Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[robmaister12]

Fuck no, today's worse. I woke up with all these feelings I thought I'd gotten past a long time ago. I guess I'll just hide until it passes or something...

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=robmaister12;41083190]Fuck no, today's worse. I woke up with all these feelings I thought I'd gotten past a long time ago. I guess I'll just hide until it passes or something...[/QUOTE]

To be fair, it would have been awkward even if you didn't have feelings for her. I mean, you're a small group sitting in the hot tub.

The few times I've been in a hot tub, the group is either big enough that there's always the odd few couples going at it while the rest talk, or the group is small and people tend to just stick with conversation to avoid those awkward silences. Hot tubs are a lot more fun and less awkward with plenty of booze, though.

[editline]18th June 2013[/editline]

What I'm trying to say is, the guy making the move on the girl was a bit weird seeing as it'd obviously create an awkward atmosphere for you 3 guys sitting there.

[robmaister12]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41085019]To be fair, it would have been awkward even if you didn't have feelings for her. I mean, you're a small group sitting in the hot tub.

The few times I've been in a hot tub, the group is either big enough that there's always the odd few couples going at it while the rest talk, or the group is small and people tend to just stick with conversation to avoid those awkward silences. Hot tubs are a lot more fun and less awkward with plenty of booze, though.

[editline]18th June 2013[/editline]

What I'm trying to say is, the guy making the move on the girl was a bit weird seeing as it'd obviously create an awkward atmosphere for you 3 guys sitting there.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it's pretty much always conversation for us. It would have been fine if the group was large enough where I could just keep talking to someone else and ignore it, but the mix of everything just really got to me.

I think today I'm more upset at how I reacted than anything else. My dream last night somehow involved my ex, so I woke up thinking "well, fuck", but I've pretty much got that under control now.

And yeah, my one experience with booze + hot tub was amazing, it's a bit less common for us since none of us are 21 though.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41074511]I think tpain is happy he's found a girl who's so chill and into the same things as he is.

[editline]18th June 2013[/editline]

Best of luck man, hope it all works out. Best feeling in the world when your SO comes through for you.[/QUOTE]

I meant the last sentence but yes if thats the case thats very good

[vlad]

I get so depressed over thinking how life actually is. Work, go home, eat, sleep, repeat. Is this how my life is going to be?

[Saza]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41088636]I get so depressed over thinking how life actually is. Work, go home, eat, sleep, repeat. Is this how my life is going to be?[/QUOTE]

I haven't posted here yet but I've read it every now and then and I know exactly how you feel.
Right now my life is wake up, go to work if I'm working the day, get in, eat, go to sleep. If I'm not, it's get up, sit around doing pretty much nothing but talking with three or four other people for a few hours out of countless. I don't really get out and do much anymore.

I want to meet new people, or something. But I have no real idea how to go about it. I won't have access to my own car until late late July.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41074511]I think tpain is happy he's found a girl who's so chill and into the same things as he is.[/QUOTE]

funny story i have a fever and i drank too much wine while on cough medicine (i didnt know cough medicine already had lots of alcohol) and i texted her some horrible garbage that really made her angry and i deleted her number

wats up guys im dying of laughter and embarrassment at the same time yolo

[killerteacup]

I didn't like it when she said 'that's just how the world is' so I'm okay with this

[thisispain]

tbh if you cant handle me when im wasted on cough medicine and mentally unstable due to a high fever then theres no way this could work

[killerteacup]

if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best!!

[Loopoo]

Have any of you ever been so hungry your stomach actually hurts? I ordered food 2 hours ago and it still hasn't arrived. Please give me social advice so I don't tear the drivers head off when he gets here (he doesn't know how to get to my house)

[editline]19th June 2013[/editline]

"I'll be ten minutes" 30 minutes later "Where is your house? Where is that? I can't find it"

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41090666]Have any of you ever been so hungry your stomach actually hurts? I ordered food 2 hours ago and it still hasn't arrived. Please give me social advice so I don't tear the drivers head off when he gets here (he doesn't know how to get to my house)

[editline]19th June 2013[/editline]

"I'll be ten minutes" 30 minutes later "Where is your house? Where is that? I can't find it"[/QUOTE]

Majority of places you won't have to pay at least :v:
I wake up regularly in the morning with stomach pains, but then I don't feel hungry even though I don't have breakfast after it goes away.
I think I have ulcers :v:

[vlad]

A night without sleep because of my over thinking regarding my ex. :v:

I'm being such a cunt towards myself. I know that I [I]should [/I]remove her from all social networks to prevent myself being reminded of her all the time. When looking through instagram and twitter I'm just waiting for her to pop up. My heart rockets up to my throat every time I open these apps on my phone. It's like I'm just sitting there and waiting for the impact.

