Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[MIR]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41713611]Nah don't be fooled, these guys in the thread don't know anything. She's not into you at all, she's actually preening you like a black widow preens her mate. Come tomorrow morning, she'll start devouring you. She's just trying to lull you into a false sense of security.[/QUOTE]

He's right, fucking run while you still can. She is an evolved version of the spider that knows how to drive and track down her victims.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;41713639]He's right, fucking run while you still can. She is an evolved version of the spider that knows how to drive and track down her victims.[/QUOTE]

Hey guys I think USSR is still bitter about something

[Leader of Me]

Getting over this whole thing just seems so hard, I guess it's something that's going to take longer than a week or maybe in even a month.

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=AltUser;41674356]Guys, I really can't get my shit together! The girl who I'm with is saying we should just be friends and I know its because I just keep fucking up. Some of it is to do with alcohol withdrawal, and some may be to do with depression I used to have...
But I swear, I just keep ruining things. I'm anxious, I panic a lot, I get too sad at things, I end up cutting myself (stupid, I know), and I'm just creating arguments and it takes me a good hour or two of doing something to take my mind of it so that I can finally come back and go back to normal, but she's had enough of my shit now. What can I do? I feel the only way I can relax is by having a drink right now, but I need better options before I lose her if I haven't already.[/QUOTE]

I still can't do fuck all. I know for a fact I'm losing her now. We had like one really good day together, but after that I just seemed to start fucking everything up again.
Like today she told me she didn't want to talk to me for a while because I was a bit dickish. And I just couldn't leave her alone and now she's ignored me pretty much all day, and the whole time I knew that if I just left her alone for an hour everything would just be okay. I get jealous over stuff too, and well, I'm just fucking everything up left right and center, and I cannot find any solution to help me out. I know I end up getting depressed because I ruin things, and I get anxious a lot, but the thing is, all the bad things grow from small mishaps and then I kind of blow them out of proportion, what am I even doing? I can't manage to keep her, and soon she'll be gone.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=AltUser;41723872]I still can't do fuck all. I know for a fact I'm losing her now. We had like one really good day together, but after that I just seemed to start fucking everything up again.
Like today she told me she didn't want to talk to me for a while because I was a bit dickish. And I just couldn't leave her alone and now she's ignored me pretty much all day, and the whole time I knew that if I just left her alone for an hour everything would just be okay. I get jealous over stuff too, and well, I'm just fucking everything up left right and center, and I cannot find any solution to help me out. I know I end up getting depressed because I ruin things, and I get anxious a lot, but the thing is, all the bad things grow from small mishaps and then I kind of blow them out of proportion, what am I even doing? I can't manage to keep her, and soon she'll be gone.[/QUOTE]

If she doesn't have the understanding and tolerance to understand that you have issues and that she needs to deal with that without telling you how bad you are at every turn, you shouldn't be with her. Stop blaming yourself - maybe you guys just aren't good together. That isn't necessarily your fault.

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;41725514]If she doesn't have the understanding and tolerance to understand that you have issues and that she needs to deal with that without telling you how bad you are at every turn, you shouldn't be with her. Stop blaming yourself - maybe you guys just aren't good together. That isn't necessarily your fault.[/QUOTE]

I've told her that I want to know when I'm doing something wrong now, so I can improve myself.

[zukriuchen]

i've posted this at least 3 times and everyone's ignored me, but here it goes again

so me and this girl met before we did our exchange year in america, in different places. for the whole year we texted each other almost everyday, and became pretty good friends, though what we talked about the most was how much worse the exchange program was than what we had expected.

so now that we came back, i still talk to her sometimes on facebook, but i've stopped doing it as often because at some point she just always stops answering, like out of nowhere. is it because she only talked to me due to the emotional stress of the whole thing? i see no other reason why she'd go from staying awake just to talk to me to starting conversations normally but simply stopping after a few minutes

edit: also keep in mind that i have no romantic interest on her, i just think she's a good friend

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;41729214]i've posted this at least 3 times and everyone's ignored me, but here it goes again

so me and this girl met before we did our exchange year in america, in different places. for the whole year we texted each other almost everyday, and became pretty good friends, though what we talked about the most was how much worse the exchange program was than what we had expected.

so now that we came back, i still talk to her sometimes on facebook, but i've stopped doing it as often because at some point she just always stops answering, like out of nowhere. is it because she only talked to me due to the emotional stress of the whole thing? i see no other reason why she'd go from staying awake just to talk to me to starting conversations normally but simply stopping after a few minutes

edit: also keep in mind that i have no romantic interest on her, i just think she's a good friend[/QUOTE]

How about asking her? We wont know specifically why she stopped talking to you there could be many reasons. Just ask her if you really need to know that badly why she doesnt want to talk to you anymore as much.

