• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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are boxes of corndogs usually closed with duct tape and are the wrappers supposed to be non airtight because i am afraid to eat these what if they have been tampered with people who tamper with foods should all be executed
[QUOTE=Yahnich;41391158]ewi the jazzy animal loving architect[/QUOTE] Holy shit thank you for the title idea :v: [editline]10th July 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=General J;41391386]she has to though for reasons outside of baby-prevention, is the thing 20 euros you're kidding me okay is this just an all-American thing? Or just a specific case from my city?[/QUOTE] It's all-American. Health care is incredibly expensive in this country.
woah i don't have to pay for my birth control and haven't for the four and a half years i've been on it and i've never had to pay for any female checkups or anything of the sort i'm going to take this moment to be thankful what she said vvv going to a doctor that's there specifically to touch your vagina just to tell them "don't touch my vagina" is incredibly stupid. they are there for a reason.
[QUOTE=General J;41391314]I guess I understand the point of the initial checkup but my gf is telling me she has to go back every year to pay $500 just to say "dont touch me" when they ask to see her vagina, ask her if she smokes and that's it.[/QUOTE] Your supposed to get yearly check ups to make sure you dont have cervical cancer etc because birth control makes that much worse if it happens. Theres no point in going if your not going to have that done. But she should get it done if she is going to go, that is an important risk thats why they want you in for it.
[QUOTE=General J;41391201]So wait I just discovered that women have to get expensive doctor appointments to get birth control like that's the only way someone explain to me right now why the fuck this is a thing. [editline]10th July 2013[/editline] no literally I never knew this because that is the most fuck-retarded thing that I've heard in existence please help [editline]10th July 2013[/editline] why the fuck cant you just go to a counter and buy it I don't understand why you have to go to a doctor to ask to look at your vagina, say no, and still get the pills[/QUOTE] while i'm not endorsing the $500 expenses, something that fucks around with your hormones that much can easily have bad effects on you. furthermore there are a lot of very dangerous potential side effects to birth control. some forms of bc can cause things like blood clotting, and the depo shot (which is what i was on) causes bone thinning. in order to deal with bone thinning they usually prescribe calcium supplements to compensate for it but there's no way to know whether you actually need the supplements or not without doing testing. lastly, birth control can seriously fuck with your mental health. i have bad anxiety and depression (something planned parenthood couldn't give less of a shit about before prescribing bc) and ended up feeling incredibly paranoid while i was on the depo shot. the depo shot lasts about 3 months and some people will end up going through hell for that entire duration until it wears off. i went to planned parenthood for birth control, in the us they're dangerously laid-back about fucking with your hormones. every time i went there they would nag me to start taking 1200mg a day of calcium citrate and vitamin d. i took it for a while and every time i took the supplements i would get some of the worst migraines i've ever had. i eventually stopped taking them and felt fine. this sounds a lot like mental health care in the us though. i'm dyslexic but i've never been "officially" diagnosed with it. i saw my therapist about it who's also dyslexic and she agreed it sounded like that, but in order to get accommodations in any school in the us, you have to look at their list of specific institutions that they'll accept a diagnosis from and go to one of those institutions to get diagnosed. being assessed for dyslexia costs usually a minimum of $2000. where i used to live, the cheapest you could do it for was about $2500. the us education system couldn't give less of a shit about people who don't fit their criteria of the perfect student. if you have any sort of learning-related weaknesses, the system will use them against you instead of trying to help you overcome them. [editline]10th July 2013[/editline] what i find endlessly amusing is how nearly every kid gets diagnosed with adhd, which the guy who discovered it has himself said to be a fake disorder and [url=http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/suffer-the-children/201203/why-french-kids-dont-have-adhd]doesn't even exist in countries that know how to discipline their kids[/url], but most dyslexics can go their whole lives without finding out that their crippling difficulties with reading aren't normal.
