Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Rhenae]

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[editline]27th July 2013[/editline]

Ok look, I'm a guy with weight that's above average (not fat, not skinny), and although I really wish I was fit, I'm not, but that doesn't mean I can't look good. Sure, the jacket I'm wearing would look a lot better on someone who is good looking, but that's the same reason why a lot of good-looking people wear ugly clothes and aren't really affected by it, because, well, they look good naturally. Just ignore that, just because you think you don't look AS good, it doesn't mean you can't look good.

[editline]27th July 2013[/editline]

As for style, of course it's a personal thing, but there's always the kind of clothes that are considered good by most. What I'd say is a MUST in your wardrobe is stuff like a pair of jeans that fit well, a few nice shirts (avoid graphic tees with busy designs, bright colors and lots of writing, you don't want to be a walking billboard) and a couple of good jackets and hoodies. As for shoes, you really can't go wrong with vans. Remember that matching is always good, but yes, there is such a thing as matching too much. I have a pair of dark blue vans and a pair of gray ones, they're the ones I wear the most. If you want shoes that match with a lot of the stuff you have, go for colors like those.

Also, as for fits, don't wear baggy pants or oversized shirts thinking that they will hide your weight, they'll do just the opposite.[/QUOTE]

Graphic tees are fine provided they arent just a massive logo, but a cool design looks fine on pretty much anyone.

[.Lain]

Graphic tees can look good, just not when the colours on the actual shirt clash (which is the case with most).

[zukriuchen]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41609101]Graphic tees are fine provided they arent just a massive logo, but a cool design looks fine on pretty much anyone.[/QUOTE]

Hence "graphic tees with busy designs". And a 'cool design' is really relative. There's a lot of awesome artwork I love that I wouldn't want on a shirt.

[editline]27th July 2013[/editline]

k i might be turning this into fix up look sharp
lets stop before everyone gets a hitler youth haircut

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;41609366]Hence "graphic tees with busy designs". And a 'cool design' is really relative. There's a lot of awesome artwork I love that I wouldn't want on a shirt.[/QUOTE]

If he thinks its cool then he could wear it? Not everyone has to agree.

To the person mentioning clashing colours, thats far rarer than you seem to think, I do graphic design as a hobby and future career, they are sometimes designed with contrasting colours but rarely "clashing". They are generally designed by professionals.
Lots of people prefer softer spoken designs though of course, mostly people who don't want to stand out too much. I think I might have a little bit too much love for lime green and bright orange (not together but overall :v:)

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Megafan;41607955]What the fuck does it say next to "Like"? Is it from some kind of anti-Facebook?[/QUOTE]

One of those dumb fucking language switches, like Pirate or whatever. It says Troll instead of Comment.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=thisispain;41607606][img]http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m98a5eKo8N1qfkhevo1_500.png[/img][/QUOTE]

lol that kid on the left is like uggghhh

[bonickhausen]

So hey!

Life is pretty good now. Finally got a job, free college (exams were hell) and all, but I need your help, facepunch.

You see, my girlfriend has severe anxiety issues. Depression also. She has trouble sleeping, way too pessimistic, and she has the constant fear of having a panic attack. She's in the last year of high school, and she hates going to school because of that. She's pretty smart, too, but her grades have been going down the drain for quite some time now. She's quite capable of getting A+s, but she just cant concentrate with all this turmoil in her head. Her parents think that depression is just plain bullshit.

Now, I consider myself to be quite a patient man. I always stood by her side, and I will continue to do so. However, I'd like to help her more! She does not want to go to a psychiatrist, and I'm running out of options. Please, I do not want to abandon her. I just need to find a way to keep her problems at bay.

tl;dr my girlfriend has anxiety issues, how can I help her?

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=cam64DD;41613690]So hey!

Life is pretty good now. Finally got a job, free college (exams were hell) and all, but I need your help, facepunch.

