Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=AltUser;41187413]I'm glad to hear all that, it sounds like you're doing well! If I'm honest after my breakup I want to get into a relationship with someone else pretty soon, is that wrong of me? I just feel like I would really like to hit it off with someone new and be happy with them.
[/QUOTE]

Theres nothing wrong with getting in another relationship, but you shouldn't really throw yourself in one just to have one. Talking to him since he has said he basically clung to her after breaking up with me and used her as an emotional crutch to help him stop thinking about it. (Their relationship lasted 2 years and ended recently, he told me that a bit before).
It can be good to get in a relationship but I think people need to be more comfortable with themselves out of a relationship first.

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41187556]Theres nothing wrong with getting in another relationship, but you shouldn't really throw yourself in one just to have one. Talking to him since he has said he basically clung to her after breaking up with me and used her as an emotional crutch to help him stop thinking about it. (Their relationship lasted 2 years and ended recently, he told me that a bit before).
It can be good to get in a relationship but I think people need to be more comfortable with themselves out of a relationship first.[/QUOTE]

If I was to have another one, it wouldn't just be anyone, it would be someone who I actually saw a future with. All my friends tell me to go out and pick up girls and have sex, but all I would really want is to just meet a girl, and really connect with her and see where things go. I like the idea of having someone special in my life again.

[editline]26th June 2013[/editline]

I just want to thank all the people in this thread who have helped me in the past, I'm still getting over my ex, but you guys have been of real use to me, so thank you. To repay, I'm going to try and help other people whenever I can, but for now, I'm going to bed.

[oxooon]

[QUOTE=J$ Psychotic;40965436]I've been talking to a shy girl since school started, and slowly I've started to like her. I was hesitant to ask her out because I didn't know if she liked me or not, and I was texting her earlier today, and she was like "Oh, in other news, a junior asked me out and I said yes" (we're both sophomores) and I got all sad. She noticed this and was like "what's wrong?" and I skirted around the issue but eventually she was like "Are you sad because I am going out with another guy?" and I said yes. She responded "I accepted his invitation because you didn't ask me out...", to which I responded "Well, what do I do now?" "Wear the pants!" So I asked her out, she said yes, now we're gonna pick a date to go out, and probably gonna go see a movie. She also said she was gonna tell the junior that she wasn't gonna go out with him. I'm feeling pretty damn victorious (sorry for the junior but whatever lol).

Just wanted to get that out there.

[editline]9th June 2013[/editline]

Update: She told him she doesn't want to go with him anywhere, ever.[/QUOTE]

Hey you guys, just figured I'd pop back in to update you all with my situation.

She and I are officially dating now, we've been on our second date and I broke the kiss barrier, so I'm pretty happy right now. We have a great time together whenever we hang out (which is often), and her family loves me. My family loves her too, although we usually go to her house to hang out and stuff so my parents don't interact with her as much. It's really cool. She is one of the most interesting people I have ever met: she's a leukemia survivor and gets up and talks for a cancer society she is a part of. I guess I'll start offering advice to people in this thread. Gives me something to do.

[sp]For anyone in this thread who thinks getting a partner won't happen to them, just remember: it always works out.[/sp]

[vlad]

Here we go again...

I'm not sure how long ago it was since I told my self to remove my ex from social medias, but anyway, thing is I never did it. I just couldn't get myself to search for her name and unfollow and remove. So I told myself I'd remove her when I saw her post anything. And today she posted. An uneasy feeling went through me and I instantly felt the urge to just sit there and cry. I can't be mad at her or find any negative sides of her. She was so perfect in every way. I hate this. I was actually getting along pretty good with forgetting her but I was stupid enough to never remove her from anything. Now I've seen her again and she is back on my mind.

I unfollowed her on instagram where she posted the picture but I just couldn't keep it like that... As stupid as I am I went back in and followed her again. I just want to forget. :(

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41188150]Here we go again...

