Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Zareox7;40160863]So, lately I've been having these dreams of my ex. They've been occurring nearly every night for a week now and just recently stopped (or atleast I hope so, maybe they're waiting a few days to strike again) and I'm not sure why they sprouted up in the first place. I haven't even thought of my ex for months, but it sucks because these dreams made me sorta miss her... Does this happen often to you guys? Random spurts of dreams of your ex for days on end then to go away?[/QUOTE]

Yeah it's happened to me before.

[marcosppp]

I honestly have never been in a relationship in my life.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=marcosppp;40161726]I honestly have never been in a relationship in my life.[/QUOTE]

You still have lots of time! Its nothing to feel negative about!

[♠️♥️♦️♣️]

[QUOTE=Zareox7;40160863]So, lately I've been having these dreams of my ex. They've been occurring nearly every night for a week now and just recently stopped (or atleast I hope so, maybe they're waiting a few days to strike again) and I'm not sure why they sprouted up in the first place. I haven't even thought of my ex for months, but it sucks because these dreams made me sorta miss her... Does this happen often to you guys? Random spurts of dreams of your ex for days on end then to go away?[/QUOTE]

i think about my ex from time to time and it'll be like aww i miss some of the stupid shit we did, but just don't let it bother you too much

if you take a kinda negative/depressed stance on it you're just gonna think about it more

[DrewB]

okay guys i need some help

i really like this girl and i wanna ask her out

this is what i have so far;

[quote=me]Okay, so my gut told me to do this. (i wasn't gonna tell you this because i'm a very shy piece 'a crap but here goes)
I know you had me added for some time 'n stuff, but I liked you and I kinda didn't want to tell you or talk to you because I'm shy as hell. I didn't really wanna come off as a weird guy or anything. I think you're pretty, (very pretty, actually.), From what I can tell, You have a really nice sense of humor, you're wicked nice, and that's really really cool in my opinion. Soo... yeah![/quote]

[editline]4th April 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Rageguy;40162900]okay guys i need some help

i really like this girl and i wanna ask her out

this is what i have so far;[/QUOTE]

Aww, that's so sweet. I'm shy too. But I don't like you like that, but you're a very nice boy, kiddo.
No prob.

(:
Thanks though!

Sure thing! You make a great friend.

welp. At least it ended nicely!

[Dr-Amazing]

This talking stuff is too hard. Let's just be like animals and fuck.

[BlazeFresh]

[QUOTE=marcosppp;40161726]I honestly have never been in a relationship in my life.[/QUOTE]

Depending on your mindset this can be a range of things, from good to great. It's all just perspective on your situation.

[Vaught]

[QUOTE=Zareox7;40160863]So, lately I've been having these dreams of my ex. They've been occurring nearly every night for a week now and just recently stopped (or atleast I hope so, maybe they're waiting a few days to strike again) and I'm not sure why they sprouted up in the first place. I haven't even thought of my ex for months, but it sucks because these dreams made me sorta miss her... Does this happen often to you guys? Random spurts of dreams of your ex for days on end then to go away?[/QUOTE]

Used to for...a couple of years. Took me forever as she pulled some shit I was unable to wrap my head around. I was glad to have finally pushed it out of my head. Though that was when I was at least 20 or so. Kind of glad I've given up the dating scene to be honest.

[gaminji]

It makes me want to rip my hair out when I know I can do something but I chicken out at the last second because I have second thoughts and my social anxiety gets the better of me.

I have no problem talking to people. I do it plenty and I've even done plenty of talking to the person that's got me all stressed, but the topic is hard to bring up and I'm afraid that I'll fuck it up somehow.

[sup][sup][sup][sup]fuckin' 'ell why do i get all these pagekings[/sup][/sup][/sup][/sup]

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=gaminji;40165326]It makes me want to rip my hair out when I know I can do something but I chicken out at the last second because I have second thoughts and my social anxiety gets the better of me.

I have no problem talking to people. I do it plenty and I've even done plenty of talking to the person that's got me all stressed, but the topic is hard to bring up and I'm afraid that I'll fuck it up somehow.

