Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Guy Mannly]

So my next door neighbor is hitting on me. Haven't heard from him in 2 weeks after an extraordinarily unsympathetic conversation about apartment security and me mentioning what happened, and then I randomly start getting a ton of texts from him at midnight asking if I'm alright, what I've been up to, and then bringing up how I had offered to teach him piano last time he was over. Would have appreciated all this attention when I actually needed the support.

Already slipped in the fact that I'm seeing someone and it didn't seem to deter him. Haven't decided if I should keep talking to him despite his intentions.

[Remedial Math]

maybe just be like "hey no thanks i'm good" and see what happens? idk

[Guy Mannly]

I'm taking a speech class this semester and my professor has been talking about dealing with manipulators the past few classes (one class she was specifically talking about rape and emailed me to recommend I skip that day because I had talked to her about what happened). The main point that she keeps repeating about this is to always listen to your instinct in situations like this.

Maybe it's the PTSD I've been dealing with kicking in, but my instinct is telling me I should be [i]scared[/i] of my neighbor. He was incredibly unsympathetic when I mentioned that I had been sexually assaulted and now he's suddenly very... goal-oriented in spending time with me. He hasn't done anything but I have so many red flags going up right now, my instinct is screaming "sociopath".

I wish I had listened to Cap a few weeks ago. I had talked to him a lot about my real-life friends, especially the guy who assaulted me. He told me that he was going to beat him up because it was obvious he was trying to get in my pants (this was before the assault even happened). The fucked up part is that I kind of knew it too, but I ignored it.

I ignored it because I want to believe that everyone is well-meaning and that some people are just bad at expressing empathy (which I want to believe everyone experiences). I think part of the reason I got into that situation was because I really, really wanted to be wrong, and I gambled way too much on that ideal - I gambled my own safety for it, and I lost.

Really wish my speech class had gone over manipulation a few weeks ago, maybe before I was assaulted. I can't recall a time my instinct has ever been wrong, but I can recall a million times when I tried to reason myself out of doing what my gut was telling me was right.

[Remedial Math]

i mean you could theoretically talk to your professor about it, i'm sure you don't want to unload your problems on her (or i wouldn't if i was in your shoes) but knowing you i'm sure she loves you and would probably help you out or give you advice or something, usually professors are cool with good students/kids

[editline]9th November 2014[/editline]

i can't say that i know how you feel because i don't and likely (and hopefully) never will, although considering i am male it'd be more difficult, probably

that being said i'm willing to bet that your gut instincts have been slightly...colored, since the incident

i'm not saying you're wrong, i'm saying it's entirely possible that you're viewing anyone acting in a way that could remind you of what happened (i.e. men coming onto you, etc.) in a different way

god knows dexter isn't a good source of actual advice unless you want to go become a lumberjack, but i remember in one episode Deb got kidnapped and then after she was rescued they went to a bar and some guy put his hand on her shoulder and she freaked the fuck out and broke his nose or something before realizing everything was more or less fine

what i'm saying is that while trusting your gut instinct is USUALLY a good idea, you may just want to consider if you're possibly viewing things in a skewed light (skewed is accurate but has negative connotations, i'm not saying what's happening is bad, it's probably normal)

then again i could be entirely wrong, idk

[Guy Mannly]

Yeah I'm definitely considering that because of what happened, but at the same time I really don't want to make that mistake again. I've always talked myself out of following my instincts in the past and it's landed me in a lot of situations I didn't want to be in even though I had known they would happen.

It's just hard finding the midpoint between these two things in terms of how to act toward him. I don't want to trust him too much or be alone with him, but I don't want to act like a complete ass because he's my neighbor and he lives with/near his friends and that would make my living situation a bit awkward.

[Remedial Math]

that's why i'm saying you should bounce this off someone level headed who knows what they're talking about, ie a teacher

idk sorry, luckily i'm not in that situation

although i do have a feeling my neighbors don't like us but that's another unrelated story

[GURREN LAGANN]

damn that's harsh, and 4 years? that's terrifying. what's the small amount so sadness long from then like?
God I don't know if I can last 4 years

[editline]10th November 2014[/editline]

that's been the killer part too. after these months I feel like some contact would be nice. but it was her who ended it and she completely block my number, texts, everything. I've been texting and calling her everyday still though hoping randomly it goes through or something or if she's reading. what a terrible thing to do

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Banandana;46450557]I never understood how people feel threatened by someone else who has common interests.[/QUOTE]

pretty sure the girl I like is the girl he's crushing on, except I'm way more friendly / forward with her than he is. So I think that shat all over our common interests.