[zenby]

I'm in a similar situation except we talked for a month and a half and then about 3 weeks ago our communication almost entirely dropped off

It turns out she's just been unbelievably busy. Really you should just ask

[Loopoo]

Two-faced people suck. They show the world one face, but behind closed doors they're assholes.

[Fire Kracker]

i'd rather be an asshole behind closed doors than be an unpleasant person to be around

i'd rather other people do that too

[Loopoo]

I'd rather people were genuine. If you're an asshole, I'd rather you did it to my face than behind my back.

[MIR]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41730078]I'd rather people were genuine. If you're an asshole, I'd rather you did it to my face than behind my back.[/QUOTE]

At least then we could decide to stay away from them before they have a chance to do anything dickish.

[Parakon]

Little update; my ex texted me a couple times which I just ignored, (I had told her I didn't want to see or talk to her again.) then she called the house while I was asleep, in my groggy state I told my step-dad I didn't want to talk to her then either. All this is a week and a half after the fact, with pretty much dead silence between us.

Then I received a text saying "Hey come on, you know I didn't cheat on you or anything. I just want to see you and talk to you." which really just boiled my blood, because for one, I DON'T know she didn't cheat on me, the day I broke up with her she had spent the night at some guy's house, whom she wouldn't name; and when I asked if it was serious she confirmed it was. For another I pretty much begged her to talk to me about it, to explain what she did, I didn't sleep that night because I was so destroyed. But apparently she had 'plans' with likely the same person. Which brought me to my senses and I told her what I said in the beginning, that it's over, I don't want to see or speak to her, this really hurts me. Because if she can't give us one night to try and mend our entire relationship, then there's zero hope in my eyes.

Now shes coming back with all this shit about how she always wanted to see and talk to me but thought I just needed time(??), that she had this big thing typed out to say to me. Saying she wished we could have talked and that she cares very much for me (lol). And even tried to guilt trip me into it by saying she forgave me at my worst, when she couldn't trust me. Which is just bull honkey. Not to mention she dropped the whale watching trip we were suppose to go on this weekend in my lap, which we had planned to go for a month or two in advance and then she tried to cancel it in front of me while we were still together but the dude wasn't in. I had assumed she had cancelled it by now but apparently not.

I thought this was going to be a relatively clean break, it sucks to hear all of this a week and a half afterwards. I'm just really happy I spent the weekend with my dad and brother, I had a great time and felt what it was like to be with family again, and my brother even offered me a job in the city which I desperately need. Things are looking up and i'm thankful for it. So I suppose i'll just stick to my guns, send her the pictures she wants when I have the time, and get my own situation improved, because with my now 20/20 hindsight, I can see how poisonous that relationship was.

[Agent766]

How do I stop being so desperate for a relationship?

[Zarjk]

I know this is probably ungodly young for putting it here, but I have this girl going into eighth grade that's all over me, and I'm a sophomore this year.

The reason I say she's all over me is because she wants to do shotgunning basically.

I'm not sure if I should let this happen or not.

Really need a response by early morning tomm, if you guys can.

[Fire Kracker]

is that where you jizz all over her

[editline]7th August 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Agent766;41739305]How do I stop being so desperate for a relationship?[/QUOTE]

masturbating

[Agent766]

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;41741684]masturbating[/QUOTE]

That's pretty much what I've been doing since my dad fired me from his business (we don't get along well).

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;41741672]wtf is shotgunning

[editline]7th August 2013[/editline]

wtf if it's weed related and she's 13-14 that's fucked up m8[/QUOTE]

Is that where you blow smoke out and the other person shotguns it by inhaling it?

What the fuck. When I was 14, the only thing I was shotgunning was the front fucking seat in the car.

