Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Remedial Math]

i live a dangerous life

[editline]30th December 2014[/editline]

if i do end up making a tinder i wonder what parts of this i can salvage

i realize now this whole fucking thing is full of terrible jokes and puns

"people say i sound canadian but i don't know what they're talking aboot"

(incidentally that one is actually true, for some reason i pronounce about like aboot despite never being in canada or even living CLOSE to it)

[Electrical]

It's not the fact that I don't like exercise, it's the fact that I don't find it entertaining. It doesn't take my mind off of Things, because when I run or lift or even just go swim, it basically leaves my alone with my thoughts.

This is basically why I find myself so lanky and twiggy, and probably unattractive, it's the fact that I don't really enjoy working out, I don't have the same mindset as people who visit the gym every day for fun.

As low as it sounds, I would really rather sit and play a game or watch movies, so basically I was asking for any alternative to going to the gym as in, alternatives to exercising, something that could take my mind off of the breakup and make me happy again.

[Guy Mannly]

I have a friend who says "y'all" and he's from Illinois.

I think he got it from me, though...

[editline]30th December 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Electrical;46824506]It's not the fact that I don't like exercise, it's the fact that I don't find it entertaining. It doesn't take my mind off of Things, because when I run or lift or even just go swim, it basically leaves my alone with my thoughts.

This is basically why I find myself so lanky and twiggy, and probably unattractive, it's the fact that I don't really enjoy working out, I don't have the same mindset as people who visit the gym every day for fun.

As low as it sounds, I would really rather sit and play a game or watch movies, so basically I was asking for any alternative to going to the gym as in, alternatives to exercising, something that could take my mind off of the breakup and make me happy again.[/QUOTE]

Get an iPod and take it running

[editline]30th December 2014[/editline]

And yes I'm deliberately ignoring your comment about how you don't actually want to do anything productive to get your mind off this

[Zethin]

[QUOTE=Electrical;46824506]It's not the fact that I don't like exercise, it's the fact that I don't find it entertaining. It doesn't take my mind off of Things, because when I run or lift or even just go swim, it basically leaves my alone with my thoughts.

This is basically why I find myself so lanky and twiggy, and probably unattractive, it's the fact that I don't really enjoy working out, I don't have the same mindset as people who visit the gym every day for fun.

As low as it sounds, I would really rather sit and play a game or watch movies, so basically I was asking for any alternative to going to the gym as in, alternatives to exercising, something that could take my mind off of the breakup and make me happy again.[/QUOTE]

Or find a friend and ask them to work out with you. Going with friends (at least imo) to climb is much more fun than just doing it by yourself. I even occasionally go running with a few of my friends, and it makes the time fly as opposed to asking yourself "when is the hour up" every five minutes.

[joshjet]

What I did is just set a couple of my favorite shows that were off limits when I was at home. If I wanted to watch them, I had to watch them when I was on the treadmill, cycle machine or whatever. Probably less than optimal if you don't have anything to watch on though.

[sp]I'm probably not the greatest person to take advice from though, because I've been off the workout wagon for 6 fucking months.[/sp]

[Remedial Math]

no you're right it's much better to complain about it on the internet instead of actually doing something about it

[Electrical]

No that's not my point. I do productive things, I draw, I program, these kinds of Things. My problem is that when I'm stressed, my creativity drops down the drain, these are the things that help me calm down, help me think clearly, and I've been having trouble.

I like talking to people to get my mind off of Things too, but everyone is always busy and can't always text me or talk. I just don't have the mindset for working out, it's not my kind of entertainment, and it stresses me out more because it gives even more to worry about, I just don't think the same about working out as you guys do.

[Kindlinho]

I still think that's just a lame excuse for being lazy. Physical exercise is in human nature. You don't need to lift, just go for a run, skate or something.

Also, I hate the all dull running and routines as well, but I know it's gonna help me feel and perform in sports better, so I just push myself, do it anyway and do it right. The hardest part is to get dressed and convince yourself to do it.

Watching TV shows while on a stationary bike is good advice, by the way.

[Electrical]

The only kind of exercise that really ever kept me happy and entertained without me feeling sick or tired afterwards would have been skiing, but when I moved south, that ceased being an option, with lack of money and then college.

I've never EVER played a sport in school or anything else, exercise just never gave me that much entertainment, even when I actually get up and do so, I regret doing it. I honestly don't have that kind of mindset to enjoy exercise because it feels like I'm getting nowhere and could be doing something more fun with my time.

I'm sorry that I'm not being so open to it, it's just that I've tried before and it's never helped my mood.

