Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;41062128]so whats wrong with being out of the blue!!
its no use waiting on your ass[/QUOTE]

Well I never said he should wait :v:
He should totally approach her when he gets the chance,and I guess it's no big deal if he assumes he may be interested in him. But glancing at a girl when she happens to also glance at you and saying "She's totally into me" is a little naive.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;41062022]why not? as long as he isn't a douchebag about it and blatantly tells her "hey i know youre interested in me baby" it will at least help him feel more confident if he thinks she's interested in him already

[editline]16th June 2013[/editline]

as long as he's respectful about it, so what if she's not actually interested in him? then she will tell him so and he will move on[/QUOTE]
"hey i know youre interested in me baby" is not a bad line if you say it right

[editline]16th June 2013[/editline]

depends on how you look and how confident you say it

and how much you believe in it cuz i mean some girls might think it's cute

[thisispain]

i know youre interested in me baby
uhm im not
haha get to know me and that will change *winks*

[Loopoo]

who's that guy on the internet that claimed he'd never kill the girl he was stalking? "I LOVE YOU" and he always used the pig emotes.

What was the girls name? I keep thinking deku.

"I love you, I would never kill you!!!"

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41062178]Well I never said he should wait :v:
He should totally approach her when he gets the chance,and I guess it's no big deal if he assumes he may be interested in him. But glancing at a girl when she happens to also glance at you and saying "She's totally into me" is a little naive.[/QUOTE]

Depends on the glance.
A few weeks ago I got glanced in a way which was: First looking at me, then quickly turning her head away, then giving me a seconds glance towards with her eyes and looking away again and then proceeding to smile and stare into space.

I would have said something if I hadn't been just visiting somewhere at a 1,½ hour distance away from home.

[FlamingToast]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41062685]who's that guy on the internet that claimed he'd never kill the girl he was stalking? "I LOVE YOU" and he always used the pig emotes.

What was the girls name? I keep thinking deku.

"I love you, I would never kill you!!!"[/QUOTE]

Was it [url=http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails]Denko[/url]?

[Loopoo]

yes it was ... (´･ω･`)

[Splash Attack]

So this isn't exactly social related, but I need advice pertaining to my relationship with my parents. Just for some background, my parents are both very religious and have had me attending church ever since I was born. I have never been super serious about my religion and for the most part never really payed much attention during services. As of late, my beliefs have been waning heavily. I have gotten to the point where I have no idea what to believe anymore, however I definitely do not agree with the values being taught at my church. A few moths ago I have taken up more shifts at work that occur during 2 of the three weekly services to serve as an excuse not to go. Just today, I have skipped the remaining Sunday service two weeks in a row and my parents are really unhappy. I'm afraid if I am frank with them about my beliefs they will freak out or get angry at me. I also don't want them to deal with the grief of believing I am damned for all eternity for my actions. I know its best to be honest, but I also don't want to rock the boat in my household. I'm really not sure what to do in this situation.

[SkyeMRT]

Okay, well I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this since it's drug related, but whatever. I'll just go with it.

So, next week, I'm inviting a few friends over, including my girlfriend. When I'm with my friends, we usually light up a few joints here and there just to make the night more enjoyable. My girlfriend, though, has never taken any drugs. She perceives it as "a bad thing" ( mostly because she hasn't done any research on it ). Though, she's completely fine with me taking drugs. Whenever I ask her if she minds, she tells me that I can do whatever I want.

So now, what I've been thinking about doing is making her eat pot brownies. I was wondering if I should tell her now, one week prior to when I'm going to make them or if I should tell her that same day. Also, what can I say to make her WANT to take them without forcing her or sounding like a bad influence?

[conan96]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;41062985]So this isn't exactly social related, but I need advice pertaining to my relationship with my parents. Just for some background, my parents are both very religious and have had me attending church ever since I was born. I have never been super serious about my religion and for the most part never really payed much attention during services. As of late, my beliefs have been waning heavily. I have gotten to the point where I have no idea what to believe anymore, however I definitely do not agree with the values being taught at my church. A few moths ago I have taken up more shifts at work that occur during 2 of the three weekly services to serve as an excuse not to go. Just today, I have skipped the remaining Sunday service two weeks in a row and my parents are really unhappy. I'm afraid if I am frank with them about my beliefs they will freak out or get angry at me. I also don't want them to deal with the grief of believing I am damned for all eternity for my actions. I know its best to be honest, but I also don't want to rock the boat in my household. I'm really not sure what to do in this situation.[/QUOTE]

I don't really think they should have that much of a say in this, if you feel that their beliefs are intruding on yours then you should have the right to be able to back out of it.