I'm not sure how long ago it was since I told my self to remove my ex from social medias, but anyway, thing is I never did it. I just couldn't get myself to search for her name and unfollow and remove. So I told myself I'd remove her when I saw her post anything. And today she posted. An uneasy feeling went through me and I instantly felt the urge to just sit there and cry. I can't be mad at her or find any negative sides of her. She was so perfect in every way. I hate this. I was actually getting along pretty good with forgetting her but I was stupid enough to never remove her from anything. Now I've seen her again and she is back on my mind.

I unfollowed her on instagram where she posted the picture but I just couldn't keep it like that... As stupid as I am I went back in and followed her again. I just want to forget. :([/QUOTE]

She isn't perfect man, I know your hurt. She really hurt you, she can't be perfect. It took a good few arguments with my ex to see her bad side, you need to do what you can to find hers. If you ever need help then you can always message me, okay?

[vlad]

[QUOTE=AltUser;41188365]She isn't perfect man, I know your hurt. She really hurt you, she can't be perfect. It took a good few arguments with my ex to see her bad side, you need to do what you can to find hers. If you ever need help then you can always message me, okay?[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the kind reply.
I'm having a hard time convincing myself that she isn't perfect. All I want right now is to message her and meet up with her, even though I know it will hurt. I won't do it because the consequences are far worse than what I'm currently experiencing.

I don't know why but I keep going back to see the picture of her. I miss her, a lot. It hurts when I do it but it hurts when I don't. Wish there was a simple way of forgetting things like these.

One thing which fuels a tiny spark in the little hope I have is that what she wanted to do with her freedom are things she isn't doing. It appears like things didn't turn out the way she expected, or she is coming up with reasons to separate. I think it is the latter.
I don't really know if there is anything to talk about regarding my ex and my current emotional state. I just have to live through it I guess?

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41188150]Here we go again...

I'm not sure how long ago it was since I told my self to remove my ex from social medias, but anyway, thing is I never did it. I just couldn't get myself to search for her name and unfollow and remove. So I told myself I'd remove her when I saw her post anything. And today she posted. An uneasy feeling went through me and I instantly felt the urge to just sit there and cry. I can't be mad at her or find any negative sides of her. She was so perfect in every way. I hate this. I was actually getting along pretty good with forgetting her but I was stupid enough to never remove her from anything. Now I've seen her again and she is back on my mind.

I unfollowed her on instagram where she posted the picture but I just couldn't keep it like that... As stupid as I am I went back in and followed her again. I just want to forget. :([/QUOTE]

You can message me too. You KNOW I get it :v:

She probably is perfect to you, that's how I feel about my ex. I can't find one bad thing about her. She hurt me, but it wasn't her intention to hurt me. Never was. She's never said a single thing that could be meant to hurt me, in fact she only ever tried to do just the opposite. But regardless that we've gotta get past it.

I think, maybe a decent way to think of it would be this: when you first met your ex, she wasn't quite perfect. You got to know her, and she was. So, any girl out there could end up being just as perfect once you get to know her. I came up with that just now. I think that's actually pretty good.

I think at this point something I'm still worried about is the same thing happening. Yeah, I get it, relationships end, it happens, but I kind of don't want it to. I'm serious about that sort of thing, when I was with my ex I had no intention of ever dating anyone else (though I'm not naive, I knew I would probably have to eventually). I don't want to have 50 different relationships throughout my life, honestly. I know it's not a bad thing, in fact it's really a good thing, but that's simply not what I want. I'm worried that the same thing will happen: I'll find someone, we'll be great, then she'll get to know me and think again, and decide she doesn't actually like me all that much.

[vlad]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41188506]You can message me too. You KNOW I get it :v:

She probably is perfect to you, that's how I feel about my ex. I can't find one bad thing about her. She hurt me, but it wasn't her intention to hurt me. Never was. She's never said a single thing that could be meant to hurt me, in fact she only ever tried to do just the opposite. But regardless that we've gotta get past it.

I think, maybe a decent way to think of it would be this: when you first met your ex, she wasn't quite perfect. You got to know her, and she was. So, any girl out there could end up being just as perfect once you get to know her. I came up with that just now. I think that's actually pretty good.

