• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=loopoo;46763235]The fuck does an inverted nipple look like? People can have belly-button-like nipples?[/QUOTE] Some girls nipples pull in at the middle, it doesnt look all that odd its usually minor and goes away if they have a kid.
oh, it isn't as bad as it sounds. I've dated a few girls with that. actually looks kinda cute
So a few days ago, I met thus girl on OKC, and we started messaging each other. We hit it of really well and have had almost constant conversation of whole paragraphs of messages for three days straight. Last night though, she gave this big speech basically revealing herself as a big SJW. I'm pretty progressive myself and agree with most of her opinions, but I'm worried that her extreme passion (that I don't share) might turn her against me. Obviously it's was too early to tell anything at this point, but he you guys ever had similar experience?
[QUOTE=loopoo;46763235]The fuck does an inverted nipple look like? People can have belly-button-like nipples?[/QUOTE] In most cases it's not the entire nipple going into the chest but just a little bit on the end. I would say it looks a little bit like lips. It's not very common and for many it goes away with age. I would assume the larger the nipple, the larger the chance of this happening is, hence few men having them or even knowing about them unless they have met and seen a woman with them. [editline]21st December 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Splash Attack;46763583]So a few days ago, I met thus girl on OKC, and we started messaging each other. We hit it of really well and have had almost constant conversation of whole paragraphs of messages for three days straight. Last night though, she gave this big speech basically revealing herself as a big SJW. I'm pretty progressive myself and agree with most of her opinions, but I'm worried that her extreme passion (that I don't share) might turn her against me. Obviously it's was too early to tell anything at this point, but he you guys ever had similar experience?[/QUOTE] Well, if you reject her now you're actually oppressing her.
I've had the oddest of things happen to me. I've been meeting people on OKC for quite awhile now. Gone out on some dates, met some cool people through those times out, and I've been fairly satisfied with the experience. That was all when I didn't have a car. I've had a car now for 6+ months and not a single conversation, date, and barely anyone has been looking at my profile. I did a refresh on all the test in my profile, and changed pictures, and I have gotten no response from it. It feels like the car was the worst thing for me to happen with OKC. More of the question I have is how do I meet women who have close to the same nerdy interests as me? Alberta sucks trying to find people like that, and I do frequent local events and they usually end up being sausage fests.
Well, I just did it boys. I turned down a free, 4 month all expenses paid retreat to the tropics because I have started dating someone about 4 weeks ago now. What is the point of being in a tropical paradise if you're not with the one you love? I'm staying in this shitty cold, dirty and polluted city environment instead, with very little beautiful nature around us, no warm beaches, etc. When I'm with her, it doesn't matter where we are or what we are doing, everything is just right. I don't want to leave that. 4 months of not having to work, living by the beach, or in the forests, etc. going to swim whenever you want, eating really great food and having good drinks, going to sleep and waking up when you want, hang out in the sun, live a peaceful life, travel around and shit, etc. all for free. This might be a once in a lifetime opportunity. It would be so fucking awesome to go.
[QUOTE=Splash Attack;46763583]So a few days ago, I met thus girl on OKC, and we started messaging each other. We hit it of really well and have had almost constant conversation of whole paragraphs of messages for three days straight. Last night though, she gave this big speech basically revealing herself as a big SJW. I'm pretty progressive myself and agree with most of her opinions, but I'm worried that her extreme passion (that I don't share) might turn her against me. Obviously it's was too early to tell anything at this point, but he you guys ever had similar experience?[/QUOTE] Me and my boyfriend really disagree over some points like feminism, and frankly it does lead to us just not discussing it- but that's mainly because I find him hopelessly frustrating to argue with at that level and just shut the whole discussion down. Overall though it's not something that drives us apart, and in no way is it a subject I wind up perilously avoiding for the sake of our relationship. You'll often have subjects, large or small, that you disagree on and may always disagree on, but so long as you can respect their holding that view, and the subject isn't something too awfully close to home for you, it's certainly not a reason to stop pursuing someone. Ask yourself just how much the subject matters to you, and find out if it will deeply bother her knowing you may always to some extent disagree. If she really is so extremely passionate about it that she'd not be able to put up with you, even with you agreeing with most of her opinions, then it'll be good for you to find that out now, and know that it wouldn't have worked out anyway with her attitude. (I think you'll probably be just fine.)
