Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[C O Y O T E]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41009686]whether or not she's into you, you shouldn't be messing around with someone who's in a relationship. if she really wants to be with you she'll break up with the guy. don't try and encourage her to break up with him, let her decide for herself.[/QUOTE]

I know, and I told her that too. But neither am I going to stand idly by while she's depressed, missing sleep and having nightmares because some guy is treating her badly.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41009976]I know, and I told her that too. But neither am I going to stand idly by while she's depressed, missing sleep and having nightmares because some guy is treating her badly.[/QUOTE]

if he's abusing/threatening her or something then you should probably get involved.
but if she's only sad because she doesn't like the relationship she's in and there's nothing preventing her from leaving, then it's up to her what happens.

[editline]12th June 2013[/editline]

and as someone who's been in shitty relationships like that, people who you weren't previously attracted to can look pretty damn attractive when you're comparing them to a crappy boyfriend you can't wait to get rid of. just saying.

[rrkpp_]

[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41009976]I know, and I told her that too. But neither am I going to stand idly by while she's depressed, missing sleep and having nightmares because some guy is treating her badly.[/QUOTE]

what is he doing exactly when you say "treating her badly"

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41009976]I know, and I told her that too. But neither am I going to stand idly by while she's depressed, missing sleep and having nightmares because some guy is treating her badly.[/QUOTE]

I know you think you sound really rightful and good and like a dude who is always going to do the right thing and not be a spectator when it comes to a girl you like having issues but honestly you are not in a good helping position and need to take like 4 or 5 steps back and tell her to figure it out for herself otherwise you'll be the twat in this situation

[Flapadar]

[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41009976]I know, and I told her that too. But neither am I going to stand idly by while she's depressed, missing sleep and having nightmares because some guy is treating her badly.[/QUOTE]

Until the point where she breaks up with him, just be a good friend. It's better for everyone that way.

And then when she breaks up with him which she's more likely to do because she

1) Already has feelings for you; and
2) You haven't been a dick about it

[Lexinator]

I found out the reason an hour ago why my girlfriend of a year and 3 months left me.
"It was unfair"
It started at the beginning of the year when she got the news her family was moving to another state(Adelaide Australia), We tried alot to keep her here even her running from her house and moving in here her parents threatened her with stuff she couldn't handle so she went back and then moved the first month she called me everyday. the plan was to have her come back and move in in December
but suddenly in may she ignore all my calls and deleted me off everything.
In anger and almost suicidal depression i posted alot of shit about her i regret. the police were almost involved. fast forward to now after my 18th i made a fake account on Facebook just to find out why.
"unfair" Because she now had to do two years of school and some TAFE(college type thing).
Worst thing is i'd of waited the last words were from her Never contact me again.

My advice to facepunch is never let someone go no matter how far make it work do visit them.

[MaverickIB]

As much as losing someone sucks, sometimes it is necessary. Sometimes you have to let go. If you go about life with the, "Never let go," philosophy, you're going to deprive yourself from a lot of opportunities. Doesn't matter how much you care about someone, if the relationship is malicious, you need to let them go. Every day you waste forcing yourself to hold onto a lost cause is a day you could have met someone who's actually right for you.

Relationships should just work, despite any problems. Yeah, you might have to bite the bullet from time to time, all relationships have problems. But if you're consistently having to "make it work," then the person isn't right for you no matter what your feelings for them are.

[Zareox]

[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41004047]Well yesterday was pretty interesting. This girl I've always had a crush on since like 3 years back texted me yesterday and asked if I could meet her. I did, and it turns out she's had a crush on me too for the past 3 years.
So we talked for god knows how long about it, and she's in a pretty big dilemma; she's with another guy who treats her like shit. I told her if she doesn't feel happy with him she shouldn't be wasting her time with him. She looked at me and told me nobody's made her smile as much as I do, not even him, but that she feels evil towards both me and him for all of this. We kissed and I told her she needs to sleep over it to clear her head. She agreed and we both went to our respective homes.

