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Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

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I've tried posting in the depression thread before (several of them) but there are literally no people helping in there, only people posting about their own problems.

Professional help

Which I'm getting. I've been introduced to stuff like red and green thoughts, a stair of some sort, but I have no idea how to handle situations like I posted about.

Go find a charity in your home country that deals out the advice. Im sure if you phoned one of them they would forward you onto something, you guys have an NHS or mental health charity? [URL="http://www.mentalhelse.no/tjenester/hjelpetelefonen"]http://www.mentalhelse.no/tjenester/hjelpetelefonen[/URL] Norway right? Check that shit out, wasting time posting here whilst your having a panic attack or w/e you call it is retarded. Just get a number for someone you can talk to who will help calm you down w/e it is your going through.

Bluntly put, but he speaks the truth. I understand venting can help, but you're venting to the wrong demographic.

[QUOTE=PredGD;41665311]Oh god, this girl I got to know around a month ago who struggles with the same things as me just threw me a message "Hi! If you ever want to talk, I'm here :) we both struggle with the same things as you already figured, so I understand you ;)" and I have no idea how to respond. [editline]1st August 2013[/editline] i'm filled with anxiety, i'm having a panic attack help [editline]1st August 2013[/editline] this really is the worst attack I've had in a good while. I'm breathing heavily, feel incredibly anxious, feeling dizzy, trembling etc etc, I feel so shit right now[/QUOTE] it means you like her

I would use services like that if it wasn't for my anxiety. But hell, loopo has a point. Why even try to seek help here when most of you don't fully understand the situation? Not trying to come off rude with that statement. I should just stop posting here in general. What I've learned from the responses I've been getting there is nothing I can do other than seeking professional help, which haven't been helping either the last 4 months.

That's the way to go. Don't let anxiety stop you from getting genuine help from trained professionals. Also, not sure if you're actually self-pitying, but if you are: don't. It doesn't help. I went through a stage of that and it only made shit worse and prevented me from taking the step forward to get on the road to mending.

Da fuck, you have problems talking to someone over the phone? Just put the thing on loud speaker and say I get panic attacks what can you do to help me. Shit you could probably even email them but yea your hitting a brick wall here. Half these fuckers are trying to get laid the other half waving their dicks to say they are. I'd stop wasting your time.

Yeah, I have problems talking with people over the phone, same goes with chats and regular conversations face to face. I'm self pitying, yup. A lot. It's hard to change the course of your thoughts when you have thought the same way since being a child. I'll just haul my ass out of here. I'm not trying to insult anyone, but the responses I'm getting isn't really helping me right now.

What the fuck you guys? It's not fucking easy to fight things you've dealt with since childhood. Just because you don't have issues doing something doesn't mean simply telling someone to do it differently will make their lives any easier. Jesus.

[QUOTE=dmillerw;41667076]What the fuck you guys? It's not fucking easy to fight things you've dealt with since childhood. Just because you don't have issues doing something doesn't mean simply telling someone to do it differently will make their lives any easier. Jesus.[/QUOTE] "lol you have problems talking on the phone? what's wrong with you? just GET OVER IT! it's that easy!!!" and telling someone who just said that professional help isn't helping them that they need to get professional help? really? real quality advice in here today

[QUOTE=PredGD;41666903]Yeah, I have problems talking with people over the phone, same goes with chats and regular conversations face to face. I'm self pitying, yup. A lot. It's hard to change the course of your thoughts when you have thought the same way since being a child. I'll just haul my ass out of here. I'm not trying to insult anyone, but the responses I'm getting isn't really helping me right now.[/QUOTE] Doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop posting here. You can post here whenever you want about your problems. Even if we can't necessarily empathize perfectly, you can still vent and maybe take [I]something[/I] out of what we say. I mean, we can try. I mean shit I can empathize with the phone thing. It's even worse than in person, like a week or two ago I was posting here about how I was freaking out about a fucking college calling me. I don't think I got incredibly helpful advice for the situation of flipping my shit about it but I still got replies and those replies led me to my final answer as to what I was going to say. I mean, you can also [I]not[/I] post if you don't want to, but no one's kicking you out :v:

[QUOTE=greendevil;41657617]Why is this thread always on page 2 or 3 despite people regularly posting in it? There's threads above it that are from like 2 weeks ago[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=FalcoLombardi;41657668]I noticed it too. Sort the threads by "last post". I think it's a glitch.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Disseminate;41658581]Garry changed GD to sort threads by creation date, not the last post date.[/QUOTE] Just wanted to quickly pop in and say that if you have Firefox, install Greasemonkey (so you can run user scripts) and then use this script to fix all the GD sorting nonsense; [url]http://userscripts.org/scripts/show/174275[/url] I've been using it for ages, keeps the Super Friendly and Sex, Girlfriends etc threads right on the first page where they belong :)