[Remedial Math]

again, you're choosing to not exercise because you'd rather...what, exactly?

you don't initially exercise because you enjoy it, to be honest it mostly sucks for the first month. you do it because it gets your mind off things, it's a good environment (generally), and it's good for you whether you realize it or not. but after a month you'll get used to it and you'll feel bad if you DON'T get out and do it

[BackSapper]

[QUOTE=BackSapper;46817674]I've probably asked this twice or three times, but how do I meet people locally?

Being in Southern Alberta sucks, as it seems the only thing that everyone has in common with eachother is drinking. The gaming events that are local in Calgary look like a lot of fun, but I have no one to go with and I feel going in alone to meet people is awkward as fuck for me. Being that I am autistic, going somewhere where I don't have a common friend to hang out with makes me feel like I am a complete introvert where the last time I did something like this, I had a blast even though I didn't really meet anyone close to my interests.[/QUOTE]

I really hate to repost, but any kind of advice? For the local gaming events, should I just go and try to "fit in?".

There is this New Years Eve party I will be going to with my roommates, but afaik it will be full of 24-30 year olds. Being 21 i'm not sure if I will get along too well with anyone there. All I know is that the hostess has a thing for me, and i'm going to be flirting with her for the night.

[Remedial Math]

i've yet to see people past high school that give two shits about someone's age as long as they're not like HEY YOU GUYS LIKE VIDEO GAMES? I LIKE VIDEO GAMES. COLLEGE IS WEIRD, RIGHT? LOTS OF HOMEWORK

[Taepodong-2]

When did this become the super friendly fitness advice thread?

For the record I find physical activity boring as fuck as well, which combined with mild muscular dystrophy that makes 99% of all physical activity more intensive than walking for about a mile painful as fuck is why I don't exercise and am overweight. Like if I actually wanted to seriously exercise I'd have to load myself up on painkillers and probably cause irreversible damage to a muscle. Do I at least have a good excuse?

[editline]31st December 2014[/editline]

Also that girl I like told me to text her over the Christmas break but I really didn't all that much because I was kind of hoping she would text me first so now I feel kind of bad. I mean I did text her a couple times, but I can't help but feel like she was probably hoping for me to text her more. I guess I'll just have to tell her I don't really like texting that much because I really don't. It takes longer than if you're just talking to them and sometimes it feels really impersonal.

[Remedial Math]

it's social advice so you don't walk around looking like the guy from the south park wow episode

[Guy Mannly]

Ultimately it's your own decision if you choose to neglect your physical health, we can't force you to do anything. At the same time, you should consider the fact that nobody has ever started taking care of their body and regretted it. There are irresponsible/unsafe ways to exercise (in Tae's case, I would strongly recommend talking to a doctor for suggestions) but physical health itself has never hurt anyone.

It really makes me sad that you're trying to come up with [i]excuses[/i] not to take care of your body. Who are you trying to prove yourself to here? We can't force you to do anything and this is the internet, you could very well just lie to us or not bring it up, so I'm not sure why you're looking for confirmation from us that it's okay for you to neglect your own health. Are you trying to justify to yourself that you're not taking care of your body?

If we're coming off as lecturing it's because a lot of us have been there before and we empathize with where you're at. I personally used to suffer from pretty bad depression and found that my own problems were as simple as fixing my diet and lifting regularly. I still feel my mood drop and my attention span wane if I let myself slide for even just a couple days at this point - that's how significant of a difference it is. I get [i]ill[/i] and lethargic if I eat fast food etc - I can't imagine going back to consuming that stuff regularly and feeling like that all the time. You can't understand how profound of an impact fitness and diet will have on your mind until you've actually attempted to fix yours.

"It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable."

[Remedial Math]

lmao @ the guy that rated you dumb

excuse us for trying to help you guys not be depressed fat people

[editline]31st December 2014[/editline]

Seriously though, work out

[Taepodong-2]

Saying "go work out" isn't that easy. I know I speak for a lot of people when I say I have no idea how to get started. And to be honest it seems like more of a chore to me than a source of entertainment, but we were over this last page.

And shit I don't need an intensive workout program or anything. I have no interest in lifting or bodybuilding, I just don't want to have man boobs anymore. But that involves running which leads to terrible leg pains so I'm trapped in a viscous circle here. I don't know anyone who goes to the gym to do anything other than bodybuilding so I have nobody to help get me started.

[Remedial Math]

Well those people should be saying "I don't even know where to start", not "oh I don't think I need to do it blah blah blah"

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46830526]Saying "go work out" isn't that easy. I know I speak for a lot of people when I say I have no idea how to get started. And to be honest it seems like more of a chore to me than a source of entertainment, but we were over this last page.

