Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=AltUser;40975479]Okay, I've been in my relationship for 8 months and its really gone to shit, and this is the reason;
Recently, in the last month, there has been some other guy, who is my girlfriends friends brother... And they have now become friends. He isn't a great looking guy, and when I've spoken to him he seemed pretty nice.
The thing is, they both text each other quite often, she has the decency to not do it while I'm around, but I really dont like it when they are both talking at the same time me and my girlfriend are too, it makes me feel like she's less interested in me. And because of this I tend to get jealous, and overall that is fucking up my relationship because the more I piss her off, the better he becomes in her eyes. I just hate all the stuff about how they text too often for my liking, and he has done things like called her beautiful and stuff in the past, and I'm just finding it hard to adjust to all this. Am I just being a jealous idiot or not? And if I am then what can I do to stop being that way, thanks.[/QUOTE]
you're being a jealous idiot, don't be so defensive. they're just texting
[QUOTE=Dysentery;40977266]you're being a jealous idiot, don't be so defensive. they're just texting[/QUOTE]
I was hoping that would be the case... I did forget to mention that we both had an agreement that they wouldn't out out one on one, but he does things like tells her to lie to me about it, and then all his friends are telling them that they should be together knowing full well that she's with me. Does this change anything? I suppose at the end of the day I just don't want to lose her and I hate the thought that he could be equal to me, if not better.
[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]
And also they've sent around 2,500 messages in around a month, is that too much for just being friends?
[QUOTE=JohanGS;40976171]Not to be that guy but there is also the possibility that she had sex with someone else.[/QUOTE]
I was right about to say this.
It brings me no pleasure to say it, it's the worst thing in the world to think about, but if you had a condom on and didn't climax, there's pretty much zero chance she could get pregnant. Pre-cum only has a small chance of containing semen if you haven't urinated since your last ejaculation.
If she's pregnant, there's a very strong chance she had sex with someone else. Sucks to say it. Sucks to think about it. My heart sinks thinking about it and it isn't even me in the situation, but that's probably what happened. Look at things realistically. The chances of getting a girl pregnant even when she's ovulating and you cum inside her aren't necessarily good. Sure, they aren't ridiculously slim, but they aren't surefire either. Those odds are dropped dramatically when a condom is introduced, even if the man ejaculates while it's inside of her. What are they, around 1-2 percent or so? And that's being generous considering condom companies don't want to get sued, most of those 1-2 percent cases are from improper usage. Then you even further slim the odds by not ejaculating at all. Hell, no ejaculation pretty much equals zero chance of pregnancy unless you've recently ejaculated without pissing, then you have that 1 in a million chance precum could get her pregnant (and that's without a condom).
Your odds of getting her pregnant in your situation are so ridiculously slim it's not even worth mentioning them. Probably literally in the 1 in a million range.
Now, what are the odds of her cheating on you? As much as it may suck to think about it, they probably aren't 1 in a million. Almost anyone is susceptible to giving in to temptation. There doesn't even have to be any problems in the relationship, she didn't even have to do it out of disdain for you, she might have just ran into an old boyfriend or some hot dude while she was drunk and he stuck his peepee in her. People make mistakes. People make mistakes far more often than precum finds its way out of a condom and gets a female pregnant.
[QUOTE=loopoo;40969410]This girl I went on a date a bunch of times with a couple weeks ago did something like this. There was some poor kid a year younger than me (her age) and he was head over heels for her, but was quite shit when it came to socializing. He'd be clingy, obtrusive and a bit irritating, all whilst not meaning to be.
She texted me something along the lines of "Oh my God I wish you were here to see it, I told <kid's name here> to never speak to me again because I hate him and he annoys me and I'll never go on a date with him. He was so sad and it was so funny." After that, I just couldn't bring myself to bother texting her like I used to. Rotten personality, probably a bit vain too, just a total turn off. I texted something back along the lines of "Wow, that's pretty harsh, you could have let him down easily" and she tried pathetically defending it. The joys of not having to fake enjoying someone's company, we slowly stopped texting and hanging out and life is good.
Moral of the story: tell her to not be such a heartbreaker. Having a bit of that is good (my ex was shit when it came to this, gave guys too much face and caused so many problems for herself [guys pining after her and feeling confused because she was scared of letting them down "harshly", so she wouldn't make it clear, and they'd still pine after her]), but plain shooting a guy down is pretty harsh :v:[/QUOTE]
She said she was nice about telling this kid no, and that he never responded to her, so I'm pretty sure she was nice about it. She's super nice to everyone.
