Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[oxooon]

I've been talking to a shy girl since school started, and slowly I've started to like her. I was hesitant to ask her out because I didn't know if she liked me or not, and I was texting her earlier today, and she was like "Oh, in other news, a junior asked me out and I said yes" (we're both sophomores) and I got all sad. She noticed this and was like "what's wrong?" and I skirted around the issue but eventually she was like "Are you sad because I am going out with another guy?" and I said yes. She responded "I accepted his invitation because you didn't ask me out...", to which I responded "Well, what do I do now?" "Wear the pants!" So I asked her out, she said yes, now we're gonna pick a date to go out, and probably gonna go see a movie. She also said she was gonna tell the junior that she wasn't gonna go out with him. I'm feeling pretty damn victorious (sorry for the junior but whatever lol).

Just wanted to get that out there.

[editline]9th June 2013[/editline]

Update: She told him she doesn't want to go with him anywhere, ever.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Eric95;40952911]The half-asian girl I always hang out with keeps drawing herself as white. Would it be rude to ask her why? Her Mii is also a white girl, she doesn't look white at all in real life

I'm half-thai just like her too, for the record. I don't know if that changes anything but I thought it might be relevant[/QUOTE]

it's not rude lol i'd ask

[rrkpp_]

[QUOTE=J$ Psychotic;40965436]Update: She told him she doesn't want to go with him anywhere, ever.[/QUOTE]

thats a bit much

[Fire Kracker]

was there really a junior or did she tell you there was to make you ask her out

[zenby]

I'm starting to get interested in someone I've known for about a year and a half, but haven't actually interacted with much until recently. We mostly know each other from gatherings of friends so I feel like I don't know her well enough on a personal level. It feels like we share a lot of interests and I want to get to know her better as a friend regardless of any other kind of relationship.

I'm just not really sure if I should just continue hanging out with multiple friends and see if we get closer naturally, or if I should just start talking to her on facebook and ask her something like "So, who are you? I realized that I actually don't know that much about you"

[Guitarplayer213]

Just so we're clear, when a girl accepts a date, but says something along the lines of "I work a lot, so we'd have to plan in advance a lot", the date is never going to happen, correct?

[SaintBonkers]

[QUOTE=Guitarplayer213;40968387]Just so we're clear, when a girl accepts a date, but says something along the lines of "I work a lot, so we'd have to plan in advance a lot", the date is never going to happen, correct?[/QUOTE]

Or maybe she does work alot and was nice enough to give you a heads-up about having to plan it?

[Guitarplayer213]

[QUOTE=pansarkurt;40968411]Or maybe she does work alot and was nice enough to give you a heads-up about having to plan it?[/QUOTE]

:rainbow:

[Dysentery]

[QUOTE=Guitarplayer213;40968440]:rainbow:[/QUOTE]

girls, contrary to popular belief, don't speak in code. she probably means what she says

[Guitarplayer213]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;40968474]girls, contrary to popular belief, don't speak in code. she probably means what she says[/QUOTE]

If you guys say so. I'll probably give her a shot. Thing is, I don't want to look like that loser who cant take a hint, yknow?

[Dysentery]

[QUOTE=Guitarplayer213;40968489]If you guys say so. I'll probably give her a shot. Thing is, I don't want to look like that loser who cant take a hint, yknow?[/QUOTE]

well, she said yes to you. she probably would've just said that she's busy all the time and declined if she didn't want to go on a date with you

[Guitarplayer213]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;40968504]well, she said yes to you. she probably would've just said that she's busy all the time and declined if she didn't want to go on a date with you[/QUOTE]

Fair enough. I usually expect the worst with stuff like this, so I just figured "oh youre nice and all, whatever, but i dont want to date you"

[conan96]

No specific problem, just a question. Earlier today I saw a girl my age at a store, we were both standing in separate lines waiting to pay for our stuff. I happened to look over in her general direction and caught eye contact with her. It probably lasted for about four to five seconds, but it felt like a fucking spark when we looked at each other. Like a physical spark or something, just a generally odd feeling in my eyes, and then she smiled at me. Now, I maintain eye contact with most people when I converse with them and something like that has never happened before. Can someone better informed please explain what happened?