You see, my girlfriend has severe anxiety issues. Depression also. She has trouble sleeping, way too pessimistic, and she has the constant fear of having a panic attack. She's in the last year of high school, and she hates going to school because of that. She's pretty smart, too, but her grades have been going down the drain for quite some time now. She's quite capable of getting A+s, but she just cant concentrate with all this turmoil in her head. Her parents think that depression is just plain bullshit.

Now, I consider myself to be quite a patient man. I always stood by her side, and I will continue to do so. However, I'd like to help her more! She does not want to go to a psychiatrist, and I'm running out of options. Please, I do not want to abandon her. I just need to find a way to keep her problems at bay.

tl;dr my girlfriend has anxiety issues, how can I help her?[/QUOTE]

Well don't fall into the trap of being an insufferable 'fixer'. Because it'll be bad for her, and ultimately bad for yourself.

Because as much as you would want to you're never going to fully understand or provide solutions to all present difficulties. But what you can be is patient, as you already are - and supportive. You should also try to make her see someone professional without being pushy and putting her on the defensive about it all. Because its only really that can have a marked improvement on her quality of life.

I guess also just be open and sincere about it and maybe even talk to her about what she thinks are her stressors and shit that really sets the anxiety off and see how you can manage those together.

[Zarjk]

This entire year so far has been kind of a bumpy ride ride for me.

But you know what? I'm still here because I realized some people would miss me if I just killed myself, and there is stuff to look forward too. A month after my 15th birthday my friend's getting me a lot of pipe tobacco and a nice briar pipe. So, I'm happy with what's going on in the next few months, and I'll probably be upgrading my computer again.

The only thing I'm actually worried about is my junior year, after this year because well, all the people I knew at my high school will have graduated except for some cunts.

So I'm honestly considering holing up and playing EVE online with my buddy who's already graduated, because I don't have much to consider doing. Sure, I could go out and try to talk to new people, but my fucking high functioning autism likes to tell me to act in the weirdest ways.

And that's another thing, the autism is sort of pulling itself back, to where I don't make these stupid ass ideas anymore. I'm starting to behave a lot like everyone else, but I still have these quirks that make me the 'weird' one.

[Leader of Me]

Well it's over between me and my ex girlfriend for good, she told me there's no chance that we're getting back together, I asked her if she still had feelings for me and said out of 5 she is 2, so she basically lost feelings for me. I've deleted all the pictures of her off my computer and just deleted any memorabilia of her, I know it sounds harsh but I really need to move on and get over her because I don't want to sit and mope about it, because it's easy for me to get really down because of my depression.

[vlad]

I'm becoming more and more frustrated with myself. I enabled the chat between me and my ex again (so I appear online to her) just because she liked a picture of a couple kissing. Now I just want to make sure she can see me online in case anything happens, which is so incredibly unlikely. :suicide:

I'm being such a fucking idiot for not doing much to get over her completely. Sure, it's not as bad as it used to be but I still find me being depressed every time she pops up in my thoughts.

I faced my fears and asked a buddy of me (who is taking the same classes as me after summer) if he wanted to go biking today (asked yesterday). He told me had no idea where his bike was, and when I offered him to borrow one I have around he said he had to convince some guys that he didn't want to go to the lodge (??). I told him to message me if he didn't leave for that vacation of his, which he didn't. According to Steam he has been playing Age of Empires 3 all day. So tomorrow I'm thinking of doing my best to push myself to do that biking by myself. My goal is to buy some coffee. It's a little goal, but it helps me motivate myself to go!

It's obvious that my lack of self-esteem and depression is just fueled by me being indoors all day long. I have barely touched the door for 3-4 months now.

It'd be nice to have some input on this. I'm incredibly uncertain of this and I'm scared of not achieving anything. Thoughts like "is it stupid to bike out in this hot weather?" crosses my mind. "Maybe I should go to the beach instead?".

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41618790]I'm becoming more and more frustrated with myself. I enabled the chat between me and my ex again (so I appear online to her) just because she liked a picture of a couple kissing. Now I just want to make sure she can see me online in case anything happens, which is so incredibly unlikely. :suicide:

I'm being such a fucking idiot for not doing much to get over her completely. Sure, it's not as bad as it used to be but I still find me being depressed every time she pops up in my thoughts.