Asked a girl if she had an exam the same period as me tomorrow, she responds ya. Then I ask if she wants to hang out after. No response in a few hours, I also sent a '?.'
Hate sounding like a paranoid fuck but it's the last day of school and seeing her again would be slim. Hoping its just a phone issue or something.
[QUOTE=AltUser;40977343]I was hoping that would be the case... I did forget to mention that we both had an agreement that they wouldn't out out one on one, but he does things like tells her to lie to me about it, and then all his friends are telling them that they should be together knowing full well that she's with me. Does this change anything? I suppose at the end of the day I just don't want to lose her and I hate the thought that he could be equal to me, if not better.
[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]
And also they've sent around 2,500 messages in around a month, is that too much for just being friends?[/QUOTE]
Sit down and have a serious conversation with her about it, tell her you're not comfortable and you feel like it's messing with your relationship. Regardless whether or not you're being a jealous idiot you have a problem with it, don't keep that to yourself. Communication in a relationship is extremely important. I would feel the same way as you right now, probably. Him calling her beautiful and texting her copious amounts would totally weird me out, and telling her to lie and shit is just stupid. I would hate the kid if I were you.
So I had the weirdest shit spring up earlier this week. Just as an FYI, I have two ex girlfriends right now. The first from about 9 months ago, the second was about a month ago.
After chilling with a friend for a few hours, I decided to call it a night and head inside. I grab my phone and check it like I normally do before bed and I notice 5 texts from my first ex. Okay, this is gonna be good. Pretty much, the five texts could have been summarized into, "You're a liar and you make up stories about me." Okay, lets see why she's saying this because I have no idea why. So I send her a text back (about 3 hours late unfortunately) saying that I have no clue what she's talking about, no response, probably too late. So I send a text to my second ex, with the hunch that it probably has to do something with the two rumoring with each other since they've both my ex. No text from her either, okay time for bed. I wake up in the morning to a text from my second ex who's slightly irritated that I'm accusing her of telling my first ex shit that would get her mad at me. I explain that it's no accusations, just curious if she knows anything. She just explains that they had talked a little bit a few days prior and she has no idea why because she didn't say anything bad about us. I deduce that this is likely where my debacle the night before had sprung up. My first ex doesn't manage to text me back until late that evening and I find out what's up. Apparently I was a liar because of three issues, firstly, I apparently lied that I had been the one who broke up with my first ex, and told that to my second, which was untrue and I had said it was a mutual break up. Which to me was silly anyways because I didn't understand why that mattered in the first place. Secondly, she was upset that I lied about why I had deleted her on facebook, which to me was also silly, but true. I sort of lied to her. I told her that my second ex (when we were together) was curious why my first ex was friends still, so I deleted her. Which was sorta true, but I just didn't want to see her shit anymore TBH. But I told my first ex the truth and apologized. The third reason was because I said bad things about her. This one tickled my funny bone because I guess I'm supposed to tell my second ex (who was of course my girlfriend at the time) all the good shit from my first relationship and no bad shit.
Well anyway, so I explained myself for the three reasons, which I didn't really see as a big deal, and apparently all is fine. I don't really understand why it was necessary to text me a long story about how I was a liar, for three shit that didn't matter, one of which I didn't lie about, and the third not even having to do anything with lying.
There isn't really an ending here, I just wanted to share something since I haven't had anyone to talk to lately.
why are you still in contact with your two exes when they're seemingly hellbent on starting drama?
you're not in a relationship with either of them anymore, you don't need to keep getting sucked into dumb arguments with them
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40983684]why are you still in contact with your two exes when they're seemingly hellbent on starting drama?
you're not in a relationship with either of them anymore, you don't need to keep getting sucked into dumb arguments with them[/QUOTE]
Zareox listen to him. He's right you know.
[QUOTE=jamzzster;40975494]So my girlfriend hasn't had her period in 2 months now, shes getting tested this week/next week. I'm terrified. I'm hoping its negative. We haven't had sex since but when we did I wore a condom for the full duration and didn't even finish(climax). But there is still a slim chance :/
Either way I'm staying strong and helping and supporting her through it no matter what. Neither of us are in any position nor want to have a baby so if positive, I'm certain that we will most likely abort.
