Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[jhfjdh746]

Instead of going to jail i just decided to stay with the girl I was with before. I'm just unsure of what to do at this point.

[editline]17th December 2014[/editline]

And also I'd love to hear what I should have been nailed for, not trying to be a dick just genuinely curious.

[Zerokateo]

[QUOTE=S33T;46740022]Instead of going to jail i just decided to stay with the girl I was with before. I'm just unsure of what to do at this point.

[editline]17th December 2014[/editline]

And also I'd love to hear what I should have been nailed for, not trying to be a dick just genuinely curious.[/QUOTE]

Well if any of it is true, the hard drugs you've been on, driving under the influence, the supposed assaults I've heard of, the drugs you've sold, the things you've taken/stolen. Again, if any of it is true, there's a lot of stuff.

Also about that message you gave me, it's not that we stopped caring, it's that we stopped trying because of the amount people around you tend to get dragged down. You just sit in your hole and when we give you our hand you don't try to pull yourself out but pull us in.

There comes a point where we can't do anymore without our lives being severely affected by it, like holy fuck I've done so much learning within this last year that I realized how much of a drag I was being. After the 3rd failed suicide attempt and even being backstabbed by the girl I was falling in love with who actually opened my eyes and helped me see the world, I just said fuck it and forced myself to be positive even under the hardest times.

I'm gonna say the same thing everyone in life will tell you, life is what YOu fucking make it. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise because they are wrong, be the change you want in your life and just suck up the hard times and push through. Learn to just be who you really are and be okay with your life, don't try to be better or comparative to anyone, just be you.

[editline]18th December 2014[/editline]

Sorry guys for bringing personal life stuff into here, I'm just going to bed soon and wanted to make it a bit more convenient.

[jhfjdh746]

Fine I'll bite, yeah sorry I had a problem with addiction, what about the time I wrecked my car ? You think it was really an accident? Don't kid yourself, yeah I made mistakes in the past, I'm the first to admit it, but don't pussy foot around and say any of you give a single fuck about what happens to me out of nowhere all the sudden you decide to give a fuck, last I checked I spent most of the time with my friends begging to try and fit in, that's why I made this fucking thing in the first place.

You've reached out to help? Really ? Fucking when? How about the time when that whole shit went down with you know who? Did any of you try and stop me from hitting the bottle? No, none of you did anything but sit by and watch me suffer.

I may not be a saint, sure I've beat the living fucking shit out of others for fun, sure I shot up heroine, yeah I did blow, I've moved past it, but at least I'm not going to pretend to seem like some fucking white knight, say I give a shit when I really dont.

I've stuck my fucking neck out for you more times I can count, should we talk about the time you broke down at the cutting edge and I sat there with you for HOURS fucking consoling you. Or on new years when you were having a rough time, so I pulled you aside to take a shot with me just me and you.

Sorry to get into this, but yeah I've made mistakes, and despite the fact that NONE of you give a single fuck I'd still do anything for any of you, and maybe that's what makes me stupid in this situation.

[Guy Mannly]

Unfortunately this thread doesn't really specialize in couples therapy.

Y'all need to talk this over like adults, one-on-one, not in front of an online audience.

[jhfjdh746]

No fuck him, and fuck all of my "friends" but you're right, no use in arguing in front of an audience.

[joshjet]

This thread has turned into an Eminem song.

[Navarchus]

[QUOTE=S33T;46740358]No fuck him, and fuck all of my "friends" but you're right, no use in arguing in front of an audience.[/QUOTE]

Mate, I don't think you'll find someone here agreeing with the things you say after stating you're going to consider leaving your girlfriend for an underage girl and that you're an addict.

You need help, but not any kind which this thread can provide. I really do wish things work out for you but think through the things they're saying, I think you know more than well that these decisions you're asking for advice on are negative.

[jhfjdh746]

I was quick to snap myself out of the obviously stupid choice, but once an addict always an addict.

Edit: just to clarify, the only reason I was debating on leaving my girlfriend was due to the fact that I was unsure that she really cared, she had left multiple times and cheated on me, I realize that I should get help and would like to take the step in the right direction to get there, I no longer do hard drugs, but I'm just tired of being treated like a nuisance, I'm really sorry if I caused any trouble, both here, and in the real world.

[Navarchus]

[QUOTE=S33T;46740485]I was quick to snap myself out of the obviously stupid choice, but once an addict always an addict.

Edit: just to clarify, the only reason I was debating on leaving my girlfriend was due to the fact that I was unsure that she really cared, she had left multiple times and cheated on me, I realize that I should get help and would like to take the step in the right direction to get there, I no longer do hard drugs, but I'm just tired of being treated like a nuisance, I'm really sorry if I caused any trouble, both here, and in the real world.[/QUOTE]

I'll give it to you straight, if she doesn't think there's something wrong with betraying you then it's pretty likely that she doesn't care about you and doesn't love you.
Being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you isn't going to lead anywhere good.
I think you should leave her, but not to be with someone else. To be able to focus more on yourself.
Everyone needs some "me" time, judging by your confidence and insecurity I think you need some time to consider things and build yourself up.

[Kindlinho]

[QUOTE=CaptainHijacks;46740870]I'll give it to you straight, if she doesn't think there's something wrong with betraying you then it's pretty likely that she doesn't care about you and doesn't love you.
Being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you isn't going to lead anywhere good.
I think you should leave her, but not to be with someone else. To be able to focus more on yourself.
Everyone needs some "me" time, judging by your confidence and insecurity I think you need some time to consider things and build yourself up.[/QUOTE]
While this is all good advice, I feel he's gonna have to learn it the hard way anyway.

[Breakfast Buddy]

Being 27, It's almost impossible to date anyone still in college. Their lives are just so much different.

