Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Bobie]

all women who talk to you and are nice are obliged to date you

[MIR]

Would you rather they be honest with you and suggest that you remain friends or would you rather have a fake relationship that will end up as a burning ruin in a short amount of time?

[Jo The Shmo]

[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;41810964]Would you rather they be honest with you and suggest that you remain friends or would you rather have a fake relationship that will end up as a burning ruin in a short amount of time?[/QUOTE]

fake relationship definitely, i just wanna touch some boobs!

[Dr. Gestapo]

like seriously man this girl always makes eye contact with me and isn't rude, that means she's into me right? think again.

i talked to her and was super nice to her for weeks (instead of just straight up asking her out, because that totally doesn't work) and she didn't even offer have consensual sex with me, she told me she was gonna spend the day with her "boyfriend" wtf??

and females wonder where all the nice guys went.......

[disseminate]

[QUOTE=Dr. Gestapo;41811579]and females wonder where all the nice guys went.......[/QUOTE]

take the red pill my friend, U just gotta realize women are all scuzzlords,

[MIR]

[QUOTE=Disseminate;41811603]take the red pill my friend, U just gotta realize women are all scuzzlords,[/QUOTE]

You have to use BTAX tactics on their M-cordyceps to manipulate their JTAX cuntaceptors my beta pal.

[Kindlinho]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;41811163]
[IMG]http://facepunch.com/image.php?u=198780&dateline=1344908526[/IMG]
fake relationship definitely, i just wanna touch some boobs![/QUOTE]
Fits.

Anyway, guys and gals, imagine this. Classic scenario - you like a girl, she likes you back, but obviously not the same way that you do. That sucks, yes. The usual thing to do is burn the bridges and move on. But on the other hand, she's proven herself as a loyal friend who can be trusted and is a overally a nice person. I've known her for 4 years now, by the way. Although imagine you get upset by seeing her flirting with random guys (I sort of hate myself for that) and listening to her stories about it (yep). She knows it makes me upset, but she just loves to share that (at least she apologizes, even if it doesn't mean much). But like I said, other than that she's proven herself and I've never been backstabbed by her and I've got a proper reason to firmly believe she would never do that.
Now, I think the problem aren't her stories, but actually myself being so possessive and clingy about her. I don't make jelly scenes or anything, I'm only feeling it inside.

What would YOU do in my place or what would you change? The decision is mine, of course, but I'd like to hear a third-party opinion first. Thanks in advance.

[zenby]

Accept your situation and move on, I'm in a similar situation and it's working for me. So you don't get a relationship, but you do have a friend.

[Aries]

Just had had four and a half hours sleep before a twelve hour shift after mutually breaking up with my girlfriend. It was mutual on my part because I didn't feel like it going the way it was was such a good thing and we were both unhappy all the time, but I don't know why she was avoiding me and doing the things she did. After three years, I still tried to be the best boyfriend I could (even after she avoided me on our anniversary last month). I moved cities for this girl a year ago, I've lost my best friend who left with thousands of dollars in debt, my parents and I are no longer on speaking terms and I feel so hollow and empty. She was really cool, and I will probably never find someone that cool again. I don't want to go around having sex with people to solve my problems. I feel like I have no one. Everyone I used to know has moved on. How do I keep going?

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

She also has a hiatus hernia, caused by stress and anxiety. She's quit uni, gone back to live with her family to sort herself out and doesn't want me to be a part of her getting better because I deserve better, leaving me in this city with no one else. She leaves in five days, I've known her for seven years, and I feel as though I've held her back a lot in the last three years, and like I contributed a lot to her anxiety.

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

And it's not just that I've lost her. Losing her hurts, so much. But it's that I've lost everyone else, too.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=AltUser;41809807]I really am trying to get a job, but its to no avail so far. I'm not really sure about online dating, I don't think its an option for me yet.
I just like the idea of finding someone new I can talk to.[/QUOTE]

Online dating [del]is[/del] was my jam. I met my girlfriend on there and she's pretty great. I met some cool friends too. Online dating can be cool.

[PrivRyan]

May I recommend to you fine gentlemen one of my favorite pieces of literature?
[B]Models[/B] by Mark Manson

[editline]12th August 2013[/editline]

Oh yeah.
It goes into detail how you should focus on yourself before focusing on getting with a girl.
It really is a good read, and I recommend you guys who are getting friendzoned or whatever to give it a shot.

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Dr. Gestapo;41811579]like seriously man this girl always makes eye contact with me and isn't rude, that means she's into me right? think again.

i talked to her and was super nice to her for weeks (instead of just straight up asking her out, because that totally doesn't work) and she didn't even offer have consensual sex with me, she told me she was gonna spend the day with her "boyfriend" wtf??

and females wonder where all the nice guys went.......[/QUOTE]

Just because a girl accepts hanging out with you doesn't mean she wants your dick. You're making it sound like you expected her to have sex with you cause you hung out.(I seriously hope you never asked her about this)
It's amazing how you managed to expect a girl to have sex with you when you didn't even know her well enough to know if she had a boyfriend or not. A girl can be nice to people even though she has a boyfriend. It's not like people who get into relationship warp into another dimension where you can only see them when they are together as a couple.

You seriously can't assume a girl is into you if she doesn't even want to go on a date. (Big goddamn sign right here. A girl that doesn't want to go on a date with you most likely doesn't want to go to bed with you.)
You should absolutely [I]never again[/I] assume a girl wants your dick because you hung out with her for a couple of week.

There's a lot of guys out there that are nice, but a "nice guy" isn't nice, because you're being nice to one specific girl so that you can get laid/together, not because you two actually have a lot in common or really hit it off together.