Fucking sucks I am always sensible when it comes to contraception and yet the good old family curse of bad luck strikes once again[/QUOTE]
Theres no sense in worrying till she gets the test done, its very unlikely she got pregnant from your encounter and I wouldn't worry too much about the cheating thing either for now. There is a massive list of common reasons for girls to not have the period, other than being pregnant :) One of the main ones being stress, and it is exam season.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40983684]why are you still in contact with your two exes when they're seemingly hellbent on starting drama?
you're not in a relationship with either of them anymore, you don't need to keep getting sucked into dumb arguments with them[/QUOTE]
Well I'm not in contact with them persay. I don't text them or talk to them on facebook. But I can't really keep them from having my phone number. The ex number one was a friend for a long time so that's why I was slightly concerned that I was supposedly a liar.
[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]
They really don't start drama. That's why I found this one peculiar. There hasn't been any drama since the breakup with either of them. I just felt like sharing a story.
[QUOTE=Zareox7;40987534]Well I'm not in contact with them persay. I don't text them or talk to them on facebook. But I can't really keep them from having my phone number. The ex number one was a friend for a long time so that's why I was slightly concerned that I was supposedly a liar.
[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]
They really don't start drama. That's why I found this one peculiar. There hasn't been any drama since the breakup with either of them. I just felt like sharing a story.[/QUOTE]
I would have just not responded to the text, it was just drama bullshit that didn't really matter, and it seemed pretty unnecessary to drag your other ex into it? Just the sort of thing I wouldn't dwell on but I guess if the problem got solve civilly doesn't really matter.
How do you gauge whether or not a girl is interested in you? I have zero experience with this and it doesn't help that her sense of humor involves dead prostitutes and eating fetuses, so when she says "edible panties" in response to "delicious"and "date night" in Say the Same Thing, I have no idea if she's being weird, flirting (?), referencing the fact that I played "used panties" and "a dollop of sour cream" together during Cards Against Humanity a few nights ago (it did make her die of laughter...), or maybe it means nothing at all. I understand that I might be overanalyzing but this is a bit more complicated than "hi"
[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]
Oh man this being mature thing is complicated.
[editline]10th June 2013[/editline]
I guess the fuse to a massive hormone bomb was lit around when I turned 17, because it's when I first noticed any sort of interest in this girl, and in the past few days my entire brain has turned upside down in terms of what I'm motivated about
Like thinking to myself that Senior year came too fast, no, it took it's sweet time, but this is the last year my friends will be in the same place
Oh god, I've never been as confused as I am right now
I won't be able to return to the same college this next semester and possibly year, and my gf has already said she doesn't want a LDR and the current summer distance is only just bearable(colorado-illinois), college is only an hour drive away from me and I could see her on weekends and most other times.
But I doubt she wants that, and so here I sit trying not to mentally prepare for a breakup, and she'll be visiting in 2 days.
I'm probably telling her near the middle of her stay, I don't want to bum her out right when she gets here, but yeah.
Hopefully my expecting the worst will make the actual seem better,
I'm hurting a lot right now
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;40969338]I don't know if it's me or not but I'm starting to get the feeling that my girlfriend doesn't want to go on a break, she tells me that she's comfortable if I hug her, touch her etc, anything that we're both comfortable with. I'm starting to think she's only going on a break to please her parents, but maybe I'm over analyzing the situation.[/QUOTE]
Any help guys? Sorry for taking up your time with this one situation.
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;40990949]Any help guys? Sorry for taking up your time with this one situation.[/QUOTE]
The best thing you can really do is ask her. Maybe just make it subtle, because what it seems is that she is subtly telling you that she doesn't want to lose you in any way.
hi guys some fp mod i know said "how are you ::))" does that mean they like me please reply asap
[editline]11th June 2013[/editline]
i really want to date this frogmod
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;40977375]I was right about to say this.
It brings me no pleasure to say it, it's the worst thing in the world to think about, but if you had a condom on and didn't climax, there's pretty much zero chance she could get pregnant. Pre-cum only has a small chance of containing semen if you haven't urinated since your last ejaculation.