I faced my fears and asked a buddy of me (who is taking the same classes as me after summer) if he wanted to go biking today (asked yesterday). He told me had no idea where his bike was, and when I offered him to borrow one I have around he said he had to convince some guys that he didn't want to go to the lodge (??). I told him to message me if he didn't leave for that vacation of his, which he didn't. According to Steam he has been playing Age of Empires 3 all day. So tomorrow I'm thinking of doing my best to push myself to do that biking by myself. My goal is to buy some coffee. It's a little goal, but it helps me motivate myself to go!

It's obvious that my lack of self-esteem and depression is just fueled by me being indoors all day long. I have barely touched the door for 3-4 months now.

It'd be nice to have some input on this. I'm incredibly uncertain of this and I'm scared of not achieving anything. Thoughts like "is it stupid to bike out in this hot weather?" crosses my mind. "Maybe I should go to the beach instead?".[/QUOTE]

Okay well first of all dude, you really gotta stop with your ex. You keep going back to her and re-adding her on things and whatnot and you just can't do that. I messaged my ex because I felt ready for it, you're only doing this because you're so emotionally distraught and wish she'd come back.

A biking trip might just be a good start, and if you can get into the habit of doing it more often, it could be pretty good for you. Just make sure that if it's really that hot out to bring some water or something. Don't worry about people thinking you're weird for biking, or for biking in hot weather, you really aren't. It's totally normal to go biking and people don't find it necessarily weird if someone's doing some outside activity like that in the heat, mostly they would just think "Wow they must be dying". Some fresh air would do you well, I think. Taking a trip to the beach sometimes would also be a good idea, hell I wish I could just stroll on over to a beach. The only thing I'm thinking with that is if you went to the beach now, you would end up seeing couples and whatnot walking around and that would only bring your mind back to your ex. At least, that tends to happen to me. Don't worry about doing things alone, though. I know it feels kind of awkward sometimes but you get used to it the first time you do it. I felt kind of stupid going to the park on my own but once I was there I just chilled out and saw a few other individuals come and go as well.

That was probably a little bit more than you asked for but there you go :v:

I'd also like some advice myself, because I'd seriously like to get off my ass. Asked my ex how her summer's been, told her about mine. She went to Disneyland, got 3 interviews and a job, and she did in fact get a dog. She's got friends who are on the same brainwave as her that she's been hanging out with (essentially she replaced me but that's luckily not bugging me), whereas all my friends are far from me and I actually find myself disliking them pretty much entirely sometimes except for one who still annoys me a lot, and even my best friend who I only know on Steam is just so far from my mindset and also sort of generally a bad friend. The point I'm getting at is my summer's been wasted and so has my life. I keep finding myself just wishing I could make a decent fucking friend or that I could have a SOMEWHAT exciting summer, but it never happens.

Basically what I'm asking is for advice, any advice, that could in any way help me get a job, help me find some decent friends (I'm almost convinced at this point there's no one at my school that I can be very good friends with), and, I don't know, something I can do. Should I have just asked my mom for us to go to a water park or some shit? It's expensive and usually when we say we'll plan things like that we never do it, so I never feel like asking her is going to do any good. I need advice as to how to be inspired, as well. I have literally no passion. No inspiration. I think about getting a job and I'd like it but I have no desire to start applying. I've applied for, I don't know, a few places, but gave up for some reason. I'm just too goddamn depressed to get off my ass but I need to. I always end up thinking about the future and the past and I just hate it and it gets me down, but I need to stop thinking about the future for five minutes and try to get things done now. I'm applying at some more places now, but I get the feeling tomorrow I won't even consider it. I desperately need to get out of this hole I've dug myself, but this short burst of determination will run out soon and I'll go back to moping and doing nothing about it. I am just so sick of it but I can't get myself to do anything about it.

