Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Zareox]

Yeah, it could be an empty stomach and you're smelling the stomach acids. If all else fails, buy a bunch of mints and just keep them on you.

[Fire Kracker]

i could probably eat snacks and stuff

but i never really feel hungry cuz i don't do much

[Leader of Me]

Shit keeps getting worse, my sort of girlfriend has been starting to talk to this guy who's been chatting her up, she says she feels happy talking to him because it takes her mind off of the shit that's going on between us. I asked her if she has feelings for him and she says she doesn't know and that she may do. I don't know if she's just over thinking or if its because she feels happy talking to him because she doesn't have to worry about the situation we are currently in. I don't know if I should walk away or not.

[[CWG]RustySpann]

So last night I pretty much wrote a love letter to the girl I've loved the last 4 years. I'm not going to give it to her or anything I just felt I should write it.

[Fire Kracker]

i do eat breakfast

but i mean i don't eat snacks or anything

actually maybe i do lol

[Gulen]

So there's this girl (I've mentioned her before), like always, and I'm not sure what she wants. We've been friends for almost two years now, and sometimes it seems like she wants to be more, but then again it sometimes seems like she just wants to be friends. She's gone now (visiting family, left right after I started thinking this), but when she gets back, I'm thinking of talking to her in person and asking her straight up what she wants from "us". If she wants to be friends or whatever. At first I thought that this was the absolutely right thing to do, but now I'm getting doubts, part of me thinks it a horrible idea, but another part thinks it's the right thing to do. What do you think?

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;41427719]i'm pretty sure morning breath is because your mouth is dehydrated and doesn't produce saliva at night so the bacteria make shitloads of sulfur compounds that stink up your mouth

that said breakfast is still a good idea[/QUOTE]

Theres a combination, hence why morning breath is really terrible :v: but throughout the day it can keep up even after youve brushed your teeth, that is stomach acid smells.
Or diabetes.

And ya know I dunno about you but I seem to make lots of saliva in my sleep, drool all over the pillow in the morning :v:

[Kindlinho]

So 2 days ago I went out with this girl by whom I was pretty much (brace yourselves and don't go on if it exists or not) friendzoned two years ago. Since then we went through a phase of ignoring each other, greeting each other, ignoring each other again, then realizing it's awkward and going back to what we've always been - really good friends with mutual trust.

We were only meeting at school saying hellos and pretty much nothing more, but we had a lot of conversations over Facebook. We solved our issues, I told her I was ashamed for being so obsessive sometimes, she replied that she never found me obsessive. I also said that I hate it my love was left unrequited, but that I also understand I can't force someone to feel the same. Then I said that it hurt badly, that I tried to erase her from my life completely (thus the ignoring part). Only to get the epiphany she's too valuable as a friend to lose. Note that it was her who took the iniciative to make up, always. I mentioned something hurting it, but actually getting over it, which was true. I used to be really jealous about her and everything revolving around her person. After we reconciled that day, however, I've made my peace and I've never been startled by such things again. She was often speaking about her boyfriends and what are they doing etc. Both before and after our dispute.
Not even that was bothering me anymore. So far, so good. I should let you know that we'd never been out together before 2 days ago either.

Anyway, fast-forward to present time. She writes me she's single again (after breaking up and getting back together with the same guy like week and a half ago) and asks me to "get drunk together" the next day. Well, I'd rejected her offers to go out several times in the past, but I wanted to help her, let her speak out her mind so I didn't even give it a second thought this time.

So the next day we went out to a local café, where she revealed to me how he was physically rough on her and excusing it with: "You're mine, so I can do whatever I want to you."
And how he always preferred his friends and the pub over her, leaving her alone at home and not even letting her know when he's coming back or anything. He was calling her fat (which she's not, she's your perfectly normal average girl, trust me), when they actually were somewhere out together, he complimented other girls passing by like: "What a hottie, wouldn't you say?"
He never complimented her though, pretty much the very opposite, saying stuff like: "You have a serious cellulite."
Despite all that, she told me it was her longest relationship and actually the first one when she fell in love. He was even mean to her mother, she said. And well, her mother hated him as well and let her daughter know. Don't get me wrong, the girl has a beautiful relationship with her mother, honestly. There was no bad blood.

Anyway, that guy was 28, she's 20. She always ends up with a much older guy, who treats her like shit and her relationships always come quickly to an end. Her father left the family when she was young, so she's deliberately (or who knows) looking for a father figure, I guess.

And to top it off, I realized, when I was sitting there, that I still love her. Don't judge me, I know it sounds pathethic. I never believed in love and sunshine, but I'm not fifteen anymore and I can read my feelings better now. Also, she knows that she's "not just another friend" to me, which is why she apologized a few times after accidentally getting too intimate with her relationship story.