But I just can't bring myself to remove her. It'd be so much better if someone mysteriously removed her for me without me knowing. And even though I manage to pull myself together and remove her, I'll most likely go and check her profile occasionally anyway out of curiosity of what she is doing.

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41090874]A night without sleep because of my over thinking regarding my ex. :v:

I'm being such a cunt towards myself. I know that I [I]should [/I]remove her from all social networks to prevent myself being reminded of her all the time. When looking through instagram and twitter I'm just waiting for her to pop up. My heart rockets up to my throat every time I open these apps on my phone. It's like I'm just sitting there and waiting for the impact.

But I just can't bring myself to remove her. It'd be so much better if someone mysteriously removed her for me without me knowing. And even though I manage to pull myself together and remove her, I'll most likely go and check her profile occasionally anyway out of curiosity of what she is doing.[/QUOTE]

Man shit, I have NOTHING regarding my ex anywhere plus total excommunication, yet I'm still kept up at night (every night). I dwell on shit a lot, I suppose, so it'd probably be different for you. Honestly it makes it somewhat easier if you kind of "remove all traces" of her. I did the same thing, too, I went and checked her Facebook every so often out of massive curiosity as to how things were with her. Then I realized that that was kind of creepy and also really bad for me so I stopped. Still hasn't helped the mental aspect much.

I'd just do it if I were you. It won't really make anything worse, and it's certainly not doing you any good having her there. I understand that feeling of still wanting to be her friend, but you just can't. Even if you are, your feelings get in the way. Same thing happened to me. I cracked, talked to her, and though I was immensely more happy just being her friend I still couldn't shake the fact I had feelings for her, and well it turned out for the worse.

I don't know how much of that is relevant but point is you should remove her.

[Loopoo]

Food arrived cold as shit but I don't want to complain as I think the driver would get it docked from his pay.

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=thisispain;41090268]funny story i have a fever and i drank too much wine while on cough medicine (i didnt know cough medicine already had lots of alcohol) and i texted her some horrible garbage that really made her angry and i deleted her number

wats up guys im dying of laughter and embarrassment at the same time yolo[/QUOTE]

Someones robo tripping.

[PistolKid]

I thought about posting a sob story about my ex and stuff but I figured this is probably better.

So, my friend is going to college and he got drunk by himself I guess. (The details weren't exactly clear as you can imagine.) He starts messaging me on skype, then turns it to a 3 way skype text chat thing with this girl that I'm friends with and also happen to be attracted to a lot. (I've known her for a long time and she's amazing.) I was hanging out with our group of friends (which she happens to be in, along with the girl I was dating until last month... awkward is an understatement) and overheard her talking about something to do with boyfriend troubles. This skype chat confirmed my suspicions, as she started asking us who we "liked", then drunkie turned the question on her, to which she replied that she didn't really like anyone at the moment because she basically got dumped by her boyfriend of 3 and a half years. (But I guess its not official or something like that.)

You can kind of see where this is heading by now, I'm assuming. But the plot thickens.

She played inquisitor, asking us what we thought of all the girls that are in our little clique of friends and I answered the best and as honest as I could. Then she said "Me." And I didn't know what to do. Then she said "hahaha just kidding" and I breathed a sigh of relief. She moved on to the subject of who we thought were attractive, just gossipy crap for the fun of it I guess. So, we repeated the same procedure with our female acquaintances. Before we finished, she went to bed at some point.

So, I think it was better to just not say anything about her given the circumstances. This is a developing situation, and I guess I'll just see which way the ball rolls. My primary concern is avoiding stepping on any toes, as this is a delicate situation.

[vlad]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41091100]Man shit, I have NOTHING regarding my ex anywhere plus total excommunication, yet I'm still kept up at night (every night). I dwell on shit a lot, I suppose, so it'd probably be different for you. Honestly it makes it somewhat easier if you kind of "remove all traces" of her. I did the same thing, too, I went and checked her Facebook every so often out of massive curiosity as to how things were with her. Then I realized that that was kind of creepy and also really bad for me so I stopped. Still hasn't helped the mental aspect much.