They can't really force you to go if you don't want to. Besides, they're most likely going to find out anyways as much as you've been skipping church sessions so the truth is probably coming out sooner or later.
They will probably be mad for a while, that's to be expected. I can't predict how long it would last though, because I don't know how they usually act towards people with clashing beliefs.
But I feel like you should just tell them, they might end up taking the truth better than if you continued to lie to them.

[dmillerw]

[QUOTE=SkyeMRT;41063265]Okay, well I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this since it's drug related, but whatever. I'll just go with it.

So, next week, I'm inviting a few friends over, including my girlfriend. When I'm with my friends, we usually light up a few joints here and there just to make the night more enjoyable. My girlfriend, though, has never taken any drugs. She perceives it as "a bad thing" ( mostly because she hasn't done any research on it ). Though, she's completely fine with me taking drugs. Whenever I ask her if she minds, she tells me that I can do whatever I want.

So now, what I've been thinking about doing is making her eat pot brownies. I was wondering if I should tell her now, one week prior to when I'm going to make them or if I should tell her that same day. Also, what can I say to make her WANT to take them without forcing her or sounding like a bad influence?[/QUOTE]

...da fuq?

You don't force someone into drugs. If she doesn't want to try, that's her business.

[Dr. Gestapo]

[QUOTE=SkyeMRT;41063265]Okay, well I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this since it's drug related, but whatever. I'll just go with it.

So, next week, I'm inviting a few friends over, including my girlfriend. When I'm with my friends, we usually light up a few joints here and there just to make the night more enjoyable. My girlfriend, though, has never taken any drugs. She perceives it as "a bad thing" ( mostly because she hasn't done any research on it ). Though, she's completely fine with me taking drugs. Whenever I ask her if she minds, she tells me that I can do whatever I want.

So now, what I've been thinking about doing is making her eat pot brownies. I was wondering if I should tell her now, one week prior to when I'm going to make them or if I should tell her that same day. Also, what can I say to make her WANT to take them without forcing her or sounding like a bad influence?[/QUOTE]

If she doesn't like it, don't force it on her. Just ask if her she wants try it, plain and simple.

[SkyeMRT]

[QUOTE=dmillerw;41063296]...da fuq?

You don't force someone into drugs. If she doesn't want to try, that's her business.[/QUOTE]

I said I didn't want to force her to take them. I want her to take them herself but there surely is some things I can do to convince her.

[vlad]

[QUOTE=SkyeMRT;41063265]Okay, well I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this since it's drug related, but whatever. I'll just go with it.

So, next week, I'm inviting a few friends over, including my girlfriend. When I'm with my friends, we usually light up a few joints here and there just to make the night more enjoyable. My girlfriend, though, has never taken any drugs. She perceives it as "a bad thing" ( mostly because she hasn't done any research on it ). Though, she's completely fine with me taking drugs. Whenever I ask her if she minds, she tells me that I can do whatever I want.

So now, what I've been thinking about doing is making her eat pot brownies. I was wondering if I should tell her now, one week prior to when I'm going to make them or if I should tell her that same day. Also, what can I say to make her WANT to take them without forcing her or sounding like a bad influence?[/QUOTE]

You really shouldn't force it on her. Let her have it her way. She'll probably get high on it but she probably won't know for sure why or what the feeling is coming from anyway, so she'll still have a negative relation to it. Unless you tell her when she have eaten them, but then she'll most likely get mad at you.

[dmillerw]

[QUOTE=SkyeMRT;41063319]I said I didn't want to force her to take them. I want her to take them herself but there surely is some things I can do to convince her.[/QUOTE]

You're looking for any means to convince her to try. Sounds kind of like forcing to me.

Still, don't. You can ask her, but don't trick her or some other shit like that.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=SkyeMRT;41063265]Okay, well I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this since it's drug related, but whatever. I'll just go with it.

So, next week, I'm inviting a few friends over, including my girlfriend. When I'm with my friends, we usually light up a few joints here and there just to make the night more enjoyable. My girlfriend, though, has never taken any drugs. She perceives it as "a bad thing" ( mostly because she hasn't done any research on it ). Though, she's completely fine with me taking drugs. Whenever I ask her if she minds, she tells me that I can do whatever I want.

So now, what I've been thinking about doing is making her eat pot brownies. I was wondering if I should tell her now, one week prior to when I'm going to make them or if I should tell her that same day. Also, what can I say to make her WANT to take them without forcing her or sounding like a bad influence?[/QUOTE]

You're going to come off as a bad influence anyway. People with good intentions don't try to manipulate other people into taking something they don't want to. If she doesn't want to try drugs, she shouldn't have to. Regardless of how much research she's done on the topic.

