Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[killerteacup]

I'm talking about the bit where you pretend to be happy for them

[Deathhunter]

Thanks MaverickIB.
I'm loving him already.

[All0utWar]

There's this girl that was in my homeroom during the school year that had a friend next to my locker and she would come to my locker at the end of the day and talk to me for like 2-3 minutes while I got stuff out to take home. This was going on for 2-3 weeks [sub][sub](near the end of the school year)[/sub][/sub] and on the last day I got the confidence to ask her out on a date to the movies. She said maybe with a smile and a laugh and said she would DM me on Twitter. Two days later I DMed her and asked if she was busy this Wednesday or the upcoming weekend and she said that she would check if she has anything planned. It's been three days and she hasn't messaged me about anything. I've never actually dated anyone and have no experience with the matter. I'm super shy in real life and get really nervous about things. I'm started to think that she doesn't want to go with me but I have no idea how these things work.

It really sounds like I'm overreacting...

[All0utWar]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;40797733]she's probably not really into it but tbh she's being a bit of a cunt by ignoring you like that[/QUOTE]

I'm wondering if I should just ask for her phone number but in my mind it feels like a really awkward thing to do all suddenly.

[MaverickIB]

I'm actually in a little predicament but I don't really need help with it, it's just interesting to be caught up in things like I'm in high school again.

So I started at a new job, by far the most muscular dude in the place (I've been bodybuilding with all my free time since being banned) and it's a woman-dominated workplace. Pretty much all of them fell in love with me instantly. Right off the bat, I started talking to the prettiest one, we've been talking but she's so damn busy it's tough to find time to hang out. In the meantime, I started talking to a different girl and we went on a few dates yadda yadda yadda.

The one I went on the dates with went full puppy love mode and thinks we're together. I show up at work the other day and everyone thinks she's my girlfriend, which is NOT GOOD for my game with the other females there. The hottest one almost jumped ship, had to convince her it was just a few dates and we aren't together. Had to tell this to pretty much everyone.

Now second girl is all butthurt because word got around to her that I said we're not together. Which sucks because I totally wanted to stick my peepee in her. So I'm doing damage control right now, gonna see if I can get her to accept me not wanting to commit to someone after like 2 dates. Hopefully get to stick my dong in her. But if she comes at me with drama I'm gonna drop it like it's hot, fuck me I'm too old for that shit.

Then there's a third girl who's a total fatty and really cool but I would never put my cave explorer in her. Probably the first time I've ever friend zoned a female, which is a strange sight to see.

I dunno if I've ever gotten this much attention.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40798454]I'm actually in a little predicament but I don't really need help with it, it's just interesting to be caught up in things like I'm in high school again.

So I started at a new job, by far the most muscular dude in the place (I've been bodybuilding with all my free time since being banned) and it's a woman-dominated workplace. Pretty much all of them fell in love with me instantly. Right off the bat, I started talking to the prettiest one, we've been talking but she's so damn busy it's tough to find time to hang out. In the meantime, I started talking to a different girl and we went on a few dates yadda yadda yadda.

The one I went on the dates with went full puppy love mode and thinks we're together. I show up at work the other day and everyone thinks she's my girlfriend, which is NOT GOOD for my game with the other females there. The hottest one almost jumped ship, had to convince her it was just a few dates and we aren't together. Had to tell this to pretty much everyone.

Now second girl is all butthurt because word got around to her that I said we're not together. Which sucks because I totally wanted to stick my peepee in her. So I'm doing damage control right now, gonna see if I can get her to accept me not wanting to commit to someone after like 2 dates. Hopefully get to stick my dong in her. But if she comes at me with drama I'm gonna drop it like it's hot, fuck me I'm too old for that shit.

Then there's a third girl who's a total fatty and really cool but I would never put my cave explorer in her. Probably the first time I've ever friend zoned a female, which is a strange sight to see.

I dunno if I've ever gotten this much attention.[/QUOTE]

This is a hilariously blunt version of those three girl situations we get in here every so often. This always seems like what they are trying to say but don't want to :v:

Anyway I'm aware your not asking fro advice but in the name of common decency, dont keep stringing on your puppy love girl. She is obviously the relationship type and if your just in it to bone her thats gonna be a major problem and drama, and ya know pretty assholish.

A lot of girls will notice if your playing your game with a bunch of them by the way, if they all work together it wont exactly be hard for them to talk. A lot of girls really don't like that attitude, since they tend to favor commitment and such more.

edit:
Correcting everyone that your not together also might have been a bit of an over correction, makes it seem like you really dont want to be with her, which will make her hard to convince and other girls more weary. Would have been better to mostly just talk to her about it, she sounds like the talkative type anyway, probably would have discussed the problem with everyone without you pointing it out to them all. Girls arn't oblivious to these sorts of games, they will notice your trying to keep all the options open.

[ScoutKing]

If she wants a relationship, but you just want to sail your ship into her port, i would just let her be, so you dont make yourself look like an ass with all the other girls who are less "puppy love" types.

[Godline]

make sure them chicks dont eventually form an anti maverick group if your planning to ride the circuit

[MaverickIB]

I got it under control.

Trust me. I'm a professional.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;40796469]are you telling him to act like a douche to the girls because he got infatuated before realizing they were taken? you can't force genuine happiness[/QUOTE]

no not at all, I was afraid my post would be interpreted that way (but I posted it in anyway like a dumb butt)

I'm saying that the cycle of getting a crush on a girl, not making a move, then finding that as this is happening, they get a boyfriend is a little silly - and its sillier to complain that every single time you're expected to be happy for them

of course you are, you never made it clear that you had a thing for them, they got a boyfriend and they want their friends to be happy for them

I mean like i'm not saying at all that you should be a douche about it, I'm just saying that if its only in the process of happening then its not like he's lost anything too big - and its not something to get too upset about. And that's what i meant about how not to pull off relationships 101 - don't get too upset over things that seem little when you put them into perspective

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40798947]I got it under control.