I think at this point something I'm still worried about is the same thing happening. Yeah, I get it, relationships end, it happens, but I kind of don't want it to. I'm serious about that sort of thing, when I was with my ex I had no intention of ever dating anyone else (though I'm not naive, I knew I would probably have to eventually). I don't want to have 50 different relationships throughout my life, honestly. I know it's not a bad thing, in fact it's really a good thing, but that's simply not what I want. I'm worried that the same thing will happen: I'll find someone, we'll be great, then she'll get to know me and think again, and decide she doesn't actually like me all that much.[/QUOTE]

I thought exactly the same thing about me and my ex. I never thought of dating anyone else or being together with anyone but her. I knew that the day would come but not so early compared to what I believed.

It's weird because me and my ex hit the spot really fast. :v: it only took about 10 days from we first saw each other to being sexually active. We even slept together and cuddled before 10 days had passed! So I've always seen her as perfect and fantastic. Which sucks right now. Was pretty stupid of me to allow myself to get so attached early on as well.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41188637]I thought exactly the same thing about me and my ex. I never thought of dating anyone else or being together with anyone but her. I knew that the day would come but not so early compared to what I believed.

It's weird because me and my ex hit the spot really fast. :v: it only took about 10 days from we first saw each other to being sexually active. We even slept together and cuddled before 10 days had passed! So I've always seen her as perfect and fantastic. Which sucks right now. Was pretty stupid of me to allow myself to get so attached early on as well.[/QUOTE]

sorry, you thought she was perfect because she slept with you a week after meeting you?

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41189430]sorry, you thought she was perfect because she slept with you a week after meeting you?[/QUOTE]

Pretty sure that's not what he meant. I became much more attached/infatuated with my ex when we started cuddling more and holding hands and whatnot. It's just sort of natural. And just because he said "so" doesn't mean that was the sole reason he thought she was perfect.

[MaverickIB]

Didn't I already say something about this? The reason why you think she's perfect is because things ended while you were still infatuated with her. It's like using meth and having it taken away before it got to the point of bad things happening to you. You see it as this perfect amazing thing you just want more of.

You need to realize she was never perfect. It was your infatuation telling you she was, and it's your infatuation telling you she still is. But she isn't, obviously she isn't perfect for you if she doesn't want to be with you.

Failure is part of life. You can't go around holding on to every failed relationship for dear life because you don't like going through the process again. You're going to meet someone else and feel the same way about them, and odds are things are going to go south again. Very few people get it right on their first try, and the few that do often didn't even get it right, they just forced themselves into it and aren't even happy. You gotta be the most bland person in the entire world to be willing to settle down with the first person you click with. It's like eating one thing and calling it your favorite food before trying anything else. Buying the first house you take a look at without bothering to see any others. It's a one-way ticket to living a life full of regret and what-ifs.

Move on already. You can do it, easily. You just haven't because you're being an idiot and listening to your infatuation. You haven't moved on because you don't want to, like an idiot. Hell, think of it this way, you don't even love the girl. The feelings you have, the whole deal with getting sad seeing her happy and all that jazz, they are extremely selfish. You don't give a flying fuck about her or her happiness, you just want your next fix. News flash, you can get that fix from someone else. Infatuation with someone else will feel exactly the same. The second you go and meet someone else, you will forget all about this chick, just how she has forgotten all about you.

Quite frankly, you have no right to sit here and bitch if you're in that position by choice. You're choosing not to move on. Either get over it and move on or stop crying about it.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE] Very few people get it right on their first try, and the few that do often didn't even get it right, they just forced themselves into it and aren't even happy. You gotta be the most bland person in the entire world to be willing to settle down with the first person you click with. It's like eating one thing and calling it your favorite food before trying anything else. Buying the first house you take a look at without bothering to see any others. It's a one-way ticket to living a life full of regret and what-ifs.[/QUOTE]

I still worry about this with my current relationship, hes not my first but i'm his. I really hope it doesn't come down to that lack of experience with anyone else ruining it some day...