It was a good day, something she really needed. She'd been depressed a lot recently, hadn't gotten much sleep due to nightmares. Hopefully yesterday helped her sleep.[/QUOTE]

How long has she been with the guy? Im guessing that she probably wants to go out with you instead. If that's the case, you should probably give her a little while to get over the relationship. Even bad relationships tend to leave an impact and it wouldn't be wise to just jump into another one. My first girlfriend had broken up with her bf for me, we dated a week after they broke up and made it official shortly after. We knew each other for years and liked each other for years. But she had been with her boyfriend for two years before me and although she hated the relationship, it was still a major impact on her life. In retrospect, it would have been wise to give her at least a month to let her express her emotions before jumping into another relationship.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=xXxPR0L337SN1P4;41004168]Guys, please tell me I'm not the only person who wakes up feeling shit after dreaming about your ex-gf having so much fun while you are making yourself feel jealous and shit a lot because of that. [b]Ugh, I could fancy a fag right now.[/b][/QUOTE]

[video=youtube;6nSKkwzwdW4]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6nSKkwzwdW4[/video]

[Zareox]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41019948]As much as losing someone sucks, sometimes it is necessary. Sometimes you have to let go. If you go about life with the, "Never let go," philosophy, you're going to deprive yourself from a lot of opportunities. Doesn't matter how much you care about someone, if the relationship is malicious, you need to let them go. Every day you waste forcing yourself to hold onto a lost cause is a day you could have met someone who's actually right for you.

Relationships should just work, despite any problems. Yeah, you might have to bite the bullet from time to time, all relationships have problems. But if you're consistently having to "make it work," then the person isn't right for you no matter what your feelings for them are.[/QUOTE]

I completely agree.

[xXxPR0L337SN1P4]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41019948]As much as losing someone sucks, sometimes it is necessary. Sometimes you have to let go. If you go about life with the, "Never let go," philosophy, you're going to deprive yourself from a lot of opportunities. Doesn't matter how much you care about someone, if the relationship is malicious, you need to let them go. Every day you waste forcing yourself to hold onto a lost cause is a day you could have met someone who's actually right for you.

Relationships should just work, despite any problems. Yeah, you might have to bite the bullet from time to time, all relationships have problems. But if you're consistently having to "make it work," then the person isn't right for you no matter what your feelings for them are.[/QUOTE]

This is the truth. Truth hurts. Literally. :(

[Agoat]

-snip-
why does it always go back 5 pages

[editline]13th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;41004047]Well yesterday was pretty interesting. This girl I've always had a crush on since like 3 years back texted me yesterday and asked if I could meet her. I did, and it turns out she's had a crush on me too for the past 3 years.
So we talked for god knows how long about it, and she's in a pretty big dilemma; she's with another guy who treats her like shit. I told her if she doesn't feel happy with him she shouldn't be wasting her time with him. She looked at me and told me nobody's made her smile as much as I do, not even him, but that she feels evil towards both me and him for all of this. We kissed and I told her she needs to sleep over it to clear her head. She agreed and we both went to our respective homes.

It was a good day, something she really needed. She'd been depressed a lot recently, hadn't gotten much sleep due to nightmares. Hopefully yesterday helped her sleep.[/QUOTE]
You need to be hyper careful with this. I was recently in a similar situation and I got cheated on. Keep an eye out.

[vlad]

What are some ways to get new friends? I've always lived with my current friends, and to be honest I don't feel like I'm getting any where by being with them. I feel that I've matured more than them and I feel awkward being with them out in public (when they actually are outside). My friends easily described must be people who'd rather sit inside and play games instead of actually going out and interacting socially with me/friends or others.