[zukriuchen]

i started smoking weed at age 14
really didn't change my ~views on the world~ too much, i mean, i was still a 14 year old and acted like one, it's just that i also smoked weed

[editline]7th August 2013[/editline]

but if there's one thing i can tell is that i was much, much more like the "yeah dude i smoke weed and i'm badass" kind of guy that you'd prob see walking around with a bob marley t shirt

basically i was really naive and thought weed was the greatest thing in existance, and most other 14 year olds that smoke it, probably like that one girl that's interested in that guy, probably think the same.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;41743011]i started smoking weed at age 14
really didn't change my ~views on the world~ too much, i mean, i was still a 14 year old and acted like one, it's just that i also smoked weed[/QUOTE]

smoking pot inhibits brain development, just because it didn't have immediate and highly noticeable effects on you doesn't mean it didn't affect you at all.

[zukriuchen]

which shouldn't change the veracity of what I said at all

[Leader of Me]

Man I really can't seem to see any progress in me getting over my past relationship and the the issues I faced with her parents, just the way they condemned my values and how they made me feel like I wasn't worth her with the way they talked about their values and the condescending and sarcastic way they talked about mine. I want to get over her and this but I feel like I can't. My mate wants me to try hook up with other girls but I don't know if that would even work.

[Loopoo]

Sorry if I confuse you with someone else: were you the dude dating that Mormon chick, whose shitty parents snooped on her phone and saw the "I like kissing you" messages she sent you, then went batshit insane, guilt-tripped the girl, made her feel guilty as fuck and generally ruin your relationship? I haven't been keeping up to date with this thread much lately, but it sucks to hear you two broke up. What happened in the end, because iirc she still wanted to be with you, and still loved you. Was the guilt-tripping her parents gave her too much and she ended it?

[killerteacup]

so I'm single now and there's a big uni party tomorrow night

Idk if I'm ready for a cheap hookup if its offered yet but either way some girl should definitely notice me

I wonder how I can force someone to notice me like a middle school student

[pfoot]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41743030]smoking pot inhibits brain development, just because it didn't have immediate and highly noticeable effects on you doesn't mean it didn't affect you at all.[/QUOTE]

definitely, but the damage comes from heavy usage over a period of years.

[editline]7th August 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Agent766;41741774]That's pretty much what I've been doing since my dad fired me from his business (we don't get along well).[/QUOTE]

step 1 to getting a girlfriend: stop being so weird

[Leader of Me]

[QUOTE=loopoo;41743704]Sorry if I confuse you with someone else: were you the dude dating that Mormon chick, whose shitty parents snooped on her phone and saw the "I like kissing you" messages she sent you, then went batshit insane, guilt-tripped the girl, made her feel guilty as fuck and generally ruin your relationship? I haven't been keeping up to date with this thread much lately, but it sucks to hear you two broke up. What happened in the end, because iirc she still wanted to be with you, and still loved you. Was the guilt-tripping her parents gave her too much and she ended it?[/QUOTE]

Yeah I am man, she ended up telling me that she needs to focus more on church and her parents in the end made it all too hard for us too see each other so she called it off and she said she doesn't feel the same way about me than she used to, she still has feelings but she doesn't feel the same. We've had fights over her parents and her beliefs and she blamed me for some stuff which was completely stupid but in the end we're still talking but we're not going out. It really sucks man.

[pfoot]

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41743924]Yeah I am man, she ended up telling me that she needs to focus more on church and her parents in the end made it all too hard for us too see each other so she called it off and she said she doesn't feel the same way about me than she used to, she still has feelings but she doesn't feel the same. We've had fights over her parents and her beliefs and she blamed me for some stuff which was completely stupid but in the end we're still talking but we're not going out. It really sucks man.[/QUOTE]

youll be ok bub

we're here 4 u

[Leader of Me]

[QUOTE=pfoot;41744040]youll be ok bub

we're here 4 u[/QUOTE]

Cheers man c:

[Jimmaye]

Asked a girl to my yr 11 formal over facebook, sarcastically said I needed a hot date, she said thats horrible no one is usiing me for looks (which is fair enough). I explanied the sarcasm and asked properly she said she'd sleep on it, don't think I did so well haha.