Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=PredGD;41593126]I only have one of those and she is struggling with problems on her own. :v: The connection between us two is really awkward as well.[/QUOTE]
Are you at all close? Is she somebody you could talk to? If she's going through some real shit at the moment as well, then she may need somebody to talk to as badly as you do.
I went through some bad times when I was younger, too. When I was in my early teens, my parents were going through a divorce, and one day my mom dropped me off at dad's house, told me she was sick of being my babysitter, and never came back. I took it pretty hard. Not long after, my best friend started dating a girl named Tina. Shortly into their relationship, her mom died of cancer. I didn't know Tina very well at that point, but we were both dealing with some serious loss, and some deep depression. We each knew how the other was feeling, and so we started spending a lot of time together, talking and trying to help each other through the darkest stretches of it.
Over the next couple of years we got very close. I fell in love with her, a bit, which led to no small measure of heartbreak and confusion in itself, but even still! She became my closest friend, and it was good. After a couple of years, she moved away, and we fell out of contact. It's not the storybook ending, but if she hadn't been there for me at that time of my life, I might not have come out the other side of that as cleanly as I did. Tina's happily married now, and to a really sweet dude, and she actually seems to be loving where she is in life these days, so I hope that I was able to make a difference for her too!
My point is, if there's anybody you can talk to, especially if it's somebody who's going through some similar problems that you are, then it might be worth it to reach out. Sometimes helping somebody else with the bad things in their life can put the bad things in your own in better perspective, and that can make all the difference. If you don't have anybody, then just make sure you're not holding back with the people you do have: your therapist, your family, your friends. There's no shame in it. Don't be afraid to ask for more help if you feel like you need it, because if you try to work through everything yourself, you could fall into a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom and gloom, where nothing ever gets better because you can't or won't admit that you need help making it better.
You've got some issues, dude, but so does everybody at some point in their lives. Do what you need to do, you dig?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41596574]Alright im home, god my feet hurt.
Anyway what I was going to say is that going to the shrink isnt rare at all, is extremely common and theres nothing wrong with it for sure.
And a lot of depression and anxiety (haveing dealt with both myself in [I]mostly [/I]the past) is allowing yourself to think that way. Not feel but think, you sort of create a loop of i look terrible i feel terrible and it feeds it self you sort of have to learn to step in and argue with yourself say no i look fine i was fine comming in this is just my brain being dumb and depressive. It takes some work and at first feels fake and pointless but its something ive learned to do over the years that really helps you control yourself a bit. Just this norming i was getting depressed and its part of why im thinking about this because i just had to step back from myself for a minute to be like "stop being a dumbass brain you have nothing to complain about" and just push the thoughts away.[/QUOTE]
I wish for your feet to have a speedy recovery.
I've tried telling myself stuff like that but I always end up telling myself “why am I even bothering to lie to myself“ or “I'm not getting anywhere by forcing myself to compliment me“. Maybe I've gotten to the point where I can't fix this myself? I've been breaking down more often and been isolating myself more than before. Kind of given up hope really. One thing my shrink told me was to take one day at the time. It's hard to change the pattern of my thoughts but I can imagine that it would help.
Anyway, as my shrink told me I'll try to take one day at the time. Problem is that I have no clue where to start. I have to begin somewhere to increase my self esteem.
Yeah I'm trying to find time to hangout with one of my friends but they were busy the whole week while I've been free the whole week, and they haven't responded at all to any messages since Saturday despite seeing them and being online. I'm not gonna get pissy over it but it's definitely annoying
[QUOTE=PredGD;41596772]I wish for your feet to have a speedy recovery.
I've tried telling myself stuff like that but I always end up telling myself “why am I even bothering to lie to myself“ or “I'm not getting anywhere by forcing myself to compliment me“. Maybe I've gotten to the point where I can't fix this myself? I've been breaking down more often and been isolating myself more than before. Kind of given up hope really. One thing my shrink told me was to take one day at the time. It's hard to change the pattern of my thoughts but I can imagine that it would help.