[SUP][SUP][SUP][SUP]fuckin' 'ell why do i get all these pagekings[/SUP][/SUP][/SUP][/SUP][/QUOTE]
If you're genuine the only way you can fuck it up is by walking away. If it was meant to be, it'll happen.

Sing along to your favorite jams beforehand if you can, it helps!

[GoldenGnome]

there's been a lot of stuff on my mind lately and i'm gonna try to lay it all out here to see what you guys make of it.

basically, here's how it goes. all throughout high school i was kind of stupid about women; looking back a lot of them showed obvious signs of interest (and later confirmed how interested they [I]were[/I]) but i either ignored their advances or was too foolish to take note. all this combined with a generally low sense of self worth lead to me being really upset in general through the first half of high school, until, in my junior year, i became really good friends with a buddy of mine, who i still consider my best friend today. we both really helped each other's confidence, but for some reason i still couldn't bring myself to open up to women.

finally, in senior year, i started hooking up with women at parties and such and this really boosted my confidence. i know sloppy drunk hook ups are not really anything to be proud of, but i felt a lot better about myself. eventually, i started hooking up with this girl who i knew was no good, but i was horny and desperate so i kept on keeping on, eventually getting really attached. long story short, she hurt me once, then took me back, then did it again, and i went back, and the third time i had finally had enough but really wasn't over it so i ended up making out with her like 3 more times until i finally put it to rest.

well, i went off to college and thought it would be a great new start for me and such, but i just fell back in to my old high school ways of avoiding people i'm not sure "like" me, and obviously have had no success with the opposite sex, to the point where i've essentially given up entirely (like, not even wanting to make friends with women because i honestly fear they're even going to reject that). i'm not necessarily stressed out about these feelings, but i know they're there and i want to do something about them.

one of my friends here has absolutely no fear of all forms of interaction with anyone. i really, truly envy him. he can text, snapchat, and facebook IM people all day and has a vast network of friends compared to me, whereas i feel like i'm annoying even my close friends when i send them a "hey" on facebook or by text. i don't know where that idea came from, and i've had it for as long as i can remember and desperately want to change, but i really struggle with it. i find myself anxious to talk to people, and i pull up their number on my phone, or open an inbox on facebook, but immediately i'm inundated with thoughts like "well they're probably busy," or "you'll just be bothering them," or "well even if they do want to talk what the fuck are you going to talk about?"

any advice would be very much appreciated.

[editline]5th April 2013[/editline]

my weirdness about all this is to the point where i know that this one girl who i'm very interested in is at least attracted to me, but i can't bring myself to spark up conversation with her when she's two feet away from me. i KNOW that i can talk to people, but i don't know why i let my stupid fucking thoughts get the better of me and silence me. it's aggravating looking back and knowing what i should have done, but couldn't

[editline]5th April 2013[/editline]

another thing: although i know that girl who hurt me was very cruel in the end, i also know there were a lot of very real feelings there at one point or another. i'm dying to share something like that (only without the backstabbing) with someone else, and i see it happening for people all around me, but i can't just fucking bring myself to open my mouth and say hey.

[robmaister12]

^ I'm kinda feeling also feeling that right now, the past week I've slipped backwards into feeling less confident, not being as social, and feeling like I'm always pestering people when I talk to them. It's just something you have to push through.

If you want to start a conversation with someone, just start talking. If you sound stupid, you can just laugh it off and keep talking.

[GoldenGnome]

[QUOTE=robmaister12;40167387]^ I'm kinda feeling also feeling that right now, the past week I've slipped backwards into feeling less confident, not being as social, and feeling like I'm always pestering people when I talk to them. It's just something you have to push through.

If you want to start a conversation with someone, just start talking. If you sound stupid, you can just laugh it off and keep talking.[/QUOTE]

i actually need to thank you; your post earlier made me want to write this and it's good to be able to read all these things I've been thinking.

at this point I wouldn't even say I'm scared of sounding stupid, I just sort of accept it and move on, a teeny bit more upset because of it

[DrBreen]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40154317]what a helpful and useful post[/QUOTE]

Yeah. This is the holy grail thread.