[vlad]

Bad reading, you ask us when you should tell her? If you make pot brownies then you should tell her 1 week prior so she knows what you're up to.

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=SkyeMRT;41063319]I said I didn't want to force her to take them. I want her to take them herself but there surely is some things I can do to convince her.[/QUOTE]

Why do you need to convince her? She's said she doesn't want to, and like you said she sees them as bad. You shouldn't keep pressuring her into trying them. I'm not saying you are specifically pressuring her, but asking her over and over and trying to convince her, well, isn't cool.

[editline]16th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41063341]Bad reading, you ask us when you should tell her? If you make pot brownies then you should tell her 1 week prior so she knows what you're up to.[/QUOTE]

Yes, tell her a week before, ask if she wants any. She says no, I'd leave it at that.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=SkyeMRT;41063265]Okay, well I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this since it's drug related, but whatever. I'll just go with it.

So, next week, I'm inviting a few friends over, including my girlfriend. When I'm with my friends, we usually light up a few joints here and there just to make the night more enjoyable. My girlfriend, though, has never taken any drugs. She perceives it as "a bad thing" ( mostly because she hasn't done any research on it ). Though, she's completely fine with me taking drugs. Whenever I ask her if she minds, she tells me that I can do whatever I want.

So now, what I've been thinking about doing is making her eat pot brownies. I was wondering if I should tell her now, one week prior to when I'm going to make them or if I should tell her that same day. Also, what can I say to make her WANT to take them without forcing her or sounding like a bad influence?[/QUOTE]

Don't put her on the spot and ask her on the day you're going to do it. Just leave her to her own devices, she doesn't have to be high to enjoy your company. You and your friends get high, and she will still enjoy herself sober. I'm all cuddly and stuff when I'm high, so maybe she'd like that? Just being able to sit with you and cuddle while you ramble on about "the stars, maaaan".

She's said she's not interested, so don't pressure her or force her to do it. It's pretty selfish of you to invite her round and smoke up, though. She may feel left out, especially when you're all talking about ridiculous shit that sober person can't follow / can't enjoy.

Also, don't be retarded and give a first-timer pot brownies. You'll fuck her up. If I were you, I'd just put myself out and spend this one night doing things to make her happy. It really isn't that big a deal whether you smoke up or not, so just leave it for this time. If she's not interested in doing it herself, leave the whole weed shenanigans to you and your friends when you're on your own.

[vlad]

Yeah, I'd leave it to her. You could probably toss in a word here and there as long as you're not overwhelming her with why she should do it and stuff like that. You are pressuring her by asking over and over.

I think it's a bad move to make those pot brownies. If she really doesn't want to, then what is she going to eat? :v:

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41063387]
I think it's a bad move to make those pot brownies. If she really doesn't want to, then what is she going to eat? :v:[/QUOTE]

"Hey I'm gonna make some brownies, but I'll have to use all the food in the house. You're on your own for the day."

they weren't very good brownies

[vlad]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41063474]"Hey I'm gonna make some brownies, but I'll have to use all the food in the house. You're on your own for the day."

they weren't very good brownies[/QUOTE]

I thought more of her not getting cake. :v:

[thisispain]

me - "damn gurl you party hard"

"That's the only way to party"

me - "tbh if you're not hitting the beer bong I don't know what you're doing in life."

me - "but really doe how r u, i think i should feel bad for ignoring you for like months and then texting you the alphabet out of the blue"

"Ignoring? Haha I don't think that's the case. That's just how the world is."

this girl is gonna make me cry i swear

[killerteacup]

what does that even mean

[Babyarm-bat]

Gf is staying with me despite not wanting a LDR, the pit is gone from my stomach, and all is pretty ok

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;41073744]what does that even mean[/QUOTE]

I think tpain is happy he's found a girl who's so chill and into the same things as he is.

[editline]18th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;41073834]Gf is staying with me despite not wanting a LDR, the pit is gone from my stomach, and all is pretty ok[/QUOTE]

Best of luck man, hope it all works out. Best feeling in the world when your SO comes through for you.

[robmaister12]

So I'm still pretty good friends with my ex. The relationship never really went too far, she ended it because we were both going to college soon, but we still were friends and went to prom together and all that stuff. That was last year, now I'm done with my freshman year of college.