I've just been through a break up which happened around 3 weeks ago. She have been my only social connection out to the social world for 1 year and a half. Now that she have broken up I feel that my future will remain like it used to be before I met my ex. Sit inside all day long and get out at rare occasions. I recently met a new girl who I found attractive through this car license thing (not sure how to describe it in English.). At first she appeared to like me, but I don't think she does anymore. Now she's coming up with all sort of excuses to not meet up with me.

The break up really hurts me emotionally but it isn't my biggest fear at the moment. I live by the thought that I'm still young and she have only been part of my life for 1 year and a half. My biggest fear is that I'll never meet someone else and/or never get new friends.

I'm also suffering from severe social anxiety, just to toss that in. I live with the thoughts that I'm being actively judged and I'm not happy with myself at all. I'm fully aware that people aren't judging but its hard to think like that when I've been thinking the opposite for as long as I can remember.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41022920]What are some ways to get new friends? I've always lived with my current friends, and to be honest I don't feel like I'm getting any where by being with them. I feel that I've matured more than them and I feel awkward being with them out in public (when they actually are outside). My friends easily described must be people who'd rather sit inside and play games instead of actually going out and interacting socially with me/friends or others.

I've just been through a break up which happened around 3 weeks ago. She have been my only social connection out to the social world for 1 year and a half. Now that she have broken up I feel that my future will remain like it used to be before I met my ex. Sit inside all day long and get out at rare occasions. I recently met a new girl who I found attractive through this car license thing (not sure how to describe it in English.). At first she appeared to like me, but I don't think she does anymore. Now she's coming up with all sort of excuses to not meet up with me.

The break up really hurts me emotionally but it isn't my biggest fear at the moment. I live by the thought that I'm still young and she have only been part of my life for 1 year and a half. My biggest fear is that I'll never meet someone else and/or never get new friends.

I'm also suffering from severe social anxiety, just to toss that in. I live with the thoughts that I'm being actively judged and I'm not happy with myself at all. I'm fully aware that people aren't judging but its hard to think like that when I've been thinking the opposite for as long as I can remember.[/QUOTE]

Dude, keeping a lookout for new friends is a good idea. But don't abandon your current friends completely unless they give you a really good reason to. If you manage to make some new friends and they end up treating you like shit, it's good to have some people to fall back on. Even if they're total social recluses.

Also, try to branch yourself out a bit more. There are many more fish in the sea, and you have a bigger chance of meeting those fish if you get out there. Don't focus entirely on that one girl that may or may not be interested in you, instead focus on multiple girls. In that way, you up the chances of finding someone who genuinely likes you.

Seeing as you have social anxiety, take one step at a time. You don't have to dive right out, but take baby steps until you feel comfortable with being a little more outgoing.

[vlad]

[QUOTE=conan96;41028144]Dude, keeping a lookout for new friends is a good idea. But don't abandon your current friends completely unless they give you a really good reason to. If you manage to make some new friends and they end up treating you like shit, it's good to have some people to fall back on. Even if they're total social recluses.

Also, try to branch yourself out a bit more. There are many more fish in the sea, and you have a bigger chance of meeting those fish if you get out there. Don't focus entirely on that one girl that may or may not be interested in you, instead focus on multiple girls. In that way, you up the chances of finding someone who genuinely likes you.

Seeing as you have social anxiety, take one step at a time. You don't have to dive right out, but take baby steps until you feel comfortable with being a little more outgoing.[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the advice. My main problem however is that I don't know where I should look when it comes to both friends and potential partners. It would never work to just go out to town all alone and go to random strangers and ask them to be my friend. Saying to myself that there are more fish in the sea doesn't really help. I know I won't have time to check every fish out there.