Trust me. I'm a professional.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like you have that situation in the most perfect place

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40799876]I mean like i'm not saying at all that you should be a douche about it, I'm just saying that if its only in the process of happening then its not like he's lost anything too big - and its not something to get too upset about. And that's what i meant about how not to pull off relationships 101 - don't get too upset over things that seem little when you put them into perspectivece[/QUOTE]

Literally everything looks little in perspective because we all die.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40800092]Literally everything looks little in perspective because we all die.[/QUOTE]

super deep man~

You have to take your level of abstraction out a bit to see what i mean

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40800121]super deep man~

You have to take your level of abstraction out a bit to see what i mean[/QUOTE]

When you put something into perspective, everything is going to look small - because we will eventually die. It wasn't a statement about my situation, it's just a saying I hate.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40800479]When you put something into perspective, everything is going to look small - because we will eventually die. It wasn't a statement about my situation, it's just a saying I hate.[/QUOTE]

Well that's kind of a silly thing to hate on and a really silly reason to hate on it
of course we're all going to die that's not what the saying actually refers to lol

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40800493]Well that's kind of a silly thing to hate on and a really silly reason to hate on it
of course we're all going to die that's not what the saying actually refers to lol[/QUOTE]

My idea of 'putting something into perspective' is looking at the whole of life

[Canary]

I have the horniest girlfriend ever it's amazing, I guess it's true what they say about the quiet ones. God damn...

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40798454]I dunno if I've ever gotten this much attention.[/QUOTE]

my guess would be probably not

[MaverickIB]

I love you too.

[Kindlinho]

I've been following this thread for a while now and I wanna let you know that it would work great as a sit-com.
Now what I want to do is not to offer you a contract, but acknowledge your qualities and encourage you to keep it up. I really love the latest episodes. You're cool.

[Behemoth_PT]

So yesterday I called this girl I met on the train. She didn't answer. I only called her once and will not call again. At least in a while. She got my call, It rang, she'll probably see it. If not, oh well, I don't feel that bad being single. I can date whoever I want. :v:

But what if she doesn't like me or forgot about me? What if she deleted my number? :tinfoil:

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;40808075]So yesterday I called this girl I met on the train. She didn't answer. I only called her once and will not call again. At least in a while. She got my call, It rang, she'll probably see it. If not, oh well, I don't feel that bad being single. I can date whoever I want. :v:

But what if she doesn't like me or forgot about me? What if she deleted my number? :tinfoil:[/QUOTE]

If you don't get a call back I would maybe send a text since I know a lot of people who don't keep caller ID and can't call back etc.

[All0utWar]

Okay so I messaged her again and she said that she doesn't really check her DMs which is understandable I guess. She said she would be busy Wednesday but gave me her phone number. Is this the part where I start texting her on a frequent basis?

[ScoutKing]

So i was looking on the facebooks, and saw a picture of a girl i took to a dance in 8th grade on a date.
god damn, did she get 25x hotter as she aged. 14 year old me knew what was up.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=All0utWar;40809417]Okay so I messaged her again and she said that she doesn't really check her DMs which is understandable I guess. She said she would be busy Wednesday but gave me her phone number. Is this the part where I start texting her on a frequent basis?[/QUOTE]

Just start texting her slow and see how she goes along with it, don't worry about responding too fast or whatever. I just mean if she doesn't respond probably just send one confirmation text (I tend to just send people "?" if they don't respond for a while in case they missed it in the middle of a convo) and if no response wait at least till the next day. No sense in pestering.

[Loopoo]

Texted the girl, she was cool with it. She said she knew we weren't exclusive and there's no hard feelings. Plus she's off to Dubai in a couple days so it's all good. Told her how I felt about us and that I didn't want to lead her on.

[All0utWar]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40809557]Just start texting her slow and see how she goes along with it, don't worry about responding too fast or whatever. I just mean if she doesn't respond probably just send one confirmation text (I tend to just send people "?" if they don't respond for a while in case they missed it in the middle of a convo) and if no response wait at least till the next day. No sense in pestering.[/QUOTE]

So would these just begin with a simple, "hey" and try to get a conversation flowing?

[Goldenmyer]

So I'm trying to talk to this one girl I knew in high school. We went to prom together our junior year and have made out before at a party last year. I was talking to her on facebook some and got her number again, I have got a new phone/number since I talked to her last. Turns out I didn't need it because I still had her number in my contacts :v

I want to try and hang out with her some over the Summer (nothing serious) but I feel that she might not be interested. She gave me her number but we only sent like one or two texts before she stopped, it's a good idea for me to wait a few days before texting her again right?

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=All0utWar;40809803]So would these just begin with a simple, "hey" and try to get a conversation flowing?[/QUOTE]

Yeah, provide details on stuff. Quickest way to kill a convo is with saying "nothing" when asked whats up or what your doing. Gives you something to talk about, and ask her about it if she mentions something she did.

[Aries]

Just popping into this thread to say that it's hilarious and I love reading stuff from here. I doubt anyone here knew me from old LA but I was unsure whether or not to ask this girl out about three years ago. Maverick was like "Nah man she's not interested" but I gave it a shot and we've been together ever since.

[editline]28th May 2013[/editline]

not sure what the moral of the story is here, I just enjoy reading your conversations from afar

[shatteredwindow]

Gonna watch toy story 3 with a girl I like since she's never seen it before. Right when she's most vulnerable at the end of the tear jerker is when I make my move. She won't stand a chance.