[QUOTE]French babies, too, are expected to conform to limits set by parents and not by their crying selves. French parents let their babies "cry it out" if they are not sleeping through the night at the age of four months.[/QUOTE] French people are awesome. Thats a really interesting article, I knew the US was frigged and in a lot of ways canada isnt much better, never knew france did things so different in that way. But yeah, hormonal contraceptives (or any hormonal meds) are not shit to be triffled with. I get severely depressed and spazztik every 3 months for the last couple weeks on my Depo shot before my next one. For me thats my body working back to normal hormone levels, since I had those problems before Depo and its stabilized them out for me but for a lot of people they arnt that lucky. The pill or any of the other hormonal BC can do the exact opposite and really frig your moods and everything up. bc effects your hypothalimus and as such can basically mess with anything the hypothalimus controls, so just try reading about all the shit that thing does :v:
Wow, $500 just to get some birth control? I work at a fast food place, and we sell emergency-prevention (known as the morning-after pill), you just have to be 18. I'm not sure if you can get other prevention (except from condoms, ofc) from stores, though, but if not, you can get it from the doctor, without paying $500.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41401920]But yeah, hormonal contraceptives (or any hormonal meds) are not shit to be triffled with. I get severely depressed and spazztik every 3 months for the last couple weeks on my Depo shot before my next one. For me thats my body working back to normal hormone levels, since I had those problems before Depo and its stabilized them out for me but for a lot of people they arnt that lucky. The pill or any of the other hormonal BC can do the exact opposite and really frig your moods and everything up. bc effects your hypothalimus and as such can basically mess with anything the hypothalimus controls, so just try reading about all the shit that thing does :v:[/QUOTE] I want to suggest to my the gf that she should consider going on contraceptives, since I distrust regular condom use after one failed on me years ago and I got a girl half-preggers. But I know she's prone to depression and anxiety and has just started seeing a psychiatrist about that possible borderline personality thing so I really don't want anything that is going to exasperate things for her if it can honestly make things that bad.
i just wish places like planned parenthood were more reliable for information. the first time i was there i asked quite a few questions about side effects etc of different birth controls and all they would tell me is "if you're on it for a year you won't have periods anymore, isn't that great!?" with a place that prescribes birth control you should be able to trust them to give you accurate advice, but both of the planned parenthoods i've been to gave an incredible amount of misinformation. the $500 price you mentioned seems a little absurd but at the same time i think i'd rather spend a bit more to see a real doctor than spending less to see someone you assume to be a professional who will only mislead you about potential risks. but even though birth control meds are more convenient and in some cases helpful for other issues aside from actual birth control, they're not really required. you don't need to pay $500 to use a condom and as long as you use it properly and it doesn't break, it has a 100% chance of preventing pregnancy. [editline]10th July 2013[/editline] general j, you said that your gf had other reasons for needing birth control - may i ask what those reasons are?
[QUOTE=NoDachi;41402017]I want to suggest to my the gf that she should consider going on contraceptives, since I distrust regular condom use after one failed on me years ago and I got a girl half-preggers. But I know she's prone to depression and anxiety and has just started seeing a psychiatrist about that possible borderline personality thing so I really don't want anything that is going to exasperate things for her if it can honestly make things that bad.[/QUOTE] For me I found it really helped, since depo stabilized out my hormones so I didn't have to deal with them fluctuation all over the place during periods or ovulation etc through the month (especially with mine being inconsistent so I couldnt always place it as easily) She should discuss it with either a GD or her psychitrist (psych prob best unless they suggest otherwise) and it might not be a bad thing to try. I was nervous about it too since I didn't know at the time if it would make things better or worse.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41402034]i just wish places like planned parenthood were more reliable for information. the first time i was there i asked quite a few questions about side effects etc of different birth controls and all they would tell me is "if you're on it for a year you won't have periods anymore, isn't that great!?" with a place that prescribes birth control you should be able to trust them to give you accurate advice, but both of the planned parenthoods i've been to gave an incredible amount of misinformation. the $500 price you mentioned seems a little absurd but at the same time i think i'd rather spend a bit more to see a real doctor than spending less to see someone you assume to be a professional who will only mislead you about potential risks. but even though birth control meds are more convenient and in some cases helpful for other issues aside from actual birth control, they're not really required. you don't need to pay $500 to use a condom and as long as you use it properly and it doesn't break, it has a 100% chance of preventing pregnancy. [editline]10th July 2013[/editline] general j, you said that your gf had other reasons for needing birth control - may i ask what those reasons are?[/QUOTE] General J's lady here. I've been on the same birth control (Loestrin) for three years now all because I had cycles that lasted ten or more days and were so heavy and painful I couldn't get out of bed for days. It was fucking up my life and I was pretty tired of it. My boyfriend is more angry about the price than I am, but the birth control itself is free so I'm pretty okay with an expensive doctor's visit. It would just be nice to not have to go in every year just because federal law says I have to. I have a strong fear of people touching me so I don't enjoy seeing doctors/dentists/etc. Fortunately, the doctors there respect that and ask me a few questions and let me be on my way with another year's supply of pills. I've had no negative side effects and now my cycles last for three days. It's great except I still get headaches sometimes but that's no big deal compared to being stuck in bed for a week every month.