[QUOTE=PredGD;41666903]Yeah, I have problems talking with people over the phone, same goes with chats and regular conversations face to face. I'm self pitying, yup. A lot. It's hard to change the course of your thoughts when you have thought the same way since being a child. I'll just haul my ass out of here. I'm not trying to insult anyone, but the responses I'm getting isn't really helping me right now.[/QUOTE] You know what helps? Prank calls. I'm dead serious. I used to be the most awkward person in the universe. Now... ask anyone that's tuned into Facepunch LIVE or the Hardware Giveaway a few years back, not only do I have the best prank calls around but I also love talking to everyone and... that's all I had, really. Get some e-buddies and prank call some strangers. Just be nice. [editline]1st August 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=dmillerw;41667076]What the fuck you guys? It's not fucking easy to fight things you've dealt with since childhood. Just because you don't have issues doing something doesn't mean simply telling someone to do it differently will make their lives any easier. Jesus.[/QUOTE] I did it. He can, too!

[QUOTE=Agoat;41669167]I did it. He can, too![/QUOTE] Well I hate to shock you, but he's [I]not[/I] you. Doesn't matter what you accomplished.

Got serious in here over night, predator if you come back and read this. You got a job? Might help if you dont to get one doesnt matter what it is really. It will probably put you in a few situations that will force you to confront your problems talking to people and w/e else you got going on. Plus it pays.

I really don't like talking over the phone either. Just something about it feels really weird and intimidating.

I've been donating blood at this Red Cross for a year now. All the nurses there are old (40's or older) except for this one nurse who is cute. I was at college at the time and I didn't want to have balance another thing in my already busy life so I just let things be. Summer break came around and I decided to make a move. I was a little flirty and she seemed to be going along with it so I decided to ask her out to a movie. I fucked up a little by going "Hey if you want to see a movie I'm open" and she was thrown off, she called me sweet and then went back to work. Something was up but I decided to double down and just ask her out to dinner. I show up to the donation center and was ready to ask her but she wasn't working that day, and then I found out that I wouldn't be able to come back and donate for another 5 weeks (some policy where if you donate too much you lose too much plasma and you need to let your blood regenerate). I'm not waiting 5 more weeks so I asked her boss to give her my number. Then the boss told me that she actually looks really young for her age and that she is actually 16 years older than me. The cute nurse told her boss about the movie and said that she didn't really know how to respond(I wouldn't be surprised if all the nurses there know too). Now I a feel like an idiot, I'm glad I can't go back for 5 weeks, and I don't know whether to believe them or not. :suicide:

Urgh, my ex girlfriends parents have fucked me up really badly, I've lost my sexual confidence and self esteem and I feel like utter shit. They basically made me feel like a sexual predator when they found out I kissed her and when they read through my ex's messages to me without her permission. Her dad threatened to hurt me after he found we kissed and when they read the messages I had to have a big talk with them were they basically humiliated me. They're Mormons and now I've got so much hate in my body towards mormonism and them and every time I think about what they did I breakdown crying. I was having a conversation with my mother and she told me she was disgusted with the way they treated me, she told me not to doubt myself because I was respectful to them and she told me to let go. It just seems so hard to let go after what they did to me, I actually hate them with all my guts and I feel sorry for my ex, we had an argument a couple of nights ago about her parents and it didn't end well.

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41672526]Urgh, my ex girlfriends parents have fucked me up really badly, I've lost my sexual confidence and self esteem and I feel like utter shit. They basically made me feel like a sexual predator when they found out I kissed her and when they read through my ex's messages to me without her permission. Her dad threatened to hurt me after he found we kissed and when they read the messages I had to have a big talk with them were they basically humiliated me. They're Mormons and now I've got so much hate in my body towards mormonism and them and every time I think about what they did I breakdown crying. I was having a conversation with my mother and she told me she was disgusted with the way they treated me, she told me not to doubt myself because I was respectful to them and she told me to let go. It just seems so hard to let go after what they did to me, I actually hate them with all my guts and I feel sorry for my ex, we had an argument a couple of nights ago about her parents and it didn't end well.[/QUOTE] Why would you lose your sexual confidence and self esteem because some religious nuts didn't like that you kissed their daughter.

