Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Remedial Math]

dont' be that guy

[Jake]

[QUOTE=titopei;46679110]help, i know how to write run on sentences

I met a girl two weeks ago while playing ddr and we really started hitting it off and we hang out and flirt a lot but then I learned she had a bf but my friends sister whos close with her says her relationship with the bf isn't that good and that i should go for it, help.

rough translation

I met a girl about two weeks ago and we started getting really close. She's really fun to hang around with but then at the same time we're somewhat flirty, although I am unsure if she is just really friendly or actually likes me mostly because she has a bf. All I know is that she talks to me differently compared to the other guys in the ddr group we play with. Also, according to my friends sister, she said their relationship isn't that good so I should just go for it.[/QUOTE]

Don't do anything with her that you wouldn't do with a friend of the opposite sex. Don't flirt with her or do anything to influence her to break up with that guy and get with you. Just be a friend to her and don't have any ulterior motives.

Because if she does rebound with you, how can you be so sure that she wouldn't do that again with another guy?

[Patrick]

I asked the girl if she wanted to hang out and she suggested we grab some coffee on the weekend so we figured out where and I suggested we meet at midday and she didn't reply, am I just being nervous or did I do something wrong?

[editline]10th December 2014[/editline]

Fuck I wish I had credit to call her instead I hate texting people

[Patrick]

well guess I was just being dumb she texted me back later in the day

[Remedial Math]

the hard part is over just calm down, some people are bad at texting right away

[Breakfast Buddy]

There was this girl I met at a benefit party or whatever, probably a 9/10 10/10 whatever. I sort of ignored because i figured she was way out of my league. but she kept coming to talk to me so I said fuck it and started chatting with her.

I was such a fucking pleb, I couldn't say anything funny and I just sounded sort of like a shitty asshole. I separated from her to get another drink and came back, then just just walked over to me and started talking to me again.

So fast forward, the event is over and me and some buddies were going to a bar a few blocks away. My friend, who knows her, was like ASK FOR HER NUMBER YOU FUCKING IDIOT hOLY SHIT. So I akwardly walked across the room to her before I left and asked for her number. She said, no, but then she said "take my number instead and text me" oh_

So then I texted her if she wanted to meet up with us, and said she's already undressed at her apartment and chips

I didn't really think much of it so I continued on that night and went home. The next day, I met her out at the bar with some of her friends and mine. She told me she meant for that text to be sexy, but all I pictured was her like in PJs eating chips on her bed. She also said my texts to her made it seem like I wasn't interested. So at that point I found out she was into me which sort of blew my mind. We went home together and I guess that is that.

I pretty much did everything wrong but it still worked out. wtf

[XUZUL]

It's probably a [I]glitch[/I]

:suicide:

[Dysentery]

she kept coming to talk to you and then texted you that she was (most likely) alone and naked in her apartment and you just waved it off?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

cmon man

[Genericenemy]

Anyone else here ever had issues with cynicism? Been having thoughts over the last day or so that I really don't have a chance with this girl, with the reason being because I've had interests in the past that have never ever worked out. Don't even try to get your hopes up because you will ultimately end up disappointed in the end. While it hasn't diminished my interest in this girl it has been really agitating me

[Navarchus]

eh snip, nevermind

[Remedial Math]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;46685119]she kept coming to talk to you and then texted you that she was (most likely) alone and naked in her apartment and you just waved it off?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

cmon man[/QUOTE]

to be fair if she did, in fact, say "oh i'm just sitting in my pajamas eating chips" then that's not exactly the most obvious clue

[BarnacleDrive]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46686638]to be fair if she did, in fact, say "oh i'm just sitting in my pajamas eating chips" then that's not exactly the most obvious clue[/QUOTE]

I never really did get the whole "What are you wearing?" flirt anyway...

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=BarnacleDrive;46689709]I never really did get the whole "What are you wearing?" flirt anyway...[/QUOTE]

My bf has tried this a few times.

"What are you wearing?" "A t-shirt and jeans."

Not sure what's sexy or a turn-on about telling someone that you're in a bra and panties.

