Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Boss]

Taking bets on next parakon post being about how his ex did another u turn.

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=Parakon;41769785]she actually did a complete 180 as she must have realized how insane she was being. Wrote this big ol thing about how I helped her deal with her stress and how she loved me a bunch and wished me good luck.

so that should be that, but we'll see[/QUOTE]

It's not over, I'm pretty sure that's just to make you feel a bit guilty.

[Parakon]

Doope i drove an hour for a 5 minute interview that was essentially just a formality, and got a taste of how much of a prick mh brother is at work. Half of the interview was her being all 'you know your brothers a prick right? Can you deal with working under him??' He rides everyone tho and ive known the dude my entire life so i can handle it, I think. Also ill be living with him and another one of my managers which is fuuuucked. Although Its a really nice place. I dont know WHAT to feel

[DudesonFan]

Wow.
So. I just got word from a [b]extremely[/b] trustworthy person that the girl i [i]thought[/i] was into me is also "into" like, at least 3 other guys + her ex at the same time.

Now that's just fucking great.

I don't get it.
You try your best to be nice to everyone only to get this kinda shit poured down on you every time you think something good happened to you for once.

Guess some people are just doomed to be single.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=DudesonFan;41778505]Wow.
So. I just got word from a [b]extremely[/b] trustworthy person that the girl i [i]thought[/i] was into me is also "into" like, at least 3 other guys + her ex at the same time.

Now that's just fucking great.

I don't get it.
You try your best to be nice to everyone only to get this kinda shit poured down on you every time you think something good happened to you for once.

Guess some people are just doomed to be single.[/QUOTE]

You can be better than all those people. You just have to believe.

[PuduEbooks]

[QUOTE=DudesonFan;41778505]Wow.
So. I just got word from a extremely trustworthy person that the girl i [i]thought[/i] was into me is also "into" like, at least 3 other guys + her ex at the same time.

Now that's just fucking great.

I don't get it.
You try your best [B]to be nice [/B]to everyone only to get this kinda shit poured down on you every time [B]you think something good happened to you[/B] for once.

Guess some people are just doomed to be single.[/QUOTE]

There, girls won't fall for you without you doing nothing, that kind of things don't just happen, you have to make them happen.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=DudesonFan;41778505]Wow.
So. I just got word from a [B]extremely[/B] trustworthy person that the girl i [I]thought[/I] was into me is also "into" like, at least 3 other guys + her ex at the same time.

Now that's just fucking great.

I don't get it.
You try your best to be nice to everyone only to get this kinda shit poured down on you every time you think something good happened to you for once.

Guess some people are just doomed to be single.[/QUOTE]

its easy to be into people

you can be into someone even while you're dating someone

basically means you just have to compete

[editline]10th August 2013[/editline]

and she'll choose whoever she likes the best

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41764482]She's a chick I knew in high school who lives in a completely different state now, so I didn't really care about making something out of it. If she was local I totally would have taken the opportunity to get it in.[/QUOTE]

Long distance that shit.
Skype-dates, and sex on chat is what all the kids are doing now.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;41769674]So, how did you come up with all these?[/QUOTE]
Things that I'd do if I wasn't on decent terms with all of my exes.

[QUOTE=Parakon;41769785]she actually did a complete 180 as she must have realized how insane she was being. Wrote this big ol thing about how I helped her deal with her stress and how she loved me a bunch and wished me good luck.

so that should be that, but we'll see[/QUOTE]
When she comes back (and she will come back), ignore her or forever be the backup plan.

[QUOTE=DudesonFan;41778505]Wow.
So. I just got word from a [B]extremely[/B] trustworthy person that the girl i [I]thought[/I] was into me is also "into" like, at least 3 other guys + her ex at the same time.

Now that's just fucking great.

I don't get it.
You try your best to be nice to everyone only to get this kinda shit poured down on you every time you think something good happened to you for once.

Guess some people are just doomed to be single.[/QUOTE]
You just gotta be the most interesting person in the room. Simple.