Hello Facepunch I'm needing some love advice (& yeah this is going to be a long post), To put it simply: I'm in love with my best friend but she's already in a relationship with one of my other friends. Now we've only known each other for a year, but in that time we've gotten really [I]really[/I] close & it's getting hard for me to cope with the emotions. It started around March, I had started getting feelings for her then but I wasn't completely sure so I thought about for a few weeks before I realised how I felt about her & I decided I would ask her out. So one day I went to college dead set on asking her out, when she announced to the group that my friend & her had started going out. Needless to say I was shocked but I was also very happy for them (especially since she was depressed during the weeks leading up to that day), I justified that she's better off with him & I was fine with it all. But then in September all three of us were on the bus going home from college when she told me that she used to have a crush on me last year, I kinda knew about it at the time but I dismissed it as being a baseless rumour, so I just smiled & nodded then moved on. Then when I got home all of my feelings for her just came bursting out & I literally cried all night about it. I felt so sorry for myself because if I was a week or two faster, then I probably would be her bf now. That's when I knew that I'm completely in love with her. Since that day I've been getting closer & closer to her as a friend to the point where I kinda start feeling dressed if I don't see her over the weekend, she's starting to treat me like a second boyfriend & other people actually thought I was in a polyamorous relationship with the two of them. I have no idea what to do because I don't want to get between the two of them, they're both my friends & I want both of them to be happy. But it feels like I'm subconsciously trying to steal her away from him & I feel if I do or say anything about it then somebody is going to be upset & causing pointless drama is the last thing I want to do. Does anyone have any advice for me?
[QUOTE=Ostegolation;46764715]Well, I just did it boys. I turned down a free, 4 month all expenses paid retreat to the tropics because I have started dating someone about 4 weeks ago now. What is the point of being in a tropical paradise if you're not with the one you love? I'm staying in this shitty cold, dirty and polluted city environment instead, with very little beautiful nature around us, no warm beaches, etc. When I'm with her, it doesn't matter where we are or what we are doing, everything is just right. I don't want to leave that. 4 months of not having to work, living by the beach, or in the forests, etc. going to swim whenever you want, eating really great food and having good drinks, going to sleep and waking up when you want, hang out in the sun, live a peaceful life, travel around and shit, etc. all for free. This might be a once in a lifetime opportunity. It would be so fucking awesome to go.[/QUOTE] >four weeks >love Don't be an idiot, do the four months thing.
[QUOTE=axemunger;46765060] Does anyone have any advice for me?[/QUOTE] I've sort of been in this situation before. Personally, I would try to create some distance between you and her. Focus on meeting new people,instead of mulling over her.
[QUOTE=Ostegolation;46764715]Well, I just did it boys. I turned down a free, 4 month all expenses paid retreat to the tropics because I have started dating someone about 4 weeks ago now. What is the point of being in a tropical paradise if you're not with the one you love? I'm staying in this shitty cold, dirty and polluted city environment instead, with very little beautiful nature around us, no warm beaches, etc. When I'm with her, it doesn't matter where we are or what we are doing, everything is just right. I don't want to leave that. 4 months of not having to work, living by the beach, or in the forests, etc. going to swim whenever you want, eating really great food and having good drinks, going to sleep and waking up when you want, hang out in the sun, live a peaceful life, travel around and shit, etc. all for free. This might be a once in a lifetime opportunity. It would be so fucking awesome to go.[/QUOTE] You should go on the holiday. Your post makes it sound like you you are "proving your love" by turning down an amazing holiday to be with your new girlfriend and that you want us to say "wow you truly must love that woman so much", seeking some kind of approval. It's obviously not fun being far away from your new-found love for 4 months, but it's also very important to rememeber that your relationship should not hinder you from living your life and having some amazing experiences. A 4-month holiday is probably not something you'll have the chance to ever go on again - so why not go? I mean, it's 4 months without your girlfriend, but then you'll have all the time in the world to spend with her, assuming she's willing to wait for you to return (I seriously hope she is, otherwise she's not worth it in the first place).
