Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Eeshton]

idk i like chicks with problems

i have no idea why

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Eeshton;41147403]idk i like chicks with problems

i have no idea why[/QUOTE]

You won't once your with them trust me :v:

edit:
Well shit, in unrelated news I just realized I haven't eaten anything today all day since I got up early at 7am and its 11:30pm now
I'm not even hungry :v:

[Eeshton]

stress is probably the healthiest thing for me. that sounds weird, but whenever im stressed, i barely ever eat, and i like to workout.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41147418]You won't once your with them trust me :v:

edit:
Well shit, in unrelated news I just realized I haven't eaten anything today all day since I got up early at 7am and its 11:30pm now
I'm not even hungry :v:[/QUOTE]

Food is such a big part of my life. How do you even go a whole day forgetting you haven't eaten? :v:

[editline]23rd June 2013[/editline]

There are healthier ways to get healthy than stressing yourself out to the point of starvation. Also, you do realize your profile picture is still visible in that pic you uploaded, right?

[PistolKid]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41144246]That majority of women wearing make-up you don't notice because all women (essentially) wear make-up. It's just become an expectation that women have that smooth acne free skin and long lashes so when someone doesn't wear it they are assumed to be Ugly, since we forget that most women even wear make-up to look the way they do because its such a constant standard whenever a woman goes out.

I'm still concerned by the amount of women I know who say they feel naked without their make-up and can't go outside without doing it.
[/QUOTE]

Women look good for other women. Women want to be skinny because of other women. That's what they tell me, at least.

[Babyarm-bat]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41147418]You won't once your with them trust me :v:

edit:
Well shit, in unrelated news I just realized I haven't eaten anything today all day since I got up early at 7am and its 11:30pm now
I'm not even hungry :v:[/QUOTE]

Now all you need is some eyeliner and you can finally be beautiful™

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=PistolKid;41147667]Women look good for other women. Women want to be skinny because of other women. That's what they tell me, at least.[/QUOTE]

Semi-true semi-not in my opinion. Women do obviously compete but they are competing to look good to men.
Its a complex and confusing round-about really if you get into it properly

[editline]23rd June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;41147727]Now all you need is some eyeliner and you can finally be beautiful™[/QUOTE]

I don't understand how models get skinny. I practically don't eat (not starving myself I just don't get hungry or really notice :v:) and go for over hour long walks regularly, but im still not losing weight.
Models must like... reverse eat. They must like pee out fat from their bodies or something.

[vlad]

I've always been wondering if girls want to look pretty because they compete with other girls for boys, then why do they still try so hard when they have found the man in their life? :v:

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41147893]I've always been wondering if girls want to look pretty because they compete with other girls for boys, then why do they still try so hard when they have found the man in their life? :v:[/QUOTE]

Cause they are worried he will stop wanting to be with them if they stop dressing up like they always did.
Look at this way if you were always acting really positive and polite and perfect around a girly you wanted to date, but your normal personality isn't like that(maybe even a little depressed), would you feel comfortable acting yourself once you guys started dating when she hadn't seen your real personality before?

edit:
I mean I've heard enough stories of girls being all pretty and polite and dressed up for guys then once they start dating they start wearing their sweat pants not doing their hair and etc and then the guy gets all upset. At least, people talk like this happens I don't know if it does. Wasn't a problem for me since I always do that stuff.

[zenby]

Here's the brachiosaurus in question:

[t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/45554193/brachiosaurus.jpg[/t]

Does anyone have any tips for guiding this relationship towards something more than friendship besides being flirty? I'll probably be hanging out with her over the summer, should I just keep flirty or what

[vlad]

To be honest not much advice can be given. Love and relationships come naturally in their respective order. One thing which is really important is to break the touch barrier and make sure you make physical contact with her.