I'd just do it if I were you. It won't really make anything worse, and it's certainly not doing you any good having her there. I understand that feeling of still wanting to be her friend, but you just can't. Even if you are, your feelings get in the way. Same thing happened to me. I cracked, talked to her, and though I was immensely more happy just being her friend I still couldn't shake the fact I had feelings for her, and well it turned out for the worse.

I don't know how much of that is relevant but point is you should remove her.[/QUOTE]

Man it feels like I'm going to cry a river if I remove every trace of her. It's just so hard. I'm thinking of the moments she was happy to see me and shit. Times where she would run towards me and jump into my arms. Moments where she would be filled of joy to see me. And now? Now she manages to put me aside without any problems. It hurts so much.

I just have to delete all traces of her I suppose. No matter how hard it will hit me, I feel like it has to be done for myself. I'm not gaining anything by seeing what she is doing anyway. It's really weird to think that one month has passed since we broke up and I've been thinking of her everyday. I still have a dolphin from Greece where it says "LOVE" in a big heart the dolphin is holding. Hard to believe that she gave me that once compared to how it is between us right now.

Luckily the thoughts of her and things we did together are becoming more and more distant. I'm not sure if that is what I want though. I really want to be her boyfriend and just... Love her, basically. At this point I regret going into a relationship with her just so I could spare myself for this.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=ScoutKing;41091286]Someones robo tripping.[/QUOTE]

yeah lots of dxm in there too lol

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41091466]Man it feels like I'm going to cry a river if I remove every trace of her. It's just so hard. I'm thinking of the moments she was happy to see me and shit. Times where she would run towards me and jump into my arms. Moments where she would be filled of joy to see me. And now? Now she manages to put me aside without any problems. It hurts so much.

I just have to delete all traces of her I suppose. No matter how hard it will hit me, I feel like it has to be done for myself. I'm not gaining anything by seeing what she is doing anyway. It's really weird to think that one month has passed since we broke up and I've been thinking of her everyday. I still have a dolphin from Greece where it says "LOVE" in a big heart the dolphin is holding. Hard to believe that she gave me that once compared to how it is between us right now.

Luckily the thoughts of her and things we did together are becoming more and more distant. I'm not sure if that is what I want though. I really want to be her boyfriend and just... Love her, basically. At this point I regret going into a relationship with her just so I could spare myself for this.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, same here. Like, entirely. Except I don't regret the relationship, I regret that I let it lead where it did. I couldn't possibly tell you why but even when I was with her I'd go through bouts of depression, and around the time things got bad I was in one of those ruts. So whenever she talked to me about it or anything it would sort of just bum me out and I didn't say anything against it or anything. Then when it actually happened I was already in a bad mood and still in a rut and didn't even know how to react and just kind of left. I didn't object or anything, and I should have, I'm so sure I could've convinced her to try at least a bit longer, because this was also around the time I started to realize what we were doing wrong, and we could've totally made it work. "If I'd only known then what I know now".

I'm honestly rather curious what she's done with the things I gave her. I gave her a Batman shirt once, I've seen her wear it quite a few times still. And before we really were together, but when it was sort of leading there, before she left the country for summer I gave her a necklace of mine and she wore it every day from then on out (longest summer of my life, we talked every day. Like you were saying about the dolphin, it's hard to think that at one time we were both talking about how much we missed eachother and discussing silly things like putting a '<3' at the end of an E-mail, and now it's like I don't even know her). I haven't been close enough to her since we broke up to see if she was wearing it, except when we were friends again, a time during which I hadn't even thought of it. The thing I'm most curious about is the birthday present I got her. I don't think she'd just throw all this stuff away, especially not her. She took everything pretty much fine (which fucking sucks for me because while I've had months of depression she was just like "for the first few days I was kind of sad but then I got over it") and really seems to have no problem at all seeing me. We could be friends and she wouldn't even think about ever having dated me. Makes it sort of feel like the entire thing was just THAT unimportant. She actually even said (while acknowledging she didn't want me to take it the wrong way) that breaking up with me was "the best thing that ever happened" to her because after that a lot of things in her life got a lot better, she was closer to her mom and stuff like that. Though I'm not really sure there's such a correlation. Probably in some way. Which I really didn't take offense to or anything, I was glad that she was happy. It just sucks that that whole relationship was this huge big deal to me and I was honestly about ready to spend my life with this girl, but to her it was just a small transition in her life during which she also had to deal with me.