[BigJoeyLemons]

You know how a couple weeks back I said I was going to a dance with a girl who likes(?) me, and then you guys got mad at me because of context and I got annoyed and left?
Well that went pretty well and now we're going to see a movie on Wednesday after final exams are over.
My fingers are crossed, man. Things are looking up for me again

[sp]and no i wont pull any smooth moves[/sp]

[conan96]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41028247]Thanks for the advice. My main problem however is that I don't know where I should look when it comes to both friends and potential partners. It would never work to just go out to town all alone and go to random strangers and ask them to be my friend. Saying to myself that there are more fish in the sea doesn't really help. I know I won't have time to check every fish out there.[/QUOTE]

Have you considered a hobby of any sorts? You don't need to actively look for people for them to notice you. One of the friends I made was in a video game store, we were looking at the same type of games and just instantly connected. We had a mutual interest. Gaming.

I didn't even start the conversation, he asked me about a game I was about to buy and we just ended up in a conversation about video games. Then we just kinda hung out after that. Life tends to toss you a curveball when you're not prepared. If I went outside daily with only the concept of gaining friends on my mind, I probably wouldn't do that well. But if I just go out and have a good time doing what I personally enjoy, then I might happen to run into people with common interests.

By the way, feel free to tell me if I'm being to intrusive, and I'll stop.

[Roof]

I'm not looking for a potential partner till I go north, but right now I live in a desertous city, bakersfield, poor air, no hills, no trails, nothing (I like green nature, walking) and can't live up there till the fall semester ends in college, (because my fathers going through chemo) but right now I'm just looking friends to hang out (I have 4 best friends with me but we go out only a few times in the week) so I'm going to go to a church nearby and join some groups and stuff like that. Plus, it seems like the church is only place nearby for considering it would be 5-10 miles to go to some good place in the eastern/central part of the city.

So uh, here's my story: Ever since I was a kid, I was an energetic little fella, everyone loved me and such, but I lost my senses, my energy when I found computer games (they were just so weird/cool) but now I'm tired of it and I'm trying to loose my "introvertness" and need help/advice on what along the lines I should do since theres not that much stuff to do, (I don't have a vehicle so can't travel within the city as fast as I should) hell I'm even up for stuff that is out of my interests, I'm just tired of being at home doing nothing ever since I graduated. I don't know graduating made me feel like I need to put my past away and make me the kid I used to be, so help, please, super friendly people

[Zarjk]

I don't know where me and my friend at are at. We do drugs together and hang out, but haven't done much more then that.

[editline]14th June 2013[/editline]

by drugs I mean mdma.

[dmillerw]

It's me again.

Friend and her BF broke up last night, and she's honestly taking it rather well, at least from what she's told me. She's been a lot more talkative lately, and just seems happier.

My question now, is how in the hell should I proceed. I'm interested in her, as I've said before, but I dunno what I should do about that. For the moment, I'm still not gonna do anything but wait, since again, it was only yesterday, but I also know that doing nothing BUT waiting won't exactly get me anywhere either.

Thoughts?

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=dmillerw;41042440]It's me again.

Friend and her BF broke up last night, and she's honestly taking it rather well, at least from what she's told me. She's been a lot more talkative lately, and just seems happier.

My question now, is how in the hell should I proceed. I'm interested in her, as I've said before, but I dunno what I should do about that. For the moment, I'm still not gonna do anything but wait, since again, it was only yesterday, but I also know that doing nothing BUT waiting won't exactly get me anywhere either.

Thoughts?[/QUOTE]

It can take a few days for a relationship end to really smack you in the face. But she might just be good with it. Id say give her a week or two if your still clear id move forward on it.

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=dmillerw;41042440]It's me again.

Friend and her BF broke up last night, and she's honestly taking it rather well, at least from what she's told me. She's been a lot more talkative lately, and just seems happier.

My question now, is how in the hell should I proceed. I'm interested in her, as I've said before, but I dunno what I should do about that. For the moment, I'm still not gonna do anything but wait, since again, it was only yesterday, but I also know that doing nothing BUT waiting won't exactly get me anywhere either.