[zenby]

I had an idea. I feel like I don't actually know quite a few of my friends well enough, so I'll just talk to them all about their life story, hopes dreams aspirations etc. If it goes well then I just got to know everyone I care about a lot better, and vice-versa.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=conan96;40968715]No specific problem, just a question. Earlier today I saw a girl my age at a store, we were both standing in separate lines waiting to pay for our stuff. I happened to look over in her general direction and caught eye contact with her. It probably lasted for about four to five seconds, but it felt like a fucking spark when we looked at each other. Like a physical spark or something, just a generally odd feeling in my eyes, and then she smiled at me. Now, I maintain eye contact with most people when I converse with them and something like that has never happened before. Can someone better informed please explain what happened?[/QUOTE]

uh
you saw a physically attractive person and are being dramatic about accidentally looking in each other's directions at the same time?

[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]

and how far were you, exactly? because i get the feeling she wasn't even looking at you specifically

[conan96]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40968756]uh
you saw a physically attractive person and are being dramatic about accidentally looking in each other's directions at the same time?

[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]

and how far were you, exactly? because i get the feeling she wasn't even looking at you specifically[/QUOTE]

Relatively close. I'm not being dramatic, this isn't some metaforical shit I just made up.
It's a girl I saw in a Goodwill. I don't really care about the girl, I'm just interested in whatever the hell happened. I'm trying to find out if you can actually feel something strange from eye contact or if I'm just losing my shit.

[Babyarm-bat]

[QUOTE=conan96;40968715]No specific problem, just a question. Earlier today I saw a girl my age at a store, we were both standing in separate lines waiting to pay for our stuff. I happened to look over in her general direction and caught eye contact with her. It probably lasted for about four to five seconds, but it felt like a fucking spark when we looked at each other. Like a physical spark or something, just a generally odd feeling in my eyes, and then she smiled at me. Now, I maintain eye contact with most people when I converse with them and something like that has never happened before. Can someone better informed please explain what happened?[/QUOTE]

Girls suck the soul out through the eyes obv

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=conan96;40968819]Relatively close. I'm not being dramatic, this isn't some metaforical shit I just made up.
It's a girl I saw in a Goodwill. I don't really care about the girl, I'm just interested in whatever the hell happened. I'm trying to find out if you can actually feel something strange from eye contact or if I'm just losing my shit.[/QUOTE]

well did you forget to blink

[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]

No but really you saw an attractive girl, thats what happens

in fact more likely than anything it was a combination of finding her attractive and getting suddenly nervous when she glanced back at you

[conan96]

[QUOTE=riku2211;40968881]well did you forget to blink

[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]

No but really you saw an attractive girl, thats what happens

in fact more likely than anything it was a combination of finding her attractive and getting suddenly nervous when she glanced back at you[/QUOTE]

Ah, thanks. In retrospect this was a really stupid question. But thanks for not taking the piss out of me.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=conan96;40968819]Relatively close. I'm not being dramatic, this isn't some metaforical shit I just made up.
It's a girl I saw in a Goodwill. I don't really care about the girl, I'm just interested in whatever the hell happened. I'm trying to find out if you can actually feel something strange from eye contact or if I'm just losing my shit.[/QUOTE]

she's a siren
call dean and sam

[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]

what kind of answer are you expecting? "i looked at this girl ive never met before and felt something"
that's the blood rushing to your dick

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=conan96;40968906]Ah, thanks. In retrospect this was a really stupid question. But thanks for not taking the piss out of me.[/QUOTE]

Well this IS [B]Super Friendly[/B] Social and Love Advice. Some people here do like to fuck around with you though, but they don't intend to offend (that much(i think)). In the end you get the answer you needed whether it be through snide comments or sincere advice.

[Leader of Me]

I don't know if it's me or not but I'm starting to get the feeling that my girlfriend doesn't want to go on a break, she tells me that she's comfortable if I hug her, touch her etc, anything that we're both comfortable with. I'm starting to think she's only going on a break to please her parents, but maybe I'm over analyzing the situation.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=J$ Psychotic;40965436]Update: She told him she doesn't want to go with him anywhere, ever.[/QUOTE]

This girl I went on a date a bunch of times with a couple weeks ago did something like this. There was some poor kid a year younger than me (her age) and he was head over heels for her, but was quite shit when it came to socializing. He'd be clingy, obtrusive and a bit irritating, all whilst not meaning to be.

She texted me something along the lines of "Oh my God I wish you were here to see it, I told <kid's name here> to never speak to me again because I hate him and he annoys me and I'll never go on a date with him. He was so sad and it was so funny." After that, I just couldn't bring myself to bother texting her like I used to. Rotten personality, probably a bit vain too, just a total turn off. I texted something back along the lines of "Wow, that's pretty harsh, you could have let him down easily" and she tried pathetically defending it. The joys of not having to fake enjoying someone's company, we slowly stopped texting and hanging out and life is good.

