Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40785144]I have awoken.[/QUOTE]

I was waiting for this day.
I may just become a regular in this thread again.

OH FUCK! this means seith is back too.

[Rhenae]

I wonder if Seith will re-join us :v:
Mav check the OP

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40785661]I wonder if Seith will re-join us :v:
Mav check the OP[/QUOTE]

I kind of hope he does.
This thread got really boring with the lack of E-drama, robotic advice, and mini-maverick meltdowns.

[Guy Mannly]

we rarely have much activity in these threads unless we're arguing

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40785676]we rarely have much activity in these threads unless we're arguing[/QUOTE]

I disagree with that you give horrible advice would you like to clarify because thats a classic case of ad hominem you illogical person

just trying to spark it

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40785694]
just trying to spark it[/QUOTE]

no... give it time. Do not force it. It ruins it.

So i asked 2 girls out this week. Both sort of said "not this week but maybe next week" type responses.
Oh well, i only have a few months left. My question though, is it really even worth it to pursue any leads when I only have 3 months left until I ship? I most likely will spend my days either working at pizza Hut or in the ER as a Tech depending on how my interview on Tuesday goes, chances are after i graduate in a few days, I won't see 95% of my friends ever again, as most of them are moving/going straight off to college (that summer school/early start stuff)

[MaverickIB]

So do kids really still come in here with stuff like, "This girl looked at me I think she loves me should I send her flowers," and whatnot?

I know it's the longest of shots but I figure there's only so many people on FP, surely there can't be many more like that left.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40785741]So do kids really still come in here with stuff like, "This girl looked at me I think she loves me should I send her flowers," and whatnot?

I know it's the longest of shots but I figure there's only so many people on FP, surely there can't be many more like that left.[/QUOTE]

Facepunch is like a hydra, cut off one head and another two grow in its place

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40785761]Facepunch is like a hydra, cut off one head and another two grow in its place[/QUOTE]

Looks like I have a lot of work to do.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40785741]So do kids really still come in here with stuff like, "This girl looked at me I think she loves me should I send her flowers," and whatnot?

I know it's the longest of shots but I figure there's only so many people on FP, surely there can't be many more like that left.[/QUOTE]

Thats a constant of life, there will always be new people to relationships who get a little over reactive :v:

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40785774]Looks like I have a lot of work to do.[/QUOTE]

you've been gone for 2 years, i mean, the 11 or 12 year olds when you posted here are now 13 or 14, and are starting to feel things down in their pubic region around girls.

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=ScoutKing;40785789]you've been gone for 2 years, i mean, the 11 or 12 year olds when you posted here are now 13 or 14, and are starting to feel things down in their pubic region around girls.[/QUOTE]

Good lord that is terrifying.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;40779988]Non regular here. I come here once in a blue moon.

I literally do not know what a friend is, like I mistake friends as just some guys I talk to in class. I thought a friend is more than that. By my definition I don't really have real life friends. I usually just hang out with them during school and nothing else. What would be a good way to ask if I could maybe hang out with them some time?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;40785233]I'm as weird as I can get.
I guess I can try sneaking my way into a situation, this guy forgets his lunch sometimes and I could probably offer to buy him lunch.

Don't worry I won't let him leech off me.[/QUOTE]

I think you're mixing up acquaintances with friends. Yes, friends are much more than people you just talk to in class. Also, you don't have to leave a great impression with everyone you meet, you're a person, not a performer (plus, trying to be incredibly charismatic / funny / awesome with every person you meet will just wear you down). Just be yourself, chat with others, if you feel like you're hitting it off and you enjoy hanging out with whoever it is, talk to them more often. Ask them if they want to grab lunch from the cafeteria, it'll give you more time to chat. Once you've been talking regularly, ask them if they're up for going to the movies or something. Especially now that it's Summer, there's a tonne of good movies out. I recently was studying at some Institute thing, met some pretty nice people. After the third day of being there, I asked if they wanted to get a study group together. Couple days after that, we all went out for coffee. Next thing I know, we're a decent enough group of friends, and they're people I enjoy hanging out with.