Anyway, as my shrink told me I'll try to take one day at the time. Problem is that I have no clue where to start. I have to begin somewhere to increase my self esteem.[/QUOTE]
Another thing to consider: if your self esteem is severely lacking, try exercise. Yeah, it basically sucks at first, but you'd be really amazed how much some time at the gym can do to make you feel better about yourself, and if you can keep a regular routine for a few weeks without giving up, you'll actually start looking forward to your exercise days. There is a fitness subforum here on Facepunch where you can get some info on how to get started. Personally, I'd recommend weights, because your progress with weightlifting is a lot easier to keep track of, and seeing the physical results of adding a little more to the bar each week is a thrill, but if you feel more comfortable running (or biking, I love biking) then don't let anybody stop you.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;41596770]Are you at all close? Is she somebody you could talk to? If she's going through some real shit at the moment as well, then she may need somebody to talk to as badly as you do.
I went through some bad times when I was younger, too. When I was in my early teens, my parents were going through a divorce, and one day my mom dropped me off at dad's house, told me she was sick of being my babysitter, and never came back. Naturally, I took it pretty hard. Not long after, my best friend started dating a girl named Tina. Shortly into their relationship, her mom died of cancer. I didn't know Tina very well at that point, but we were both dealing with some serious loss, and some deep depression. We each knew how the other was feeling, and so we started spending a lot of time together, talking and trying to help each other through the darkest stretches of it. Over the next couple of years we got very close. I fell in love with her, a bit, which led to no small measure of heartbreak in itself, but even still! She was my closest friend, and it was good. After a couple of years, she moved away, and we fell out of contact. It's not the storybook ending, but if she hadn't been there for me at that time of my life, I might not have come out the other side of that as cleanly as I did. Tina's happily married now, and to a really sweet dude, and she actually seems to be loving where she is in life these days, so I hope that I was able to make a difference for her too!
My point is, if there's anybody you can talk to, especially if it's somebody who's going through some similar problems that you are, then it might be worth it to reach out. Sometimes helping somebody else with the bad things in their life can put the bad things in your own in better perspective, and that can make all the difference. If you don't have anybody, then just make sure you're not holding back with the people you do have: your therapist, your family, your friends. There's no shame in it. Don't be afraid to ask her for more help if you feel like you need it, because if you try to work through everything yourself, you could fall into a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom and gloom, where nothing ever gets better because you can't or won't admit that you need help making it better.
You've got some issues, dude, but so does everybody at some point in their lives. Do what you need to do, you dig?[/QUOTE]
I'd love to talk with her about it as we both struggle, but thing is that we're incredibly different mentally. She craves for attention 24/7 while I'd rather not have that. She has friends and a bf, unlike me. We used to be really close once, but after I begun flirting back and forth with my ex (about 1 1/2 years ago) we had a big fight. She got jealous or something, I don't really know since she never showed any sign of attraction.
She picked up contact again this year, but I haven't been showing much interest to maintain that contact. She has even told me “I hope you don't think I have a crush on you or something! “. I think she does considering her behavior which makes it kind of awkward.
Sorry for messy post. Hard to keep track of what I have been writing on a phone :v:
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;41596870]Another thing to consider: if your self esteem is severely lacking, try exercise. Yeah, it basically sucks at first, but you'd be really amazed how much some time at the gym can do to make you feel better about yourself, and if you can keep a regular routine for a few weeks without giving up, you'll actually start looking forward to your exercise days. There is a fitness subforum here on Facepunch where you can get some info on how to get started. Personally, I'd recommend weights, because your progress with weightlifting is a lot easier to keep track of, and seeing the physical results of adding a little more to the bar each week is a thrill, but if you feel more comfortable running (or biking, I love biking) then don't let anybody stop you.[/QUOTE]
I used to go to the gym twice a week before summer, but now I'm scared of what others think of me. I feel that my exercising outfit is ugly. Yet again, it boils down to my perspective of myself. I love biking however, but I feel so stupid when I do it all alone. I've told myself to bike to a nearby town once everyday to buy a cup of coffee, but I've yet to see myself actually doing it.
I don't have much to add to the conversation but I didn't really want to ignore the topic at hand here. I think it'd be a good idea, PredGD, if you at least tried talking to this friend of yours about anything, just to spark communication so you can see if maybe you would be comfortable talking to her about these things despite the difference in mindsets and supposed crushing.