And shit I don't need an intensive workout program or anything. I have no interest in lifting or bodybuilding, I just don't want to have man boobs anymore. But that involves running which leads to terrible leg pains so I'm trapped in a viscous circle here. I don't know anyone who goes to the gym to do anything other than bodybuilding so I have nobody to help get me started.[/QUOTE]
ok i don't lift things and put them back down on a regular basis

but there are literally dozens of other things to do to get rid of man boobs

but at the end of the day, if you want manboobs gone, you have to put in the exercise effort

[blerb]

It's pretty simple to get started. There are tons of fitness boards online. r/Fitness, 4chan's /fit, even the WtF section here on Facepunch. A lot of fitness communities can be toxic as fuck though, so keep that in mind.

I recommend hitting up any of the above places and reading the sticky. They cover pretty much everything you'll need to know about weight loss/gain and working out, should you choose to do so. You can lose weight by controlling your diet alone, but I don't recommend it, especially if you're heavier. You'll lose the weight but still look like shit afterward (speaking from experience.)

Also, weightlifting/dieting doesn't sound entertaining but it gets a lot more tolerable the more you do it. I'm at the point now where I actually enjoy going to the gym. I feel revitalized afterward, and I find my attention span is razor sharp relative to how I normally am.

Not to sound corny, but the first step is always the hardest. Well maybe not the research aspect, like the first physical step yknow

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46830526]Saying "go work out" isn't that easy. I know I speak for a lot of people when I say I have no idea how to get started. And to be honest it seems like more of a chore to me than a source of entertainment, but we were over this last page.

And shit I don't need an intensive workout program or anything. I have no interest in lifting or bodybuilding, I just don't want to have man boobs anymore. But that involves running which leads to terrible leg pains so I'm trapped in a viscous circle here. I don't know anyone who goes to the gym to do anything other than bodybuilding so I have nobody to help get me started.[/QUOTE]

Your mentality is awful. It's like you expect a healthy physique to be handed to you on a silver platter.

Some people enjoy pushing themselves and achieving goals they previously couldn't. Exercising and working out isn't fun at the beginning, but when you push yourself and leave your comfort zone, you soon start to realise how much you can achieve, and it's that sense of achievement that becomes enjoyable. Working out and seeing how much better you look and feel is rewarding, and it makes you want to keep it up.

I know I speak for a lot of people when I say making the first step and joining a gym is better than sitting on your ass and complaining, especially over something so trivial. You can educate yourself online about working out (there's so many online resources), or join a gym and ask one of the staff who'd happily show you how to work a machine / do an exercise.

If jogging hurts your legs, do low-impact sport like swimming or cycling. They're rather self explanatory. Just sit on a bike and cycle.

[Remedial Math]

Last year on my birthday I decided to treat myself and I spent a week at the Biggest Loser Resort in Malibu (I have a friend there that got me in at like 80% off, otherwise it's hilariously expensive). I wasn't overweight I just thought it'd be fun to almost kill myself for a week. And it was. (Incidentally I met/am now friends with a few famous people but that's besides the point)

point is I saw a few people (one guy was well over 500 lbs) exercising for...geeze, about 14 hours a day? Most of it was in the swimming pool because it's easier on your joints when you're that heavy, but I tried some of the exercises he was doing and I'd much rather lift weights, that shit was difficult and it hurt.

But he ended up losing about 90 lbs in a week because he pushed himself to work out and make himself better. Obviously you guys can't work out 14 hours a day (unless you have like weights in your house but i don't think even amanda does 14 hours a day) but if a 500 pound guy can exercise I'm sure you guys can. (He spent like four months there and last I heard he was sitting at like 190 and his BF% was like 10. Then again he was a marine so for all I know he's totally used to it)

The hardest part is the first step, getting out of your comfort zone/basement and getting to the gym. If you guys want help on what kind of exercises to do or something, either ask here or add me on Steam and talk to me there or something.

Also if jogging hurts your legs, try an elliptical machine. Stationary bikes can fuck with your knees if you have bad legs but ellipticals are great because it's basically running without the running motion. granted it's basically just cardio but it's an excellent start.

[Patrick]

My first payday was on new years eve so I bought some new clothes so I could hit the town. I'm on a roll lately with the women, I met a new girl and I went back to her place, I think she wanted me to make a move but I didn't know what to do. I got her number and I'm going to hang out with her on Sunday.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46830526]Saying "go work out" isn't that easy. I know I speak for a lot of people when I say I have no idea how to get started. And to be honest it seems like more of a chore to me than a source of entertainment, but we were over this last page.

And shit I don't need an intensive workout program or anything. I have no interest in lifting or bodybuilding, I just don't want to have man boobs anymore. But that involves running which leads to terrible leg pains so I'm trapped in a viscous circle here. I don't know anyone who goes to the gym to do anything other than bodybuilding so I have nobody to help get me started.[/QUOTE]

There is a lot more to fitness than just going to the gym - I hate the gym (I find it incredibly boring and a bit vain) so I stay in what I would consider reasonable shape by doing other things, mostly sport, walking everywhere I can rather than driving etc.