So today a few of us we hanging out, towards the end of the night we decide to go to a hot tub for a bit. About 30 minutes in, one of my friends (really buff, works out a lot, gives off the occasional creepy vibe) starts touching my ex's arm and moves up to her shoulder (sometimes he'll press in people's shoulders till it hurts just the tiniest bit, but if you know him, it's not like he's being a bully or mean about it), which eventually turns into a massage.

I couldn't tell you how long it went on for, but it started bothering me, and I was thinking that it shouldn't really be bothering me, and that started bothering me. The conversation came to a lull around the same time (may or may not be related to the fact that the only two other guys there knew we dated for a while, or because he's giving a massage to the only girl in the group), so I couldn't just distract myself with conversation.

At this point I'm in full social anxiety mode (which basically never happens to me), looking mostly to the side, completely avoiding eye contact with anyone else. I felt like both my ex and another friend looking at me, trying to make eye contact, but I realize that's probably just in my head.

It ended when she said "okay, that's enough" and moved away from him, with a bit of urgency on the "okay", so I'd assume he tried to push it a bit further or something. I was just looking off in another direction though, so again, that little detail could be in my head. Things went back to normal after that, but now, at the end of the night, a deep sense of loneliness set it and I just generally feel shitty. Maybe tomorrow will be better...

[TrulliLulli]

[QUOTE=TrulliLulli;41061130]Hello facepunch, im hoping you can help me. Im staying at a hotel currently and usually id have not much of a problem talking to girls, but in a hotel scenario I find them very hard to approach, I know this chick likes me from eye contact and a general gut instinct but I don't know what to do. I had a good chance to open but I wasn't expecting it so I didn't take it ;([/QUOTE]

Update on this, got talking to her yesterday and we made out, everything was good but she had to leave the hotel the same day.. Regret not talking to her earlier, she said the same thing

[It's crispy]

Alright so this is more social advice than love advice, but I'm a bit worried about this.

So, that lesbian girl that I've posted about a few times before (I was in love with her before I knew she was a lesbian, we became very good friends, I found out about her sexual orientation, I was sad) is having her girlfriend visit over this week, they're in a long-distance relationship so they don't see each other very often, maybe two or three times a year.

Anyway, we're very close friends and we usually hang out several times a week but since she very rarely gets to be with her girlfriend I decided to not talk to her at all or at least very little over this week. I was in town yesterday and I saw them walking together but I didn't say hi, partly because I got a bit nervous and because they didn't see me. I kind of wish I had though, I do want to meet her girlfriend (You know, seeing as we're best friends). Then again seeing her with her girlfriend does make me kind of sad. I avoided them and I didn't see them again during the day.

When I got home I opened my 3DS to play some Animal Crossing, and I had gotten her girlfriend on streetpass! So, when she checks her 3DS they'll know I passed them and didn't say anything. I'm a bit worried about this, I don't know what to say if they ask me about it. Should I tell them the truth, (that I was too nervous to say hello and they didn't see me), that I didn't want to disturb them, or that I had no idea and didn't know until I checked my 3DS? I'm sorry, this probably seems really silly to you guys but I don't want to mess our relationship up.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=Eric95;41080484]Alright so this is more social advice than love advice, but I'm a bit worried about this.

So, that lesbian girl that I've posted about a few times before (I was in love with her before I knew she was a lesbian, we became very good friends, I found out about her sexual orientation, I was sad) is having her girlfriend visit over this week, they're in a long-distance relationship so they don't see each other very often, maybe two or three times a year.

Anyway, we're very close friends and we usually hang out several times a week but since she very rarely gets to be with her girlfriend I decided to not talk to her at all or at least very little over this week. I was in town yesterday and I saw them walking together but I didn't say hi, partly because I got a bit nervous and because they didn't see me. I kind of wish I had though, I do want to meet her girlfriend (You know, seeing as we're best friends). Then again seeing her with her girlfriend does make me kind of sad. I avoided them and I didn't see them again during the day.

When I got home I opened my 3DS to play some Animal Crossing, and I had gotten her girlfriend on streetpass! So, when she checks her 3DS they'll know I passed them and didn't say anything. I'm a bit worried about this, I don't know what to say if they ask me about it. Should I tell them the truth, (that I was too nervous to say hello and they didn't see me), that I didn't want to disturb them, or that I had no idea and didn't know until I checked my 3DS? I'm sorry, this probably seems really silly to you guys but I don't want to mess our relationship up.[/QUOTE]

If they didn't see you earlier when you passed them, just shrug it off and tell them you had no idea.
Then you can make a proper introduction.
However if they did see you, and they saw that you avoided them. Then you should tell them the truth.
If they did see you, they'll most likely say so before you get a chance to say anything.