Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[♠️♥️♦️♣️]

so if anyone remembers my alleged girlfriend (she said we were going out, shits weird) didn't text me at all for a week even though i texted her 3 times just asking for 1 reply her to just let me know what's up

she just told me today she was really busy and had no time to text back (she went to washington for the week) but reeealllyy i'm sure a text saying "hey i'm sorry i'm really tied up here" is so time consuming to send so it's a little obvious she just didn't want to talk to me

basically what happened was last friday she got mad at me for being mad at her after a party where she was kinda antisocial towards me and didn't even let me know she was even leaving

tbh it was retarded for me to be mad since she was feeling sick, but i don't think it would be such a big deal that she would completely ignore me for a week because of it

i haven't replied and i'm considering ending things because this is a little ridiculous

i want someone else's thoughts tho because i'm just really bummed out and not thinking straight

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Mobon1;41232125]so if anyone remembers my alleged girlfriend (she said we were going out, shits weird) didn't text me at all for a week even though i texted her 3 times just asking for 1 reply her to just let me know what's up

she just told me today she was really busy and had no time to text back (she went to washington for the week) but reeealllyy i'm sure a text saying "hey i'm sorry i'm really tied up here" is so time consuming to send so it's a little obvious she just didn't want to talk to me

basically what happened was last friday she got mad at me for being mad at her after a party where she was kinda antisocial towards me and didn't even let me know she was even leaving

tbh it was retarded for me to be mad since she was feeling sick, but i don't think it would be such a big deal that she would completely ignore me for a week because of it

i haven't replied and i'm considering ending things because this is a little ridiculous

i want someone else's thoughts tho because i'm just really bummed out and not thinking straight[/QUOTE]

Where do you guys live cause I know going different areas in America you can get charged roaming charges for texting and stuff. But she might have been taking the week to cool off and let it just settle for a while. Its up to you really if you want to end it, if thats going to be a problem for you guys do you think it can/will change to some compromise in the future or not?

[Boss]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;41230810]I came to same realization a couple days ago, I realized I was being a cunt on dota 2 because of how shitty everything has become after I failed university.

Its not a good realization.

It sounds childish I know but its really become the only way I vent out my anger at how my life is spiraling into shit.[/QUOTE]

This mentality is pretty retarded and anyone who thinks its acceptable needs to re assess themselves. No wonder he failed.

[♠️♥️♦️♣️]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41232489]Where do you guys live cause I know going different areas in America you can get charged roaming charges for texting and stuff. But she might have been taking the week to cool off and let it just settle for a while. Its up to you really if you want to end it, if thats going to be a problem for you guys do you think it can/will change to some compromise in the future or not?[/QUOTE]

we live over in Pennsylvania so i'm pretty sure it's not about the roaming charges haha. i just don't think somethings really right between us if she needs a whole week just to cool down over it, ya know? it's her first relationship and we've been going out for like 2 months and haven't even kissed because every time i go out with her she ends up feeling sick. i have to make all the conversation with her because she gives me like sentence replies all the time, kind of like she's busy thinking about something else. it's so fucking weird and i feel unwanted but her friends (and her) tell me she's so into me. back when we were just friends i feel like she talked more and i really enjoyed it. now she avoids showing attraction towards me. she told me she's afraid of being clingy and obsessive when i jokingly asked why she's afraid of acting like she likes me. my friends even told me every story i've told that she's been involved has been really negative, haha.

i feel so confused with everything and i hate it, but i'm kinda infatuated i guess. i just want shit between me and a girl to work out for once i guess haha.

huge fucking rant aside i asked her to have a serious conversation about stuff but she hasn't replied.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Mobon1;41232850]we live over in Pennsylvania so i'm pretty sure it's not about the roaming charges haha. i just don't think somethings really right between us if she needs a whole week just to cool down over it, ya know? it's her first relationship and we've been going out for like 2 months and haven't even kissed because every time i go out with her she ends up feeling sick. i have to make all the conversation with her because she gives me like sentence replies all the time, kind of like she's busy thinking about something else. it's so fucking weird and i feel unwanted but her friends (and her) tell me she's so into me. back when we were just friends i feel like she talked more and i really enjoyed it. now she avoids showing attraction towards me. she told me she's afraid of being clingy and obsessive when i jokingly asked why she's afraid of acting like she likes me. my friends even told me every story i've told that she's been involved has been really negative, haha.

i feel so confused with everything and i hate it, but i'm kinda infatuated i guess. i just want shit between me and a girl to work out for once i guess haha.

huge fucking rant aside i asked her to have a serious conversation about stuff but she hasn't replied.[/QUOTE]

Well i know we have heard that situation before and its cause the girl is nervous now she is with you not to screw it up. I dunno i guess my suggestion would be to really sit down and talk that out with her and if she gets mad or if a resolution cant be found then ya its probably best to just move on. But ya know, talk and give her a chance to fix it first?