[AltUser]

-snip-

[PuduEbooks]

-shitbetternotriskmyass-

[zenby]

[QUOTE=ole johan;41816296]Just because a girl accepts hanging out with you doesn't mean she wants your dick. You're making it sound like you expected her to have sex with you cause you hung out.(I seriously hope you never asked her about this)
It's amazing how you managed to expect a girl to have sex with you when you didn't even know her well enough to know if she had a boyfriend or not. A girl can be nice to people even though she has a boyfriend. It's not like people who get into relationship warp into another dimension where you can only see them when they are together as a couple.

You seriously can't assume a girl is into you if she doesn't even want to go on a date. (Big goddamn sign right here. A girl that doesn't want to go on a date with you most likely doesn't want to go to bed with you.)
You should absolutely [I]never again[/I] assume a girl wants your dick because you hung out with her for a couple of week.

There's a lot of guys out there that are nice, but a "nice guy" isn't nice, because you're being nice to one specific girl so that you can get laid/together, not because you two actually have a lot in common or really hit it off together.[/QUOTE]

Did it go right over your head that his comment was satirical

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;41809523]ooooonline dating

its the future~[/QUOTE]

Last Friday night I got again a non-definitive answer from a girl.
But at least this time it seems like she might actually be interested and is just a bit shy.

[AltUser]

-snip-

[Dr. Gestapo]

[QUOTE=ole johan;41816296]Just because a girl accepts hanging out with you doesn't mean she wants your dick. You're making it sound like you expected her to have sex with you cause you hung out.(I seriously hope you never asked her about this)
It's amazing how you managed to expect a girl to have sex with you when you didn't even know her well enough to know if she had a boyfriend or not. A girl can be nice to people even though she has a boyfriend. It's not like people who get into relationship warp into another dimension where you can only see them when they are together as a couple.

You seriously can't assume a girl is into you if she doesn't even want to go on a date. (Big goddamn sign right here. A girl that doesn't want to go on a date with you most likely doesn't want to go to bed with you.)
You should absolutely [I]never again[/I] assume a girl wants your dick because you hung out with her for a couple of week.

There's a lot of guys out there that are nice, but a "nice guy" isn't nice, because you're being nice to one specific girl so that you can get laid/together, not because you two actually have a lot in common or really hit it off together.[/QUOTE]

I even said "females" instead of women come on dude

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Dr. Gestapo;41816870]I even said "females" instead of women come on dude[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;41816424]Did it go right over your head that his comment was satirical[/QUOTE]

Oh. Yeah that went right over my head.

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

Gotta say I honestly thought I was replying to redbadger.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Kindlinho;41813237]Fits.

Anyway, guys and gals, imagine this. Classic scenario - you like a girl, she likes you back, but obviously not the same way that you do. That sucks, yes. The usual thing to do is burn the bridges and move on. But on the other hand, she's proven herself as a loyal friend who can be trusted and is a overally a nice person. I've known her for 4 years now, by the way. Although imagine you get upset by seeing her flirting with random guys (I sort of hate myself for that) and listening to her stories about it (yep). She knows it makes me upset, but she just loves to share that (at least she apologizes, even if it doesn't mean much). But like I said, other than that she's proven herself and I've never been backstabbed by her and I've got a proper reason to firmly believe she would never do that.
Now, I think the problem aren't her stories, but actually myself being so possessive and clingy about her. I don't make jelly scenes or anything, I'm only feeling it inside.

What would YOU do in my place or what would you change? The decision is mine, of course, but I'd like to hear a third-party opinion first. Thanks in advance.[/QUOTE]
She puts that shit in your face? Fuck that.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=redBadger;41809793]There's a point where you just have to give up after being rejected for someone else so many times.[/QUOTE]

yea you should give up

[Taepodong-2]

Since I don't enjoy parties, what are other good places on a typical college campus to meet girls?

[PollytheParrot]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;41818495]Since I don't enjoy parties, what are other good places on a typical college campus to meet girls?[/QUOTE]

Commons areas, hanging out with friends, and activities that aren't necessarily parties but still involve social interaction for the purpose of having fun

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;41818495]Since I don't enjoy parties, what are other good places on a typical college campus to meet girls?[/QUOTE]

coffee shop

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

or if your campus is like ours your frozen yogurt shop

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

a cafe

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

the classroom

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

lobby chairs or where ever there are chairs

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

the womens restroom

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

basically everywhere

[editline]13th August 2013[/editline]

even while your walking if you and a girl are walking in the same direction as long as you're not a creeper about it you can start a conversation easily

[Taepodong-2]

So it was just as easy as saying hi to the cute girl I saw literally everywhere I went last year? Fuck.

[PollytheParrot]

The only bad time to approach a girl, or anybody really is when it looks like they're busy doing schoolwork or studying

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;41818587]So it was just as easy as saying hi to the cute girl I saw literally everywhere I went last year? Fuck.[/QUOTE]

pretty much

[Taepodong-2]

Well fuck. Looks like all I need is a confidence boost and I'll be on my way.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;41818670]Well fuck. Looks like all I need is a confidence boost and I'll be on my way.[/QUOTE]

you don't have to actually be confident. just fake it til you make it - even if you're shy, if you pretend to be confident eventually you'll feel confident as well.
in order to stop being nervous you have to expose yourself to the thing you're nervous about. if you're trying to get over a phobia you familiarize yourself with the thing you're afraid of until you stop having an initial reaction of panic to it, if you're shy you expose yourself to social situations until you get used to them and realize there's nothing to be nervous about.

[Heigou]

I have no car and live in the middle of nowhere.

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