I should clarify that it's not the fact that my ex is having a great time that's getting me, it's just that after she told me all of that I just realized how much I've fucked up and how shitty my summer has been. I was aware of it, yeah, but it wasn't so... I don't know, clear? In my face? She has a life now, and I'm exactly the same as I was before I met her or worse. I'm not racing her. I am comparing myself to her but only in that these are things I've wanted for so long and just the fact that she's accomplished everything and has a great life sort of, I don't know, made me jealous in a way, and I realized I've wasted so much time when I could be almost where she is. She's a lot better than me, but that does't mean I couldn't have a job right now. Maybe I couldn't have met any new friends over summer, but I could have been trying to make more friends before, like she did. Maybe I'm not a straight A+ student who knows what they're going to do with the rest of their life but for fucks sake I don't have to be a C student who just goes home and lies in bed for hours wishing his life were different. There are so many things about my life I can't change and the future seems completely fucking pointless but I don't really have a choice and I want things to be better than just sitting in here all day playing some stupid game. I'm happy for her and it's great to be talking to her again, and i don't regret it. I've just realized how much I've royally fucked up just because I'm so easily depressed and fall so deeply into it and I can never work myself back out. When I think about all she's accomplished and how far she's gotten I don't feel like "uhg she's just so much better than me", i feel like "uhg I'm such a piece of shit I havent done anything".

Okay most of that was venting but I really, honestly, need help. I don't know how to help myself. I didn't want to grow up, learn to drive, get a job, go to college, but I have to, and now I don't know how and can hardly bring myself to try because I find my life to be so terrible that I don't have the willpower to keep going. Give me a hand, Facepunch. I really need it.

tl;dr I'd appreciate it if you took the time to read it because my life is shit and I need help making it maybe a little bit not shit

[Rhenae]

Well this was going to be a responce to just one problem here but this could help a few people i feel.
With my bfs recent anxiety and such when the doctor prescribed him his meds he also suggested a way to help manage it. Its something that since then he has found to really help and it should be good for anxiety or depression, you could even modify it to work as motivation etc.
He recommended assigning time to worrying. Dont tell yourself not to worry all day just tell yourself you will do it at that assigned time. Then at that time just sit somewhere alone with no distractions and dedicate to thinking about the problems. What is the problem, can i do anything about it, and resolve what your going to do and do it uf there is anything. Its a good problem solving technique. I was also thinking it can be applied to motivation by taking the time daily with it to also think what do you want, what is your goal fir tge day, week, and longer term and what are you going to do towards that today.
Hopefully that can help someone :) if anyone wants methods to help motivation and stopping procrastination, anxiety whatever just let me know. I think up a lot of things myself to help those things since they are common problems for me :v:

[zenby]

Usually when I can't get myself to think things up or I have a worry I just start typing out everything in my head and talking to myself and it's really helped me figure a lot of things out and deal with my anxiety issues

[xVENUSx]

I'm a social retard because of my Aspergers! I don't have any friends at all.

[.Lain]

Try not to use Aspergers as a scapegoat for being a little less socially able than others, you can work out whatever problems you have, trust me. I know it can be a little daunting, but it's possible!

[conan96]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41619290]Okay well first of all dude, you really gotta stop with your ex. You keep going back to her and re-adding her on things and whatnot and you just can't do that. I messaged my ex because I felt ready for it, you're only doing this because you're so emotionally distraught and wish she'd come back.

A biking trip might just be a good start, and if you can get into the habit of doing it more often, it could be pretty good for you. Just make sure that if it's really that hot out to bring some water or something. Don't worry about people thinking you're weird for biking, or for biking in hot weather, you really aren't. It's totally normal to go biking and people don't find it necessarily weird if someone's doing some outside activity like that in the heat, mostly they would just think "Wow they must be dying". Some fresh air would do you well, I think. Taking a trip to the beach sometimes would also be a good idea, hell I wish I could just stroll on over to a beach. The only thing I'm thinking with that is if you went to the beach now, you would end up seeing couples and whatnot walking around and that would only bring your mind back to your ex. At least, that tends to happen to me. Don't worry about doing things alone, though. I know it feels kind of awkward sometimes but you get used to it the first time you do it. I felt kind of stupid going to the park on my own but once I was there I just chilled out and saw a few other individuals come and go as well.