Thoughts?[/QUOTE]

Be her friend, be there and whatnot, don't advance on her. She may seem to be taking it well, but although I'm not relationship expert, anyone in here will tell you she probably isn't as she seems. Give her time and, well, you don't exactly need to HIDE the fact that you're interested. I'd say even if SHE advances on YOU, you should probably talk to her about whether or not she's really ready for that sort of thing so soon.

[editline]14th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41042493]It can take a few days for a relationship end to really smack you in the face. But she might just be good with it. Id say give her a week or two if your still clear id move forward on it.[/QUOTE]

This is true though. I still don't think making a move on someone who just ended a previous relationship within the last week or so is a great idea, but, what do I know.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=dmillerw;41042440]It's me again.

Friend and her BF broke up last night, and she's honestly taking it rather well, at least from what she's told me. She's been a lot more talkative lately, and just seems happier.

My question now, is how in the hell should I proceed. I'm interested in her, as I've said before, but I dunno what I should do about that. For the moment, I'm still not gonna do anything but wait, since again, it was only yesterday, but I also know that doing nothing BUT waiting won't exactly get me anywhere either.

Thoughts?[/QUOTE]

Give yourself a day or so to collect your emotions until you feel confident enough to tell her how you feel. But don't procrastinate purposely.
Trust me, it's easy to do. Seeing as she has just broken up with her previous BF, I'd say the time now is essentially your chance to find out what she thinks of you.
The reason it's better to just get it over with, is because if you spend too much time deciding what to do someone else might get to her first.
Now, rejection is quite possible. But that's always a risk, and at this point it's up to you to decide if you're willing to take that risk.

[dmillerw]

[QUOTE=conan96;41042536]Give yourself a day or so to collect your emotions until you feel confident enough to tell her how you feel. But don't procrastinate purposely.
Trust me, it's easy to do. Seeing as she has just broken up with her previous BF, I'd say the time now is essentially your chance to find out what she thinks of you.
The reason it's better to just get it over with, is because if you spend too much time deciding what to do someone else might get to her first.
[B]Now, rejection is quite possible. But that's always a risk, and at this point it's up to you to decide if you're willing to take that risk.[/B][/QUOTE]

That's the one thing I'm afraid of. I lost a very good friend due to fouling up my last relationship, so I'm honestly a little terrified of losing this one too. It's a tough conflict.

[conan96]

Indeed it is. It's quite unpredictable. But I feel like if you tell her your feelings somewhat casually,
rather than going all too in-depth you might have a better chance of being friend-zoned instead of losing your friendship with her entirely.
That might still feel bad, but at least you most likely wouldn't lose a friendship because of it.
But I can't really make the choice for you. I'd like to mention though that I've had this happen to me once,
I had a close friend I really liked and I stalled to long and she got another boyfriend before I could get my feelings through to her.
I ended up distancing myself from her, because it bothered me to see her and her boyfriend together.
But as I said before, it's your call. Good luck.

[dmillerw]

Well, as I've said before, I'm going to give it some time before doing anything. Maybe figure out a good way to do this. Though how in the hell do I eventually approach this? I've never actually asked someone out before. Either they asked me out, or I did the silly thing of saying I liked them and things went well.

Got stuff planned with her for tomorrow though, so we should have fun.

[Riku2211]

*sigh* Well here I am at [del] 2:30[/del] 3:00am, unable to sleep, posting from my phone. I haven't been able to sleep at all lately. I realize I haven't had the best sleep schedule since summer started, but I mean shit, I finally got to sleep around 5am last night and got up around 12. Then I went through the day relatively tired, but after lying here for an hour I can't get to sleep.

The problem is actually that I've been completely haunted by random thougts and daydreams, usually pertaining to my ex, my depression, or being lonely/becoming not lonely. So for the past couple of weeks I haven't slept until 3-6 am, and it's killing me. What's killing me even more are these thoughts, though. I just start to clear my head and fall asleep when suddenly some random scenario pops up and i can't stop thinking about it. And usually they're pretty saddening. Most of the time it's not even just one thing, either. My head is just constantly spinning.