Or if you're like me, that shit makes you uncomfortable and if that's public knowledge then I'm out.

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=ScoutKing;41779759]Long distance that shit.
Skype-dates, and sex on chat is what all the kids are doing now.[/QUOTE]

Why would I put in that effort to see titties on a screen when I can just type in (insert porn related word)tube in the address bar and see them in action.

[Regorc's Chest]

Because tubetittes =/= youtitties.

[DudesonFan]

Yeah you guys are right, i guess i was kinda overreacting since i was also tired as fuck when i posted that.

[Stalketeer]

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;41778721]There, girls won't fall for you without you doing nothing, that kind of things don't just happen, you have to make them happen.[/QUOTE]

Meh, one of my guy friend is a rich and decent dude, he did nothing special and just live on stuff from his family, but one of my girl friend suddenly likes him out of nowhere even though they almost never speaks. He already had a girlfriend and he's dead serious about her (although she's not a looker, at all), but that girl friend of mine still put some effort into him (adding him on FB, hanging with him whenever he's there).

We just had to accept that some people got it, and some don't.

[Stalketeer]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;41785187]he's rich

that explains a lot

[editline]10th August 2013[/editline]

now i ain't saying she a gold digga

just saying she ain't messing with no broke nigga[/QUOTE]

Forgot to mention that at the same time, there's another guy who's trying to win her. He's a decent guy too, not bad looking, but he didn't exactly have deep pockets. But he put enormous amounts of efforts, so much that I couldnt think of anything he could've done more, but still got turned down. Now he just can't get serious with anybody because he thought that no amount of effort/kindness could win over money. I have nothing to say to convince him otherwise, because it's true

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41781193]Why would I put in that effort to see titties on a screen when I can just type in (insert porn related word)tube in the address bar and see them in action.[/QUOTE]

You get to change your relationship status on facebook.
Porn can't do that for you. Check-mate maverick.

[Jo The Shmo]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;41781193]Why would I put in that effort to see titties on a screen when I can just type in (insert porn related word)tube in the address bar and see them in action.[/QUOTE]

why start a relationship when you can just pay for sex?

[Npc_Hydra3]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;41787273]why start a relationship when you can just pay for sex?[/QUOTE]

Why pay, when you can force. *smug face

[blacksam]

So my lady and I are a thing, but I said let's wait at least another month or two before it's fbo. I explained that last time my ex wrote trash about me, and a majority of my last relationship felt like it was all for the 'likes' and instagram hearts. She said she understood, but said she couldn't wait to show me off? I explained that she can tell anyone she wants, it's just something I believe is meant to be more intimate before it's fbo. Am I doing something wrong? She doesn't seem to mind and she agreed with me on everything.

[chinatown]

assuming fbo is facebook official, I wouldnt really care. It doesnt determine anything

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=hakimhakim;41785288]Forgot to mention that at the same time, there's another guy who's trying to win her. He's a decent guy too, not bad looking, but he didn't exactly have deep pockets. But he put enormous amounts of efforts, so much that I couldnt think of anything he could've done more, but still got turned down. Now he just can't get serious with anybody because he thought that no amount of effort/kindness could win over money. I have nothing to say to convince him otherwise, because it's true[/QUOTE]

Putting effort in just wont win you every girl, especially if she is decided on someone else. Women can be very one track minded, and anyway its probably more to do with the physic chemistry than anything else

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;41788584]assuming fbo is facebook official, I wouldnt really care. It doesnt determine anything[/QUOTE]

i never really got the point, all being facebook official does is means that any relationship problems between you are no longer private and everyone you do or don't talk to will know whenever you decide to break up.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;41788913]i never really got the point, all being facebook official does is means that any relationship problems between you are no longer private and everyone you do or don't talk to will know whenever you decide to break up.[/QUOTE]

Facebook doesnt send out notifications when you break up, people still have to find out on their own

[Taepodong-2]

I'm going to be going back to university in a few weeks. I didn't exactly have a great social life last year. I mean I wasn't stuck in my dorm room all day every day, I did get out and hang out with people, but it could have been better. I'm guessing the obvious solution for that is to just talk to more people and probably join some clubs.