Moral of the story: tell her to not be such a heartbreaker. Having a bit of that is good (my ex was shit when it came to this, gave guys too much face and caused so many problems for herself [guys pining after her and feeling confused because she was scared of letting them down "harshly", so she wouldn't make it clear, and they'd still pine after her]), but plain shooting a guy down is pretty harsh :v:

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40968931]she's a siren
call dean and sam

[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]

what kind of answer are you expecting? "i looked at this girl ive never met before and felt something"
that's the blood rushing to your dick[/QUOTE]

i dont know what happened i passed out and i woke up with drool on my band tshirt

[MIR]

Maybe that spark of his was actually a mini-brain seizure and he is soon going to die.

Or maybe it is the first sign that he has the human form of the bovine spongiform disease.

He's gonna die quickly or his brain is gonna end up as a hole filled mass of rotten septic neurons firing sporadically.

[FOOJE08]

I don't really know why I'm writing this, but I need someone to know.
This thread helped me get through a train wreck of a time.
The past few weeks have been the most turbulent, awful, wonderful, and uplifting weeks of my life, and as melodramatic as it sounds, I'm starting to accept and learn from the outcome.
Even with all the drama, this thread still remains my favorite on Facepunch, because even in a time when I was a few moments from ending my own life, I still managed to smile at some of you silly wankers.
so yeh, that's the end, thanks love advice. <3

[AltUser]

Okay, I've been in my relationship for 8 months and its really gone to shit, and this is the reason;
Recently, in the last month, there has been some other guy, who is my girlfriends friends brother... And they have now become friends. He isn't a great looking guy, and when I've spoken to him he seemed pretty nice.
The thing is, they both text each other quite often, she has the decency to not do it while I'm around, but I really dont like it when they are both talking at the same time me and my girlfriend are too, it makes me feel like she's less interested in me. And because of this I tend to get jealous, and overall that is fucking up my relationship because the more I piss her off, the better he becomes in her eyes. I just hate all the stuff about how they text too often for my liking, and he has done things like called her beautiful and stuff in the past, and I'm just finding it hard to adjust to all this. Am I just being a jealous idiot or not? And if I am then what can I do to stop being that way, thanks.

[jamzzster]

So my girlfriend hasn't had her period in 2 months now, shes getting tested this week/next week. I'm terrified. I'm hoping its negative. We haven't had sex since but when we did I wore a condom for the full duration and didn't even finish(climax). But there is still a slim chance :/

Either way I'm staying strong and helping and supporting her through it no matter what. Neither of us are in any position nor want to have a baby so if positive, I'm certain that we will most likely abort.

Fucking sucks I am always sensible when it comes to contraception and yet the good old family curse of bad luck strikes once again

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=jamzzster;40975494]So my girlfriend hasn't had her period in 2 months now, shes getting tested this week/next week. I'm terrified. I'm hoping its negative. We haven't had sex since but when we did I wore a condom for the full duration and didn't even finish(climax). But there is still a slim chance :/

Either way I'm staying strong and helping and supporting her through it no matter what. Neither of us are in any position nor want to have a baby so if positive, I'm certain that we will most likely abort.

Fucking sucks I am always sensible when it comes to contraception and yet the good old family curse of bad luck strikes once again[/QUOTE]

The first thing you need to do is calm down... The condom stayed on, and you didn't even climax, those two things are hugely in your favour. Just wait and see what is said when she goes for the test, there are a lot of reasons why a girl might not come on her period. And have you considered abortion if worst comes to worst? Which I dont think it will by the way, you're probably fine

[biccboi]

[QUOTE=jamzzster;40975494]So my girlfriend hasn't had her period in 2 months now, shes getting tested this week/next week. I'm terrified. I'm hoping its negative. We haven't had sex since but when we did I wore a condom for the full duration and didn't even finish(climax). But there is still a slim chance :/

Either way I'm staying strong and helping and supporting her through it no matter what. Neither of us are in any position nor want to have a baby so if positive, I'm certain that we will most likely abort.

Fucking sucks I am always sensible when it comes to contraception and yet the good old family curse of bad luck strikes once again[/QUOTE]

Not to be that guy but there is also the possibility that she had sex with someone else.