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Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

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i just realized how sexually attracted to Cat i am that i have kinda just have to post about it

[QUOTE=skynrdfan3;40179885]i just realized how sexually attracted to Cat i am that i have kinda just have to post about it[/QUOTE] [IMG]http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ls6dvcQrsm1qlkdabo2_500.jpg[/IMG] ? :v:

oh i thought he meant cat power skynrdfan3 thats weird i think youre in the wrong thread if thats the kind of shit youre into

[QUOTE=thisispain;40179937]oh i thought he meant cat power skynrdfan3 thats weird i think youre in the wrong thread if thats the kind of shit youre into[/QUOTE] Although I am well aware he didn't mean an actual cat I see no reason we should discriminate against people based on their preferences.

wrong type of pussy bro *crushes beer can on forehead*

JSUT TO BE CLEAR: i am not into literal cats. we just call her cat.

Why do you call her cat is it because she's standoffish and doesn't like you very much

it's because she pees in a box and refuses to clean up after herself.

I can not contribute because my own nickname is Kat :v:

[QUOTE=skynrdfan3;40180014]JSUT TO BE CLEAR: i am not into literal cats. we just call her cat.[/QUOTE] [video=youtube;PH6gBkU1dUM]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PH6gBkU1dUM[/video]

What happened to this thread?

Are there any ways to psych yourself up into asking a girl out? I've come a long way since I posted in here and the depression thread, and I'm finally able to get out and about in college. I'm having an easier time talking to people I don't know but initiating contact is still hard for me. I've gone to a few more parties with friends, I don't enjoy them but I small talk with strangers occasionally but usually just end up talking to my small group of friends. There's this girl I like, and she's a senior, meaning that by May she'll be gone and I'll never see her again. We're friends on Facebook, she's in my Neuropsychology class, and she was my RA when I was a sophomore (I'm a junior now). When we talk she seems to light up and is very friendly, and I haven't been awkward or overbearing with her like I've feared before getting to know her. She seems to be a mix of shy and social since she always walks with her head down but she's an RA and she has a good group of friends that I don't know. We're both Psych majors, we're both interested in the topic of Autism (her cousin has Asperger's, I was diagnosed as a child and I've basically grown out of it except for the social anxiety (I told her this {didn't mention the anxiety} and she seemed to get excited in a way, she just, well, lit up is the best phrase I can use)), and we're both nice people. I need to know if she's interested in me, but I only see her in class Tuesdays and Fridays and never otherwise. I want to ask her if she wants to go to the cafe on campus to hang out after class, or maybe just hang out or something, but I don't know if she has class or not after Neuropsych (we could always do it another time but being vague is just a nice way of saying no), and other than that I'm scared as fuck. I know what I have to do: ask her out. I just don't know how to psych myself into the mindset to do so or the words I should use. Advice?

[QUOTE=SleepyAl;40191066] I know what I have to do: ask her out. I just don't know how to psych myself into the mindset to do so or the words I should use. Advice?[/QUOTE] just ask her if she wants to have coffee or go do something fun. as long as you make it obvious that you are asking her out it doesnt really matter what words you use as for psyching yourself; thats really something only you can do. try to get yourself excited for the opportunity but keep your expectations very very low. a lot of my own nervousness comes from expectations.

[QUOTE=thisispain;40191195]just ask her if she wants to have coffee or go do something fun. as long as you make it obvious that you are asking her out it doesnt really matter what words you use as for psyching yourself; thats really something only you can do. try to get yourself excited for the opportunity but keep your expectations very very low. a lot of my own nervousness comes from expectations.[/QUOTE] Yeah, a big problem for me is that I overthink wayyyy too much. I think about all the ways I could fuck it up, all the reasons why she would say no, reasons she could have previously been interested in me but something I did turned her off, social gaffs I could do if she said yes, the fact that I shake a bit thanks to my meds and if she'd see that as nervousness and get turned off, if she knows how meek and unassuming I am and thinks of that as a turn-off, etc. And if I think positively it jumps straight to relationship and all the fears and expectations associated with that. God, it's just such a horrible feeling in my chest. Uncertainty swallows me up, and then anxiety adds to the cocktail, making me feel like there's this black hole where my heart would be. I know I'm probably going to be depressed if she says no and depressed if she says yes. I just wish I could be chill about it.