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41190429]Didn't I already say something about this? The reason why you think she's perfect is because things ended while you were still infatuated with her. It's like using meth and having it taken away before it got to the point of bad things happening to you. You see it as this perfect amazing thing you just want more of.

You need to realize she was never perfect. It was your infatuation telling you she was, and it's your infatuation telling you she still is. But she isn't, obviously she isn't perfect for you if she doesn't want to be with you.

Failure is part of life. You can't go around holding on to every failed relationship for dear life because you don't like going through the process again. You're going to meet someone else and feel the same way about them, and odds are things are going to go south again. Very few people get it right on their first try, and the few that do often didn't even get it right, they just forced themselves into it and aren't even happy. You gotta be the most bland person in the entire world to be willing to settle down with the first person you click with. It's like eating one thing and calling it your favorite food before trying anything else. Buying the first house you take a look at without bothering to see any others. It's a one-way ticket to living a life full of regret and what-ifs.

Move on already. You can do it, easily. You just haven't because you're being an idiot and listening to your infatuation. You haven't moved on because you don't want to, like an idiot. Hell, think of it this way, you don't even love the girl. The feelings you have, the whole deal with getting sad seeing her happy and all that jazz, they are extremely selfish. You don't give a flying fuck about her or her happiness, you just want your next fix. News flash, you can get that fix from someone else. Infatuation with someone else will feel exactly the same. The second you go and meet someone else, you will forget all about this chick, just how she has forgotten all about you.

Quite frankly, you have no right to sit here and bitch if you're in that position by choice. You're choosing not to move on. Either get over it and move on or stop crying about it.[/QUOTE]

Not gonna argue with you there, but I feel like I need to defend myself or something.

I never said she was perfect for me, just that she as a person is perfect. Clearly she isn't perfect for me or none of this would be happening. She's just an awesome person. It's why I fell in love with her. At this point I wouldn't say I love her, though. It took me a while to come down from "love", I mean I still have some feelings for her, but I'm getting past that. I get the whole getting cut off in the middle of it thing, and that's probably why I'm saying she's perfect, but I'm sure a long time from now I'll still be able to say "Yeah she's a pretty awesome person", meanwhile I've found someone else who's perfect. She's perfect to me because she, at this point in my life, IS the most amazing person I've ever met. I don't entirely doubt I can't find someone just as great or better, though I feel it'll be incredibly difficult, not mentioning how almost every girl in my school is like a clone of the last.

I kind of can't help but hold on to things, I guess. I'm not consciously forcing myself not to let go of what I had with her, it's just hard for me. It's kind of always been hard for me to let go of things. And you know, now that I know how terrible it is, it'll probably be even harder next time. I can't move on easily, but the way I sound posting here makes it sound like I'm, well, being an idiot and listening to my infatuation. I even said straight up I didn't want to let go. I still kind of wish things hadn't ended. But, to be honest? That's all mostly because this place is my only outlet. I am moving on, but I guess as I go through the ups and downs, when I get to a down is when I post and sound so desperate. I guess right now I'm at an up.

So I mean no you're right I just feel stupid for some of my previous posts. I don't blame myself, but I certainly feel kind of stupid. And no, I honestly do care about her happiness, but I guess Guy Mannly put it rather well: I'm jealous. I don't really want to say that, because I'm not entirely sure I want to go as far as saying it's jealousy, but that's really the best way to describe it. She moved on in 3 days. It's taken me more than 3 months. It makes me feel like none of it meant anything to her, or at least not enough. I'm jealous that it was so easy for her. There are some other things but that's most of it.

Also, in terms of letting go, this was my first relationship, ever. In my Junior year of High School. I only have one year of High School left, and I feel like if there was anyone very compatible for me here, I would've met them by now. So I, among other things, feel like I'm going to have to wait until college, which I'm already unsure about where I'm gonna go and what I'm gonna do, and with love being such a stupidly important thing in my life, it's frustrating. She was the first person to show me love, and what it meant to be in a relationship and truly happy, and I learned so much with her, and I feel like it's either going to be ages until I find someone, or never. Which I kind of get is naive, to think I'll never find anyone, but it isn't impossible, and I already have pretty low self-esteem. Once I move on, I can just get on with life, and whatever happens happens, I guess.

also I am a pretty bland person in some respects :v:

edit: my god I wrote more than I meant to.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41190968]Not gonna argue with you there, but I feel like I need to defend myself or something.