[zenby]

Thank you, this is the first time I've dealt with any of this

[killerteacup]

What is wrong with that brachiosaurus I would have thought that would have been a pussy killer standard conversation

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41144246]
Also I got a job I am the best no one can tell me other wise I win the universe thank you very much.
Camera sales here we go!!![/QUOTE]

[img]http://www.napkinzkf.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/congrats.jpg[/img]

[zenby]

Apparently she's throwing me a party in honor of me getting my lion's mane cut off, which is a good indicator of friendship because she cares about my life-changing decisions

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41147858]Semi-true semi-not in my opinion. Women do obviously compete but they are competing to look good to men.
Its a complex and confusing round-about really if you get into it properly

[editline]23rd June 2013[/editline]

I don't understand how models get skinny. I practically don't eat (not starving myself I just don't get hungry or really notice :v:) and [B]g[U]o for over hour long walks regularly, but im still not losing weight[/U].[/B]
Models must like... reverse eat. They must like pee out fat from their bodies or something.[/QUOTE]

Found your problem.
You should do some exercise that gets you properly winded.
And walking really isn't one of those exercises that does it.

[Loopoo]

Walking is [I]alright[/I], but for weight loss, it's pretty crap.

[disseminate]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41152537]Walking is [I]alright[/I], but for weight loss, it's pretty crap.[/QUOTE]

You have to sweat to lose weight, for the most part.

[Loopoo]

Not so much sweat as get your heart rate up. When I go jogging in the mornings, if it's cold enough, I typically sweat very little for the first ten minutes or so, but then when I get hot from jogging for a while I start to sweat.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41147893]I've always been wondering if girls want to look pretty because they compete with other girls for boys, then why do they still try so hard when they have found the man in their life? :v:[/QUOTE]

i don't try that hard to look good but for me i just would rather blend in when i'm out in public, if blending in means wearing a bit of eyeliner then that's fine for me
i just don't want to look like someone who doesn't take care of myself or something and for women that generally comes with how much time you waste on trivial shit like hair and makeup

[Nikeos]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41147893]I've always been wondering if girls want to look pretty because they compete with other girls for boys, then why do they still try so hard when they have found the man in their life? :v:[/QUOTE]

i dont put effort into looking dolled up for anyone else but myself personally - i do my hair, make up, nails, etc because i enjoy doing it and i like the outcome. we're generally not "trying so hard" for other people lmao. for a lot of women, its just fun to do and for some women, its even an art form.

and like g mannly said, going out to most places without doing a thing about your appearance sends off a really negative message that you don't take care of yourself.

[Rhenae]

My heart rate goes up from walking.
And im not trying to lose weight, im just saying i hardly consume calories and i do burn them yet dont lose weight

[rammaster]

okay, so I've been texting this girl for awhile now but each time I ask her out she's busy. And I've talked with one of her friends that she's unsure about her feelings about me. I guess I should just stop talking to her or confront her about what she actually feels? I dunno what to do.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=Rammaster;41160327]okay, so I've been texting this girl for awhile now but each time I ask her out she's busy. And I've talked with one of her friends that she's unsure about her feelings about me. I guess I should just stop talking to her or confront her about what she actually feels? I dunno what to do.[/QUOTE]

Give her some time to think. After that, if you don't get a definitive answer then you should confront her about it.

[zenby]

The fact that I might have a lot going for me with this girl but I can barely talk to her for another 2 weeks frustrates me

I've been reading into flirting and it sounds like I've been doing it mostly right, I just need to work in some compliments and then do the eye contact and touch barrier stuff when I see her

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Eeshton;41147271][img]http://puu.sh/3m3d2.png[/img]

so i was just being nice to this chick, she made a few sad statuses, asked if he she needed someone to talk to (she asked before too) and im getting the feeling she doesn't really like me... lel, should i leave her alone? i really was just trying to be nice...[/QUOTE]

i know you tried to hide your picture and all

but i see it anyways

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=Eeshton;41147403]idk i like chicks with problems

i have no idea why[/QUOTE]

nothing like unhealthy codependent relationships

[RocketRacer]

Yup, I have no luck at all.