How do you get rid of a "friend"? And by friend I mean the guy that just takes your stuff, takes away your phone and still calls himself your friend.

Well that ended well. Remember when I said my ex and I might get back together, or never talk to eachother again? We decided upon the latter, then had an argument. I was already in a bad mood and she even said she wanted me to be mad at her so I wouldn't have feelings for her and well I pretty much feel like I hate her. I'm in a pretty terrible mood. We're not going to talk anymore. I'm getting pretty tired of most of my life consisting of anger, annoyance, misery, and being pretty much left out of life in general. Fuck being a teenager and fuck possibly being bi-polar (my dad and sister are so I could be I guess). Someone would probably reply to this saying something along the lines of "Hey it's alright it gets better" etc but I know that I just hate waiting for it to get better. I don't really need the reassurance, I'm just venting. Nice to have a place where I CAN, though.

[QUOTE=TheCreepyPryo;40191242]How do you get rid of a "friend"? And by friend I mean the guy that just takes your stuff, takes away your phone and still calls himself your friend.[/QUOTE] be really cold toward him until he connects the dots

[QUOTE=SleepyAl;40191228] the fact that I shake a bit thanks to my meds[/QUOTE] that's rough just try to not think about it as much. distract yourself, if you can

Second base on a second date isn't necessarily a bad thing is it?

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;40194538]Second base on a second date isn't necessarily a bad thing is it?[/QUOTE] considering i never got to second base for 6 months i'd say you were alright

[QUOTE=cueballv2themax;40196102]considering i never got to second base for 6 months i'd say you were alright[/QUOTE] Well what I mean, that doesn't seem too soon does it?

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;40196163]Well what I mean, that doesn't seem too soon does it?[/QUOTE] guess she's well into you

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;40196163]Well what I mean, that doesn't seem too soon does it?[/QUOTE] I'm not 100% sure, but I'd say at least try to stay around where you are for a little while. It sounds somewhat fast, but not necessarily bad. Just take it slow from there.

it's nobody else's right to judge whether you're moving "too fast", it's up to the individual. some people are more casual about sex than others.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40196513]it's nobody else's right to judge whether you're moving "too fast", it's up to the individual. some people are more casual about sex than others.[/QUOTE] Well, going too fast might make your partner finish after you :v:

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;40196163]Well what I mean, that doesn't seem too soon does it?[/QUOTE] Provided your both okay with it then there is no such thing as too fast. If your not sure you can always confirm with her she is okay with it.

Is it possible to be friends after a break up? I feel like it's hot and cold with her. One minute she wants to be friends the next she doesn't want to. I keep going back to her in my head over and over. It stings.

[QUOTE=blacksam;40197418]Is it possible to be friends after a break up? I feel like it's hot and cold with her. One minute she wants to be friends the next she doesn't want to. I keep going back to her in my head over and over. It stings.[/QUOTE] It is, but not straight away. You need to give it a bit of time at least to cool down and for you to both sort yourselves out.

[QUOTE=metallics;40197451]It is, but not straight away. You need to give it a bit of time at least to cool down and for you to both sort yourselves out.[/QUOTE] It's been two weeks. I think I'm rushing into things. I just don't know how to cope I guess.

[QUOTE=blacksam;40197478]It's been two weeks. I think I'm rushing into things. I just don't know how to cope I guess.[/QUOTE] I can't tell you how long is the right amount of time to leave it. that's down to the pair of you (forever might be the answer, it sometimes is) but if that's how you feel currently, forget about her, approach her later for friendship.

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