Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Hana-San]

[QUOTE=Bobie;41348566]what a dick[/QUOTE]

My friend is a dick.
Half the problem with having him as a friend.
But I'm kind of hoping that the guy I like ignores it.
Treats it as a joke.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Hana-San;41348865]My friend is a dick.
Half the problem with having him as a friend.
But I'm kind of hoping that the guy I like ignores it.
Treats it as a joke.[/QUOTE]

You keep telling yourself that!

[PistolKid]

[QUOTE=Hana-San;41348865]My friend is a dick.
Half the problem with having him as a friend.
But I'm kind of hoping that the guy I like ignores it.
Treats it as a joke.[/QUOTE]

ha. probably not

[Hana-San]

[QUOTE=metallics;41348951]You keep telling yourself that![/QUOTE]

I can hope.
But not knowing is the worst and I'm to shy to say anything to him.
We've gotten to be good friends over the last few months. So I hope it stays like that one way or the other.

[zacht_180]

So I've been talking to this girl for a little over a month now. We've been out a couple times and we've had a lot of fun together. I don't know what it is, but I really like her. Like a lot. Anyways last week we went on a walk in this really nice park area and went back to her place and hung out for a while. It was a good time though.

Now I think she's losing interest in me or something though. She doesn't really text or call much like how she use to (she lives about 40 minutes away so we don't see each other that much). Not the amazing conversations we've had before, now responses are dull and close to one-worded. So I'm thinking she's probably lost interest or she's doing one of those weird girl things that they do. I was confident she liked me (it was somewhat obvious actually), and thought we might've had something. But it's almost like I've been lead on. Advice?

[Tennisball]

a girl i've liked for about a week just liked my status

she must love me

[biccboi]

[QUOTE=Hana-San;41347994]One of my friends sent this message to the guy I like.

The guy I like hasn't mentioned anything to me. I haven't seen him since before this message was sent and he hasn't said anything to my friend.
So I'm stuck in this place where I don't know what will happen.
Don't know whether to kill friend or hug them.[/QUOTE]

What the fuck?

Your friend sounds like a neckbeard being jealous of the attention. No friend in their right mind would such a thing.

[Rhenae]

Its a pretty hard push but to be honest Im pretty sure hes trying to help and I think its a positive push really.
Just ask him out already seriously. He might not be responding because he doesnt know if your friend is joking and pulling his leg or not, you should talk to him and stop pussyfooting around and ask him already. Your friend basically jsut gave you a do or dont situation to force the situation.

[zenby]

Would going with an artist girl to an art museum be a good first date?

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41353549]Would going with an artist girl to an art museum be a good first date?[/QUOTE]

Lots of time to talk, but most art museums suck pretty hard. Might not be bad though, if nothing else you can make fun of expensive paintings :v:

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Hana-San;41347994]One of my friends sent this message to the guy I like.

The guy I like hasn't mentioned anything to me. I haven't seen him since before this message was sent and he hasn't said anything to my friend.
So I'm stuck in this place where I don't know what will happen.
Don't know whether to kill friend or hug them.[/QUOTE]

over the gallows with that fuckER!

[pie_is_good]

I'm going to University in September, so that means I'm going to go to this big group of buildings full of people I don't know, and I'm wondering what's a good way of meeting people and making friends? Is it just something that could easily happen in class or something?

I've heard joining a club really helps but there's not really anything I'm interested in because I'm a boring asshole.

There's a band and songwriters society, which sounds nice because I like music, but I really suck at music and have never really been in a band before so I have no idea how that will turn out.

[Bobie]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41353549]Would going with an artist girl to an art museum be a good first date?[/QUOTE]

new & fresh art galleries are alot more interesting than art museums, but that's just my opinion

[zenby]

Well they rotate stuff around often and I've been there plenty of times and it's always interesting

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=pie_is_good;41353843]I'm going to University in September, so that means I'm going to go to this big group of buildings full of people I don't know, and I'm wondering what's a good way of meeting people and making friends? Is it just something that could easily happen in class or something?

I've heard joining a club really helps but there's not really anything I'm interested in because I'm a boring asshole.

There's a band and songwriters society, which sounds nice because I like music, but I really suck at music and have never really been in a band before so I have no idea how that will turn out.[/QUOTE]

youll meet plenty of people in class, but you should also ask around and see where people in your school like to hang out, thats prob the best way to meet people

[pie_is_good]

so I just ask random people where all the cool people hang out?

I hope it's not like, a club or something. last time I was at a club I couldn't hear what anyone was saying because the music was so loud, and this nice looking girl tried to talk for me because she liked me or something, but I couldn't hear what she was saying and I didn't want to look stupid but I guess I ended up looking stupid anyway because I just pretended I could hear her and I just sort of nodded. all of a sudden she looked really angry and said something and walked away. I think I have hearing problems or something because it seems like everyone can hear everyone else just fine.