Just be yourself. If you're nerdy, find someone else who's nerdy. You'll hit it off easily and you won't have to put on a facade all the time and pretend to be someone you're not. Find like-minded people, that's all there is to it (you don't have to be two peas in a pod to get on with someone, but having a few common interests is helpful). I have a tonne of acquaintances, people I'll speak to in the hallways / classrooms / in town for ten minutes or so. I've only got a handful of friends, the ones I can call and hang out with, invite over, organize trips with and all that.

Don't overthink things. It just makes matters worse (you'll never get anything done, and if you do, you'll bumble a lot because you're exacerbating your nervousness / anxiousness over the situation). And hey, if you just be yourself and find the person isn't really hitting it off with you, don't worry about it. Being able to handle rejection (not everyone is going to want to be best buds with you) is part of being mature, and it's only as awkward as you make it.

[ScoutKing]

I want to add on to what Loopoo said. its easier to befriend your friend's friends, than befriend some stranger on your own.
Hanging out with someone, get bored? "hey man, who can we call to get this shit going on full speed?"
BAM, 2 hours later, 10 people, one car (road trip), eating at 12 AM at a 24/7 restaurant.

[killerteacup]

Hey loopoo I'm really happy to see you back man

[Dysentery]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40785144]I have awoken.[/QUOTE]

holy shit seeing that avatar brings back so many memories of the old love advice

[Heigou]

Ah, fucking remember MaverickIB and the nerds hating on him for being right.

[biccboi]

The truth can be hard to swallow

[editline]26th May 2013[/editline]

What Maverick did was shoving it down people's throats

[Deathhunter]

MaverickIB

How can I have anal with girls? What should I do? Just shove it in?

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=Deathhunter;40787970]MaverickIB

How can I have anal with girls? What should I do? Just shove it in?[/QUOTE]

Warm them up with your fingers first.

Best way is to either slip a finger in while you're going down on them, or (my personal favorite) stick your thumb in while you're doing it doggy style. Judge their reaction. If they pull away quickly or something, then it's probably a no go. If they let you do it, then there's a good chance you're good to go.

From then on, it depends on your relationship with the girl. If she's just a one night stand or hookup, then push her down (cause even if she wants it, she will instinctively run away from it) and slowly jam your dingaling into her poop chute. Emphasis on slowly. If you ram it in full speed ahead, you're going to be dealing with some blood curdling screams and probably some form of physical attack.

If you're actually in a relationship with the girl, then while your finger is exploring no man's land, lean in and say something like, "I want to stab your asshole with my pork sword." She might take some coercing, she will most likely be like, "I dunno..." or whatever. My favorite response is to start putting it in and say, "Just let it happen." Then you split her in half with your dong.

Whether or not you use a condom is your choice, just keep in mind, using a condom will make it hurt a lot more for her and damage your chances of being allowed to do it again. Therefore, I wouldn't analize a club slut 'cause that shit is just risky as fuarg. Wait till you're absolutely sure the girl is clean, then dive in unarmored like a man.

Also, the girl has to be super horny and into it before you can get away with any of this so if you're not very good in the sack, it probably isn't going to happen.

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40790589]. My favorite response is to start putting it in and say, "Just let it happen."
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[Rhenae]

Some form of asking would be advisable,or at least having discussed it before hand. Not necessarily right before, that can be a bummer. But just so you have some idea of her feelings on the matter and she wont freak completely out.
Mav forgot to mention lube also, which is definitely your friend for this. If you apply it straight to her you can make a good bit of anal foreplay right out of that too.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40791091]Some form of asking would be advisable,or at least having discussed it before hand. Not necessarily right before, that can be a [B]bummer[/B]. But just so you have some idea of her feelings on the matter and she wont freak completely out.
Mav forgot to mention lube also, which is definitely your friend for this. If you apply it straight to her you can make a good bit of anal foreplay right out of that too.[/QUOTE]

I laughed way too hard.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40791091]Some form of asking would be advisable,or at least having discussed it before hand. Not necessarily right before, that can be a bummer. But just so you have some idea of her feelings on the matter and she wont freak completely out.
Mav forgot to mention lube also, which is definitely your friend for this. If you apply it straight to her you can make a good bit of anal foreplay right out of that too.[/QUOTE]

no no rhenae you misunderstand you just gotta jam it in and if she can't deal with it that's her problem man

[Loopoo]

I feel like a bit of a douchebag. Whilst studying at this institute, I met a girl. Got to speaking to her during our study group and we hit it off, and every study group after that she'd sit beside me and we'd chat. I decided to invite her out for coffee and she happily agreed. That went great and we had fun and I told her that it would be nice to go to the movies once exams were finished, and she said "yeah that would be really nice".