On a side-note, I got back in contact with my ex, apologized and everything, and after a couple days of thinking she said she would like to be friends again. So, that's great. I'm pretty happy that I get to talk to her again. Definitely not gonna fuck it up this time.
So I texted a (female) friend of mine last week to see if she wanted to hang out. She said she was busy and woukd get back with me when she was available. She never did.
Hadn't texted her probably four months prior to then and its been much longer since we've hung out. Back in high school (a year ago), we used to hang out all the time. I tried to maintain contact with her but it skrta dropped off sometime before last christmas. Still, I cant help but get the feeling that she doesn't want to hang out. From what I hear, she can be very unforgiving if you cross her wrong. She's had the sane boyfriend for as long as I have known her and im definitely not seeking any more than a platonic friendship. I cant think of why she would possibly be avoiding me.
do you guys think I should just wait it out and wait for her to respond or do you think I should try texting her again?
Hi guys I went on a few dates with a girl and here is how it went
me: I really like you
her: I really like you too
me: Want to be a thing or
her: Oops I just got a boyfriend in another fucking country bye
[QUOTE=PredGD;41596880]
I used to go to the gym twice a week before summer, but now I'm scared of what others think of me. I feel that my exercising outfit is ugly. Yet again, it boils down to my perspective of myself. I love biking however, but I feel so stupid when I do it all alone. I've told myself to bike to a nearby town once everyday to buy a cup of coffee, but I've yet to see myself actually doing it.[/QUOTE]
If anything the gym is the last place you will be judged. Everyone is sweaty and looks like shit. The notion that everyone judges you at the gym is a complete and outright myth. Nobody cares what you look like, everyone is just doing their own thing. If anything, the only people who get judged/stared at are the swole dudes.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41600704]If anything the gym is the last place you will be judged. Everyone is sweaty and looks like shit. The notion that everyone judges you at the gym is a complete and outright myth. Nobody cares what you look like, everyone is just doing their own thing. If anything, the only people who get judged/stared at are the swole dudes.[/QUOTE]
True that.
Have you ever, honestly seen anyone point at a fat guy on a treadmill and say: "HAHA Look at that fat fuck on the treadmill becoming healthier, what a fucking loser"
never has that been said. People are to busy looking themselves in the mirror or working to give a shit about what other people do.
And rule 1. NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS. You are focusing on yourself not others, you have different genetics and focus on improving yourself and you will make it brah.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=PredGD;41591732]fuck my self-esteem
I was convinced that if I just went out to buy some clothes that I would feel comfortable in things would become better. Today told me that's not the case. I've just come home after a failed attempt to buy new clothes for myself. It went fine the first 10 minutes at the mall, but then I begun to feel that everyone looked at me. Looked at how ugly I was. I didn't find anything I liked either. I must have tried all kinds of clothes while I was there. That color, no doesn't fit me, that is too tight for me, too large for me etc... Then I wonder how everyone else manages to look so good in their selection of clothes? Towards the end I was starting to panic because I felt that everyone gave me weird looks. I just had to get out of there. It only took 30 minutes before I bailed out and hauled my ass home as quickly as possible.
I don't think buying new clothes is a suitable start to increase my self-esteem. Why bother when I feel ugly in everything I try? Maybe I should put my focus somewhere else, like my body? I'm clueless.[/QUOTE]
Bro i can help with that.
Like my fat friend still look damn good (no homo, not implying you are fat) because they dress right, doesn't matter if the shirt is too tight if you look and dress good. Hell when i'm with my chick friend we discussed ugly people (i sound like a faggot when i say this but whatever) and how they could get chicks or atleast look better. We both ended up with the conclusion that let's say you are a 4/10 (ugly) if you show that you dress right and actually care about how you look you can move up to like what 7/10 which should hook chicks.