That was probably a little bit more than you asked for but there you go :v:

I'd also like some advice myself, because I'd seriously like to get off my ass. Asked my ex how her summer's been, told her about mine. She went to Disneyland, got 3 interviews and a job, and she did in fact get a dog. She's got friends who are on the same brainwave as her that she's been hanging out with (essentially she replaced me but that's luckily not bugging me), whereas all my friends are far from me and I actually find myself disliking them pretty much entirely sometimes except for one who still annoys me a lot, and even my best friend who I only know on Steam is just so far from my mindset and also sort of generally a bad friend. The point I'm getting at is my summer's been wasted and so has my life. I keep finding myself just wishing I could make a decent fucking friend or that I could have a SOMEWHAT exciting summer, but it never happens.

Basically what I'm asking is for advice, any advice, that could in any way help me get a job, help me find some decent friends (I'm almost convinced at this point there's no one at my school that I can be very good friends with), and, I don't know, something I can do. Should I have just asked my mom for us to go to a water park or some shit? It's expensive and usually when we say we'll plan things like that we never do it, so I never feel like asking her is going to do any good. I need advice as to how to be inspired, as well. I have literally no passion. No inspiration. I think about getting a job and I'd like it but I have no desire to start applying. I've applied for, I don't know, a few places, but gave up for some reason. I'm just too goddamn depressed to get off my ass but I need to. I always end up thinking about the future and the past and I just hate it and it gets me down, but I need to stop thinking about the future for five minutes and try to get things done now. I'm applying at some more places now, but I get the feeling tomorrow I won't even consider it. I desperately need to get out of this hole I've dug myself, but this short burst of determination will run out soon and I'll go back to moping and doing nothing about it. I am just so sick of it but I can't get myself to do anything about it.

I should clarify that it's not the fact that my ex is having a great time that's getting me, it's just that after she told me all of that I just realized how much I've fucked up and how shitty my summer has been. I was aware of it, yeah, but it wasn't so... I don't know, clear? In my face? She has a life now, and I'm exactly the same as I was before I met her or worse. I'm not racing her. I am comparing myself to her but only in that these are things I've wanted for so long and just the fact that she's accomplished everything and has a great life sort of, I don't know, made me jealous in a way, and I realized I've wasted so much time when I could be almost where she is. She's a lot better than me, but that does't mean I couldn't have a job right now. Maybe I couldn't have met any new friends over summer, but I could have been trying to make more friends before, like she did. Maybe I'm not a straight A+ student who knows what they're going to do with the rest of their life but for fucks sake I don't have to be a C student who just goes home and lies in bed for hours wishing his life were different. There are so many things about my life I can't change and the future seems completely fucking pointless but I don't really have a choice and I want things to be better than just sitting in here all day playing some stupid game. I'm happy for her and it's great to be talking to her again, and i don't regret it. I've just realized how much I've royally fucked up just because I'm so easily depressed and fall so deeply into it and I can never work myself back out. When I think about all she's accomplished and how far she's gotten I don't feel like "uhg she's just so much better than me", i feel like "uhg I'm such a piece of shit I havent done anything".

Okay most of that was venting but I really, honestly, need help. I don't know how to help myself. I didn't want to grow up, learn to drive, get a job, go to college, but I have to, and now I don't know how and can hardly bring myself to try because I find my life to be so terrible that I don't have the willpower to keep going. Give me a hand, Facepunch. I really need it.

tl;dr I'd appreciate it if you took the time to read it because my life is shit and I need help making it maybe a little bit not shit[/QUOTE]

First off you need to stop comparing yourself to her. You can do everything that she does.
Everyone has issues, including your ex. She is just better at hiding them.
She has a job and friends, so can you.
You have to apply yourself, the more you sit and feel sorry for yourself the worse you'll feel.
Once you get a job, you'll be more social. Once you learn to drive, you can go places.
You say your life is shit, but it doesn't have to be. The only one limiting anything here is you.
I hate to be this direct, but you can do it as long as you actively try and get out there.
It'll help you feel better about yourself as well.

