• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Gulen;41256218]A little update on my story, these are txts from the last ~40 minutes:[/QUOTE] Aw, that could've gone so much worse
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41254882]Telling someone you like them, or finding a way for them to find out on their own, is universally a bad idea. I mean, sure, you can get outrageously lucky and have it work, but the odds are so slim, it's just a bad decision all the way around. Because how is someone supposed to react to that? If someone I knew came out of nowhere and said, "I like you," how am I supposed to respond to that? "Okay?" "Y-you too?" It's hard to respond to because it's a dead-end statement and leaves the other person wondering what your motivations are. Like someone? Ask them out. Asking someone out is the universal way of saying, "I like you," without outright saying it and making things awkward. You might have actually had a chance with this girl if you woulda just asked her out instead of doing things so awkwardly, you shot yourself in the foot bigtime by going about business like a child. Because even if she didn't have feelings for you to begin with, most people are up to going on a date and giving things a shot regardless. Could have changed her mind. There's no such redemption to be found in confessing your feelings for someone.[/QUOTE] This. Telling someone you like them = BAD MOTHERFUCKING IDEA. I know from experience. [editline]afd[/editline] [QUOTE]9:26 PM - (friend): i got pretty sick 9:26 PM - (friend): but im okay now :) 9:26 PM - (friend): im just reallly hot 9:27 PM - B McG: haha you bet ;) [/QUOTE] I got a "hahahahha well thank you :)" in return. I'm such a pro at this. ...lol
Ugh Facepunch I need help: At work tonight (I serve ice cream alone at a portable stand at a baseball stadium), two girls that looked fairly younger than me came up to me, giggling and laughing. One of them was fairly porky and brunette, the other was a bit slimmer and blonde (and not that bad tbh). They kept changing their order "in a cute way" and looked at me with dumb looks on their faces (in my opinion). When I'm ringing them up one of them said gigglingly if I thought they were dumb. I laughed and said nah. Later they came back, same amount of giggling around me and got more ice cream. Then like 5 minutes after that the porky one ran up to me and dropped a piece of paper on my stand with her number written on the back with a "Call me :)" after it. What do I do? I'm not really looking for a relationship and if I was it would probably be someone more my age. I also don't really want to take the chance that its the porky one. It seems to me like I have three options: 1) Don't call/text her 2) Text her that I'm in a relationship atm (lie) 3) For some reason text her The only problem I can see with 1 is the possibility of running into her at future games and it being awkward. Though I could just say that I lost it or the number got washed out in the washing machine in my pocket. Help!
If I was in your position I would just tell her she's too young
I just wouldn't call back, you don't want a relationship why bother? She shouldnt really need a call to get the idea your not interested
So! Invited to a girl's place for "drinks" about a day from now Just the two of us I've been crushing on this girl for god knows how long, and I'm kind of nervous. Do I just play it cool and let the evening unfold, or should I be more outgoing than that?
That kinda reminds me of a funny story. Late one night I was delivering for Jimmy John's and a lady answered the door. I realized I forgot her chips and told her I would be back to give them to her. She says I don't have to and I tell her it's no big deal and go back for them anyways. So I take them back and she hands me a mini altoids box wrapped in a dollar. Back at my car, I check it and inside is weed (I don't smoke) and a lighter burnt note detailing her full name, age (she was 36, twice my age), phone number, and a comment informing me she liked apple sauce. I never called her back but sometimes I wish I had at least telling her I was half her age and in a relationship already. Oh well, at least it gave me a good story to tell. [editline]1st July 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=ewitwins;41260060]So! Invited to a girl's place for "drinks" about a day from now Just the two of us I've been crushing on this girl for god knows how long, and I'm kind of nervous. Do I just play it cool and let the evening unfold, or should I be more outgoing than that?[/QUOTE] What do you mean by more outgoing. Also, it sounds like she's into you, being its just the two of you.