If she's pregnant, there's a very strong chance she had sex with someone else. Sucks to say it. Sucks to think about it. My heart sinks thinking about it and it isn't even me in the situation, but that's probably what happened. Look at things realistically. The chances of getting a girl pregnant even when she's ovulating and you cum inside her aren't necessarily good. Sure, they aren't ridiculously slim, but they aren't surefire either. Those odds are dropped dramatically when a condom is introduced, even if the man ejaculates while it's inside of her. What are they, around 1-2 percent or so? And that's being generous considering condom companies don't want to get sued, most of those 1-2 percent cases are from improper usage. Then you even further slim the odds by not ejaculating at all. Hell, no ejaculation pretty much equals zero chance of pregnancy unless you've recently ejaculated without pissing, then you have that 1 in a million chance precum could get her pregnant (and that's without a condom).
Your odds of getting her pregnant in your situation are so ridiculously slim it's not even worth mentioning them. Probably literally in the 1 in a million range.
Now, what are the odds of her cheating on you? As much as it may suck to think about it, they probably aren't 1 in a million. Almost anyone is susceptible to giving in to temptation. There doesn't even have to be any problems in the relationship, she didn't even have to do it out of disdain for you, she might have just ran into an old boyfriend or some hot dude while she was drunk and he stuck his peepee in her. People make mistakes. People make mistakes far more often than precum finds its way out of a condom and gets a female pregnant.[/QUOTE]
I can understand what you mean, but in my own shoes and knowing her cheating would also be a very unlikely possibility. I am just going to wait until the tests before I think any more of it.
I'm trying not to get put off my exams by this but god in heaven its hard not off set my mind from it
[QUOTE=Gran PC;40993678]hi guys some fp mod i know said "how are you ::))" does that mean they like me please reply asap
[editline]11th June 2013[/editline]
i really want to date this frogmod[/QUOTE]
Obviously they're giving you signs. I say go for it.
Okay, so since the beginning of my relationship I have suffered with depression which got worse the last two months. I found out it was because of the medication I was on, however I found out too late as my girlfriend kind of broke up with me two days ago... I say kind of because we still talk, she's still coming over my house tomorrow, and she didn't want to change the Facebook status as it would cause a fuss with other people getting involved.
Basically, there have been many times that I've told her I can change, and I used to go back to being me again because of my depression (I don't like using it as an excuse, but that was the majority of the reason). So I told her two nights ago that I would change, etc. But she doesn't know if she wants to be with me.
Some of you may know about this guy friend she has, and talks to often, and he comes into it. I'm not sure right now how to play this, I was really nice to her yesterday, but she said I tried to hard, and that made me feel a bit clingy. So I was thinking about becoming more detatched, like letting her talk to me first, and then still being nice. But that makes me afraid that this other guy might take over for me. I've got until 7pm tomorrow until she comes over and I was wondering how to play it. I thought that if I was more unavailable then she would appreciate me more and give her a chance to miss me, but would being nice get me in there better?
And then tomorrow she's coming over. Any idea how I should handle it? I'm taking her out for a drink as a surprise for her as we never really do that just the two of us, but what then? I was thinking of taking her back, and if she doesn't make any move neither physical or telling me she wants me again, and I would kiss her or something. And then afterwards I would tell her that I want to start over again, and we'll try everything over again. Any opinions on what I've said? Sorry it's a bit long, but this really is my last chance to get her back, and I need to do this right. Thanks guys.
[QUOTE=AltUser;40995388]Okay, so since the beginning of my relationship I have suffered with depression which got worse the last two months. I found out it was because of the medication I was on, however I found out too late as my girlfriend kind of broke up with me two days ago... I say kind of because we still talk, she's still coming over my house tomorrow, and she didn't want to change the Facebook status as it would cause a fuss with other people getting involved.
Basically, there have been many times that I've told her I can change, and I used to go back to being me again because of my depression (I don't like using it as an excuse, but that was the majority of the reason). So I told her two nights ago that I would change, etc. But she doesn't know if she wants to be with me.
Some of you may know about this guy friend she has, and talks to often, and he comes into it. I'm not sure right now how to play this, I was really nice to her yesterday, but she said I tried to hard, and that made me feel a bit clingy. So I was thinking about becoming more detatched, like letting her talk to me first, and then still being nice. But that makes me afraid that this other guy might take over for me. I've got until 7pm tomorrow until she comes over and I was wondering how to play it. I thought that if I was more unavailable then she would appreciate me more and give her a chance to miss me, but would being nice get me in there better?