[Cutthecrap]

Well, since I discovered this thread....bombs away:

1 year ago this girl entered school (We're now in last year) and she didn't caught my attention. But, for the last 2 months I couldn't stop thinking about her. See, as I got to know her better, I started liking her. To give you an idea, compared with all the rest, she's miles better. Really, I didn't think someone like her could show up.

However, she's now in a relationship with a close friend of mine. Thing is, my friend is a little bit of a bipolar, so he's has been cutting with her to and fro. And every single time it happens, she basically comes to me for help. Im no motherfucker/backstabber, so I always help her to try to get on good terms with him/get their relantionship going on. What's more, she even told me what she had done that made my friend so angry the last time (She was worried he would leave her alone after their 2-3rd break up, so she "took" another guy just in case, and when my friend found it out...) and why. Man, helping these 2 makes me feel like a motherfucking Kofi Annan or John Paul II, as I have to talk with each one while trying not to reveal that I have talked with the other one, but it actually makes me feel good to see her happy.

Now they're doing well. She likes me in a very friendly way (Asks me to go out and have lunch weekends, go to a museum, etc etc ) and my friend thanks me for helping him so much, even going as to think that I won't backstab him.

The problem is, what the fuck do I do? We finish high school in 4 months, after that, she will move to Capital (Check out "Conurbano Buenos Aires") and study in a university different than mine (And ubicated faaar away too, mine is in Capital-North and hers Capital-East). The only chances to see her back are in a "previa/pre" or by random encounter.

Im so friend-zoned....

[QUOTE] I think I have hearing problems or something because it seems like everyone can hear everyone else just fine.[/QUOTE]
Just tell her "I cant hear you", point to your ear while making a no no with your head. Go outside or ask her to speak right in your ear.
No, you're not the only one who cant hear jack inside a club. More so if the audio is badly set up.
Last time I went to a club, the audio was so fucked up I ended up being deaf after walking outside. My Friends complained I was screaming. Felt like that motherfucking soldier in Black Hawk Down.

[QUOTE]There's a band and songwriters society, which sounds nice because I like music, but I really suck at music and have never really been in a band before so I have no idea how that will turn out.[/QUOTE]
If you get in a society/club of some sort, be sure you actually like it, and to have time to improve/practice whatever you do. If there's nothing inside the university that appeals to you, try to check out if there something outside that does, and better if people from your university also goes. In my case I wish I had a german language school and Judo/Taekwondo in my university, so I had to look out for them outside of it.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;41354105]Well, since I discovered this thread....bombs away:

1 year ago this girl entered school (We're now in last year) and she didn't caught my attention. But, for the last 2 months I couldn't stop thinking about her. See, as I got to know her better, I started liking her. To give you an idea, compared with all the rest, she's miles better. Really, I didn't think someone like her could show up.

However, she's now in a relationship with a close friend of mine. Thing is, my friend is a little bit of a bipolar, so he's has been cutting with her to and fro. And every single time it happens, she basically comes to me for help. Im no motherfucker/backstabber, so I always help her to try to get on good terms with him/get their relantionship going on. What's more, she even told me what she had done that made my friend so angry the last time (She was worried he would leave her alone after their 2-3rd break up, so she "took" another guy just in case, and when my friend found it out...) and why. Man, helping these 2 makes me feel like a motherfucking Kofi Annan or John Paul II, as I have to talk with each one while trying not to reveal that I have talked with the other one, but it actually makes me feel good to see her happy.

Now they're doing well. She likes me in a very friendly way (Asks me to go out and have lunch weekends, go to a museum, etc etc ) and my friend thanks me for helping him so much, even going as to think that I won't backstab him.

The problem is, what the fuck do I do? We finish high school in 4 months, after that, she will move to Capital (Check out "Conurbano Buenos Aires") and study in a university different than mine (And ubicated faaar away too, mine is in Capital-North and hers Capital-East). The only chances to see her back are in a "previa/pre" or by random encounter.

Im so friend-zoned....

Just tell her "I cant hear you", point to your ear while making a no no with your head. Go outside or ask her to speak right in your ear.
No, you're not the only one who cant hear jack inside a club. More so if the audio is badly set up.
Last time I went to a club, the audio was so fucked up I ended up being deaf after walking outside. My Friends complained I was screaming. Felt like that motherfucking soldier in Black Hawk Down.

If you get in a society/club of some sort, be sure you actually like it, and to have time to improve/practice whatever you do. If there's nothing inside the university that appeals to you, try to check out if there something outside that does, and better if people from your university also goes. In my case I wish I had a german language school and Judo/Taekwondo in my university, so I had to look out for them outside of it.[/QUOTE]

Too bad you missed your chance live with it.
Don't put her on a pedestal, "no other girl as good as her" but you didn't think that till you got to know her, so get to know other girls too. trying to replace her and comparing every other girl to her after a few conversations as not as good will just leave you stuck in a rut.