[Dark_Light]

4/30 - 'a poem about a poem that i won't write about the girl that i last watched a movie with that wasn't my mother'

i saw a movie at the cinemas last night

i went with my mother
and i thought about a poem that i won’t write with a line in it that says something really stupid and self-deprecating like
‘the last girl i went to a movie with was my mother and the girl before that doesn’t talk to me anymore because i don’t talk to her anymore because i am an idiot and i hate myself’
but the movie was pretty good i guess

i don’t know much about silver linings
but in the car on the way home
mum said ‘around 2 to 3 out of 5’ and i said ‘hmm yeah around 3’
and i thought about all the movies that my mum watched when she was growing up
and i thought about endings that you knew were coming but are still aggravating or nice or whatever okay

i wouldn’t give jennifer lawrence best actress though because she was meh in hunger games

that is a movie that i watched with the girl that i last watched a movie with that isn’t my mother

we talked about it on facebook chat that night and we had jokes about it and
we had jokes about everything and
we had jokes about everything and
i’ve forgotten some of them

i saw a movie at the cinemas last night
and i thought about the girl that i last saw a movie with
and she’s so pretty and broken and so am i and im sorry
and i tell her that i wrote a poem about her around 6 months ago
and she tells me she knows she read it on my tumblr
and i say ‘haha oh yeah’
and she doesn’t laugh
and i don’t either

i saw a movie at the cinemas last night
and i thought about the girl that i will next see a movie with
and she’s so pretty and broken and im sorry
and i tell her that i wrote a poem about her around 6 months ago
and she tells me we only met last week
and i say ‘haha oh yeah’
and she doesn’t understand
and i don’t either
im sorry

[GoldenGnome]

dark light, I like you a lot, man. you're good people

[robmaister12]

[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;40167421]i actually need to thank you; your post earlier made me want to write this and it's good to be able to read all these things I've been thinking.

at this point I wouldn't even say I'm scared of sounding stupid, I just sort of accept it and move on, a teeny bit more upset because of it[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it'll pass. It always does.

[Dr-Amazing]

You and me baby ain't nothin but mammals so let's do it like they do on the Discovery Channel

[dmillerw]

[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;40166994]there's been a lot of stuff on my mind lately and i'm gonna try to lay it all out here to see what you guys make of it...[/QUOTE]

I know what you mean. Social interaction is probably one of the hardest things in my life, and it sucks. Those constant nagging thoughts of doubt are the worst.

You can always talk to me.

[Zareox]

[QUOTE=Mobon1;40161952]i think about my ex from time to time and it'll be like aww i miss some of the stupid shit we did, but just don't let it bother you too much

if you take a kinda negative/depressed stance on it you're just gonna think about it more[/QUOTE]

I just wanted to see if it was normal. The only negative thing I pull from it was that I'm dating another girl right now that I care a lot about, and it kinda worried me that I was having these dreams. I miss a lot of the things that we used to do, but I don't miss her, do you know what I mean? The times were good, but she liked to treat me like shit and take advantage of me and I don't miss that.

[♠️♥️♦️♣️]

[QUOTE=Dr-Amazing;40174470]You and me baby ain't nothin but mammals so let's do it like they do on the Discovery Channel[/QUOTE]

suddenly bloodhound gang

[blacksam]