And then tomorrow she's coming over. Any idea how I should handle it? I'm taking her out for a drink as a surprise for her as we never really do that just the two of us, but what then? I was thinking of taking her back, and if she doesn't make any move neither physical or telling me she wants me again, and I would kiss her or something. And then afterwards I would tell her that I want to start over again, and we'll try everything over again. Any opinions on what I've said? Sorry it's a bit long, but this really is my last chance to get her back, and I need to do this right. Thanks guys.[/QUOTE]
Feels to me like your plans are coming on too strong. Taking her out is fine and all, but I don't think you should make any sort of move. She already said you were being clingy, and its only been a few days. Give her space, don't make it more complicated for her than it needs to be. I get that you really don't want your relationship to completely end, but if it's going to you have to let it. I'm not saying to give up on her, but don't beg her to stay with you. Just be casual. Be her friend. Don't 'play this', just take her out for a drink and have a nice time. At the end of the night, maybe then ask her about how she's feeling about the two of you.
Take a step back and look at this from her perspective. If she broke up with you then she probably wanted to have some time to herself and get away from you a little bit, and giving her more of you will only drive her further away. I don't think this guy friend is anything to worry about right now, as I doubt she'd want to jump into another relationship with him 2 days after breaking up with you, you know?
If there's still a chance for you guys to start over, don't let go of that yet. But you can't just force a relationship onto her. Starting over could work, especially sans depression, and I honestly hope she gives you a chance.
The one thing that I can say is, that you can't really "get" someone back- its their decision, and it's pretty hard to change that sometimes. Youre kinda talking about this girl like something that can be won and lost, not a human being with her own free will.
I feel for you- but using depression as a crutch is never, EVER something you want to start doing. I did it for a while, and now I realise how much it affected me- I blame others for things that I could have prevented, and have a very pessimistic outlook on life. Depression is a problem only you can truly solve- only you can get yourself happy, so find ways to do it. Youll have to prove to her, however hard it may be, that you can change- you can ask her for a little bit of help, but the weight is on your shoulders now.
And in my opinion, the alcohol might cause problems- some people tend to get emotional quickly when drunk or even a bit buzzed.
[QUOTE=riku2211;40996265]Feels to me like your plans are coming on too strong. Taking her out is fine and all, but I don't think you should make any sort of move. She already said you were being clingy, and its only been a few days. Give her space, don't make it more complicated for her than it needs to be. I get that you really don't want your relationship to completely end, but if it's going to you have to let it. I'm not saying to give up on her, but don't beg her to stay with you. Just be casual. Be her friend. Don't 'play this', just take her out for a drink and have a nice time. At the end of the night, maybe then ask her about how she's feeling about the two of you.
Take a step back and look at this from her perspective. If she broke up with you then she probably wanted to have some time to herself and get away from you a little bit, and giving her more of you will only drive her further away. I don't think this guy friend is anything to worry about right now, as I doubt she'd want to jump into another relationship with him 2 days after breaking up with you, you know?
If there's still a chance for you guys to start over, don't let go of that yet. But you can't just force a relationship onto her. Starting over could work, especially sans depression, and I honestly hope she gives you a chance.[/QUOTE]
Thanks, I appreciate it. Maybe I should just focus my efforts on showing her that I have really changed, and I think I will do what you said and ask her how she's feeling tomorrow night. I was in a bit of a rush because she's going on holiday the day after and I wanted everything to be okay... It does seem to me that things are getting better because whereas before she didn't want to sleep over as it would be weird, she now doesn't seem to mind. I think you're completely right about the wanting time away, as she only 'broke up' with me because I needed to change and she needed time to 'be free', hence why I think we are still kind of together in the sense that we will still hang out and stuff, but now she wont have to put up with the stress of being in a relationship for a little while.
[editline]11th June 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Metherat;40996355]The one thing that I can say is, that you can't really "get" someone back- its their decision, and it's pretty hard to change that sometimes. Youre kinda talking about this girl like something that can be won and lost, not a human being with her own free will.
I feel for you- but using depression as a crutch is never, EVER something you want to start doing. I did it for a while, and now I realise how much it affected me- I blame others for things that I could have prevented, and have a very pessimistic outlook on life. Depression is a problem only you can truly solve- only you can get yourself happy, so find ways to do it. Youll have to prove to her, however hard it may be, that you can change- you can ask her for a little bit of help, but the weight is on your shoulders now.