It just bothers me to see her hurt everytime. What if she ended up with a guy, who would treat her nicely? I can't lie, I would still be hurt, but at least I would know she is happy and safe. Makes it much easier to get over it, when a girl dates a nice guy instead of a possessive idiot.

Now I'm not really looking for an advice or anything (or so I like to think), I just needed to ventilate. And that is something I don't do very often. But feel free to comment this if you like to.

[Juice_Layer]

We met up and had dinner and I took her back to my place and rubbed my chin pretty much anywhere you would or wouldn't want to know about.

[djshox]

chin to anus action?

[Lexinator]

So theres this fucking cute chick i know not that well and as i don't know her that well messages on Facebook are generally ignored, nothing flirty just more hows the trip going etc. Was wondering how to get to know her better in person without sounding like a creep and as she is usually with friends when i see her with a few guys.
So to get to know her better and fit in and hint slowly i like her :v:

[Fire Kracker]

basically stalk her

nah jk ask her if she's doing anything and if it's something u can join in with just ask if you could come too

[Riku2211]

God fucking dammit

my friends and i have been getting together every friday for a while now but this week it was moved to saturday because of hosting issues

so i go all the way over there, ring the doorbell, no one home. I text my friend, apparently it had been called off completely and [B]no one told me[/B]

so then i walked all the way back home (20-30 minute walk, so around an hour total I was probably out there considering I was probably a bit slower on the way back) in 100-104 degree weather and now my head hurts and I feel like shit. I think I may have been another like 10-20 minutes from fainting out there or some shit god dammit. I mean I'm no pussy about the heat I can take being hot I've lived in AZ my whole life but when my head and chest start feeling weird there's a problem.

I'm gonna go drink some water or some shit

[editline]13th July 2013[/editline]

let me ask this: How do I convince my friends to properly communicate with me, they're so fucking bad at it

[Tennisball]

Girl I really like, my friend and I bumped into her and her friend like last week (this was like the second day I met her and when I started liking her) and we spent the day with them. After her friend and my friend went home we talked for like another hour, no conversation gaps.

Been speaking to her on facebook, got her number and we've been texting a lot. She's been responding pretty well and she even started the conversation this morning.

Now, what next? Two of my friends (that are girls) say I should try and meet her with friends around again. Personally I feel like this'll get me friendzoned pretty quickly and I would normally just ask her out to go to the cinema or something.

so ye, what 2 do next ??

[Juice_Layer]

[QUOTE=Tennisball;41445733]Girl I really like, my friend and I bumped into her and her friend like last week (this was like the second day I met her and when I started liking her) and we spent the day with them. After her friend and my friend went home we talked for like another hour, no conversation gaps.

Been speaking to her on facebook, got her number and we've been texting a lot. She's been responding pretty well and she even started the conversation this morning.

Now, what next? Two of my friends (that are girls) say I should try and meet her with friends around again. Personally I feel like this'll get me friendzoned pretty quickly and I would normally just ask her out to go to the cinema or something.

so ye, what 2 do next ??[/QUOTE]

When you're with your friend next time and you run into her have him ask "Do you like coffee?" and when she's like "Duh" he goes, "Oh, well so does ___yournamehere___, y'all should get coffee sometime!"

[CyanLime]

or you could just straight up ask her out.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Lexinator;41441290]So theres this fucking cute chick i know not that well and as i don't know her that well messages on Facebook are generally ignored, nothing flirty just more hows the trip going etc. Was wondering how to get to know her better in person without sounding like a creep and as she is usually with friends when i see her with a few guys.
So to get to know her better and fit in and hint slowly i like her :v:[/QUOTE]

If she is ignoring your messages one would generally assume she doesnt want to get to know you...?

[PistolKid]

I really don't like my dad. My relationship with him is so fucked up. He's such a goddamn hypocrite, and literally nothing from anybody is enough to please him. And then my mom gets sucked into the whole thing, so she has to hear shit from the both of us, and it breaks my heart. I've confronted him before but literally nothing changes. I'm so sick of him and the shit he causes.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=PistolKid;41449282]I really don't like my dad. My relationship with him is so fucked up. He's such a goddamn hypocrite, and literally nothing from anybody is enough to please him. And then my mom gets sucked into the whole thing, so she has to hear shit from the both of us, and it breaks my heart. I've confronted him before but literally nothing changes. I'm so sick of him and the shit he causes.[/QUOTE]

heres some advice, parents become far easier to deal with once you only see them when you want to. growing up is a huge strain on parental relationships and sometimes everyone just needs a break from each other you know.

