• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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Do other things- a hobby or something, just something you like that doesnt do much to remind you of them.
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41877740]Any other advice or just how to get over your ex in general?[/QUOTE] Get a third one.
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41877740]Any other advice or just how to get over your ex in general?[/QUOTE] Marry your hand because it serves you for satisfaction for life any time, anywhere
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;41877740]Any other advice or just how to get over your ex in general?[/QUOTE] First one is the hardest. My first one tore me up for a while, but my second one wasn't bad at all.
While online dating may be the future, it has some issues. Like when the 95% match that you've been having a good time talking to and arranging to go meet deletes their account after a few days of silence :P In other news, life is pretty great, albiet ex likes to send me bitchy messages sometimes and occasionally we'll talk like we used to, I'm not 100% spaghetti around people and I like a girl who's in a complicated situation and I can't tell if she's interested. But, very happy overall, friends are great, these issues are small time worries, so yeah.
I met a girl online. We live 3 hours apart, but that's nothing for me. I really like her and she really likes me. First date will be Friday or Saturday. I'm really looking forward to it.
I'm really starting to get over my ex now, I've detached myself from her quite a bit, and I haven't been overly sad about her in a few days, I'm doing really well! The only stuff that is bringing me down is when people talk about their relationships, but its not too bad. Also, we used to watch this TV series together, and now she's asking other people to come over and watch it with her, it sounds tedious, but it's upsetting me a bit.
[QUOTE=AltUser;41896607]I'm really starting to get over my ex now, I've detached myself from her quite a bit, and I haven't been overly sad about her in a few days, I'm doing really well! The only stuff that is bringing me down is when people talk about their relationships, but its not too bad. Also, we used to watch this TV series together, and now she's asking other people to come over and watch it with her, it sounds tedious, but it's upsetting me a bit.[/QUOTE] Its normal for that kind of stuff (the TV series) to upset you a little, if it didn't upset you at all then you probably didn't have that good of a relationship. Just keep working through and if you want to, you should invite friends over to watch it with you too
[QUOTE=AltUser;41896607]Also, we used to watch this TV series together, and now she's asking other people to come over and watch it with her, it sounds tedious, but it's upsetting me a bit.[/QUOTE] Petty nonsense to bother you. You win the breakup.
Yeah, thanks guys. It would just worry me if she had another guy to watch it with her, like a replacement for me, but I shouldn't really care much. And yes, if it was a competition then I've definitely won the breakup. But really all I care about is me getting back on track.
Right, I'm sick of my ex now. She's just been asking people to come over hers and watch the show we used to watch together, except with some other guy. She's been sending kisses to other guys, and I know it's not a huge deal, but it fucks me off so bad. And even on top of that she's still telling people God knows what about how I "beat" her and all that bollocks. So now I've actually blocked her, she can go fuck herself.
[QUOTE=Agoat;41899573]Petty nonsense to bother you. You win the breakup.[/QUOTE] theres no winning in a relationship lol
[QUOTE=AltUser;41909033]Right, I'm sick of my ex now. She's just been asking people to come over hers and watch the show we used to watch together, except with some other guy. She's been sending kisses to other guys, and I know it's not a huge deal, but it fucks me off so bad. And even on top of that she's still telling people God knows what about how I "beat" her and all that bollocks. So now I've actually blocked her, she can go fuck herself.[/QUOTE] Sorry but you won't get any sympathy here. She's moved on and you haven't.
I don't post for sympathy though, I just usually post this kind of stuff here. I just thought it was shitty how it's only been a week and she's moving onto the next guy.
[QUOTE=AltUser;41910024]I don't post for sympathy though, I just usually post this kind of stuff here. I just thought it was shitty how it's only been a week and she's moving onto the next guy.[/QUOTE] Nah you just post to complain to nobody and dont care if we respond eh? If you didnt want a reaction to it you wouldnt post. And I would prefer you didnt because I honestly think she is validated and have been trying not to bother pointing it out to you but you just keep whining about it.