And in my opinion, the alcohol might cause problems- some people tend to get emotional quickly when drunk or even a bit buzzed.[/QUOTE]
I assure you that I just want to 'get her back' into my life because she's so important to me. I never did blame the depression when I had it, I didn't even tell anyone about it. But one day it got significantly better and I realised it was because I wasn't taking the pills I usually do which is a crazy solution.
I do still have some negativity in me, but its mostly all gone, and all I want to do at this point all I want to do is better myself for her.
And I appreciate the input, and if you are still fighting depression I wish you the best of luck.
[QUOTE=jamzzster;40993761]I can understand what you mean, but in my own shoes and knowing her cheating would also be a very unlikely possibility. I am just going to wait until the tests before I think any more of it.
I'm trying not to get put off my exams by this but god in heaven its hard not off set my mind from it[/QUOTE]
either way i think it's better to hold off on suspicions of her cheating until the test results come back. it's possible her period's just late.
Wow, only two posts have shown me that I need to work on my commuincation a bit, probably more than a bit.
Any tips on getting people to understand you more easily? This is a problem for me in real life as well.
[QUOTE=Metherat;41000879]Wow, only two posts have shown me that I need to work on my commuincation a bit, probably more than a bit.
Any tips on getting people to understand you more easily? This is a problem for me in real life as well.[/QUOTE]
that probably has to do more with the people you're talking to than how you're talking.
you might just not click well with whoever you're trying to get to understand you. if you're with someone you work well with then a lot of things are usually implied.
Well yesterday was pretty interesting. This girl I've always had a crush on since like 3 years back texted me yesterday and asked if I could meet her. I did, and it turns out she's had a crush on me too for the past 3 years.
So we talked for god knows how long about it, and she's in a pretty big dilemma; she's with another guy who treats her like shit. I told her if she doesn't feel happy with him she shouldn't be wasting her time with him. She looked at me and told me nobody's made her smile as much as I do, not even him, but that she feels evil towards both me and him for all of this. We kissed and I told her she needs to sleep over it to clear her head. She agreed and we both went to our respective homes.
It was a good day, something she really needed. She'd been depressed a lot recently, hadn't gotten much sleep due to nightmares. Hopefully yesterday helped her sleep.
Guys, please tell me I'm not the only person who wakes up feeling shit after dreaming about your ex-gf having so much fun while you are making yourself feel jealous and shit a lot because of that. Ugh, I could fancy a fag right now.
[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41004047]Well yesterday was pretty interesting. This girl I've always had a crush on since like 3 years back texted me yesterday and asked if I could meet her. I did, and it turns out she's had a crush on me too for the past 3 years.
So we talked for god knows how long about it, and she's in a pretty big dilemma; she's with another guy who treats her like shit. I told her if she doesn't feel happy with him she shouldn't be wasting her time with him. She looked at me and told me nobody's made her smile as much as I do, not even him, but that she feels evil towards both me and him for all of this. We kissed and I told her she needs to sleep over it to clear her head. She agreed and we both went to our respective homes.
It was a good day, something she really needed. She'd been depressed a lot recently, hadn't gotten much sleep due to nightmares. Hopefully yesterday helped her sleep.[/QUOTE]
Somehow I doubt that kissing someone in a relationship with someone else cleared their head or made them less biased towards the decision they were trying to make.
[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41004047]Well yesterday was pretty interesting. This girl I've always had a crush on since like 3 years back texted me yesterday and asked if I could meet her. I did, and it turns out she's had a crush on me too for the past 3 years.
So we talked for god knows how long about it, and she's in a pretty big dilemma; she's with another guy who treats her like shit. I told her if she doesn't feel happy with him she shouldn't be wasting her time with him. She looked at me and told me nobody's made her smile as much as I do, not even him, but that she feels evil towards both me and him for all of this. We kissed and I told her she needs to sleep over it to clear her head. She agreed and we both went to our respective homes.
It was a good day, something she really needed. She'd been depressed a lot recently, hadn't gotten much sleep due to nightmares. Hopefully yesterday helped her sleep.[/QUOTE]
whether or not she's into you, you shouldn't be messing around with someone who's in a relationship. if she really wants to be with you she'll break up with the guy. don't try and encourage her to break up with him, let her decide for herself.
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