I do still have trouble talking to girls that I think are attractive and don't know though. I get too worried about fucking up and stuttering or saying something awkward and end up just avoiding them most of the time. How can I get over that?

[zenby]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;41789152]I'm going to be going back to university in a few weeks. I didn't exactly have a great social life last year. I mean I wasn't stuck in my dorm room all day every day, I did get out and hang out with people, but it could have been better. I'm guessing the obvious solution for that is to just talk to more people and probably join some clubs.

I do still have trouble talking to girls that I think are attractive and don't know though. I get too worried about fucking up and stuttering or saying something awkward and end up just avoiding them most of the time. How can I get over that?[/QUOTE]

You could try to avoid thinking of them as girls you find attractive and try to think of them as just people

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;41789152]I'm going to be going back to university in a few weeks. I didn't exactly have a great social life last year. I mean I wasn't stuck in my dorm room all day every day, I did get out and hang out with people, but it could have been better. I'm guessing the obvious solution for that is to just talk to more people and probably join some clubs.

I do still have trouble talking to girls that I think are attractive and don't know though. [b]I get too worried about fucking up and stuttering or saying something awkward and end up just avoiding them most of the time.[/b] How can I get over that?[/QUOTE]

I used to be the same, then one day I got so drunk I forgot I was socially awkward and just sat next to some girl I'd never met before and it went great and we made out.

Don't worry about talking to girls just do it. The problem starts when you think too much about it, talk to them like you would your guy friends.

[ScoutKing]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41789414]You could try to avoid thinking of them as girls you find attractive and try to think of them as just people[/QUOTE]

no, you got to think of them as goddesses who are perfect in every way.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=blacksam;41788037]So my lady and I are a thing, but I said let's wait at least another month or two before it's fbo. I explained that last time my ex wrote trash about me, and a majority of my last relationship felt like it was all for the 'likes' and instagram hearts. She said she understood, but said she couldn't wait to show me off? I explained that she can tell anyone she wants, it's just something I believe is meant to be more intimate before it's fbo. Am I doing something wrong? She doesn't seem to mind and she agreed with me on everything.[/QUOTE]

Some people like flaunting their relationships, others don't. Honestly, I don't see the point of going facebook official anymore, I'd rather not have the attention.

[Riku2211]

Okay so I need some advice. It took a while, so I thought I'd been overlooked, but there's this fast food place nearby me that is basically a hotspot for first-job teens. My ex got a job there, as she told me when we started talking again. Anyway I applied there and got no reply for maybe a week and a half, the reason I'd thought they weren't going to contact me was because she told me they usually take around 3 days to schedule an interview. I guess she was wrong. I, really luckily, checked my E-mail a few minutes ago and apparently I'd gotten an E-mail earlier today scheduling an interview for tomorrow morning. I've never had an interview before, and I'm a fucking wreck talking to anyone over the phone and people I don't know, and I'm feeling somewhat light headed and nauseous.

Not only about the fact that I have a fucking job interview, but that that job is going to be at the same place as my ex. I'd wanted to avoid applying there after I learned she had, but it was my best chance and I thought I was being somewhat immature. Now that I'm here, though, I feel like it's going to cause problems. Might make me feel more pressured on the job.

Still, that would only be if I even got the job. Right now I'm just worried about this impromptu ass interview. I figured if they contacted me it'd be to schedule one for like a week or so later, but nope, tomorrow morning. I'm almost considering not taking it with the excuse that my ex is working there (I don't much like the place either) but I just KNOW it's only because I'm nervous granted the first thing is a legitimate worry.

So what the fuck do I do? I guess I should take it, but holy shit how do I do an interview? I run out of things to say to people constantly, and I find myself to be relatively uninteresting, so if they were to like, ask me what I find important about myself, I would be able to say like 3 things and I just know that that "And?" would fuck me over entirely and I would get nervous and be unable to think of anything else.