Where the [B]fuck[/B] was I going with this. I don't think I was going anywhere. Anyway, yeah I feel the same. I just want to be with her, for things to be like they were. Hard to believe I'm just 'infatuated' with her when it's been so damn long. I don't know what I would say if she tried talking to me, nonetheless if she actually suggested trying again. She wouldn't, but I've thought from time to time about what I'd say and I really don't know. I guess if she actually did, there wouldn't be any reason not to, consider if she did it's a second chance and the worse that could happen is I end up like I am again.

ok sorry for that you got my mind on one thing and I kinda just kept typing :v:

[editline]19th June 2013[/editline]

Wow, oh fuck. I don't wanna start sounding melodramatic here, but I kinda just found that Facebook archives your chats, and I just read through the first time she talked to me, a couple completely meaningless and silly conversations, and one of us trying to figure out dinner plans. I kinda just started reading and accidentally got engrossed in it. Kind of felt like I did back then for a second. Found myself laughing at the things we said, I just kind of felt like I was actively part of that conversation while I read it. We talked on Gmail for the most part and I deleted all of our chats that were still there, but I didn't even know Facebook would still have that.

Wow. Now I'm depressed. I'm [I]really[/I] depressed.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41091603]Wow, oh fuck. I don't wanna start sounding melodramatic here, but I kinda just found that Facebook archives your chats, and I just read through the first time she talked to me, a couple completely meaningless and silly conversations, and one of us trying to figure out dinner plans. I kinda just started reading and accidentally got engrossed in it. Kind of felt like I did back then for a second. Found myself laughing at the things we said, I just kind of felt like I was actively part of that conversation while I read it. We talked on Gmail for the most part and I deleted all of our chats that were still there, but I didn't even know Facebook would still have that.

Wow. Now I'm depressed. I'm [I]really[/I] depressed.[/QUOTE]

i was with my ex for three years and spent at least a year of that trying to break up with him except he would do various things like guilt tripping me and holding my belongings hostage to buy himself time
so whenever we had heated arguments i would save them so that when i finally got the courage to break up with him for good i wouldn't forget why i did it

and since we usually talked on steam he only ever messaged me on fb when we were in an argument so most of our saved fb conversations went more like "what the fuck is wrong with you?" etc

[editline]19th June 2013[/editline]

why is it that whenever i drink a mixed drink with orange juice and vodka in it all i can taste is the orange juice and fvodka

[Loopoo]

Put less vodka in.

And I was reading over my past messages with my ex, funny that you did as well. Made my blood boil, so glad we're over, she's a massive cunt.

[Krinkels]

So prom's in five hours and I just found out what a corsage is.
Is there anything else I should know to avoid looking like a complete tool?

[Boss]

[QUOTE=Krinkels;41094609]So prom's in five hours and I just found out what a corsage is.
Is there anything else I should know to avoid looking like a complete tool?[/QUOTE]

Bring beer, you'll thank me later.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Krinkels;41094609]So prom's in five hours and I just found out what a corsage is.
Is there anything else I should know to avoid looking like a complete tool?[/QUOTE]

Nah, prom at our school is pretty chill, the walk is the big thing. You line up inside and they tell each couple when to walk. Actual dance everyone buggers off pretty quick after first dances and stuff. If its in the same place as last year theres some outdoor seats overlooking the harbor if your with a special lady :p

[Babyarm-bat]

Our prom was "get drunk and everybody grind", which, being sober during senior prom, was fun to watch

[disseminate]

at my prom i just danced with my friends till closing time - even without a date, was one of the best nights of my life

[BigJoeyLemons]

I'm going on my first date ever with a girl in a few minutes... (´&#65381;&#969;&#65381;`)

We're seeing Gatsby at a movie theater and then we might get some ice cream afterwards.

[Fire Kracker]

the movie was nothing like the book aside from a few similarities i was disappointed

[PistolKid]

I wouldn't completely advise getting drunk before prom... a bunch of morons did that before ours, ended up getting arrested and getting in some deep shit. In addition to showing up drunk, they got in trouble for bringing alcohol on the party bus they went to the dance in.

Then again, ours had cops with breathalyzers stationed on site and your area might not be as trashy/ghetto as mine is.