[Juice_Layer]

[QUOTE=Cyanlime;41446529]or you could just straight up ask her out.[/QUOTE]

I prefer to live my life like a sitcom. One of the ones that gets cancelled 3 episodes after the pilot airs.

[Tennisball]

[QUOTE=Cyanlime;41446529]or you could just straight up ask her out.[/QUOTE]

This is what I want to do but friends insist otherwise. Apparently if I ask her out now it's "too fast"

[CyanLime]

[QUOTE=Tennisball;41452121]This is what I want to do but friends insist otherwise. Apparently if I ask her out now it's "too fast"[/QUOTE]

no such thing, mate. I say go for it

[Gulen]

[QUOTE=Tennisball;41452121]This is what I want to do but friends insist otherwise. Apparently if I ask her out now it's "too fast"[/QUOTE]

Taking it slow, and slowly hinting to her that you like her is the dumbest thing to do, as it is the easiest way to be friendzoned. You don't have to know someone well before you ask them out, that's what dates are for - getting to know eachother to see if you'd like to be together.

[NoDachi]

friendzone doesn't exist

[CyanLime]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;41452980]friendzone doesn't exist[/QUOTE]

from what I can tell it just means you want a romantic relationship with a girl who isn't interested having that sort of a relationship with you.

which of course is a thing that happens, but I prefer to avoid using the term "friendzone" because it implies that you're entitled to a romantic relationship with said girl, which is obviously not the case.

[NumberSeven]

okay so i have a best best friend online. We met on steam like two years ago and we've been best friends for a very long time. She recently just got her heart broken by a boy who initially seemed really nice, but that boy fell in love with another boy (bisexual) and started making out with him drunk at parties (very out of character) and then proceeding to go out with her like THE NEXT DAY and try to romance her so he had a safe back up option. Shes now in the process of getting over him.

Now, i'm in love with her, and she knows it, and we've talked about it. She's said that she wishes the next boy she falls in love could be me, shes said that im really nice and sweet and kind and that sort of thing etc. i've been going out of my way to be as caring for her as possible while shes heartbroken like she is. She has said i am attractive and cute, she's said plenty of things about me. But she's made it clear that shes getting over a heartbreak and theres no guarantee she will ever feel feelings for me.

Now i don't think my chances are high, but how do i increase my chances of her falling for me, when she next has a crush, because i really want to be with her. Thanks for the help

EDIT: just to clarify - i have met her in real life once recently and we plan to meet a lot more, so its not just online. (next weekend is one time)

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=NumberSeven;41454108]EDIT: just to clarify - i have met her in real life once recently and we plan to meet a lot more, so its not just online. (next weekend is one time)[/QUOTE]

Good. I was about to ask if she was a milk drinking android.

But this isn't really something you can 'increase the chances of'. Just be yourself, she'll either like you for it eventually or she won't.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=NumberSeven;41454108]okay so i have a best best friend online. We met on steam like two years ago and we've been best friends for a very long time. She recently just got her heart broken by a boy who initially seemed really nice, but that boy fell in love with another boy (bisexual) and started making out with him drunk at parties (very out of character) and then proceeding to go out with her like THE NEXT DAY and try to romance her so he had a safe back up option. Shes now in the process of getting over him.

Now, i'm in love with her, and she knows it, and we've talked about it. She's said that she wishes the next boy she falls in love could be me, shes said that im really nice and sweet and kind and that sort of thing etc. i've been going out of my way to be as caring for her as possible while shes heartbroken like she is. She has said i am attractive and cute, she's said plenty of things about me. But she's made it clear that shes getting over a heartbreak and theres no guarantee she will ever feel feelings for me.

Now i don't think my chances are high, [B]but how do i increase my chances of her falling for me, when she next has a crush,[/B] because i really want to be with her. Thanks for the help

EDIT: just to clarify - i have met her in real life once recently and we plan to meet a lot more, so its not just online. (next weekend is one time)[/QUOTE]

Crushes arn't some monthly cycle or something bro. It'll happen if its going to happen, but physical contact will help try meeting up regularly, when someone is just a name across a screen all the time its a lot harder to get physically attracted to them (which is a large portion of a crush)

[Leader of Me]

My girlfriend and I parted ways, she says she doesn't want a relationship at this time because of all the shit with her parents and crisis of faith, which is fair enough and hopefully we'll always be close, she said we may get back together we just have to wait and see, but whatever happens I'll always be there for her, amazing person.

[Dr. Gestapo]

[QUOTE=Cyanlime;41446529]or you could just straight up ask her out.[/QUOTE]

nah dude if you wanna do this like a pro you have to take all the variables into consideration here, scout the game field, know what i'm saying?

find a good way to open her up and try some tactics to bring the bitch-shield down and you'll be all set

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i bet you've never even read a PUA book