Okay I'm trying to chill out a bit here. I just need any advice you guys can offer. I wish I at least had some time to think about this and whatnot, but no, I'll be waking up tomorrow morning and pretty much just getting ready and going. Hoo boy.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=riku2211;41793684]Okay so I need some advice. It took a while, so I thought I'd been overlooked, but there's this fast food place nearby me that is basically a hotspot for first-job teens. My ex got a job there, as she told me when we started talking again. Anyway I applied there and got no reply for maybe a week and a half, the reason I'd thought they weren't going to contact me was because she told me they usually take around 3 days to schedule an interview. I guess she was wrong. I, really luckily, checked my E-mail a few minutes ago and apparently I'd gotten an E-mail earlier today scheduling an interview for tomorrow morning. I've never had an interview before, and I'm a fucking wreck talking to anyone over the phone and people I don't know, and I'm feeling somewhat light headed and nauseous.

Not only about the fact that I have a fucking job interview, but that that job is going to be at the same place as my ex. I'd wanted to avoid applying there after I learned she had, but it was my best chance and I thought I was being somewhat immature. Now that I'm here, though, I feel like it's going to cause problems. Might make me feel more pressured on the job.

Still, that would only be if I even got the job. Right now I'm just worried about this impromptu ass interview. I figured if they contacted me it'd be to schedule one for like a week or so later, but nope, tomorrow morning. I'm almost considering not taking it with the excuse that my ex is working there (I don't much like the place either) but I just KNOW it's only because I'm nervous granted the first thing is a legitimate worry.

So what the fuck do I do? I guess I should take it, but holy shit how do I do an interview? I run out of things to say to people constantly, and I find myself to be relatively uninteresting, so if they were to like, ask me what I find important about myself, I would be able to say like 3 things and I just know that that "And?" would fuck me over entirely and I would get nervous and be unable to think of anything else.

Okay I'm trying to chill out a bit here. I just need any advice you guys can offer. I wish I at least had some time to think about this and whatnot, but no, I'll be waking up tomorrow morning and pretty much just getting ready and going. Hoo boy.[/QUOTE]
[URL]http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Good-Impression-at-a-First-Job-Interview[/URL]

Be comfortable, first of all. You're considering ditching the job, so just go in there and see what it's about. At the very least, go and get your first interview over with. If you don't want to work there, then decline the job when they call you with the offer. They're not scary, and make a great excuse to be dressed up for the day.

Quick note, they don't care about you. They care about how you'd perform in the workplace. When they ask about greatest strengths, I like to say that I see everything from all sides. When it comes to weakness, I like to say that I take ownership of things I'm a part of, especially when things go wrong. Of course, tailor everything to your personality. If you chill out, you'll be alright.

Oh, if your ex works there, don't take it. But go interview.

[AltUser]

Oh God, where do I start?
You may know about this girl... She was my ex, then we were interested in each other again, and we were going to get together if I sorted my shit out, (turns out I had dependent personality disorder), so I finally thought I was getting myself sorted out and things were looking so good.
But then last night we both had a few drinks, and when we were going to bed we started arguing over something petty, and it ended up really going out of control, and she wanted to phone her mother to pick her up, and I knew at that point if she rang her then we would never see each other again because her mother hates me as it is. So things really got out of hand, I was stopping her getting her phone, and she started pushing me, and I was pushing her away too, and it ended up I gave her bruises, I didn't hit her or anything, but it was because I was too rough and out of hand.
Now this morning she's phoned to get picked up and she never wants to talk again. I have fucked absolutely everything up, I'm not even religious but I was begging God to make things right, and I appologised for my wrong-doings, I would do absolutely anything to get her back, anything.
Everything is shit right now, it was all going okay until last night, and now I can't even think about the future because I know I'll be sad and alone, I really wanted things to work out with this girl, I really did. What can I do now? I'm afraid as soon as I stop typing that will be it, I'll realise I'm going to be alone from now on, and that thought haunts me.

[editline]11th August 2013[/editline]

This feels like the worst nightmare ever.