[Remedial Math]

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;46453077]damn that's harsh, and 4 years? that's terrifying. what's the small amount so sadness long from then like?
God I don't know if I can last 4 years

[editline]10th November 2014[/editline]

that's been the killer part too. after these months I feel like some contact would be nice. but it was her who ended it and she completely block my number, texts, everything. I've been texting and calling her everyday still though hoping randomly it goes through or something or if she's reading. what a terrible thing to do[/QUOTE]

it's really not that bad, it doesn't hurt anymore and it hasn't for a long time. but there's nothing wrong with remembering a relationship and missing some parts of it, that's normal. shouldn't be pining after it, though.

stop trying to get in contact, it's not going to end well for you and it's making you look clingy.

[Shustriyvich]

So this may be an absolutely retarded question, but how does a guy send a sexy pic? Don't tell me to send a dick pic either, that's just cheating.

[Remedial Math]

[t]http://i.imgur.com/tjm2c.jpg[/t]

[Shustriyvich]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46457976][t]http://i.imgur.com/tjm2c.jpg[/t][/QUOTE]It scares me how fast you replied with that picture.

[Remedial Math]

it's my wallpaper

[Shustriyvich]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46458003]it's my wallpaper[/QUOTE]Teach me your ways, master
of the art of seduction :v:

[Remedial Math]

recreate the timeless art of seduction poster

and then send it to her

[Shustriyvich]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46458058]recreate the timeless art of seduction poster

and then send it to her[/QUOTE]I'm not classy nor sexy enough to replicate the work of George Costanza :(

[Remedial Math]

then just take a picture of your dick like everyone else

[editline]10th November 2014[/editline]

fair warning though it's basically impossible for you to take a picture of yourself that will be as appealing as female sexy pics because dicks are just odd looking

[Shustriyvich]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46458149]then just take a picture of your dick like everyone else

[editline]10th November 2014[/editline]

fair warning though it's basically impossible for you to take a picture of yourself that will be as appealing as female sexy pics because dicks are just odd looking[/QUOTE]Yeah, I figured as much :\ oh well, maybe I'll just send a picture of myself ~flexing~ in a muscle shirt and hope that works :v:

[Remedial Math]

just tell her you want to show her in person

[Shustriyvich]

Well i'll only see her in ~7 months, that's going to be a lot of suspenseful waiting :v:

[Remedial Math]

can you explain the situation please because i'm confused now

[Shustriyvich]

it's a long-distance type thing.

[Remedial Math]

fucking shit

goddammit

was gonna talk to her today and see if she wanted to go get lunch or something and right before i was about to she left

i mean it's not a huge inconvenience since i'll see her tomorrow night anyway for another meeting but it's still a bummer, plus tonight would have been easier

now somehow i need to try and talk to her without there being a ton of other people around and i don't know how i'll pull that off

[RidingKeys]

tinder is working miracles now ever since i've been willing to go down on chicks. why wasnt it this easy in high school

[Banandana]

I donno but I've never been very good at that. Tell me your secret.

[RidingKeys]

at going down or at tinder?

[Remedial Math]

both, presumably

[Banandana]

mainly the going down part

[RidingKeys]

dont be boring, pay attention to what her profile says, keep the focus on her, and ask for her number as soon as you possibly can.

as for head, theres a lot of good videos out there and you can take a little something from each of them but the most important tip is that foreplay means a shit ton during sex, the more you tease her before you eat her out the better it will be for her, but be careful not to spend too much time on foreplay, you dont want to bore her to death. oh and make sure you are using your fingers and your tongue, but be a little more creative and dont poke her to death because that shit is annoying it wont make her feel like shes getting fucked, push down and swirl

[ROFLBURGER]

bomber can we test this out on you too see if we're doing it correctly