Jesus gona smite you down and that dick of yours.

so i met this girl from norcal and we've hung out for the past few days and i'm p sure that we like eachother. i don't want to tell her though because she goes back to red bluff tomorrow and i don't want to complicate things.

Guys, I really can't get my shit together! The girl who I'm with is saying we should just be friends and I know its because I just keep fucking up. Some of it is to do with alcohol withdrawal, and some may be to do with depression I used to have... But I swear, I just keep ruining things. I'm anxious, I panic a lot, I get too sad at things, I end up cutting myself (stupid, I know), and I'm just creating arguments and it takes me a good hour or two of doing something to take my mind of it so that I can finally come back and go back to normal, but she's had enough of my shit now. What can I do? I feel the only way I can relax is by having a drink right now, but I need better options before I lose her if I haven't already.

[QUOTE=AltUser;41674356]Guys, I really can't get my shit together! The girl who I'm with is saying we should just be friends and I know its because I just keep fucking up. Some of it is to do with alcohol withdrawal, and some may be to do with depression I used to have... But I swear, I just keep ruining things. I'm anxious, I panic a lot, I get too sad at things, I end up cutting myself (stupid, I know), and I'm just creating arguments and it takes me a good hour or two of doing something to take my mind of it so that I can finally come back and go back to normal, but she's had enough of my shit now. What can I do? I feel the only way I can relax is by having a drink right now, but I need better options before I lose her if I haven't already.[/QUOTE] You're making excuses. Sack up and admit to yourself you need to get yourself together. Then relax

[QUOTE=Flapadar;41674755]You're making excuses. Sack up and admit to yourself you need to get yourself together. Then relax[/QUOTE] The thing is I'm not sure how to get myself together, I'm relaxed now because I've found the best way to stay sober again is slowly taper off the drink, so I'm going to have one today, then less tomorrow, etc. But either way, I don't know how I'm going to sort myself out.

[QUOTE=AltUser;41675153]The thing is I'm not sure how to get myself together, I'm relaxed now because I've found the best way to stay sober again is slowly taper off the drink, so I'm going to have one today, then less tomorrow, etc. But either way, I don't know how I'm going to sort myself out.[/QUOTE] 1) Realise that drink is not the source of all your problems. Unless you're reaching for the bottle when you wake up, using it to cure hangovers on more than a once in a blue moon occasion, aren't getting blackout drunk twice a week, you've not got a serious problem. 2) You seem more insecure about yourself than have a problem. Do something to build up your ego a bit.

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41672526]Urgh, my ex girlfriends parents have fucked me up really badly, I've lost my sexual confidence and self esteem and I feel like utter shit. They basically made me feel like a sexual predator when they found out I kissed her and when they read through my ex's messages to me without her permission. Her dad threatened to hurt me after he found we kissed and when they read the messages I had to have a big talk with them were they basically humiliated me. They're Mormons and now I've got so much hate in my body towards mormonism and them and every time I think about what they did I breakdown crying. I was having a conversation with my mother and she told me she was disgusted with the way they treated me, she told me not to doubt myself because I was respectful to them and she told me to let go. It just seems so hard to let go after what they did to me, I actually hate them with all my guts and I feel sorry for my ex, we had an argument a couple of nights ago about her parents and it didn't end well.[/QUOTE] Overbearing religious parents are dangerous waters. My best friend wrestled with it with his first "real" girlfriend for about eighteen months. Actually, he went through almost exactly the same situation as you. His lady's folks went through her phone and found some text messages where the couple talked about kissing and whatnot. The Pentecostal dentists were not at all happy about that, and things got pretty nasty. Eventually they got past it, but things like that kept popping up all the time; there was a constant struggle between balancing the relationship with his girlfriend and balancing the relationship with her parents. His girlfriend was in a pretty sorry state, too, as a result of her parents imposing themselves into her life to such a complete degree that she was intensely uncomfortable about making her own decisions. Things were further complicated by the fact that her parents like me a lot more than my friend, and were always gently pressuring her in my direction, which made things pretty darn awkward for everybody involved! The strain became too much after a while, and they ended up splitting. I tried to maintain the friendship with her, because we were close friends before the split, but it just got too weird. More trouble than it's worth, really!

My mom is having trouble at work, and I'm possibly going to have to leave my IB Diploma course before I even start it. If this is the right thread, tell me and I'll add more.

So, a friend of mine (please believe me), tried to tell a girl that he like her (she liked him 2 months back, so there was hope for him), but she said she wanted to wait a little because she just got out of a relationship, so, ¿what should i tell him, to move on, just wait or just leave him alone?

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