fuq women go on vacation dude
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46765097]>four weeks >love Don't be an idiot, do the four months thing.[/QUOTE] We've known each other for years, but only recently have we started dating. Anyway, if you don't understand, then you simply have not lived my life and came to the same conclusions.
[QUOTE=Ostegolation;46765673]We've known each other for years, but only recently have we started dating. Anyway, [B]if you don't understand, then you simply have not lived my life[/B] and came to the same conclusions.[/QUOTE] This really isn't the attitude to have in an [B]advice thread[/B]. Alternatively, I graciously offer myself to go in your place on this 4 month holiday.
Just laughing at how absurd you are. I'd take the 4 months any day of the week. Gj ggwp you're gonna sorely regret this in the future lol
[QUOTE=Ostegolation;46765673]We've known each other for years, but only recently have we started dating. Anyway, if you don't understand, then you simply have not lived my life and came to the same conclusions.[/QUOTE] Sweetie... It doesn't matter how significant this person is to you. You should NEVER have to suffer and miss out on enjoying life because of a relationship. You're obviously spiteful about staying home considering that most of your post was you talking about how much nicer it would be there than it is where you live. You're hurting your relationship in the long run by doing this. You're already starting to act spiteful about making this sacrifice, whether you believe it or not you're going to be bringing this up in an argument a few months from now to "prove" your love. On top of that, if you think that you need to make sacrifices in the first place to "prove" yourself to her, then your relationship has some fundamental flaws you need to think about. Taking score of how many "good" or "bad" things either of you have done for the partner is a very dangerous route in a relationship. Be pretentious and pretend that you've lived more than the rest of us if you want, but ignoring people who have already been through the same shit you have and seen it fall apart isn't going to get you further than them.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46766263]Sweetie... It doesn't matter how significant this person is to you. You should NEVER have to suffer and miss out on enjoying life because of a relationship. You're obviously spiteful about staying home considering that most of your post was you talking about how much nicer it would be there than it is where you live. You're hurting your relationship in the long run by doing this. You're already starting to act spiteful about making this sacrifice, whether you believe it or not you're going to be bringing this up in an argument a few months from now to "prove" your love. On top of that, if you think that you need to make sacrifices in the first place to "prove" yourself to her, then your relationship has some fundamental flaws you need to think about. Taking score of how many "good" or "bad" things either of you have done for the partner is a very dangerous route in a relationship. Be pretentious and pretend that you've lived more than the rest of us if you want, but ignoring people who have already been through the same shit you have and seen it fall apart isn't going to get you further than them.[/QUOTE] I'm not doing this to prove anything. I gotta make a choice, and I did. I went with what I believe will make me happier. Yes, it would be great to go on this retreat. I've been thinking of something like this for about a couple years now. But this is not how I wanted to go, and you know what, the peaceful, calm and beautiful environment is not somewhere out there, it's over here, on the inside.
Well then, if she cares about you as much as you think she does, and you've known her for years, then I'm sure she'd tell you to go, have fun and enjoy yourself. If my other half got a free, all expensive paid trip to go to the tropics for 4 months, I'd be insisting she go and have a blast, yeah it'd suck for me, but my other half would be having a fantastic and memorable time.
