Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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you guys have weird friends
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46788923]you guys have weird friends[/QUOTE]
Tell me about it...
if a female friend was like "would you sleep with me?" and was actually serious about it i'm not sure how i'd reply
but that's not an issue because i don't have really weird friends like that
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46789592]if a female friend was like "would you sleep with me?" and was actually serious about it i'm not sure how i'd reply
but that's not an issue because i don't have really weird friends like that[/QUOTE]
I, on the other hand, would welcome such a friend. Certainly beats the usual: "You look like Hitler," referring to my utopical attempt to grow a beard.
[QUOTE=Kindlinho;46789639]I, on the other hand, would welcome such a friend. Certainly beats the usual: "You look like Hitler," referring to my utopical attempt to grow a beard.[/QUOTE]
That makes me feel like a bit less of a douche for telling one of my friends his sunglasses made him look like a blind person.
[editline]25th December 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46789592]if a female friend was like "would you sleep with me?" and was actually serious about it i'm not sure how i'd reply
but that's not an issue because i don't have really weird friends like that[/QUOTE]
Would you be OK with telling instead of asking? Because that's how my current relationship got started...
So romantic.
I mean yeah if she was like "Hey, fuck me" and I didn't think it'd necessarily ruin the relationship then yeah I'd definitely do it but I'm betting that's not gonna happen
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46788923]you guys have weird friends[/QUOTE]
not so much people having weird friends, more them being weird as fuck themselves.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;46788917]My oh my.
So me and this one friend of mine have only talked online for over year.
And we've just been more and more frequent over time. So much so that it has become a daily activity.
Then I started planning on making a visit to her (half-ways across the country mind you).
Then a bit over a week ago she broke up with her girlfriend.
Because she doesn't have that many friends I thought that it's doubly important to make that visit.
I was about to post here earlier about "what do if feelings were to emerge?". Because I'll admit: I have strong feelings towards here and would love her whether it'd be platonic or romantic. Not only that but she had already called off two dates.
Well what would you know: This night when chatting with her; she then asks me if I would have sex with her. And I just worry if there is something more behind the question, but she insists that it's a yes or no question.
And I say: That depends on the consequences and my fear of loss.
But she jokingly adds: I become pregnant and you become my husband.
And things just become more and more apparent that she is not fooling around with this question ;_;
Whew!
Honestly I would've imagine us two to just stay at a steady stalemate of innocuous cutesy flirting, but she put out the big question and I decided to deal with the consequences of going with my gut feeling and being honest.[/QUOTE]
dude, be careful man. this is basically what happened with my ex, and ten months later she says she's not even sure she ever had any feelings for me. Even though she was telling me she loves me earlier on.
I had a friend like that in high school. She was in an LDR but she would still flirt constantly. Like, she would straight up make kissy faces and stuff like that. If i hadn't known better, I probably would have been thrown off by it.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46790261]That makes me feel like a bit less of a douche for telling one of my friends his sunglasses made him look like a blind person.[/QUOTE]
You really worry about that? We call each other stuff like "latent homosexual" or "horsefucker" all the time and that's still lite-edition. Weird friends again, I guess...
Also, I know I like a girl and she probably likes me. I have an actual urge to ask her out (extremely rare), which means I'm totally into her, but I still won't get out of my goddamn comfort zone, because it's just too... comfortable. Something about relationships, responsibility and adulthood, that keeps bugging me. Therefore, if anybody here can come up with an absolutely kickass motivational punchline I just can't ignore, feel free to show off. Obviously, I should be the one to "show off", but whatever.
Hey guys, just checking in here and saying, I really need to vent, or just talk about stuff..
I'm just coming out of a year's time of an LDR, dumped because apparently she "never had enough time for me, and felt like I wasn't getting the attention I deserve". Now, yes, I admit that I'm a clingy person, I don't like being left without attention. But with how busy she was, I was willing to accept the fact that we couldn't spend oodles of time together playing games and stuff, a simple text every now and again would suffice, but she said she couldn't even do that.
Now, last winter she was the clingy one, she would always want to play games and talk, doing everything while I didn't have as much time, but I'd still text and everything as much as I could. We've met up in person multiple times and all that, as well.
But yeah, she just suddenly broke up me, with the excuse that she couldn't spend time with me anymore and is always busy, even though she has plenty of free time, and now only sends the occasional text, even though I know she spends time playing games... And it just makes me think she was lying for the entire relationship, and she did, many many times, and I even caught her in the act of lying (although nothing huge like cheating, just lying to get away from me or something...) But never said anything, waiting for her to get guilty and admit it.