[pie_is_good]

[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;41354105]
Just tell her "I cant hear you", point to your ear while making a no no with your head. Go outside or ask her to speak right in your ear.[/QUOTE]

yeah I've always thought that's probably the better thing to do.

[Cutthecrap]

Well....just after I posted here this girl sent me a message saying she was hurt because yesterday after we chatted a little bit she said "Te quiero mucho" (Its hard to translate it to english due to it being extremely ambiguous, it could range from "I aprecciate you as a friend", passing thru "I like you", to "I love you") and I answered "Oh, stop it you :smile: "

It confuses me, why would she be hurt if I answered that?

Oh fuck man, this stuff, living, is way too complicated, going back to economy and math.

[zenby]

It's dawned on me that I have a single friend with relationship experience and the rest are complete nerds that do a whole lot of nothing

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41356488]It's dawned on me that I have a single friend with relationship experience and the rest are complete nerds that do a whole lot of nothing[/QUOTE]

Doesn't really mean much.
I have a shit ton of friends who are in relationships.
Im one of the few that are single, and a little bit of a "nerd".
BUT, the relationships that my friends are in, are dysfunctional, unhealthy, and albeit, there are a few that are healthy, but they're only two that I know of.
A major thing i learned during my teen years, that i realize as im exiting them regarding relationships, is not worrying about if you're in one or not, or how its going. They all suck at that age it seems, they're almost all dysfunctional. Doesn't mean you shouldn't try if you come across someone you fancy, but don't beat yourself up about it.

[Cl0cK]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41353549]Would going with an artist girl to an art museum be a good first date?[/QUOTE]

It's a great idea. Also, art museum dates always makes me think of that:

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o[/media]

Hope it goes well for you!

[zenby]

[QUOTE=ScoutKing;41357204]Doesn't really mean much.
I have a shit ton of friends who are in relationships.
Im one of the few that are single, and a little bit of a "nerd".
BUT, the relationships that my friends are in, are dysfunctional, unhealthy, and albeit, there are a few that are healthy, but they're only two that I know of.
A major thing i learned during my teen years, that i realize as im exiting them regarding relationships, is not worrying about if you're in one or not, or how its going. They all suck at that age it seems, they're almost all dysfunctional. Doesn't mean you shouldn't try if you come across someone you fancy, but don't beat yourself up about it.[/QUOTE]

What I mean is that besides this thread I have a single person I can get advice from (luckily we're bros for life)

Then the thing about the rest being nerds is that we rarely spontaneously hang out (and I'm trying to fix that)

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;41356206]Well....just after I posted here this girl sent me a message saying she was hurt because yesterday after we chatted a little bit she said "Te quiero mucho" (Its hard to translate it to english due to it being extremely ambiguous, it could range from "I aprecciate you as a friend", passing thru "I like you", to "I love you") and I answered "Oh, stop it you :smile: "

It confuses me, why would she be hurt if I answered that?

Oh fuck man, this stuff, living, is way too complicated, going back to economy and math.[/QUOTE]

Because you didn't reciprocate her compliment, you brushed it off.

[disseminate]

yo quiero cagar en la leche

thats the only mexican i know

[Gulen]

[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;41356206]Well....just after I posted here this girl sent me a message saying she was hurt because yesterday after we chatted a little bit she said "Te quiero mucho" (Its hard to translate it to english due to it being extremely ambiguous, it could range from "I aprecciate you as a friend", passing thru "I like you", to "I love you") and I answered "Oh, stop it you :smile: "

It confuses me, why would she be hurt if I answered that?

Oh fuck man, this stuff, living, is way too complicated, going back to economy and math.[/QUOTE]

Dude, she said she love you, and you brushed it off, and now you're wondering why she's hurt?

Let's imagine this scenario: You tell this girl that you love her (not necesarrily this girl, any girl, or dude, if you're into that), and she answers "Oh, that's cool, I guess" Now, how does that make you feel?

[editline]9th July 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Disseminate;41362711]yo quiero cagar en la leche

thats the only mexican i know[/QUOTE]

Remind me not to drink chocolate milk at your house, like ever.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;41361711]she said i love you

and you basically told her "hahaha that's adorable ur so funny"

[editline]8th July 2013[/editline]

shouldve sent that bitch a "te quiero tambien"

bitches love "te quiero tambien"[/QUOTE]

spanish is a sexy language

[killerteacup]

and if you're not smart enough for spanish, esperanto is always a worthwhile second option

nope

[zukriuchen]

i always thought spanish was too cringe worthy and whenever i speak it to someone i cant take myself seriously