[QUOTE=Smokes;41403344]General J's lady here. I've been on the same birth control (Loestrin) for three years now all because I had cycles that lasted ten or more days and were so heavy and painful I couldn't get out of bed for days. It was fucking up my life and I was pretty tired of it. My boyfriend is more angry about the price than I am, but the birth control itself is free so I'm pretty okay with an expensive doctor's visit. It would just be nice to not have to go in every year just because federal law says I have to. I have a strong fear of people touching me so I don't enjoy seeing doctors/dentists/etc. Fortunately, the doctors there respect that and ask me a few questions and let me be on my way with another year's supply of pills. I've had no negative side effects and now my cycles last for three days. It's great except I still get headaches sometimes but that's no big deal compared to being stuck in bed for a week every month.[/QUOTE] that's part of the reason i started the depo shot too, actually. i get very bad dysmenorrhea, was in the hospital once because of it. felt like i was going to die. i'm glad to hear that birth control has helped you with it, with (hopefully) no other negative side effects.
[QUOTE=Smokes;41403344]General J's lady here. I've been on the same birth control (Loestrin) for three years now all because I had cycles that lasted ten or more days and were so heavy and painful I couldn't get out of bed for days. It was fucking up my life and I was pretty tired of it. My boyfriend is more angry about the price than I am, but the birth control itself is free so I'm pretty okay with an expensive doctor's visit. It would just be nice to not have to go in every year just because federal law says I have to. I have a strong fear of people touching me so I don't enjoy seeing doctors/dentists/etc. Fortunately, the doctors there respect that and ask me a few questions and let me be on my way with another year's supply of pills. I've had no negative side effects and now my cycles last for three days. It's great except I still get headaches sometimes but that's no big deal compared to being stuck in bed for a week every month.[/QUOTE] Yeah its pretty dumb to have it federally required and then not payed for by them or subsidized in some way. Its a good idea to have a checkup, but it is a lot of money. Is there any way you could just make it in to a general yearly checkup to cover everything and that? Seems like it would be more useful. On the no touching thing I would recommend (I mean I dont know the situation but if possible) trying to work over it and let them do a few tests, because there is a lot of stuff esp related to birth control that they cant really check otherwise, and things like breast cancer etc. The doctors are trained and try to make it as minimally awkward and uncomfortable as possible at least. On that note though I have continued to avoid getting a pap test etc my self since I dont [I]technically [/I]have to get them till im 18 (which I am now) even though your supposed to start them whenever you start birth control :v:
[QUOTE=TomZa;41391154]what the fuck, shouldnt you both be able to decide of your own business and not leaving it to her parents?[/QUOTE] We've tried but they always try and get involved, this all started because I said she had a nice ass and her parents secretly read through her facebook messages. Her parents are mormon as well.
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41405093]We've tried but they always try and get involved, this all started because I said she had a nice ass and her parents secretly read through her facebook messages. Her parents are mormon as well.[/QUOTE] [quote]her parents secretly read through her facebook messages[/quote] [quote]Her parents are mormon[/quote] Abandon ship
I dated a Mormon once. She tried to convert me, her Dad almost killed me, and she left me with a shit ton of insecurities I'm still fighting with years later. Your mileage may vary though.