Anyways onto your clothing problem. Rule numero uno, make sure the colours fit, for example: bright red, and dark grey don't fit. You dig? For example get a nice tanktop or shirt, white or grey for that matter, wear shorts (which match the colour) and some nice flat van shoes and you're already dressing good. Don't buy cheap ripoff video game clothes, you can buy nice cheap clothes but dont pay like 5 bucks for a shirt.
protip 1. Never get shorts that goes below the knee, thats what feodra wearing band t-shirt wearing people use.
protip 2. Test your clothes before you buy.
protip 3. Some people feel out of place inside clothing stores, don't worry about that at all people don't care (if this is the case for you, i used to feel that way when i was younger) and if people do look, why the fuck do you care? you're buying clothes for yourself are they gonna fucking judge you for that?
protip 4. Stated earlier, make sure the colours match. Even you can see if the colours match, dark jeans or shorts fits alot of shirts. Grey, white and so on.
protip 5. Ankle socks, if you wear normal socks in the summer then shame on you.
protip 6. When you try clothes, don't pick just a shirt and wear it. Pick some pants too so that you buy an entire outfit.
Reply to this if this was of help, i can give you clothing alternatives if you want bro.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
venta er du norsk? hvilket kjøpesenter dro du til?
Hennes og Mauritz har veldig bra klesvalg! Kontakt meg på PM hvis du trenger hjelp til klær, jeg er seriøs. Ser ut som om du trenger litt hjelp til ting og jeg kan gjerne hjelpe!
[QUOTE=Killarfrom;41600720]
Bro i can help with that.
Like my fat friend still look damn good (no homo, not implying you are fat) because they dress right, doesn't matter if the shirt is too tight if you look and dress good. Hell when i'm with my chick friend we discussed ugly people (i sound like a faggot when i say this but whatever) and how they could get chicks or atleast look better. We both ended up with the conclusion that let's say you are a 4/10 (ugly) if you show that you dress right and actually care about how you look you can move up to like what 7/10 which should hook chicks.
Anyways onto your clothing problem. Rule numero uno, make sure the colours fit, for example: bright red, and dark grey don't fit. You dig? For example get a nice tanktop or shirt, white or grey for that matter, wear shorts (which match the colour) and some nice flat van shoes and you're already dressing good. Don't buy cheap ripoff video game clothes, you can buy nice cheap clothes but dont pay like 5 bucks for a shirt.
protip 1. Never get shorts that goes below the knee, thats what feodra wearing band t-shirt wearing people use.
protip 2. Test your clothes before you buy.
protip 3. Some people feel out of place inside clothing stores, don't worry about that at all people don't care (if this is the case for you, i used to feel that way when i was younger) and if people do look, why the fuck do you care? you're buying clothes for yourself are they gonna fucking judge you for that?
protip 4. Stated earlier, make sure the colours match. Even you can see if the colours match, dark jeans or shorts fits alot of shirts. Grey, white and so on.
protip 5. Ankle socks, if you wear normal socks in the summer then shame on you.
protip 6. When you try clothes, don't pick just a shirt and wear it. Pick some pants too so that you buy an entire outfit.
Reply to this if this was of help, i can give you clothing alternatives if you want bro.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
venta er du norsk? hvilket kjøpesenter dro du til?
Hennes og Mauritz har veldig bra klesvalg! Kontakt meg på PM hvis du trenger hjelp til klær, jeg er seriøs. Ser ut som om du trenger litt hjelp til ting og jeg kan gjerne hjelpe![/QUOTE]
I wish it was as easy as it sounds. I have literally no problem with going there, but it doesn't take long before I get a sudden rush of anxiety which tells me to just get out of there. I've pretty much convinced myself that I'm in no need of pants or shorts right now, so I've been focusing mainly on something to wear on my upper body. Probably shouldn't. Sounds like a good idea to try both shirts and pants while I'm at it.
Feels kind of awkward replying to you in english considering you're norwegian, but I'll stick to that since this is a english forum. :v:
I was at Hennes & Mauritz yesterday but didn't get time to look through before the rush of anxiety overwhelmed me. I will definitely try again though, and I'll follow your advice!
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
Oh and, I went to Liertoppen in Lier. I would've gone to Asker but my anxiety tells me not to since I don't want to meet people I know.
[QUOTE=PredGD;41600937]I wish it was as easy as it sounds. I have literally no problem with going there, but it doesn't take long before I get a sudden rush of anxiety which tells me to just get out of there. I've pretty much convinced myself that I'm in no need of pants or shorts right now, so I've been focusing mainly on something to wear on my upper body. Probably shouldn't. Sounds like a good idea to try both shirts and pants while I'm at it.