It still hurts... I don't know how to get over any of this, and just, what should I do?
Sorry if the post is in bad grammar and everything else, I'm just kind of a mess right now, it's what happens when your first relationship ends, I guess.
[QUOTE=Electrical;46799243]Hey guys, just checking in here and saying, I really need to vent, or just talk about stuff..
I'm just coming out of a year's time of an LDR, dumped because apparently she "never had enough time for me, and felt like I wasn't getting the attention I deserve". Now, yes, I admit that I'm a clingy person, I don't like being left without attention. But with how busy she was, I was willing to accept the fact that we couldn't spend oodles of time together playing games and stuff, a simple text every now and again would suffice, but she said she couldn't even do that.
Now, last winter she was the clingy one, she would always want to play games and talk, doing everything while I didn't have as much time, but I'd still text and everything as much as I could. We've met up in person multiple times and all that, as well.
But yeah, she just suddenly broke up me, with the excuse that she couldn't spend time with me anymore and is always busy, even though she has plenty of free time, and now only sends the occasional text, even though I know she spends time playing games... And it just makes me think she was lying for the entire relationship, and she did, many many times, and I even caught her in the act of lying (although nothing huge like cheating, just lying to get away from me or something...) But never said anything, waiting for her to get guilty and admit it.
It still hurts... I don't know how to get over any of this, and just, what should I do?
Sorry if the post is in bad grammar and everything else, I'm just kind of a mess right now, it's what happens when your first relationship ends, I guess.[/QUOTE]
Sounds to me like she was too much of a coward to admit the feelings she had for you were not true.
^^^spot on
If you're looking for advice on what to do now, I'd just give the stock answer for any breakup; find some hobbies, meet new people, start working out, etc. If you can find some way to redirect your attention in a more positive direction, it'll be a whole lot easier.
[editline]27th December 2014[/editline]
It happens to all of us, man. The important thing is to just keep moving forward. Soon enough, everything will become much easier and eventually you'll be able to look back on things and wonder what the hell you were thinking.
[QUOTE=CaptainHijacks;46801436]Sounds to me like she was too much of a coward to admit the feelings she had for you were not true.[/QUOTE]
Honestly, you're more on than you think. It was only a day after the breakup where she has told me that she had questioned her feelings a month after we had gotten together.. which makes me question why she dragged it on for more than a year later before she finally told me. It really only hurt me more, because I was actually pretty in love with her, things seemed so nice until it all went downhill a couple months ago, where the lying and everything else began to get out of control, and then it dragged on for another 3 before it started tolling on me and she broke up with me. I honestly thought it had the possibility to get better, which is why I stayed.
As for hobbies, I might have to pick one up. My problem is that I have rarely enough time, and I never get out there. I'm an introverted nerd who mainly spends his time on games, or with a small group of 5 friends whom only 2 are girls, one is taken, other has no interests in any relationship, and meeting new people alone is not my forte, as is working out, hell, my shyness is terrible enough that my ex was the one who asked me out, I have no backbone. I have my head up though, with my hopes as high as I can hold them. Thanks for the advice, guys. Any other ideas where I can go from here?
I'd say start going to the gym. It helped me get my mind off uni stuff last year, currently helping me not think about that girl I ranted earlier. If you're not confident (or lost in the sheer amount of workout programs like I am), go for a coach subscription, they don't give a shit about how nerdy you are if you're willing to work.
[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46796256]http://dopeandfamous.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/you_miss_100_percent_shots_michaelscott-theoffice.jpg[/QUOTE]
It's funny, because I love hockey. It's exploitable, though: You miss 100% of the shots, you don't take, but sometimes it's just better to pass!
Nevertheless, I'm going to make this my mantra. Peace.
Just started an account on Tinder. Only got a couple of photos there. Don't have description, but for some reason some of my facebook photos don't appear there.
Oh well, decided I'd give it a try. No description yet, just for fun.
What about you guys? Ever tried Tinder? Any tips?
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;46803460]Just started an account on Tinder. Only got a couple of photos there. Don't have description, but for some reason some of my facebook photos don't appear there.
Oh well, decided I'd give it a try. No description yet, just for fun.