I understand your situation, I didn't do shit either when I was younger.
I wasn't motivated, and that fucked me up. But once I realized it I made up for the lost time and now I'm much happier than I would've been otherwise.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=PredGD;41618790]I'm becoming more and more frustrated with myself. I enabled the chat between me and my ex again (so I appear online to her) just because she liked a picture of a couple kissing. Now I just want to make sure she can see me online in case anything happens, which is so incredibly unlikely. :suicide:

I'm being such a fucking idiot for not doing much to get over her completely. Sure, it's not as bad as it used to be but I still find me being depressed every time she pops up in my thoughts.

I faced my fears and asked a buddy of me (who is taking the same classes as me after summer) if he wanted to go biking today (asked yesterday). He told me had no idea where his bike was, and when I offered him to borrow one I have around he said he had to convince some guys that he didn't want to go to the lodge (??). I told him to message me if he didn't leave for that vacation of his, which he didn't. According to Steam he has been playing Age of Empires 3 all day. So tomorrow I'm thinking of doing my best to push myself to do that biking by myself. My goal is to buy some coffee. It's a little goal, but it helps me motivate myself to go!

It's obvious that my lack of self-esteem and depression is just fueled by me being indoors all day long. I have barely touched the door for 3-4 months now.

It'd be nice to have some input on this. I'm incredibly uncertain of this and I'm scared of not achieving anything. Thoughts like "is it stupid to bike out in this hot weather?" crosses my mind. "Maybe I should go to the beach instead?".[/QUOTE]

Just ignore your mind and go biking, fuck the weather who gives a shit about it just go and enjoy your self, also I suggest you also do what Maverick suggested, go to the gym, you'll feel better about your self and it's something to keep your mind occupied for awhile.

Going to the gym was probably the best decision I've ever made, though continue trying to motivate yourself, you'll make some good progress, good luck though!. Even if the only thing you do for a bit is go to the gym and the occasional bike ride, it's at least something and you'll feel a lot better, go to your local gym and ask if you can get a free day pass or something to try it out at least.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;41601619]Well, style is a pretty personal thing. Some good advice there, like wearing ankle socks if you're in shorts, watching your colors, not wearing video game shirts, and basic stuff like that, but I don't think you need to be rushing out for a "tank top and a pair of vans!"

If you're not that great at dressing yourself, look around for some styles online that you like and can imagine yourself wearing. Or, if you happen to know somebody with a special flair for fashion, have them take you out for a shop. My friend Ori is a personal fashion consultant in Chicago, and she just recently dragged me into a Nordstroms and helped me pick out some very sharp clothes, which was kind of a huge deal for me! I'm six and a half feet tall, and finding clothes that are both in a style I like [I]and[/I] fit properly is a massive pain in the butt, and only further complicated by the fact that I'm totally oblivious about fashion stuff. I've always been the sort of dude to just pull on a pair of jeans and whatever T-shirt I grabbed first. Now, my Ori-Approved Wardrobe is my favorite shit in the closet. When I button one of those shirts down and see how nice it fits, I feel like strutting a bit.

[editline]26th July 2013[/editline]

Post-Script: I didn't even know that personal fashion consultants were a real thing before meeting Ori, but she's pretty darn good at what she does, and she doesn't pull any punches. She went through my wardrobe, saying, "burn it, burn it, burn it, throw it away, I don't even know why you bought this shit, are you retarded? Burn it, burn it. This one's not bad, but those shoes? I wouldn't give this to a hobo."[/QUOTE]

send ori my way bda

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=conan96;41620686]First off you need to stop comparing yourself to her. You can do everything that she does.
Everyone has issues, including your ex. She is just better at hiding them.
She has a job and friends, so can you.
You have to apply yourself, the more you sit and feel sorry for yourself the worse you'll feel.
Once you get a job, you'll be more social. Once you learn to drive, you can go places.
You say your life is shit, but it doesn't have to be. The only one limiting anything here is you.
I hate to be this direct, but you can do it as long as you actively try and get out there.
It'll help you feel better about yourself as well.