So i've tried to ask a girl I-went-out-with once(and she said he liked it) but she was saying that she is busy all the time. Today I asked her (female)friend if she knows is it true or not(she also called me once and told me that she will "help me"), and her responce was that as she didn't try, that-girl said that I'm not her "type".

Why couldn't she just tell me this, instead of saying "I'm busy" all the time? Meh, I have absolutely no luck with girls in terms of girlfriends...At least I have two good female friends I can easily go out with(just friends)...

[editline]24th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Rammaster;41160327]okay, so I've been texting this girl for awhile now but each time I ask her out she's busy. And I've talked with one of her friends that she's unsure about her feelings about me. I guess I should just stop talking to her or confront her about what she actually feels? I dunno what to do.[/QUOTE]

Posted my story, then read yours, and I thought "It's almost identical to mine."

[Gulen]

Huh, I've been having the same thing, but every time I've asked her out, she's had an excuse, and I haven't talked to her friends about it. But everything we've hung out casually (like I've ran into her at her school, since I'm friends with her entire class) it's been kind of awkward. She said she was really sorry that she'd been so busy, and that she really wanted to hang sometime. The last time we hung out, she said that she love me (well, she said a little "lighter" version of love, that I don't know how to translate to English), and I just automatically said it too (I know I do love her, though)

I've known her for almost two years now, though, and we've been really good friends for about 1,5 years.

[Snow_EP]

So there's this girl I've been friends with for 5 years, Hannah. We met when she started dating my best friend Benjamin. Hannah, Ben and I would kick it all the time with our mutual buddy Chris. I got very close to Hannah, and although I had a girlfriend we would hang out everyday, alone. After about 2 years of friendship, I moved in with her and her parents in their spare bedroom so I could get out of my parent's place. I was there for 2 years, which actually kinda ruined our friendship a little bit since it was easy to get on each other's nerves. Once I moved out last year, we started reconnecting, I landed her a nice job, and 2 weeks ago her current boyfriend of 2 years left her. I asked her to hang out last week and she told me to come over Friday night. I came over, chilled with her and her cousin, along with Chris. So here's where it gets weird. We take a few shots, have some laughs, and plop down on the couch to watch a movie. To my great surprise, Hannah snuggled right up against me and I cuddled with her for the first time in 4 years. My arm was dangling across her shoulders, hand next to her face, when she grabbed one of my fingers with her teeth and started leaving little kisses on my hand. I'm no dipshit, the second that happened I looked down and went in for a kiss. Hannah grabs my neck and pulls me deeper, and we make out for a couple minutes. I'm completely blown away, I've wanted this girl for half a decade and it's finally going down. I stayed the night at her place; nothing happened but I was stoked to cuddle with her all night.
The next morning, I was a little worried that perhaps she'd only kissed me 'cause we were drinking, but before I left her apartment we made out again, and I was the happiest guy in the world.
I let things settle for a day or two, then hit her up yesterday. I just wanted to see where we were at, the whole thing was really confusing since we'd been friends for so long. She expressed to me that she was still emotionally invested in her ex and didn't want me to get hurt in the event he came back to her. She said she probably didn't want to continue anything physical as she felt guilty about kissing me. I'm an accepting guy, I understood the emotional bullshit she must have been going through and told her it was completely fine. I then told her that I still wanted to spend more time with her regardless, as we'd been reconnecting lately and I've missed her. She was happy about that.
So here's the deal, I know she's physically attracted to me, at least enough to make out with me and let me grope her a bit. I'm thinking that if I ditch my single lifestyle, and focus all my energy on this girl, maybe I can make something serious happen? I think she's the most awesome girl in the world, I've always had a crush on her and I feel that if I can show her how a real boyfriend should be (her ex NEVER took her out or did nice things for her, she's been bored for 2 years), I might have an honest shot.

Should I run or should I go for it?