[QUOTE=Ostegolation;46765673]We've known each other for years, but only recently have we started dating. Anyway, if you don't understand, then you simply have not lived my life and came to the same conclusions.[/QUOTE] That's a great attitude for an advice thread. " if you give advice that disagrees with what I want then clearly we're just not thinking the same." No shit. Not that you posted here for advice, your post seemed more like "LOOK AT ME AND THE SACRIFICES IVE MADE FOR "LOVE" WHAT HAVE YOU VIRGINS DONE RECENTLY?" Let me ask, does she know you did this? My gut says that any sane person would call you crazy, so if she's like "oh you made the right choice" then I guess you two are delusional and perfect for each other, because most people would want you to do it Why don't you do it and then fly her down to visit you for a few weeks? Best of both worlds. [editline]21st December 2014[/editline] That seems like a much better way to prove your love [editline]21st December 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Ostegolation;46766307]I've been thinking of something like this for about a couple years now. But this is not how I wanted to go, and you know what, the peaceful, calm and beautiful environment is not somewhere out there, it's over here, on the inside.[/QUOTE] nothing like starting a relationship with deep seated resentment that you bury deep inside
[QUOTE=Ostegolation;46766307]I'm not doing this to prove anything. I gotta make a choice, and I did. I went with what I believe will make me happier. Yes, it would be great to go on this retreat. I've been thinking of something like this for about a couple years now. But this is not how I wanted to go, and you know what, the peaceful, calm and beautiful environment is not somewhere out there, it's over here, on the inside.[/QUOTE] Why do you think this will make you happier? You said you've known this girl for years, she's going to be there when you get home. That 4 month trip isn't going to be there for you the moment you two break up. [editline]21st December 2014[/editline] Like, everything else aside, assuming that 4 months with her NOW is going to make you happier overall than a trip you won't get to go on in the future is incredibly short-sighted thinking.
[QUOTE=Splash Attack;46765244]I've sort of been in this situation before. Personally, I would try to create some distance between you and her. Focus on meeting new people,instead of mulling over her.[/QUOTE] Thanks for the advice, the only problem now is how am I going to meet new people? But I think I can figure that one out after a bit of time thanks again
no it's great, now he has ammo for every fight they ever have
[QUOTE=axemunger;46765060]Hello Facepunch I'm needing some love advice (& yeah this is going to be a long post), To put it simply: I'm in love with my best friend but she's already in a relationship with one of my other friends. Now we've only known each other for a year, but in that time we've gotten really [I]really[/I] close & it's getting hard for me to cope with the emotions. It started around March, I had started getting feelings for her then but I wasn't completely sure so I thought about for a few weeks before I realised how I felt about her & I decided I would ask her out. So one day I went to college dead set on asking her out, when she announced to the group that my friend & her had started going out. Needless to say I was shocked but I was also very happy for them (especially since she was depressed during the weeks leading up to that day), I justified that she's better off with him & I was fine with it all. But then in September all three of us were on the bus going home from college when she told me that she used to have a crush on me last year, I kinda knew about it at the time but I dismissed it as being a baseless rumour, so I just smiled & nodded then moved on. Then when I got home all of my feelings for her just came bursting out & I literally cried all night about it. I felt so sorry for myself because if I was a week or two faster, then I probably would be her bf now. That's when I knew that I'm completely in love with her. Since that day I've been getting closer & closer to her as a friend to the point where I kinda start feeling dressed if I don't see her over the weekend, she's starting to treat me like a second boyfriend & other people actually thought I was in a polyamorous relationship with the two of them. I have no idea what to do because I don't want to get between the two of them, they're both my friends & I want both of them to be happy. But it feels like I'm subconsciously trying to steal her away from him & I feel if I do or say anything about it then somebody is going to be upset & causing pointless drama is the last thing I want to do. Does anyone have any advice for me?[/QUOTE] I would get away from that situation, it's a time bomb waiting to explode at any second. Is the guy ok with it? how do you know she won't do the same to you if you somehow end up together? Also, I've said it before and I'm going to say it again: fon't confuse love with deep, helpless infatuation.