I never said she was perfect for me, just that she as a person is perfect. Clearly she isn't perfect for me or none of this would be happening. She's just an awesome person. It's why I fell in love with her. At this point I wouldn't say I love her, though. It took me a while to come down from "love", I mean I still have some feelings for her, but I'm getting past that. I get the whole getting cut off in the middle of it thing, and that's probably why I'm saying she's perfect, but I'm sure a long time from now I'll still be able to say "Yeah she's a pretty awesome person", meanwhile I've found someone else who's perfect. She's perfect to me because she, at this point in my life, IS the most amazing person I've ever met. I don't entirely doubt I can't find someone just as great or better, though I feel it'll be incredibly difficult, not mentioning how almost every girl in my school is like a clone of the last.[/QUOTE]

so what you're saying is you didn't read anything mav said.

[editline]25th June 2013[/editline]

"yes i agree with you that i'm infatuated with this girl and thats why she appears perfect to me when she's actually not, but i can assure you that she is objectively perfect and objectively the coolest person that exists"

[editline]26th June 2013[/editline]

whether or not you've decided she's "more perfect" than every other person you know that's still infatuation clouding your judgment. how many other people have you gotten to know to the same depth as her?

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41191231]so what you're saying is you didn't read anything mav said.

[editline]25th June 2013[/editline]

"yes i agree with you that i'm infatuated with this girl and thats why she appears perfect to me when she's actually not, but i can assure you that she is objectively perfect and objectively the coolest person that exists"[/QUOTE]

More like "yes i agree with you that i'm infatuated with this girl and thats why she appears perfect to me when she's actually not, but at this point in my life I still view her as perfect because I haven't met anyone better" You know, like I said. And years from now I will still think she's awesome, but by then hopefully I'll be calling someone else perfect. In other words, I am acknowledging that it is infatuation that brings the word 'perfect' into play.

I don't get why you keep pulling negative context out of posts where there is none. I read everything he said, actively brought it up within that post, and agreed with most of it. What are you talking about?

[editline]25th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41191231]
whether or not you've decided she's "more perfect" than every other person you know that's still infatuation clouding your judgment. how many other people have you gotten to know to the same depth as her?[/QUOTE]

Exactly, I haven't, so as far as I can see there is no one better. As far as I can see. That's all I meant.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41191318]
Exactly, I haven't, so as far as I can see there is no one better. As far as I can see. That's all I meant.[/QUOTE]

Well, you need to try to see further than her.
If you compare girls to the one your infatuated with, the other girls will always fall short.
I know it's hard, but sometimes it's part of life.
I was hung up on a girl myself for way to long and regretted it quite a bit afterwards.
Infatuation is a bitch.

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=conan96;41191391]Well, you need to try to see further than her.
If you compare girls to the one your infatuated with, the other girls will always fall short.
I know it's hard, but sometimes it's part of life.
I was hung up on a girl myself for way to long and regretted it quite a bit afterwards.
Infatuation is a bitch.[/QUOTE]

That is a good point, and a good way to put it. I didn't think about it like that, and that's exactly what I've been doing this whole time, to an extent. I keep feeling like I won't have what I had with her and that discourages me. Well, I won't have what I had with her, but I need to get used to the fact that that's irrelevant, and that I can have something new. So, okay, thanks.

[Goldenmyer]

When my ex called it quits after a year together I was like really bummed. I had like cried myself to sleep one night. We basically broke up because she wanted to be able to "go crazy" in college and we were starting to drift apart anyways. It's been almost 2 months since then and I'm pretty sure I'm over her now. I still follow her on twitter and I get a small pain sometimes but for the most part I think it was for the best. After the breakup I could see how she really was and realized that she was not the type of person I wanted to be with. She was my first serious girlfriend too.