[Patrick]

I'm so nervous about this date, I didn't want to seem like a total loser so I got a job today. There's still 2 whole days until then and I'm dying over here.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;46689803]I'm so nervous about this date, I didn't want to seem like a total loser so I got a job today. There's still 2 whole days until then and I'm dying over here.[/QUOTE]

I've found it helps to go in with the mindset of "I'm just getting to know them, it's chill, nothing serious" and then I go and treat it as if I'm just hanging out with a friend. Usually gets rid of most of the nerves and dates end up being great as a result.

[Genericenemy]

Well I think I managed to give my cynicism a big kick in the balls today. That girl joined me for the break in lesson and walked with me as I was heading into town to catch the bus. Talking quite a bit too. Asked her to add me on Facebook and I'm pretty confident I will be able to ask her out soon.

[Breakfast Buddy]

That girl I was hanging out with keeps texting me and wants to hang out, but rejected my facebook friend request.

The plot thickens

[UntouchedShadow]

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;46689803]I'm so nervous about this date, I didn't want to seem like a total loser so I got a job today. There's still 2 whole days until then and I'm dying over here.[/QUOTE]

You need to stay calm and collected my friend. Keep your chin up and remember your goal: to go out with this cool girl and have a fun time with her. If you keep acting nervous about the whole thing, it'll make you look insecure which is viewed as unattractive by pretty much all women.

Just keep your confidence, you're not some socially challenged guy who constantly makes himself out as some kind of loser. Just go with the flow and have fun with her, you'll do great.

[Navarchus]

[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;46691738]how do you know she rejected it[/QUOTE]

If it changes from "Friend Request Sent" message to "Add Friend" then it means it has been rejected and you can now try again.
Though I wouldn't recommend repeatedly adding a person who is declining unless you wish to be blocked.

[Breakfast Buddy]

It still says it was sent

We talked awhile last night though, she said she wanted to hang out again

maybe she just wants to wait a bit before accepting, or just missed it among a ton of other requests (since shes new to the area)

[Loopoo]

Asked her out to coffee, she said yes. I was genuinely expecting a polite rejection. Kind of surprised and happy. Won't lie though, my heart was in my fucking mouth the entire time. I was just worrying myself to death about being rejected and then having the group feel awkward.

[editline]12th December 2014[/editline]

I feel coffee was a better first date than dinner, even though I feel like dinner would have been way more fun.

[dcalde78]

[QUOTE=Glitchman;46697835]It still says it was sent

We talked awhile last night though, she said she wanted to hang out again

maybe she just wants to wait a bit before accepting, or just missed it among a ton of other requests (since shes new to the area)[/QUOTE]

When I get friend requests on facebook I usually just leave them for months before actually doing anything with them.

[Banandana]

you terrible person

[Patrick]

Well my date went shit, we had nothing in common and ran out of shit to talk about. On the bright side I feel way more confident with myself and I have a new job to look forward to.

[blerb]

Asked a girl who works at my local EB games out for coffee, to which she said yes. Asked for her number, but instead I ended up giving mine to her. It's been a couple days now, and she still hasn't texted me. Should I just go back and ask if she's still up for it, or wait it out?

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=blerb;46709614]Asked a girl who works at my local EB games out for coffee, to which she said yes. Asked for her number, but instead I ended up giving mine to her. It's been a couple days now, and she still hasn't texted me. Should I just go back and ask if she's still up for it, or wait it out?[/QUOTE]

If she does not text you she is not interested, do not pursue

[blerb]

Fair enough. Thanks.

[Loopoo]

I don't understand people who don't have the courage / decency to just straight up tell you they aren't interested. Like, I'm a big boy, I can handle it, you know? It's better than sitting there getting hung up about it. I'd take a no over a yes-but-ignore anyday.

[XUZUL]

People prefer not to offend and lie. To me this is much worse than bluntly turning people away.

[Zerokateo]

So this girl I was seeing for awhile just completely ruined me, she led me on so hard.. Yesterday my friend came to my house and told me that he ran into her at Walmart and that she was kissing on her best friend... We weren't dating yet, but whenever you try and act all close and lovey to me, kiss me like I mean something, hold me like I'm special and tell me that you need me in your life, but then do this? Nuh uh, fuck that.

I've been stabbed in the back far too much by everyone lately and honestly I'm developing trust issues, not really an advice question just more of a quick rant...