I hate being friends with two people that are/were dating they have been going off and on since January or such and they just broke up again a week ago (we're friends so we always hang out and such) and now my guy friend goes off to say I checked my female friend out quoting that she's down on her looks and if she comes up saying that if I think she's cute to say yeah she is. I leave after fall semester of college, but that's too far away, any tips to get out of this? Edit: Another problem is that my friend (who's interested in someone else) was driving her home and this guy complained that he could be flirting with her.
I think I might ask the girl I've been talking to out next week after a bit more face-to-face time Is "Do you want to go see a movie sometime?" a good way to word it or what would be
"Would you like to partake in a joyous evening at the screening room?" I mean sometimes you have to go that extra mile to nab that special person, you know?
[QUOTE=ZenX2;41263941]I think I might ask the girl I've been talking to out next week after a bit more face-to-face time Is "Do you want to go see movie sometime?" a good way to word it or what would be[/QUOTE] Seems fine. But if you go to the movie on a first date you won't really get to talk much.
[QUOTE=AshMan55;41264029]Seems fine. But if you go to the movie on a first date you won't really get to talk much.[/QUOTE] Well we're not really strangers and we live ridiculously close to each other so we could easily hang out before/after, I don't think it's a problem
Ah okay no worries then
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41254882]Telling someone you like them, or finding a way for them to find out on their own, is universally a bad idea. I mean, sure, you can get outrageously lucky and have it work, but the odds are so slim, it's just a bad decision all the way around. Because how is someone supposed to react to that? If someone I knew came out of nowhere and said, "I like you," how am I supposed to respond to that? "Okay?" "Y-you too?" It's hard to respond to because it's a dead-end statement and leaves the other person wondering what your motivations are. Like someone? Ask them out. Asking someone out is the universal way of saying, "I like you," without outright saying it and making things awkward. You might have actually had a chance with this girl if you woulda just asked her out instead of doing things so awkwardly, you shot yourself in the foot bigtime by going about business like a child. Because even if she didn't have feelings for you to begin with, most people are up to going on a date and giving things a shot regardless. Could have changed her mind. There's no such redemption to be found in confessing your feelings for someone.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I did majorly fuck it up. However, I'm not entirely sure I got a full on no. I'm just not mentioning anything related to it to her for the time being. We're still good friends, hanging out, and all that jazz, so that's what I'll go with for now. Her saying she wasn't ready for another relationship, while potentially just her way of saying no, is also quite valid given what she's been through. So I'll just see what happens.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;41260060]So! Invited to a girl's place for "drinks" about a day from now Just the two of us I've been crushing on this girl for god knows how long, and I'm kind of nervous. Do I just play it cool and let the evening unfold, or should I be more outgoing than that?[/QUOTE] You're invited to her place. For drinks. And it's just gonna be the two of you. I'm gonna let you in on a little secret here: She likes you. As for what you should do, go with what she wants, but try to push a little bit further (subtly) Like in improv, there's no no. (Unless she says No, then a no is a no!)
[QUOTE=loopoo;41264014]"Would you like to partake in a joyous evening at the screening room?" I mean sometimes you have to go that extra mile to nab that special person, you know?[/QUOTE] worked for me, idk why all the funnies??
[QUOTE=AshMan55;41264092]Ah okay no worries then[/QUOTE] Sweet, I don't like worries I was thinking that I would ask her through facebook but now it seems like it would be a better idea to ask her the next time I see her in person
I always feel like asking in person, or even over the phone/sms is a whole lot better than facebook. Facebook just seems so impersonal to me (how ironic)
[QUOTE=dmillerw;41264586]Yeah, I did majorly fuck it up. However, I'm not entirely sure I got a full on no. I'm just not mentioning anything related to it to her for the time being. We're still good friends, hanging out, and all that jazz, so that's what I'll go with for now. Her saying she wasn't ready for another relationship, while potentially just her way of saying no, is also quite valid given what she's been through. So I'll just see what happens.[/QUOTE] "Not ready for another relationship," is almost always a surefire no. Because if she actually liked you, she would take the chance of entering a relationship regardless of how "ready" she is. Think of it this way. Most girls who are single, aside from the ones who have been in relationships their whole lives and NEED to go from relationship to relationship, love being single. They love the freedom to talk to whatever, most never sit there and go, "I really wish I was tied down to a boyfriend." That is, until they meet someone they want to tie themselves down to. There's always exceptions, but do you honestly think she'd give the same response if some Brad Pitt looking motherfucker walked up to her and asked her out? She would turn down someone she's genuinely interested in because she isn't "ready?" You also have to realize that going on a date doesn't mean entering a relationship. It's not like going on a date means you're together and committed. However, because you didn't present it that way, you fucked yourself. She thinks you want to jump straight into being together, which pretty much nobody is ever ready for. Very few people are willing to jump into a commitment with someone they've never dated. Your odds of actually being with her now are so slim, there's really no point in investing hope in them. Yeah, even a blind squirrel finds a nut every once in a while, but most just starve to death.