[QUOTE=Ostegolation;46766307]I'm not doing this to prove anything. [B]I gotta make a choice, and I did. I went with what I believe will make me happier.[/B] Yes, it would be great to go on this retreat. I've been thinking of something like this for about a couple years now. [B]But this is not how I wanted to go, and you know what, the peaceful, calm and beautiful environment is not somewhere out there, it's over here, on the inside.[/B][/QUOTE] That's some Dalai Lama, Zen-Buddhist type shit. 2deep4me
except he's wrong and the beautiful peaceful environment is on vacation, there's a reason people take them
hey guys I got a new girl new problems. So my friend was having a xmas bbq on the weekend and I thought it would suck because only we would show up and I was right except a friend of his came. We hung out for a bit before going back to a friends house for drinks and then going out on the town. I decided to stick with her when we got in because shes super cute and after a while I grabbed her hand and then we went off together to go talk somewhere quieter. After a while of talking I asked her what she wants to do and she said she doesn't know then I asked her if she wants to kiss and said sorry because it seems like such an awkward question and then I kissed her. Later in the night we all decided to head back to my mates house so we could all sleep and the sleeping arrangements allowed for me to sleep with her on a mattress in the lounge room. I couldn't sleep but she was knocked out as soon as she laid down. So I snuggled with her all night and we didn't fuck and later in the morning she rolled over and we hugged and got close to each other. This all sounds fine except in the morning when we all got up she wouldn't look at me or talk to anyone and she left pretty soon. I'm not sure how to feel about this but I apologized to her on Facebook later that day and asked her if she wanted to hang out some time and she said that would be cool. But I don't really know how she feels about it. [editline]22nd December 2014[/editline] also my friend took a picture of us sleeping with her hand on my dick and showed my mum
a tad bit creepy of you to snuggle her when she's out fuckin cold from drinking, man. not gonna lie. I've had situations where girls have come back to my place and if they're asleep on my bed, spooning just seems like a super creepy thing to do so I just roll over and sleep myself. [editline]22nd December 2014[/editline] but props for asking her to hang out the next day.
Anybody here suffer from Aspergers? I just looked it up, and it would make a lot of sense if I suffered from it. Crippling social anxiety, obsession with letters and numbers, brilliant (according to my teachers anyway) but highly disorganized, inability to recognize physical social cues... The list goes on, really. If anyone does, mind sharing some thoughts on it?
I, my girlfriend, her father and her brother are aspergers, but for now, the last thing you ahould do is self-diagnose. It's not just the things you say, aspergers is more noticeable when the person is a child, behaviors such as doing a puzzle upside down, inventing weird, repetitive games, talking formally all the time are signals that the child may be different. If you are effectively aspergers, you will need to accept a couple of things. Asperger has no "cure", you just can learn how to act in function of the society, and that it's not a disease, you don't suffer from it, a person with aspergers is different and sees the world in a different way. And finally, knowing that you are aspergers can help you to mostly fix the social problems since you know where do they come from, and all of that keeping the good parts of being aspergers! And finally, it is believed to run in families, though some cases have no relation with the family, so the way it works it's not absolutely clear, for now. If you have more questions, feel free to ask!
[QUOTE=loopoo;46769163]a tad bit creepy of you to snuggle her when she's out fuckin cold from drinking, man. not gonna lie. I've had situations where girls have come back to my place and if they're asleep on my bed, spooning just seems like a super creepy thing to do so I just roll over and sleep myself.[/QUOTE] She wasn't totally asleep, it's not like I was molesting her. Snuggling is a 2 man job. She wasn't drinking much either she was just tired from the night before. [editline]22nd December 2014[/editline] She wasn't passed out on the floor and I thought I'd cop a feel, we agreed together on how we were gonna do it.
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