Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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I feel really lonely and I don't know why. I have a lot of friends and a girlfriend, but I feel like I'm not actually friends with my friends and me and my girlfriend aren't really connecting, which makes me really unhappy.
How do I happy, facepunch
Is there a good amount of young people on dating websites?
A good friend of mine recently met his girlfriend (going 5 months strong) on badoo, but due to all the privacy concerns, the spam, the bots, etc, I'm not going to use it.
I'm thinking of trying plenty of fish just because it's free.
had a quick look at plenty of fish, pretty shit
don't think i'll bother lol
spam?? bots???
i met my gf of 6 months on okc and i never had any issue with bots
read my post again??
[QUOTE=Lukeo;46586086]Is there a good amount of young people on dating websites?
A good friend of mine recently met his girlfriend (going 5 months strong) on badoo, but due to all the privacy concerns, the spam, the bots, etc, I'm not going to use it.
I'm thinking of trying plenty of fish just because it's free.
had a quick look at plenty of fish, pretty shit
don't think i'll bother lol[/QUOTE]
To be honest if you're that concerned about your privacy and spam, you'd better altogether give up on online dating.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;46586086]Is there a good amount of young people on dating websites?
A good friend of mine recently met his girlfriend (going 5 months strong) on badoo, but due to all the privacy concerns, the spam, the bots, etc, I'm not going to use it.
I'm thinking of trying plenty of fish just because it's free.
had a quick look at plenty of fish, pretty shit
don't think i'll bother lol[/QUOTE]
OKCupid is the best dating site imho.
This one time I set up a date with a girl from OKCupid but we both totally forgot about it and never attempted to set up another one.
Anyway, today I went for lunch again with that girl I've been interested in for a while. We didn't have trouble making conversation, but she didn't seem as interested as she usually is. Although that's kind of my fault because I was a little more awkward than usual and she was really distracted today because she realized she accidentally registered to do a double major when she transferred to this university and really had to go get that changed.
I'm also really starting to see this going the "let's just be friends" way. Not that I should be surprised if it turns out that way, this is the way it always goes for me. In fact I'll be more surprised if it doesn't go that way. If it does turn out the way I'm expecting it to though, I'm pretty much shit out of luck for meeting new girls for the rest of the time I'm in university because I'm taking all higher level history classes starting next semester, which means smaller class sizes and I already know a good portion of the history majors who are in the same year as me, meaning I'll probably know everyone in all of my classes starting next semester. So yeah, I guess I'm fucked.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;46586086]Is there a good amount of young people on dating websites?
A good friend of mine recently met his girlfriend (going 5 months strong) on badoo, but due to all the privacy concerns, the spam, the bots, etc, I'm not going to use it.
I'm thinking of trying plenty of fish just because it's free.
had a quick look at plenty of fish, pretty shit
don't think i'll bother lol[/QUOTE]
OKCupid is fine, I know 3 people not including myself on this site that use it(I don't know if they even know I know they have one—wow that's creepy lul)
but also I'm actually one of those community mods on it and really, it's fine!
OKC is pretty good, check the subreddit if you need people to critique your profile (and you'll need someone to critique your profile)
the sad truth about online dating for men is that it's ultimately a numbers game, which is why most men using tinder repeatedly swipe right on every single match, and then if they actually do get a match they can start to weed people out from there
OKC can't do that as easily so you more or less have to just message fucking everyone and wait until something happens, which can be more obnoxious and crushing than just not talking to people at all
If you need any profile critique, you can send me a link, I'm more than willing.
The nice thing about OKC is that sending all the messages usually ends up with you getting really good at starting conversations with people, which is a pretty valuable skill.
my best friend has been down about her internet friend (ex internet girlfriend i think) being suicidal, but i think that's the same one of her friends who constantly referred to me as "creepy guy" in cryptic messages aimed toward me and wrote threats about cutting my dick off and attacking me with her keys last year just for hanging out with her
i don't know how to approach this
i'd stay out of it
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Poker night was a success and I had a great time. Bonded with friends really well, organized a Super Smash Bros / Mario Kart Wii U weekend next Saturday, invited the girl I have a thing for over (she said yes) and I cannot wait. I drank perhaps a little too much, but I was told I was an amazing host, and all 4 guys I had over said they had a great night. Chuffed.
Drinking copious amounts of water to ward off the potential hangover I may have tomorrow. It's very easy to overshoot on Jack Daniels.
[editline]30th November 2014[/editline]
This past week's depression overhang has been lifted. I needed the social night, it's gotten me back on track.
Any advice for coping with a break up? I feel really beat right now...
try to not be alone if you can help it
Yeah I suppose sitting about here in my room moping about it won't do me any good.
It will not, no.
delete her on facebook if you haven't already, if you insist on remaining friends then you can add her back later but for now you need time away and having constant reminders won't help
hang out with friends because it gets your mind off the breakup, and even if it doesn't you'll have people there to actually help and support you
also go to the gym, because your new goal is to improve YOURSELF, because you're about to be with yourself a lot
but seriously the gym is really good for that, hate reps are still reps
Oh my god guys.