What about you guys? Ever tried Tinder? Any tips?[/QUOTE]
If you actually want to give it a try, make sure the photos are on there, make sure you have a good description, that'd be my tip.
[editline]27th December 2014[/editline]
No one is going to take you seriously if you don't have that stuff
I think tinder is great if used properly. If you're in a highly urban area - a big city or in a town with a lot of younger people, it can really make for some interesting moments. It really is a measure of variance and confounding variables.
I was in DC in November, it was booming, swiping right was hella dope. Now that I'm back home though, I have it uninstalled because not a lot of people use it in my area. You can change the settings to show you people further from your location.
Before I uninstalled it, I sent a cheesy message to a girl in DC while being home in Ohio.
"I know I'm over 500 miles away, but in my defense I got lost in your eyes." to which she responded with a bunch of emojis, "that had to be the cutest thing I've ever gotten on here"
I'm just curious about the people around me that I barely know.
I mean, I only have a tight group to go out with and I wanted to meet new people in my city. Also since I study outside of here I barely come to town on my own now.
There seem to be a lot of cool people on Tinder here, and since I'm in electrical engineering, my girl friend to boy friend ratio is kind of embarrassing. Haven't been messaged back though and I'm in some kind of a mess because I'm having a huge cold at the moment. So no new photos, I'm afraid.
I don't usually put likes on people that are 18 because they either look like prostitutes, underage girls os fakes.
But the rest seems nice.
I have 2 photos there. Simple, but you can't really see my face in detail because of the angle. So I guess I gotta work on that.
As for description, I might say that I'm looking to meet new people and a general summary of my interests.
[editline]27th December 2014[/editline]
Also saw like 4 highschool teachers of mine. Damn, they look like shit.
oh motherfucker. I just recently got snapchat because this girl I liked had one. Today she sent an extra cute picture and I screenshotted it, not knowing that the other person would know as well. How the fuck do I get myself out of this one. I told them that I like to just look at pictures slowly and the timer was too fast. Fucking kill me. I probably ruined any chances I had with her with that, didn't I?
[editline]27th December 2014[/editline]
I tried tinder, I used two fingers to spam likes for like a thousand times and I did get 3 matches-all said it was an accident on their end
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I remember posting a few months back about a shitty breakup I had, and I was in a complete mess. You guys helped me through it and I am extremely grateful for it. I am alot better now and almost over it. Although it still does sting, it's nowhere near as bad as then.
I wouldn't have been able to get over it without you guys words of comfort and talking to me here. Never thought about it but I always turn to facepunch whenever I have a major crisis or just some shit I need to get off my chest, since I really don't have any friends outside at all.
Thanks you bastards you are all family
People say here that when people like you back it's easy to start chatting. However if you arrange a meeting the other people will most likely cut off at the last moment.
I just want to try it out, see where it gets me. Already added a casual description about me there.
Don't know if it was a good idea to add my kik there though.
>I like to look at pictures slowly
Good lord
it was all i could think of at the moment
you're now probably known within her social circle as a creeper. gj. especially with that really cringe justification.
[editline]27th December 2014[/editline]
also people who screenshot snapchats are literally the worst. defeats the whole point of snapchatting embarrassing / silly photos.
well fuck
if you did it to like an embarrassing or silly picture you can get away with it if you just send them an equally embarrassing/silly one
doesn't work quite as well with sexy ones but w/e
but goddamn dude that was like the worst possible thing you could have said, holy shit that's hilarious
i like to look at your pictures slowly. i want to be able to breathe in the entire scene, from your bedroom and your sheets that probably smell like lilac to your hair that i want to just wrap around my dick and jerk off with oh god i'm so lonely date me
Haha, I got a match.
But she's not responding anymore :(
She lives too far away from me though. Don't know how she got under my radar
Yay for not being able to text that girl I'm into because she's in Florida for the Christmas break and I don't want to run up her phone bill. And of course I was retarded and didn't ask when she was coming back so I don't know when I'll be able to text her again. But at least for the past week or so she wasn't the only thing I could think about.
Anyway, since it's not really clear if what we're doing is dating, when school starts again I'll probably ask her out for something simple again like coffee and then ask if she wants to go on a "real" date, unless something like that would probably come out awkward. I got a coupon for two free movie tickets for Christmas so I was thinking I'd probably ask if she wants to go to a movie, even though there's no movies I want to see other than American Sniper because I live under a rock and don't know what movies normal people like. But that's probably a terrible date movie so I may have to rethink this.
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