[Genericenemy]

Well I asked that girl out, suggesting going for a drink after lesson in the new year so that we can talk for longer and without interruption. She said that its a possibility providing she hasn't got anything to do after lesson someday. So I suppose its just wait and hang tight now to see if she gets back to me. Think even if this doesn't lead anywhere I've still got her as a good friend and right now I think I really need them.

[jhfjdh746]

[QUOTE=Genericenemy;46742420]Well I asked that girl out, suggesting going for a drink after lesson in the new year so that we can talk for longer and without interruption. She said that its a possibility providing she hasn't got anything to do after lesson someday. So I suppose its just wait and hang tight now to see if she gets back to me. Think even if this doesn't lead anywhere I've still got her as a good friend and right now I think I really need them.[/QUOTE]

I mean, that has to mean she's at least somewhat interested, funny how I'm trying to give advice, you should totally disregard everything I'm saying.

But if she wasn't interested she would have just said no.

Maybe she's playing hard to get ?

[Genericenemy]

[QUOTE=S33T;46742667]I mean, that has to mean she's at least somewhat interested, funny how I'm trying to give advice, you should totally disregard everything I'm saying.

But if she wasn't interested she would have just said no.

Maybe she's playing hard to get ?[/QUOTE]

I somehow doubt it, because today she was going into town to get something her parents had asked her to get as a favour and she mentioned it to me before I asked her out. She done it last week as well when we walked into town together.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=S33T;46742667]I mean, that has to mean she's at least somewhat interested, funny how I'm trying to give advice, you should totally disregard everything I'm saying.

But if she wasn't interested she would have just said no.

[B]Maybe she's playing hard to get [/B]?[/QUOTE]

no.

[Remedial Math]

hello friends i have returned

also no one really plays hard to get outside of like high school

[Navarchus]

[QUOTE=S33T;46742667]
Maybe she's playing hard to get ?[/QUOTE]

Friend sorry but, I do not believe that this is a real thing and it sounds incredibly creepy.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46742898]hello friends i have returned

also no one really plays hard to get outside of like high school[/QUOTE]

No one even really does that in highschool

[Remedial Math]

honestly if a girl plays hard to get i'll assume one of two things:

1) she doesn't really know how to approach relationships so she's taking cues from her favorite movies

2) she's not someone i want a relationship with because if she's acting like this now it won't get better

usually those two are mutually exclusive

[Guy Mannly]

Assuming someone is playing "hard to get" just leads to harmful behavior. Even if someone [i]is[/i] playing hard to get, it's not something that should be encouraged by playing into it. It's a shitty way to act and encouraging them to keep doing it by playing into it is just perpetuating one more problem that leads to confusion on consent. If someone tells you no, the best, least harmful way to respond is to take it at face value, regardless of what you think their actual meaning is.

[editline]18th December 2014[/editline]

Also, I don't really get the point of posting advice if you don't think your advice is worth listening to. You don't "owe" this thread anything, don't feel obliged to try and help if you aren't sure how to.

[Remedial Math]

Dude I guarantee everyone in this thread gives advice they themselves are bad at following. If you have advice, post it and let the ratings determine your fate

[Guy Mannly]

It just annoys me when people give advice and then downplay it, saying to ignore them or something. If you aren't even going to pretend that you think you have advice worth listening to, then why post at all?

[jhfjdh746]

Finally decide to follow the advice in this thread. Dumped my now ex, I found messages of her sending more nudes to guys, just figured I'd check in.

[blerb]

Well, congrats I guess. Sucks that she was sneaking around on you but I can't say I'm surprised given your previous posts here. At least it's in the past now, and I hope you keep it that way, for the both of you

Just out of curiosity, now that you're single, what do you want to do with your time?

[jhfjdh746]

I've honestly thought about restoring the van I'm driving, I've decided to avoid Alcohol and hard drugs all together, I've been spending time with family and watching childhood movies.

I know that I need to do this for me, because despite the fact that I may be a huge cock, my friend Zero was right, nobody is going to fix this but me, so now I guess it's time to nut the fuck up.

[Zerokateo]

[QUOTE=S33T;46747873]I've honestly thought about restoring the van I'm driving, I've decided to avoid Alcohol and hard drugs all together, I've been spending time with family and watching childhood movies.

I know that I need to do this for me, because despite the fact that I may be a huge cock, my friend Zero was right, nobody is going to fix this but me, so now I guess it's time to nut the fuck up.[/QUOTE]

I really hope you're finally understanding dude, because I honestly know what I'm talking about. I've had to suck it the fuck up and realize how wrong I've been with sooooo much of my shit in my short life, cause I was on the verge of just going fucking wild and losing control. It sucks ass to have to admit when you're in the wrong about anything but it's a part of growing up and just becoming a better person.

It takes commitment, dedication and lots of effort that in the long run will be worth it. Life is always gonna have it's downs but they'll only keep you down if you let them, I learned this from a girl who led me on so hard and made me fall in the most love I was ever in and I still believe her even though she hurt me, because it's the truth.

[jhfjdh746]

Dude what I've taken from the last few relationships.

Women are evil. Bottom line. You fight with a dude and everything's all good after, fight with a woman and you wake up at 2:34 in the fucking morning with her trying to beat your door down.

In all seriousness I just finally decided that even though I'm not the greatest person on earth I sure as shit don't deserve to be treated like I'm worthless.

[Remedial Math]

Girls are great, some are just batshit insane. Gotta find the ones that aren't, and that's the part of relationships that suck.

[Loopoo]

-being pedantic-

[Navarchus]

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46748146]Girls are great, some are just batshit insane. Gotta find the ones that aren't, and that's the part of relationships that suck.[/QUOTE]

Also applicable to men.
Or humans in general. There are great ones and horrible ones.