I started talking to an old female friend a few days after we split and when we finally got a chance to hang out last week and the whole time we were holding hand and sitting on each others laps and stuff. She's the exact type of girl I like and we have perfect chemistry too, we almost kissed at the end of the night but I chose not to because I wanted to save it for the next time when we had more alone time. We have a movie date tomorrow (today?) at my house so I'm probably gonna go for it then. She's a good friend to my ex and is afraid that my ex will hate her because she and I are thinking about being more then just friends. I'm going to a new college in the fall so I'll be okay with whatever happens but I would REALLY like if we became something. I enjoy talking to her more then I did my ex when we were dating.

[thisispain]

infatuation should be something silly and stupid, not something serious but you make it serious by rationalising your emotions when you should just realise theyre dumb rationalisations and not worth taking seriously.

stop typing them up and waiting for someone on the internet to legitimize your feelings, thats a bad thing

the only reason you might think someone is perfect is because its convenient to your ego to think so, theyre perfect and they were with me ergo they were perfect.

[Babyarm-bat]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41190461]I still worry about this with my current relationship, hes not my first but i'm his. I really hope it doesn't come down to that lack of experience with anyone else ruining it some day...[/QUOTE]

Same but i'm putting faith in my gf really loving me like she says she does. I figure its not worth the anxiety worrying about that, if I get hurt I learn something, but I"m not expecting to get hurt at all, OPTIMISM. Don't worry I'm not worrying who's worrying

[lum1naire]

i just got rejected for being too short by a girl (I stand at around 5'8 maybe 5'9 on a good day)

i asked a lady friend about this and she said some girls actually legitimately care about what kind of heels they can wear with another guy

what the fock. getting rejected for shit like that is a real self esteem killer

[editline]26th June 2013[/editline]

maybe she was just trying to find another way to tell me she doesn't find me attractive idk

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=lum1naire;41193228]i just got rejected for being too short by a girl (I stand at around 5'8 maybe 5'9 on a good day)

i asked a lady friend about this and she said some girls actually legitimately care about what kind of heels they can wear with another guy

what the fock. getting rejected for shit like that is a real self esteem killer

[editline]26th June 2013[/editline]

maybe she was just trying to find another way to tell me she doesn't find me attractive idk[/QUOTE]

The fuck? 5'9" ain't short by any standard. My friend is that height and he towers above most girls. He towers above most people too. Are you sure that's how tall you are?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;41192494]yep same reason i periodically freak my shit[/QUOTE]

lack of relationship experience aside, my boyfriend and i used to have the same sort of paranoia about the other person finding someone better, all you can really do is know that your partner probably feels the same way. if they're as worried as you are then it means they probably care about the relationship as much as you do

[Altec100]

I'm way too shy at parties, but I just don't want to meet others. My friends are all about the party life and having girlfriends but I just want to do my own thing and have others listen to me because I feel like no one does. I miss High School guys.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41193303]The fuck? 5'9" ain't short by any standard. My friend is that height and he towers above most girls. He towers above most people too. Are you sure that's how tall you are?[/QUOTE]

i'm 5'10" and it seems pretty average to me

[editline]26th June 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Altec100;41193668]I'm way too shy at parties, but I just don't want to meet others. My friends are all about the party life and having girlfriends but I just want to do my own thing and have others listen to me because I feel like no one does. I miss High School guys.[/QUOTE]

what exactly are you saying here? that you don't like being around people but want them to pay attention to you anyways, or that you don't want to expand your group of friends?

[Altec100]

I guess it would be I want new friends. I also find partying something not worth to be pursuing I hope I'm not alone on that.

[thisispain]

you want new friends but you dont want to meet people

[Loopoo]

If you don't like the typical parties where it's a huge amount of people drinking copious amounts of alcohol and doing crazy shit, there are the smaller types of parties where it's a bunch of good friends doing whatever it is the smallish group likes. I prefer the latter, it's much nicer, but every now and then a crazy party is nice.