Feels kind of awkward replying to you in english considering you're norwegian, but I'll stick to that since this is a english forum. :v:
I was at Hennes & Mauritz yesterday but didn't get time to look through before the rush of anxiety overwhelmed me. I will definitely try again though, and I'll follow your advice!
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
Oh and, I went to Liertoppen in Lier. I would've gone to Asker but my anxiety tells me not to since I don't want to meet people I know.[/QUOTE]
Ah i'm at liertoppen alot myself.
Personally i've started ordering clothes online, easier and faster and no anxiety rush you speak off. You pick your clothes and they arrive three days later.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
We skal ikke speak petter solberg english?
[QUOTE=Killarfrom;41600970]Ah i'm at liertoppen alot myself.
Personally i've started ordering clothes online, easier and faster and no anxiety rush you speak off. You pick your clothes and they arrive three days later.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
We skal ikke speak petter solberg english?[/QUOTE]
We kan, but jeg don't tror that folk is gonna like det :v:
I've thought about buying clothes on the internet as well, but then I come to think "I don't get to try it on, what if I don't like it?".
[QUOTE=PredGD;41600994]We kan, but jeg don't tror that folk is gonna like det :v:
I've thought about buying clothes on the internet as well, but then I come to think "I don't get to try it on, what if I don't like it?".[/QUOTE]
Heh. If you are unsure always buy one size larger. For example if you dont know if you er medium, you buy large.
Also, it's alot of hit and miss but you gotta almost just imagine yourself in those clothes, sound weird :v:
also you just buy clothes you think looks cool. works p. well. Buy plain shirts, nothing is worse then watching a guy with the exact same tee. Like grey-ish plain, and that will never happen.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
Men anyways i shall stop and prate petter solberg engelsk before jeg blir banned.
That feel when I always buy one size down so I can feel things caressing my curves.
[QUOTE=Killarfrom;41600720]True that.
Have you ever, honestly seen anyone point at a fat guy on a treadmill and say: "HAHA Look at that fat fuck on the treadmill becoming healthier, what a fucking loser"
never has that been said. People are to busy looking themselves in the mirror or working to give a shit about what other people do.
And rule 1. NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS. You are focusing on yourself not others, you have different genetics and focus on improving yourself and you will make it brah.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
Bro i can help with that.
Like my fat friend still look damn good (no homo, not implying you are fat) because they dress right, doesn't matter if the shirt is too tight if you look and dress good. Hell when i'm with my chick friend we discussed ugly people (i sound like a faggot when i say this but whatever) and how they could get chicks or atleast look better. We both ended up with the conclusion that let's say you are a 4/10 (ugly) if you show that you dress right and actually care about how you look you can move up to like what 7/10 which should hook chicks.
Anyways onto your clothing problem. Rule numero uno, make sure the colours fit, for example: bright red, and dark grey don't fit. You dig? For example get a nice tanktop or shirt, white or grey for that matter, wear shorts (which match the colour) and some nice flat van shoes and you're already dressing good. Don't buy cheap ripoff video game clothes, you can buy nice cheap clothes but dont pay like 5 bucks for a shirt.
protip 1. Never get shorts that goes below the knee, thats what feodra wearing band t-shirt wearing people use.
protip 2. Test your clothes before you buy.
protip 3. Some people feel out of place inside clothing stores, don't worry about that at all people don't care (if this is the case for you, i used to feel that way when i was younger) and if people do look, why the fuck do you care? you're buying clothes for yourself are they gonna fucking judge you for that?
protip 4. Stated earlier, make sure the colours match. Even you can see if the colours match, dark jeans or shorts fits alot of shirts. Grey, white and so on.
protip 5. Ankle socks, if you wear normal socks in the summer then shame on you.
protip 6. When you try clothes, don't pick just a shirt and wear it. Pick some pants too so that you buy an entire outfit.
Reply to this if this was of help, i can give you clothing alternatives if you want bro.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
venta er du norsk? hvilket kjøpesenter dro du til?