I know there's a sleep and dreams megathread, but I figured it had more to do with, I don't know, depression and stuff. Besides they usually focus more on the dreaming/lucid dreaming aspect. Anyone happen to have any advice for me? If not I guess I'll just deal with it. "just not thinking about it" / "clearing my mind" would be fantastic except both of those things are like basically impossible. At least it's just summer. I have to get a job though and if this is still going on that probably won't be good.

[Yourself]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41043848]*sigh* Well here I am at [del] 2:30[/del] 3:00am, unable to sleep, posting from my phone. I haven't been able to sleep at all lately. I realize I haven't had the best sleep schedule since summer started, but I mean shit, I finally got to sleep around 5am last night and got up around 12. Then I went through the day relatively tired, but after lying here for an hour I can't get to sleep.

The problem is actually that I've been completely haunted by random thougts and daydreams, usually pertaining to my ex, my depression, or being lonely/becoming not lonely. So for the past couple of weeks I haven't slept until 3-6 am, and it's killing me. What's killing me even more are these thoughts, though. I just start to clear my head and fall asleep when suddenly some random scenario pops up and i can't stop thinking about it. And usually they're pretty saddening. Most of the time it's not even just one thing, either. My head is just constantly spinning.

I know there's a sleep and dreams megathread, but I figured it had more to do with, I don't know, depression and stuff. Besides they usually focus more on the dreaming/lucid dreaming aspect. Anyone happen to have any advice for me? If not I guess I'll just deal with it. "just not thinking about it" / "clearing my mind" would be fantastic except both of those things are like basically impossible. At least it's just summer. I have to get a job though and if this is still going on that probably won't be good.[/QUOTE]

ever tried drinking before going to bed?
works like wonders for me

[vlad]

[QUOTE=conan96;41028521]Have you considered a hobby of any sorts? You don't need to actively look for people for them to notice you. One of the friends I made was in a video game store, we were looking at the same type of games and just instantly connected. We had a mutual interest. Gaming.

I didn't even start the conversation, he asked me about a game I was about to buy and we just ended up in a conversation about video games. Then we just kinda hung out after that. Life tends to toss you a curveball when you're not prepared. If I went outside daily with only the concept of gaining friends on my mind, I probably wouldn't do that well. But if I just go out and have a good time doing what I personally enjoy, then I might happen to run into people with common interests.

By the way, feel free to tell me if I'm being to intrusive, and I'll stop.[/QUOTE]

I completely forgot about this thread until it popped up in my read list. I don't find you intrusive at all, I'm just happy that you give me advice.

I'm fully aware of the fact that if I keep thinking "get new friends, get new girlfriend" I won't enjoy myself because I can't accomplish that task within a day or so. It's really hard to get my thoughts somewhere else though since I really want new friends and/or more people to go to than I currently have.

I don't know if it was obvious or not in first post on this page but I've lost nearly all to much of my interest in gaming. All of my friends would do that over other things, so I'm in a sticky situation. I've managed to pull out one of them who I would consider my bestfriend at the moment to just bike a route and back. I manage to stop thinking about my ex and all that when doing so, but this is getting rather repetitive after doing it a couple of times. Now I'm starting to worry that this is all I'm going to do with my life. Not only that, but the thoughts of my ex are just getting more frequent since I'm having a harder time enjoying myself.

I feel like gaining a hobby would help a lot. Don't really know what that hobby would be, so I'm pretty lost there too. What I enjoy doing is just being outside and doing something with my day. Not really specific enough to find others with that as a mutual interest.

[editline]15th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=dmillerw;41042440]It's me again.

Friend and her BF broke up last night, and she's honestly taking it rather well, at least from what she's told me. She's been a lot more talkative lately, and just seems happier.