[QUOTE=Gulen;41265874]You're invited to her place. For drinks. And it's just gonna be the two of you. I'm gonna let you in on a little secret here: She likes you. As for what you should do, go with what she wants, but try to push a little bit further (subtly) Like in improv, there's no no. (Unless she says No, then a no is a no!)[/QUOTE] Yesssssss
Alright that's the last fucking nightmare I'm having about that one girl I fucked up with. Should I just go over to her apartment and talk to her or what? I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me. [editline]fda[/editline] On second thought maybe I should talk to a therapist instead.
[QUOTE=fear me;41278064] Should I just go over to her apartment and talk to her or what? [/QUOTE] No
I don't know what to do anymore guys, call me stupid for all this, but Me and my girlfriend broke up over two weeks ago, and recently we hung out, we kissed, had sex, and she told me she loved me a couple of times, and we said we'd try again, but start from fresh. Well now she says she can't be with me because her mother is really disappointed with her for 'crawling back' to me after everything, and her friends are being wankers too. So after all this, we're apparently going to stay good friends, but have sex every so often and stuff. I'm cool with the sex and all that, but I can tell that I want to be with her and I'm pretty damn sure she wants to be with me, like I stopped talking to her today and said we shouldn't speak for a while, but by the end of the day she was messaging me saying she misses me and stuff. Can someone just assess the situation for me and say what they feel about it? Because I want things to work between the two of us.
Honestly? If she really wanted to be with you she wouldn't be caving just because of a bit of disapproval. Do Not, and I will repeat this, DO NOT do the friends with benefits if you both want to be together. Its bullshit that makes moving on harder for both of you because it keeps you tied together. You are done, your relationship is not continuing and someone needs to put their foot down and stick to it. Breaking up and getting back together and breaking up and getting back together again so no good for anyone and just extends the problem. Your either together or your not.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41289101]Honestly? If she really wanted to be with you she wouldn't be caving just because of a bit of disapproval. Do Not, and I will repeat this, DO NOT do the friends with benefits if you both want to be together. Its bullshit that makes moving on harder for both of you because it keeps you tied together. You are done, your relationship is not continuing and someone needs to put their foot down and stick to it. Breaking up and getting back together and breaking up and getting back together again so no good for anyone and just extends the problem. Your either together or your not.[/QUOTE] Thank you.
I have been having some relationship trouble the last few days. There is this girl, that a friend help me get, that I have went on a few dates with. She has been telling me she really liked me. Suddenly, My friend and her become boyfriend and girlfriend right in front of my eyes. I am really not sure how to handle this situation, but I feel like a moron for letting my friend help me get her.
Your friend is an idiot.
Did he explicitly say "Hey, you and "X" should totally be together!" or something to that effect? Was his motive for you two getting together to enter a relationship?
[QUOTE=J$ Psychotic;41303266]Did he explicitly say "Hey, you and "X" should totally be together!" or something to that effect? Was his motive for you two getting together to enter a relationship?[/QUOTE] His motive from the start was to get us together because he knew that I really wanted to be with this girl. But I don't know what happened down the line but they suddenly went together.
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