Hennes og Mauritz har veldig bra klesvalg! Kontakt meg på PM hvis du trenger hjelp til klær, jeg er seriøs. Ser ut som om du trenger litt hjelp til ting og jeg kan gjerne hjelpe![/QUOTE]
Well, style is a pretty personal thing. Some good advice there, like wearing ankle socks if you're in shorts, watching your colors, not wearing video game shirts, and basic stuff like that, but I don't think you need to be rushing out for a "tank top and a pair of vans!"
If you're not that great at dressing yourself, look around for some styles online that you like and can imagine yourself wearing. Or, if you happen to know somebody with a special flair for fashion, have them take you out for a shop. My friend Ori is a personal fashion consultant in Chicago, and she just recently dragged me into a Nordstroms and helped me pick out some very sharp clothes, which was kind of a huge deal for me! I'm six and a half feet tall, and finding clothes that are both in a style I like [I]and[/I] fit properly is a massive pain in the butt, and only further complicated by the fact that I'm totally oblivious about fashion stuff. I've always been the sort of dude to just pull on a pair of jeans and whatever T-shirt I grabbed first. Now, my Ori-Approved Wardrobe is my favorite shit in the closet. When I button one of those shirts down and see how nice it fits, I feel like strutting a bit.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
Post-Script: I didn't even know that personal fashion consultants were a real thing before meeting Ori, but she's pretty darn good at what she does, and she doesn't pull any punches. She went through my wardrobe, saying, "burn it, burn it, burn it, throw it away, I don't even know why you bought this shit, are you retarded? Burn it, burn it. This one's not bad, but those shoes? I wouldn't give this to a hobo."
I've been looking for a few styles on the net and thought to myself "huh, I would probably fit that!" but when I get to the store and find something similar, I always argue with myself and end up "nah, my hair isn't like that dudes" or "I'm not as fit as him, this won't fit me".
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;41601619]Well, style is a pretty personal thing. Some good advice there, like wearing ankle socks if you're in shorts, watching your colors, not wearing video game shirts, and basic stuff like that, but I don't think you need to be rushing out for a "tank top and a pair of vans!"
If you're not that great at dressing yourself, look around for some styles online that you like and can imagine yourself wearing. Or, if you happen to know somebody with a special flair for fashion, have them take you out for a shop. My friend Ori is a personal fashion consultant in Chicago, and she just recently dragged me into a Nordstroms and helped me pick out some very sharp clothes, which was kind of a huge deal for me! I'm six and a half feet tall, and finding clothes that are both in a style I like [I]and[/I] fit properly is a massive pain in the butt, and only further complicated by the fact that I'm totally oblivious about fashion stuff. I've always been the sort of dude to just pull on a pair of jeans and whatever T-shirt I grabbed first. Now, my Ori-Approved Wardrobe is my favorite shit in the closet. When I button one of those shirts down and see how nice it fits, I feel like strutting a bit.
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
Post-Script: I didn't even know that personal fashion consultants were a real thing before meeting Ori, but she's pretty darn good at what she does, and she doesn't pull any punches. She went through my wardrobe, saying, "burn it, burn it, burn it, throw it away, I don't even know why you bought this shit, are you retarded? Burn it, burn it. This one's not bad, but those shoes? I wouldn't give this to a hobo."[/QUOTE]
idk its just because im a gym douche i have a love for tank tops tbh
smh
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=PredGD;41601670]I've been looking for a few styles on the net and thought to myself "huh, I would probably fit that!" but when I get to the store and find something similar, I always argue with myself and end up "nah, my hair isn't like that dudes" or "I'm not as fit as him, this won't fit me".[/QUOTE]
come to WtF
we'll make you fit in no time and get you jump started on some hard steroids
[QUOTE=PredGD;41601670]I've been looking for a few styles on the net and thought to myself "huh, I would probably fit that!" but when I get to the store and find something similar, I always argue with myself and end up "nah, my hair isn't like that dudes" or "I'm not as fit as him, this won't fit me".[/QUOTE]
what happened to your balls
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
the only time you should be worrying about if something fits properly is when it's a suit
[QUOTE=Flapadar;41603883]what happened to your balls
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
the only time you should be worrying about if something fits properly is when it's a suit[/QUOTE]
yes ok lets all dress like cam'ron thats a good way to solve problems
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Why would you not want clothes that fit properly? My whole adult life I have spent searching for the [I]perfect pair of pants.[/I] Everything that isn't custom tailored falls into two categories: too short, or too wide. I exist in a weird limbo place, where I'm tall, but I'm not fat. Pants-makers seem to scale pant length and pant width at a flat rate, or something, because anything that's properly long enough has a huge waste size, and anything with a proper waste size is far too short. Shirts aren't [I]quite[/I] as bad, but even those I have to find compromises on! What Ori helped me find is probably the first properly-fitted set of clothes I've ever had, and the experience of it...! If I ever have daughters, I'm naming one Ori.