My question now, is how in the hell should I proceed. I'm interested in her, as I've said before, but I dunno what I should do about that. For the moment, I'm still not gonna do anything but wait, since again, it was only yesterday, but I also know that doing nothing BUT waiting won't exactly get me anywhere either.

Thoughts?[/QUOTE]

She might be really emotionally hurt on the inside. I'm currently in the same situation. On the outside I show no sorrow or emotions related to the break up, but on the inside I'm being torn to pieces.

[editline]15th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41043848]*sigh* Well here I am at [del] 2:30[/del] 3:00am, unable to sleep, posting from my phone. I haven't been able to sleep at all lately. I realize I haven't had the best sleep schedule since summer started, but I mean shit, I finally got to sleep around 5am last night and got up around 12. Then I went through the day relatively tired, but after lying here for an hour I can't get to sleep.

The problem is actually that I've been completely haunted by random thougts and daydreams, usually pertaining to my ex, my depression, or being lonely/becoming not lonely. So for the past couple of weeks I haven't slept until 3-6 am, and it's killing me. What's killing me even more are these thoughts, though. I just start to clear my head and fall asleep when suddenly some random scenario pops up and i can't stop thinking about it. And usually they're pretty saddening. Most of the time it's not even just one thing, either. My head is just constantly spinning.

I know there's a sleep and dreams megathread, but I figured it had more to do with, I don't know, depression and stuff. Besides they usually focus more on the dreaming/lucid dreaming aspect. Anyone happen to have any advice for me? If not I guess I'll just deal with it. "just not thinking about it" / "clearing my mind" would be fantastic except both of those things are like basically impossible. At least it's just summer. I have to get a job though and if this is still going on that probably won't be good.[/QUOTE]

I really don't want to stand out as a maniac bastard by saying this, but I find comfort in what you are experiencing since I'm struggling with the exact same thing.

I have no idea how severe this is for you, but my thoughts get so bad that my eyes water up. My sleep medicine doesn't even work anymore due to those thoughts and all of my worries. I'm sorry that I can't give you any specific advice, but tell yourself that you won't be lonely. Because that is most likely true. All of these scenarios and thoughts are in your head, period.

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41048899]
I really don't want to stand out as a maniac bastard by saying this, but I find comfort in what you are experiencing since I'm struggling with the exact same thing.

I have no idea how severe this is for you, but my thoughts get so bad that my eyes water up. My sleep medicine doesn't even work anymore due to those thoughts and all of my worries. I'm sorry that I can't give you any specific advice, but tell yourself that you won't be lonely. Because that is most likely true. All of these scenarios and thoughts are in your head, period.[/QUOTE]

Nah, you're not a 'maniac bastard'. I'm in the same boat as you as well with wanting new friends/hobbies/etc. I enjoy just doing things outside as well, just nothing in particular. It was great when me and my ex would go and simply walk around everywhere talking. That's one of the things I miss the most. I remember once we actually packed lunch and went for a walk, then ate at the park. It's so hard not to think about these things.

Yeah, no form of sleep medicine seems to help me at all. We have these allergy pills that used to help but stopped working after a while (I didn't really take them that often) and not even a couple Ibuprofen PMs can get me to fall asleep. I honestly usually feel like crying at some points, but only emotionally. Like I don't get that lump in my throat and my eyes don't water up, but I just get incredibly sad until I snap back to reality. It's kind of hard for me to cry. And yeah, I know it's all in my head, but it's still so distracting and it's not easy getting over her when I think about her every night. Even when I start telling myself I won't be lonely I start daydreaming about asking out this girl I have a crush on. No matter what my brain finds some way to keep itself busy. There's no way for me to win unless I deliberately stay up until 6am. Then I can at least fall asleep within the hour.

[QUOTE=Yourself;41045275]ever tried drinking before going to bed?
works like wonders for me[/QUOTE]

I don't drink :v:

Unless you mean just drinking in general in which case I sometimes drink water but I don't see how that helps??