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=Mobon1;41232850]we live over in Pennsylvania so i'm pretty sure it's not about the roaming charges haha. i just don't think somethings really right between us if she needs a whole week just to cool down over it, ya know? it's her first relationship and we've been going out for like 2 months and haven't even kissed because every time i go out with her she ends up feeling sick. i have to make all the conversation with her because she gives me like sentence replies all the time, kind of like she's busy thinking about something else. it's so fucking weird and i feel unwanted but her friends (and her) tell me she's so into me. back when we were just friends i feel like she talked more and i really enjoyed it. now she avoids showing attraction towards me. she told me she's afraid of being clingy and obsessive when i jokingly asked why she's afraid of acting like she likes me. my friends even told me every story i've told that she's been involved has been really negative, haha.

i feel so confused with everything and i hate it, but i'm kinda infatuated i guess. i just want shit between me and a girl to work out for once i guess haha.

huge fucking rant aside i asked her to have a serious conversation about stuff but she hasn't replied.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, what Rhenae said. You should tell her you feel like your relationship is suffering because of all this miscommunication and that you guys really need to sit down and seriously talk it all out. It seems like such a minor thing, you getting mistakenly mad at her at a party, to end a relationship over. Of course I get there's more than that but still.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Mobon1;41232125]so if anyone remembers my alleged girlfriend (she said we were going out, shits weird) didn't text me at all for a week even though i texted her 3 times just asking for 1 reply her to just let me know what's up

she just told me today she was really busy and had no time to text back (she went to washington for the week) but reeealllyy i'm sure a text saying "hey i'm sorry i'm really tied up here" is so time consuming to send so it's a little obvious she just didn't want to talk to me

basically what happened was last friday she got mad at me for being mad at her after a party where she was kinda antisocial towards me and didn't even let me know she was even leaving

tbh it was retarded for me to be mad since she was feeling sick, but i don't think it would be such a big deal that she would completely ignore me for a week because of it

i haven't replied and i'm considering ending things because this is a little ridiculous

i want someone else's thoughts tho because i'm just really bummed out and not thinking straight[/QUOTE]

it only takes a few seconds to write hey i'm sorry i'm really tied up here

sometimes in the middle while i'm cooking i write something real quick while i'm waiting for it to heat up real quick, i mean it applies to more things than that too

but it is a pretty big deal when someone gets mad at you for no reason

in a place as large as a party

[raybloke545]

Hey guys. So I have this issue and I hope you would read and advice me.

There's this girl I had a crush on in a swimming competition. I liked her and I knew my best mate also fancied her and had a crush on her.
She had a boyfriend and so I forgot about her and moved on. I knew my best mate did to and moved on.

Recently did she break up with her boyfriend because her boyfriend had a cheating issue. Her family went to London. My best mate is going to uni in London and she met him. Also did she recently start talking to me on Facebook. She told me that she was going to meet him as friends, etc and go to the Harry Potter studio as well as some places in London with him as friends. My best mate also had a girlfriend beforehand and my crush kept on asking about their relationship and how they broke up. I didn't know and I didn't care so I never told her but I asked whether she had any interest in my friend and she said no because she's so far away from him blah blah blah and she also said "I'm more rational than that."

Later on, she sent me an inbox saying she's coming to Malaysia, the country I am currently staying in and asked we should meet. My best friend also came from London for his 3 months summer vacation. I insisted her and I should meet up on Friday evening and she said yes and how we would go eat dinner. I was trying to set up a date with her essentially. On the day she arrived, which was yesterday, she said that she couldn't and she was meeting her friends.

At around midnight, I asked her the place and location to meet and in the morning I woke up with a few messages. Her messages were revealing how she met my best friend last night. Told me that she went drinking and how her family and her friend's family met. Her family and my best friend's family thought I also went out with them. When their families met, she and my best friend said that I also went out but because I had to go swimming in the morning I bailed out early and did not go.

I'm suppose to meet her today in the evening. She told me she was going shopping and her parents would be there and how I should play along with the set up her and my best friend pulled.