She has been heavily texting me from the start of our friendship, just asking me how my day is etc etc., and kind of made it obvious with the flirting that she wanted more than just being friends. I feel like an asshole because I'm not really interested in a relationship right now, even though I've been reciprocating her flirtatiousness? So I feel like I've led her on somewhat, despite knowing that I'm not actually interested.

Anyways, exams finished a few days back, and I haven't texted her. I feel like she's probably waiting on me to text. So yeah, I haven't texted since the exams have finished, nor has she. I'm not really fussed, to be honest, but I feel like a jerk for doing this. Should I just carry on with the way it is and not text her, or should I message her and say an excuse or something (been real busy sorry sorry phone broke yada yada)?

To be honest, hanging out and speaking with her was good for me, because it was such an ego-boost, and I've been through a lot of shit this past year, so I sort of needed it. It made me feel nice knowing someone found me attractive, and I guess being flirted with took my mind off of my ex. But yeah, I feel guilty as hell for leading her on and then just leaving her high and dry. I'm sort of leaning towards just leaving it and not texting (I'm heading back to England in a couple weeks anyway), since it's less hassle and headache for me, but I can't help but think: "What would Jesus do?"...

[Nikeos]

i think you should just tell her the truth. i'd probably feel pretty bad about myself if i were in her shoes and some guy i was into just stopped contacting me like that

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=loopoo;40793658]I feel like a bit of a douchebag. Whilst studying at this institute, I met a girl. Got to speaking to her during our study group and we hit it off, and every study group after that she'd sit beside me and we'd chat. I decided to invite her out for coffee and she happily agreed. That went great and we had fun and I told her that it would be nice to go to the movies once exams were finished, and she said "yeah that would be really nice".

She has been heavily texting me from the start of our friendship, just asking me how my day is etc etc., and kind of made it obvious with the flirting that she wanted more than just being friends. I feel like an asshole because I'm not really interested in a relationship right now, even though I've been reciprocating her flirtatiousness? So I feel like I've led her on somewhat, despite knowing that I'm not actually interested.

Anyways, exams finished a few days back, and I haven't texted her. I feel like she's probably waiting on me to text. So yeah, I haven't texted since the exams have finished, nor has she. I'm not really fussed, to be honest, but I feel like a jerk for doing this. Should I just carry on with the way it is and not text her, or should I message her and say an excuse or something (been real busy sorry sorry phone broke yada yada)?

To be honest, hanging out and speaking with her was good for me, because it was such an ego-boost, and I've been through a lot of shit this past year, so I sort of needed it. It made me feel nice knowing someone found me attractive, and I guess being flirted with took my mind off of my ex. But yeah, I feel guilty as hell for leading her on and then just leaving her high and dry. I'm sort of leaning towards just leaving it and not texting (I'm heading back to England in a couple weeks anyway), since it's less hassle and headache for me, but I can't help but think: "What would Jesus do?"...[/QUOTE]

Just tell her the truth. Not texting her leaves tons of possibilities open in her mind, "what if he doesn't like me anymore?", etc., and is also kind of dickish, and lying and making and excuse will just continue to lead her on and is also kind of dickish. Just talk to her, tell her you think that might be where things are going and that you're not quite interested in a relationship at the moment. But, if you feel like you would want to pursue something like that in the future (obviously not too far in the future), make that clear.

[FreddiRox!]

3 girls over 3 years I've liked, and all 3 of them have all got boyfriends juuuuust as I realized I like them. Then I have to pretend I'm happy for them.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40795723]3 girls over 3 years I've liked, and all 3 of them have all got boyfriends juuuuust as I realized I like them. Then I have to pretend I'm happy for them.[/QUOTE]

What not to do 101 in relationships

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40796036]What not to do 101 in relationships[/QUOTE]

Its not even like Im like 'Oh I like her' but then dont do anything about its, its like 'Yeah maybe I do like h-' and they get a boyfriend. Its like I don't realise what I want until its too late.