Having a really hard time moving on. I feel really sick, I haven't been sleeping well or eating full meals. I've lost four pounds since we broke up. I keep having nightmares and waking up at 4 in the morning unable to go back to sleep.
I don't know. My brain is addled.
I think I scared off this other girl I was trying to go for. I asked her to a party I am throwing via text, but I had to reschedule this party because apparently everyone isn't back from their spring break vacations tonight. Also, couldn't tell if it was true, but she said she couldn't come over because she was visiting her grandparents. I replied with "Meh, it's all good, I'm rescheduling anywho. Hope you can make it!"
I'm worried about starting to commute to college next year instead of getting a dorm because money is extremely tight. It's cheaper and more efficient to commute. I'm just worried I won't have any social life after my friends move away out east and west across the US in August.
I'm also getting weird mixed messages from my ex about things. One minute she congratulates me on getting a film job, I respond "thanks it's good to hear from you! I hope you're doing okay!" I get I should cut off all contact, but I spent 2 and a half years with her. I feel I neglected my friends for her and looking back on that, I shouldn't have. I'm trying to stay active. I'm running 3 miles in the morning. I'm lifting weights again. I'm kick boxing. I'm reading. I'm gaming. It's just hard to admit that I don't have any social life now. I'm 6 weeks from graduation. It's bittersweet, I am going to miss some people and others not so much.
Okay, I'm done ranting. Any advice would be appreciated.

[Vosk]

My Girlfriend of 2 years, my love, my whole life, my world... just told me that she is moving in June.

[editline]5th April 2013[/editline]

I... I don't know what to do.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=VOSK;40176312]My Girlfriend of 2 years, my love, my whole life, my world... just told me that she is moving in June.

[editline]5th April 2013[/editline]

I... I don't know what to do.[/QUOTE]

What you need to do is chill. You've been together 2 years so I should imagine you've been through tough times with the good, this is just another different type of challenge and if you're good and compatible you will find a way to make it work.

[RoastedSagets]

Well I'm going to see one of my favorite bands with one of my best friends and the girl I like on the 15th. Yessssss

[zukriuchen]

My friend got me a girl to go to prom with, I kinda know her but I've never talked to her for over 5 minutes. I'm not gonna stay here for much longer (3 months), so I'm not really looking for a relationship, but it just gets me kinda scared, talking with girls is not a big problem, it's just the 'inviting a girl I barely know for something like that' part that does

[Dr-Amazing]

[QUOTE=Dark_Light;40170713]4/30 - 'a poem about a poem that i won't write about the girl that i last watched a movie with that wasn't my mother'

i saw a movie at the cinemas last night

i went with my mother
and i thought about a poem that i won’t write with a line in it that says something really stupid and self-deprecating like
‘the last girl i went to a movie with was my mother and the girl before that doesn’t talk to me anymore because i don’t talk to her anymore because i am an idiot and i hate myself’
but the movie was pretty good i guess

i don’t know much about silver linings
but in the car on the way home
mum said ‘around 2 to 3 out of 5’ and i said ‘hmm yeah around 3’
and i thought about all the movies that my mum watched when she was growing up
and i thought about endings that you knew were coming but are still aggravating or nice or whatever okay

i wouldn’t give jennifer lawrence best actress though because she was meh in hunger games

that is a movie that i watched with the girl that i last watched a movie with that isn’t my mother

we talked about it on facebook chat that night and we had jokes about it and
we had jokes about everything and
we had jokes about everything and
i’ve forgotten some of them

i saw a movie at the cinemas last night
and i thought about the girl that i last saw a movie with
and she’s so pretty and broken and so am i and im sorry
and i tell her that i wrote a poem about her around 6 months ago
and she tells me she knows she read it on my tumblr
and i say ‘haha oh yeah’
and she doesn’t laugh
and i don’t either

i saw a movie at the cinemas last night
and i thought about the girl that i will next see a movie with
and she’s so pretty and broken and im sorry
and i tell her that i wrote a poem about her around 6 months ago
and she tells me we only met last week
and i say ‘haha oh yeah’
and she doesn’t understand
and i don’t either
im sorry[/QUOTE]
...
You Too!

[thisispain]

digging the q: are we not men??? a: we are devo avatar

[Dr-Amazing]

[QUOTE=thisispain;40178130]digging the q: are we not men??? a: we are devo avatar[/QUOTE]
[video=youtube;uGdCTy-Vm7o]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGdCTy-Vm7o[/video]

[fritzel]

If Charlie can make it through, I sure hope that you guys can too.

"We accept the love we think we deserve."