Thing is, after reading these texts, I feel betrayed with both my best and her. Should I go meet her? Is it a done deal? Is it possible I can turn things around? I now know I've been in the friendzone and that all I was, was a set up and connection link between my best friend and her.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=raybloke545;41234816]Hey guys. So I have this issue and I hope you would read and advice me.

There's this girl I had a crush on in a swimming competition. I liked her and I knew my best mate also fancied her and had a crush on her.
She had a boyfriend and so I forgot about her and moved on. I knew my best mate did to and moved on.

Recently did she break up with her boyfriend because her boyfriend had a cheating issue. Her family went to London. My best mate is going to uni in London and she met him. Also did she recently start talking to me on Facebook. She told me that she was going to meet him as friends, etc and go to the Harry Potter studio as well as some places in London with him as friends. My best mate also had a girlfriend beforehand and my crush kept on asking about their relationship and how they broke up. I didn't know and I didn't care so I never told her but I asked whether she had any interest in my friend and she said no because she's so far away from him blah blah blah and she also said "I'm more rational than that."

Later on, she sent me an inbox saying she's coming to Malaysia, the country I am currently staying in and asked we should meet. My best friend also came from London for his 3 months summer vacation. I insisted her and I should meet up on Friday evening and she said yes and how we would go eat dinner. I was trying to set up a date with her essentially. On the day she arrived, which was yesterday, she said that she couldn't and she was meeting her friends.

At around midnight, I asked her the place and location to meet and in the morning I woke up with a few messages. Her messages were revealing how she met my best friend last night. Told me that she went drinking and how her family and her friend's family met. Her family and my best friend's family thought I also went out with them. When their families met, she and my best friend said that I also went out but because I had to go swimming in the morning I bailed out early and did not go.

I'm suppose to meet her today in the evening. She told me she was going shopping and her parents would be there and how I should play along with the set up her and my best friend pulled.

Thing is, after reading these texts, I feel betrayed with both my best and her. Should I go meet her? Is it a done deal? Is it possible I can turn things around? I now know I've been in the friendzone and that all I was, was a set up and connection link between my best friend and her.[/QUOTE]

I think she's made up her mind. She seems to be interested in your best friend.
I feel like you're going to be the third wheel in this situation if you keep trying to go after her.
It would be less hassle for you to just try and find someone else instead.

[Prez]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I wanted to paste it from the "What is your deepest/darkest secret" thread.

I have been depressed for a long time. Not clinically diagnosed or anything but I've always just felt so... down about everything, I don't know why. My life is great, I have a good job with a good amount of friends, and I'm going to school for something I really want to do. My family is great and very supportive of everything I do. But for some reason, I always just feel so... alone and sometimes I feel like I'm going to just collapse. I've been sort of stressed lately and I haven't been able to sleep earlier than 4-5am every day for the last month or so.

Also, I've been having huge self-confidence issues lately. I was in cadets for 7 years so I have great leadership skills and the like, but I feel so small and that everyone is better than me all the time.

[zenby]

I had an idea that I think is a bit high risk but I feel like it might work

Basically, when I manage to get a hold of this girl in realtime, I'll mention that I've been having trouble sleeping because I've been thinking ahead (something we've talked about and both do)

Then if she asks what I was thinking about, I'll just say "I've been trying to figure out a way to mention that you've got a great personality, but I just haven't had a chance" or something along those lines

Any thoughts?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41235740]I had an idea that I think is a bit high risk but I feel like it might work

Basically, when I manage to get a hold of this girl in realtime, I'll mention that I've been having trouble sleeping because I've been thinking ahead (something we've talked about and both do)

Then if she asks what I was thinking about, I'll just say "I've been trying to figure out a way to mention that you've got a great personality, but I just haven't had a chance" or something along those lines

Any thoughts?[/QUOTE]

baiting a question like that not only is really cheesy but makes it obvious that you planned what you were going to say.

instead of trying to invent your own pickup line why don't you just be straightforward with her?

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41235740]I had an idea that I think is a bit high risk but I feel like it might work

Basically, when I manage to get a hold of this girl in realtime, I'll mention that I've been having trouble sleeping because I've been thinking ahead (something we've talked about and both do)

Then if she asks what I was thinking about, I'll just say "I've been trying to figure out a way to mention that you've got a great personality, but I just haven't had a chance" or something along those lines

Any thoughts?[/QUOTE]

what are you even trying to do????