[Electrical]

My point was that fitness doesn't help me forget things that upset or depress me. I know you guys are trying to help but I've said exercise doesn't help. My daily routines are enough to keep me fit.

In other news, the friendship is only going downhill more. She had promised me that she'd spend new years doing things with me such as playing video games and stuff, and for the 5th time since I've started counting, she's pushed me aside for another of her friends. Then she gets home and decided to tell me that she's too tired from all that to play a game with me. The same has happened before, multiple times. This is really starting to wear on me and I'm getting depressed too. After knowing this girl for 5 years now it feels like I don't know her at all...

[Remedial Math]

i guarantee your daily routines aren't keeping you fit unless you strip shingle roofs for a living (i did that for a summer, if you were doing that then I'd believe it's keeping you fit)

[PuduEbooks]

So, on the topic of healthy lifestyles. Today I felt sick, like I was barely keeping myself alive: shortness of breath, felt a lot of weight all over my body, and I just wanted to lay down. I'm not even that fat, 75 kg and 1,80 meters, but I felt so pathetic, so... unattractive for my girlfriend and generally an unpleasant person to be with. She says she doesn't care, but I want to be more attractive to her, and I don't want to ever feel this sick again in my life. I don't even have any muscle mass because I've never done any workout in my life.
The problem is that I'm a little close to being 17, and my family isn't very supportive with this stuff. The closest gym is 45 minutes away and I'm going to be quite short of time this month, so I can't go there every day and pay it, nor buy anything because we're REALLY short of money lately. I need something to do at home, and not costly.
Another problem is that my family won't do anything to help in terms of food. They keep cooking junk food, and a lot of it, buying soda, and generally following a very unhealthy diet. And I can't change what they buy since they go for the cheapest and the quickest stuff. I know, part of eating unhealthy and a lot of food is my fault, but I will work on it.
So, what do you guys recommend for someone my age, with these objectives and problems?

[Remedial Math]

Conversion for americans: 165lbs, 5'10"

Don't drink the soda, just drink water. It sucks for a month but if you make it 30 days you'll feel weird when you taste soda. That alone is insanely good for you, especially if you're the type of person who drinks multiple cans a day.

You're not overweight, which is what I expected before I actually did the math. I imagine you're kind of...flabby, but that's not too bad. That's much easier to deal with than if you were like...twice that.

You can't really help the food part since you're living with your parents and you're only 16, but try to eat the healthier junk food (I guess). If you have a job, you might want to set aside some money for cheap, healthy food. you can buy like lettuce and ceasar salad dressing for like $5 and adding a salad once a day would probably make you feel a bit better, at least until you can do something about it. There are probably more efficient ways to eat healthy for cheap but that's more or less what I do. (I add chicken bacon flakes sometimes but that's probably not great)

As for exercise...why not just jog? I don't know where you live (your flair says Chile, so I guess jog with your pet alpacas i assume you have) but even if you lived in a big apartment complex, just jog around the block or something. If you're out in the country (which is what I assume since there's no gym closer than 45 minutes away, which is weird to me), just jog down your road or something.

Check this out: [url]https://www.digitalrunning.com/couch-to-half-marathon-plan/]Couch to Half Marathon[/url]. It's a basic, basic running plan that gets you in shape. It assumes you haven't seriously exercised in at least two months, which sounds accurate. So it basically assumes you're a blob of lard and in like six months you'll be chiseled and beefy. Note that it kind of requires four days a week (or less) of running, depending on your general speed. It's also encouraged to do some kind of stretching/cardio along with it, for example swimming or doing bodyweight exercises.

If you don't want to do that, you could also google a prison workout and do that, since that requires almost no actual materials. That's how you get ripped, esé.

[editline]1st January 2015[/editline]

for some reason Edit Post is fucking up on my computer so there are two things to mention:

1) I add chicken AND bacon flakes, not chicken bacon flakes

2) the website is [url]https://www.digitalrunning.com/couch-to-half-marathon-plan/[/url]

[PuduEbooks]

Thanks man! I live in the countryside, that's why I live so far from any gym. I don't want to run because I would not feel comfortable at all, plus my neighbors are a little crazy, is it ok if I feel that way? Anyways, I'll look into that other option you gave me, and no more soda, and I will be controling myself in term of eating. Thanks for the advice.

[editline]1st January 2015[/editline]

And no, I sadly don't have any pet Alpacas, but I have a lot of chickens, dogs, and cats!

[SundayRoast]

Barbells are rather cheap and offer a wide array of upper body exercise.