[QUOTE=Flapadar;41603883]the only time you should be worrying about if something fits properly is when it's a suit[/QUOTE]
lmao what
sure, if you want to look like you don't give a shit. properly fitted clothes are sexy
Zara jeans are the BEST if you're tall and skinny (me). They stack sooooo nicely too and they're pretty reasonably priced
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;41604817]Why would you not want clothes that fit properly? My whole adult life I have spent searching for the [I]perfect pair of pants.[/I] Everything that isn't custom tailored falls into two categories: too short, or too wide. I exist in a weird limbo place, where I'm tall, but I'm not fat. Pants-makers seem to scale pant length and pant width at a flat rate, or something, because anything that's properly long enough has a huge waste size, and anything with a proper waste size is far too short. Shirts aren't [I]quite[/I] as bad, but even those I have to find compromises on! What Ori helped me find is probably the first properly-fitted set of clothes I've ever had, and the experience of it...! If I ever have daughters, I'm naming one Ori.[/QUOTE]
i have this problem too, some places sell tall jeans. most of my jeans have come from american eagle's sales because their jeans somehow fit me better than anything else i've ever worn.
i just really wish there was something like that for shirts though, i just end up wearing higher-waisted jeans to compensate.
If the clothes you wear make you feel good keep wearing them.
Even if it doesnt match any "fashion" guide or advice.
Been wearing shitty tshirts and jeans my entire life, shits good.
i love how its marketed at not the kids, but the mothers
[QUOTE=thisispain;41607606][img]http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m98a5eKo8N1qfkhevo1_500.png[/img][/QUOTE]
What the fuck does it say next to "Like"? Is it from some kind of anti-Facebook?
[QUOTE=Flapadar;41603883]what happened to your balls
[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]
the only time you should be worrying about if something fits properly is when it's a suit[/QUOTE]
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[editline]27th July 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=PredGD;41601670]I've been looking for a few styles on the net and thought to myself "huh, I would probably fit that!" but when I get to the store and find something similar, I always argue with myself and end up "nah, my hair isn't like that dudes" or "I'm not as fit as him, this won't fit me".[/QUOTE]
Ok look, I'm a guy with weight that's above average (not fat, not skinny), and although I really wish I was fit, I'm not, but that doesn't mean I can't look good. Sure, the jacket I'm wearing would look a lot better on someone who is good looking, but that's the same reason why a lot of good-looking people wear ugly clothes and aren't really affected by it, because, well, they look good naturally. Just ignore that, just because you think you don't look AS good, it doesn't mean you can't look good.
[editline]27th July 2013[/editline]
As for style, of course it's a personal thing, but there's always the kind of clothes that are considered good by most. What I'd say is a MUST in your wardrobe is stuff like a pair of jeans that fit well, a few nice shirts (avoid graphic tees with busy designs, bright colors and lots of writing, you don't want to be a walking billboard) and a couple of good jackets and hoodies. As for shoes, you really can't go wrong with vans. Remember that matching is always good, but yes, there is such a thing as matching too much. I have a pair of dark blue vans and a pair of gray ones, they're the ones I wear the most. If you want shoes that match with a lot of the stuff you have, go for colors like those.
Also, as for fits, don't wear baggy pants or oversized shirts thinking that they will hide your weight, they'll do just the opposite.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;41604817] My whole adult life I have spent searching for the [I]perfect pair of pants.[/I] [/QUOTE]
This needs a movie adaption, stat.
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