I understand your situation, I didn't do shit either when I was younger.
I wasn't motivated, and that fucked me up. But once I realized it I made up for the lost time and now I'm much happier than I would've been otherwise.[/QUOTE]

Yeah and that's what I'm saying. Like I said I'm not directly comparing her to myself, I know I can do what she's done, maybe even not as well but I know I can, and I know she has her own issues (if anyone I'm the one who knows this, I mean I dated her and she really doesn't hide them from me regardless our status). The problem lies solely in me and my lack of motivation and lack of the ability to motivate myself. It's even harder over summer when all I actually have to do is sit here in my room. Now that I've realized it I just need help in actually becoming motivated and doing these things. Hopefully with the right amount of push I can get out of this hole, on my feet, and start living for myself.

I applied at like 5 places tonight and hopefully I can get myself to think of and apply at more tomorrow.

[conan96]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41620879]Yeah and that's what I'm saying. Like I said I'm not directly comparing her to myself, I know I can do what she's done, maybe even not as well but I know I can, and I know she has her own issues (if anyone I'm the one who knows this, I mean I dated her and she really doesn't hide them from me regardless our status). The problem lies solely in me and my lack of motivation and lack of the ability to motivate myself. It's even harder over summer when all I actually have to do is sit here in my room. Now that I've realized it I just need help in actually becoming motivated and doing these things. Hopefully with the right amount of push I can get out of this hole, on my feet, and start living for myself.I applied at like 5 places tonight and hopefully I can get myself to think of and apply at more tomorrow.[/QUOTE] Go for it. That's a good start, as long as you stay committed I think you'll do fine. Just ask the thread or PM me if you have any troubles.

[PuduEbooks]

So i want to ask this girl out, she's shy and shit and she doesn't go out much, neither do i, there are no interesting places where i live, so i have no idea how to ask her (i.e. start the conversation) , and where i should take her.
any suggestions? (btw we are both 16)

[Nikeos]

hi would you like to go on a date

could go on a walk in a park or something and getting food is always a winner imo

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;41621091]So i want to ask this girl out, she's shy and shit and she doesn't go out much, neither do i, there are no interesting places where i live, so i have no idea how to ask her (i.e. start the conversation) , and where i should take her.
any suggestions? (btw we are both 16)[/QUOTE]

rated by accident, ignore that
dinner and a movie is pretty standard, i think most teens just hung out at the mall where i used to live. you can get food and just walk around, with something like that it's a bit less centered on conversation so there's less pressure for someone shy to keep talking the entire time.

[Fire Kracker]

i say go straight to a movie at around 8-9ish so that you guys can talk about the movie for like an hour or so after

dinner requires you to talk before the movie and you guys might not know what to talk about

[thisispain]

tho if you are 16 now would be a good time to learn how to start a conversation and learn to engage with people

[Jmir 54]

Ya know what sucks? Being a jack-of-all-trades, but master of none socially. Like I can interact positively with near every social clique at college(dating a theater girl while being on the basketball team), but I'm not ever interested enough to form lasting friendships with anyone except my roommate. My only true friend is my roommate and we all do is just play computer games together

I just don't see how so many people are social creatures when I find it so much more fun just to be alone with only a close-knit group of friends

[thisispain]

i dont think theres anything wrong with that. its about your needs.
some people need to have a big social circle, and some people feel better with a close-knit group of friends. dont feel bad about it

[Dysentery]

i mean it's not like it sucks or anything, a lot of people (me including) are like that. i have no problem talking to people but i really don't want to have a ton of friends. i just want a few friends that i'm super close with. being an introvert isn't a bad thing

[thisispain]

im so bad at keeping friends so itll be like two months i wont see them and theyll be super excited to see me again and ill be like "omg were best friends forever" nad then i dont see them again for two months

same way on steam i love the people who talk to me on steam but unless they message me ill totally forget about them and thats bad