE]
oh hey man
that's good, i was worried you just decided to kill yourself like i think you said you were considering once
like i said before, it's a long process and it's not a fun process. are you doing what we suggested and trying to get out and do stuff with people? if you're just alone by yourself all the time then it makes it a lot worse
shit, that's awesome. Went to a pub with a group of (now established) friends because one of us got 18 and today went to O2 Arena and even drove the skyline thing where there is a cart on a rope going across the river. Never thought I could have a lot of fun by just riding a cart across river.
I may have finally gotten a life in this place. yipee
I got invited to go pub night again by a friend, but I was feeling apprehensive, as the guy who supposedly didn't like me and was saying things behind my back was going to be there.
I said fuck it and decided I wasn't going to let him dictate what I do, so I went anyways. Ended up having a lovely night, and good news is I think he's warmed up to me? Took the time to speak to him, and he was defensive at first, but he sort of opened up and it turns out we have a fucktonne in common (reading, pc gaming). Even got a hug from him at the end of the night, so I think it's safe to say we're on better terms.
I think he may have felt threatened by me, for a number of reasons, but hopefully since he's gotten to know me better, he'll realise I'm not.
I never understood how people feel threatened by someone else who has common interests.
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46448083]oh hey man
that's good, i was worried you just decided to kill yourself like i think you said you were considering once
like i said before, it's a long process and it's not a fun process. are you doing what we suggested and trying to get out and do stuff with people? if you're just alone by yourself all the time then it makes it a lot worse[/QUOTE]
Wow you remembered! That makes me happy
I'm still having those thoughts yeah, been seeing a psychiatrist and she wants to put me on some pills.
I have tried yes, I went to some cons and hanging out, but it seems to barely help. It's awfully scary though, I thought I'd atleast half forget by now
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;46451688]Wow you remembered! That makes me happy
I'm still having those thoughts yeah, been seeing a psychiatrist and she wants to put me on some pills.
I have tried yes, I went to some cons and hanging out, but it seems to barely help. It's awfully scary though, I thought I'd atleast half forget by now[/QUOTE]
oh god no, it's not something you'll probably ever forget
and to be honest i really don't think you SHOULD forget, even if you could. yes, emotional pain is way more painful than actual physical pain (i would 100% rather break all my limbs than go through a painful breakup) but the scars you get are good because they show you how far you've come and what you've learned
as an example, I will talk about my first relationship. i've known her since i was like 10, we were best friends for 6 years and started dating when i turned 17 (that was not intentional, it's not like i was waiting for that day, that's just roughly when it happened)
as a matter of fact i can tell you the movie we went to go see on our first official date. it was Whip It at 8:30pm on October 29th, 2008 and we were the only ones in the theater. it was great.
unfortunately as the months passed it became clear that this probably wouldn't actually work out as a relationship, but god we tried. ultimately what ended up wrecking it was that we were both virgins and the first (and only, unsurprisingly) time we had sex was a weird experience and she's told me that in some way she felt like she was forced into it (which i still maintain is bullshit for a variety of reasons, i'm convinced it's somehow a coping mechanism. if anything she forced ME into it) and that led to a weird rift and we ended up breakng up and then she moved across the country and i was a sad broken man for like four years
ultimately, though, you heal. you think about her constantly, then one day you'll finally do something or hear something that makes you laugh or enjoy yourself and for a brief moment you won't be thinking about her, and then that moment will keep you up at night in a weird confusing way. and then you think about her less and less and then one day in the future you don't think about her at all, and that's a different kind of sad but that's a long way away.
but the good part is that you know what you're looking for in a relationship and what you're not. i know that there are a lot of things i love about her. i'd say loved but considering these are more or less traits i don't think they deserve the past tense. i love that she was so passionate when she argued things, and at the same time i love that she was quick to calm down if things got weird or heated. she was a good listener and she liked fart jokes which is a majority of my general humor. she could cook (not well, but that's okay because it's the thought that counts). she didn't laugh when i set my tree on fire trying to trim the branches off of it, even though she should have. she had crooked teeth and that was okay.
but there are things i don't like, either. she always talked down to me because we both knew she was smarter than me and she wasn't afraid to remind me of it, either. she didn't agree with a lot of my views and insisted that hers were always right. she always wanted me to walk on the left side of her instead of the right, even when general chivalry stated that i should be on the right, like literally any fucking time we were next to a road. and she hated broccoli, which isn't a dealbreaker but is a bit weird.
and that's okay too, because now i know what i want in a girl and what i don't. and the next time i'm in a serious relationship, i'll be able to narrow that down even more. i don't want to act like girls and just books and you can keep narrowing down search terms until you find what you're looking for, but that's kind of what relationships are for.
so basically i know it fucking blows and you hate yourself and everyone around you, but the only real advice i can give you is to give it time. it'll hurt a lot and it'll hurt for a long long time, but in the end it's a pain that you'll be glad you bore, because it helped you find what you're really looking for
that rhymed unintentionally and also i just typed a whole lot
instead of trying to forget, try to accept.
I still haven't cut contact 100% with my ex, but I'm starting to feel pretty good again now.
and if you had a good time with her, why forget it?
I personally think that, accepting that something happened is a lot better than forgetting it.
forgetting will get you into lots of trouble in the future.
that being said you definitely should cut contact because there are very few people who can transition back into a normal friendship and i am not one of them and i suspect you are also not and at this particular delicate point anything new you hear from/about her will not be good for your mental integrity so maybe just be careful about that
holy shit ninja.
but yeah, it's probably not for everyone, and to be honest I don't know if I'm 100% okay with it, but hanging out in teamspeak with a group of people that I actually like, I can't really tell her she's not allowed to be there.
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