[raybloke545]

[QUOTE=conan96;41235312]I think she's made up her mind. She seems to be interested in your best friend.
I feel like you're going to be the third wheel in this situation if you keep trying to go after her.
It would be less hassle for you to just try and find someone else instead.[/QUOTE]

Since the evening is coming closer every minute, I should decline the whole thingy I set up tonight right?

[conan96]

[QUOTE=raybloke545;41236569]Since the evening is coming closer every minute, I should decline the whole thingy I set up tonight right?[/QUOTE]

I guess so. It's up to you.
If you feel like it's worth another shot, then go ahead. Though I personally think that canceling would be the best option at this point if you don't want to risk being betrayed again.

[Flapadar]

[QUOTE=conan96;41236822]I guess so. It's up to you.
If you feel like it's worth another shot, then go ahead. Though I personally think that canceling would be the best option at this point if you don't want to risk being betrayed again.[/QUOTE]

What's the point in that? May as well go for broke, see if she actually is interested or not.

I think he should go through with whatever's set up, and if she's not interested: bail. But not give up now.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41235740]I had an idea that I think is a bit high risk but I feel like it might work

Basically, when I manage to get a hold of this girl in realtime, I'll mention that I've been having trouble sleeping because I've been thinking ahead (something we've talked about and both do)

Then if she asks what I was thinking about, I'll just say "I've been trying to figure out a way to mention that you've got a great personality, but I just haven't had a chance" or something along those lines

Any thoughts?[/QUOTE]

will not work

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41235740]I had an idea that I think is a bit high risk but I feel like it might work

Basically, when I manage to get a hold of this girl in realtime, I'll mention that I've been having trouble sleeping because I've been thinking ahead (something we've talked about and both do)

Then if she asks what I was thinking about, I'll just say "I've been trying to figure out a way to mention that you've got a great personality, but I just haven't had a chance" or something along those lines

Any thoughts?[/QUOTE]

Read what you just wrote and think about how ridiculous that sounds.

"Man I totally can't sleep at night because I can't possible find a way to tell you what a great personality you have!"

[AshMan]

So I asked a girl out from work, and it was kind of a half yes/i'm really busy at the moment response. Good/bad sign? I guess all I can do is let it sit.

[zenby]

Yeah I think I shouldn't let myself near my phone in middle of the night, after sleeping holy hell that's a terrible idea that should have never escaped my sleep-deprived brain

[conan96]

[QUOTE=Flapadar;41237121]What's the point in that? May as well go for broke, see if she actually is interested or not.

I think he should go through with whatever's set up, and if she's not interested: bail. But not give up now.[/QUOTE]

You have a point.
I guess it's worth trying at least to see if she's interested I guess.
But I still think she's only out to use him for his friend.

[Darth_Kris]

Don't know if it's the right thread.
The thing is that I feel that everyone more or less hates me (except my family of course).

[Jauho]

no they dont, theres always some people who love you and trust you.

[dmillerw]

Here's hoping I'm not being too forward, but I'm gonna try and get her to a showing of Les Miserables.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=AshMan55;41238891]So I asked a girl out from work, and it was kind of a half yes/i'm really busy at the moment response. Good/bad sign? I guess all I can do is let it sit.[/QUOTE]

It might be the girls version of a polite no, as in, I dont want to hurt you by saying no, but I wont say yes either.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Zar;41242834]It might be the girls version of a polite no, as in, I dont want to hurt you by saying no, but I wont say yes either.[/QUOTE]

if it was supposed to be a "polite no" it would've included the word "no"
giving mixed messages is not a good way to reject people

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Zar;41242834]It might be the girls version of a polite no, as in, I dont want to hurt you by saying no, but I wont say yes either.[/QUOTE]

Or ya know, some people are [I]actually busy[/I]. Its a neutral sign, its more obvious which is which when you actually get down to figuring out a time and place for a date

[AshMan]

Thanks guys. We'll see :)

[dmillerw]

I ended up telling the girl I'm interested that I liked her. I definitely rushed it, but at least I didn't ruin anything.

[QUOTE]I think I know where you are going with this, and if I'm right, I'm not really ready for a relationship, and I know you like me, [friend] told me[/QUOTE]

So... yeah. I'll just leave it be unless she brings it up again. Not being ready is definitely understandable though, given her situation. I probably should've waited.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41244122]if it was supposed to be a "polite no" it would've included the word "no"
giving mixed messages is not a good way to reject people[/QUOTE]

didnt say it was a good way, but some girls find it better to for example answer with "maybe". doesnt apply to all girls either, but it cqn happen