I don't think you've been to many parties if you're willing to class them all as "not worth pursuing".

[BigJoeyLemons]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41194043]If you don't like the typical parties where it's a huge amount of people drinking copious amounts of alcohol and doing crazy shit, there are the smaller types of parties where it's a bunch of good friends doing whatever it is the smallish group likes. I prefer the latter, it's much nicer, but every now and then a crazy party is nice.

I don't think you've been to many parties if you're willing to class them all as "not worth pursuing".[/QUOTE]

I literally only read this post, but one of the best parts of crazy parties is staying sober and messing with all the drunk people. Once I asked a blazed friend what his favorite color is, and his ultimate answer was "...Am [I]I[/I] my favorite color?"

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41190968]
She moved on in 3 days. It's taken me more than 3 months. It makes me feel like none of it meant anything to her, or at least not enough. I'm jealous that it was so easy for her. There are some other things but that's most of it.[/quote]

It was easy because her infatuation phase ended so she never went through withdrawals. You can still move on just as easily, but like I said, you've been choosing not to. It hasn't been "difficult" for you to move on. That'd be like me saying it's difficult for me to go to the gym when the actual process of doing so is easy, I'm just choosing to sit here and put it off. You can't choose not to do something then say you're having a hard time, you aren't even trying.

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Also, in terms of letting go, this was my first relationship, ever. In my Junior year of High School. I only have one year of High School left, and I feel like if there was anyone very compatible for me here, I would've met them by now. So I, among other things, feel like I'm going to have to wait until college, which I'm already unsure about where I'm gonna go and what I'm gonna do, and with love being such a stupidly important thing in my life, it's frustrating. She was the first person to show me love, and what it meant to be in a relationship and truly happy, and I learned so much with her, and I feel like it's either going to be ages until I find someone, or never. Which I kind of get is naive, to think I'll never find anyone, but it isn't impossible, and I already have pretty low self-esteem. Once I move on, I can just get on with life, and whatever happens happens, I guess.
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This entire paragraph is stupid. Plain and simple. High school? Really? You think high school is the end of you meeting people? Hahahaha, oh fucking wow. You haven't even met a quarter of the people you will meet in your lifetime. Even if you don't go to college, you're going to meet a shitload of people in everyday life. How can you say there's nobody compatible with you there when you can't even be assed to look? You're spending all your time wound up on this one whore, how much time have you actually spent looking? And I mean actually looking, not pointing at every girl and thinking of how much more "perfect" the chick who left you is.

She didn't show you love. She showed you infatuation. You have absolutely no idea what love is. This shit you're feeling, all the jealousy, inability to move on, sadness, that isn't love.

I'm pretty sure I've said this before, but you're being an idiot thinking she was the only one for a long time. At the end of the day, the only reason why it might be a long time before you find someone else is because you're wasting all this time moping about your ex. No shit you're not going to find any of that again if you aren't even out looking, what, you think it's just going to drop into your lap? Some chick is going to see you moping about your ex and think that's attractive?

I guarantee if you fight your infatuation and stop trying to rationalize all of your stupid feelings, move the fuck on, and meet someone else, you're going to realize just how much of a fucking idiot you were. You're going to think, "Wow, everything I was thinking and feeling was retarded." I know because I've been in that same boat. Hell, I actually loved, legitimately loved, a girl and lost her. Spent a summer being a little bitch about it, thought it would be forever before I met someone like that again, locked myself inside for a while but then decided to get back into the world despite how pointless it felt. Right around a year after it happened, I just randomly stumbled across an amazing girl I fell in love with and have been best friends with for the past 3 years. I say randomly stumbled because she was the one who approached me and asked me out. That wouldn't have happened if I was still some whiny bitch who never wanted to do anything fun because waaah waaah waaah I will never find love again.

Every second you spend CHOOSING to mope about this is a second you could have met the next important person in your life. You are the one denying yourself opportunities. It isn't that there's nobody else who is compatible, it's that you're refusing to even look.