[QUOTE=Gulen;41401956]Wow, $500 just to get some birth control? I work at a fast food place, and we sell emergency-prevention (known as the morning-after pill), you just have to be 18. I'm not sure if you can get other prevention (except from condoms, ofc) from stores, though, but if not, you can get it from the doctor, without paying $500.[/QUOTE] yeah thats norway. the US is a little behind when it comes to women's reproductive health
The US is a bit behind when it comes to healthcare, except for on TV. There was a couple of weeks ago a big deal on the news about the underlying dangers of those Jasmine pills. I was at my best friends and his girlfriends place when she got a message from her mother asking her to consider quitting their use.
Yeah more than conside dropping them, abandon ship asap. From what i have heard they are really screwed. And its not like there isnt a ton of other options that are way safer. But i havent really kept up on that since i avoided taking pills at any point
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41405093]We've tried but they always try and get involved, this all started because I said she had a nice ass and her parents secretly read through her facebook messages. Her parents are mormon as well.[/QUOTE] Join the dating-a-girl-with-ridiculously-controlling-parents club. My girlfriend's dad tried to break us up after our first date.
[QUOTE=Cyanlime;41406523]Join the dating-a-girl-with-ridiculously-controlling-parents club. My girlfriend's dad tried to break us up after our first date.[/QUOTE] my girlfriend's dad told me at her birthday party that if i wanted to sleep over i'd be sleepin in with him for the night i did not stay over
If birth control/the doctor visit is that expensive for you, I'd go to the doctor the first time to see what dosages and whatnot I needed, then if it worked fine I would just get my hands on refills illegally. There's tons of online pharmacies based out of places like India that allow you to get your hands on pharmaceutical drugs without a prescription.
Yea cause that makes sense you get your roids off them as well?
[QUOTE=killerteacup;41406881]my girlfriend's dad told me at her birthday party that if i wanted to sleep over i'd be sleepin in with him for the night i did not stay over[/QUOTE] that's the test you sleep with him and then he'll like you because it'll prove you're commited enough to go through with it but if you chicken out it means you aren't committed to dating his daughter
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;41409952]that's the test you sleep with him and then he'll like you because it'll prove you're commited enough to go through with it but if you chicken out it means you aren't committed to dating his daughter[/QUOTE] you must lay down and stare into his eyes the entire night without sleeping.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;41405573]I dated a Mormon once. She tried to convert me, her Dad almost killed me, and she left me with a shit ton of insecurities I'm still fighting with years later. Your mileage may vary though.[/QUOTE] What happened man? That's if you're comfortable sharing.
[QUOTE=Cyanlime;41406523]Join the dating-a-girl-with-ridiculously-controlling-parents club. My girlfriend's dad tried to break us up after our first date.[/QUOTE] One time, me and this female friend of mine ran into her parents, and out of the blue, her dad said "You know she's my daughter, right?", to which I answered "yeah?," before he finished it off with "and you know I'm stronger than you and could beat you, right?" I know he was joking, but it still scared/creeped me out a little. Still didn't stop me, though...
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41410643]What happened man? That's if you're comfortable sharing.[/QUOTE] I think I posted about her once before, but that would've been years ago. Not much to tell though. It was my first relationship and I was all happy and full of misconceptions. Thought I loved her, abandoned a lot of friends for her, etc. She was also just a shit person, really unfaithful in a way that kind of effected me. Just a shit person in general. Her Dad almost killed me by driving like a maniac once. Just felt like it added to the sentence.
I'm feeling really bloody lonely lately and all I can think about is having a girlfriend and a nice relationship. I'm socially useless and where I live is horrible for trying to meet people. Where do you guys even meet people? How do I take my mind off of thinking about having a relationship?
[QUOTE=benbb;41412622]all I can think about is having a girlfriend and a nice relationship[/QUOTE] This is a sign that you shouldn't have a girlfriend right now
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