I practice piano every day in my apartment and starting about half an hour ago (maybe more) I heard my neighbor on the non-creepy side singing and playing piano. And he sounds absolutely beautiful. Pressed my ear to the wall and listened for a bit.
Our pianos are both against the same wall it seems so I played something back. We've been taking turns playing, he'll go quiet for a bit and let me play something before starting again. This is like the start of a cheesy movie.
break up with cap and let the romcom blossom
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46604881]And he sounds absolutely beautiful. Pressed my ear to the wall and listened for a bit.
Our pianos are both against the same wall it seems so I played something back. We've been taking turns playing, he'll go quiet for a bit and let me play something before starting again. This is like the start of a cheesy movie.[/QUOTE]
[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uzae_SqbmDE]I think I know that movie.[/url]
I actually did play that with a friend once for a talent show, he was weirdly good at the banjo. he wore overalls, a straw hat, and no shirt. it was hilarious.
[QUOTE=UntouchedShadow;46604692]Yeah I suppose sitting about here in my room moping about it won't do me any good.[/QUOTE]
No, it won't. It's not an easy thing to go through by any means. I'm still having some difficulty with my break up, but things are looking up now. Were there things you couldn't do when you were with your ex? Go and do them. Any reminders that are around in constant sight, remove them, and try to break routines that you formed around your ex.
For example, I had a load of small presents that my ex had gotten me, plush toys, a bracelet, a metal plectrum, they were in sight all the time and I put them away so there wasn't a constant reminder in my room. They're things I want to keep, but don't want to see all the time, at least not at the moment.
I've been filling my time with playing more guitar, bass and video games, and listening to music a lot more than I used to. I've been out on nights out with friends from work, my bandmates, and I've made a few new friends recently too. You just have to keep yourself occupied, and not stew in your own misery, because that'll do nothing to help. I went into work the day after my ex split with me, cause there's no sense in just sitting being miserable. I had to get back into my routine of work, and get used to her not being there any more.
As for social media and the like, I wouldn't say that you have to delete them or block them or anything like that but if you feel that it'll help you, then go for it. I didn't bother doing that, I'm still friends with my ex on Facebook, as well as her brother and sister. I'm still friends with them so there's no sense in removing them. I've only seen my ex in person once, and I guess that's kind of a help in a way. We've only spoken 2 or 3 times as well, so having little to no contact will help to no end.
In the end though, you have to do what you think is best for you. If talking to your friends helps, do that. If it weren't for my bandmates and being able to speak to them, I'd be in a real shitty place. This is something that almost everyone will have gone through, a lot of people will know the pain that you're feeling.
As Remedial Math said though, get to the gym. Nothing helps to make you feel better than exercise.
Well it's the end of the semester, girl didn't show up to class so I couldn't ask if she still wants to see me. I have her number so I can try to set something up but I don't know if I'm going to bother.
Also being alone when everyone around you has someone fucking sucks.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46621302]Well it's the end of the semester, girl didn't show up to class so I couldn't ask if she still wants to see me. I have her number so I can try to set something up but I don't know if I'm going to bother.
Also being alone when everyone around you has someone fucking sucks.[/QUOTE]
Next time youre in a crowded placd look for people whi are walking alone. There are tonnes. You arent the only one jn your proximity who is alone
[QUOTE=killerteacup;46622761]Next time youre in a crowded placd look for people whi are walking alone. There are tonnes. You arent the only one jn your proximity who is alone[/QUOTE]
This one piece of advice is one of the best. I can guarantee firsthand.
This person in my class is a loner: Does not hang out with the others, and neither him and them look for each other. It very well reminds me of me. So I l started talking to him and... he's a great effin person! Funny, witty, and caring.
Why are us loners always the best? :p
they're not, they're usually just as good as everyone else, they just dont hang out with as many people as everyone else
[QUOTE=killerteacup;46622761]Next time youre in a crowded placd look for people whi are walking alone. There are tonnes. You arent the only one jn your proximity who is alone[/QUOTE]
I know there are lots of people who are alone. But I'm talking people I actually know. Like, everyone I know seems to be in a relationship and my friends all sort of just drifted away from me because of that. I also can't go anywhere without seeing couples all over the fucking place.
And I'm trying Tinder again now. Shit's as useless as I remember it being even when you like everyone.
Okay boys, here's the deal.
I need some assistance on what the hell to get my new girlfriend for Christmas and her birthday which is on January 2nd. I know that since she's into bands and the same music as me and such, I'm getting her tickets to a concert as well as some merchandise. I also want to get her something really meaningful and affectionate though that doesn't have much emphasis on the material rather than the emotional value. Save me folks!
The D
dude you're taking her to a concert, that seems like enough to me
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