[QUOTE=AltUser;41909033]Right, I'm sick of my ex now. She's just been asking people to come over hers and watch the show we used to watch together, except with some other guy. She's been sending kisses to other guys, and I know it's not a huge deal, but it fucks me off so bad. And even on top of that she's still telling people God knows what about how I "beat" her and all that bollocks. So now I've actually blocked her, she can go fuck herself.[/QUOTE] bro, do the same and go invite some other girls over to watch shows and shit [editline]21st August 2013[/editline] and den u fuck
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41910151]Nah you just post to complain to nobody and dont care if we respond eh? If you didnt want a reaction to it you wouldnt post. And I would prefer you didnt because I honestly think she is validated and have been trying not to bother pointing it out to you but you just keep whining about it.[/QUOTE] I'm guessing he just wanted an outlet. Or some attention. Either one, let's be nice about it guys.
On the note of whining about things I'm just sitting here getting more and more worked up and stressed out so it would seem a whining post of my own is in order. I just don't have anyone here to talk to really. Writing things out usually helps me logic them out and stop being overly upset by smaller details. So anyway, i havent posted about it a lot but most of you would probably know I moved out, and a city away from my parents for my upcomming first year of art college. My bf also moved up (after about a month). Ive been here almost 3 months now. I really enjoyed getting out on my own, having a place of my own for that time. doors locked no body can come in I can do whatever I want whenever I want etc The only exception being spending a lot of time looking for a job (any job) so I would have money to pay for the upcomming rent. After applying to everywhere around me (even some places not so around me) the least likely place called me back almost right after I applied. So I now work at Futureshop selling cameras, which is great and I enjoy it, although i guess I still feel like I dont quite fit in there fully yet, i get along with everyone fine but I still feel like the newbie (even though i'm not the newest we have any more at all) but oh well. I feel mostly good at work. My bf waited till I was done training to put in his notice and to be honest it irritated me, I could see the logic but it felt like he didnt really want to come up. And it still feels like he just doesnt want to make this change and grow up. I mean we both put off looking for a job and such last year while we were still living at home but at that time you can do that but we are both out here on our own and need our own money to do shit. Since he's come up hes just been sitting at home playing games all day (and occassionally cleaning when he feels like it or if we have people who are visiting so we have to). At first he was having anxiety attacks, which is stressful for him of course (and me to some extent worrying about him) I didnt want to bug him to get a job then for sure. They faded off and nothing much changed, then now he has preventative meds for them he is taking but hes still not doing anything toward a job and such and its starting to really cause me stress and anxiety at his point. Ive started mentioning it a bit now but I really dont want to nag him or whatever the money saved in his bank account isnt going to last forever (or even really that long at all) and on my paychecks we would just barely be able to make it month to month money wise. On top of that he needs to save for college (my parents saved money for me so I'm pretty well good but they didnt have anything for him, leaving him out of pocket for it) make some to pay half the rent and food and such etc. But hes just ignoring it and putting it off and thats just what he does. So that and worrying about work at my own money and saving is stressing me to say the least and also worrying about what happens once my classes start, and I wont be able to work as many hours, and i'll have homework to get done on top of classes and such, how classes and stuff are even going to go on their own just everything really. Then I guess what is messing me up further than my usual levels of stress is just that even though we live together now we never seem to do anything together. He doesn't want to leave the apartment unless we have to go do groceries or are going out for food (or do anything on his own if I'm at work an groceries or stuff should be done) adn when we are in the apartment we are either doing our own things (most of the time) and maybe he will come talk for a minute quick about the game he is playing then go back to it, or come to talk basically just to ask for sex or we will be playing a game multiplayer with one of our shared friends. We never really do anything us together and it sucks. Any time it is just us he wants sex and if I dont want to (basically always) he'll just leave to go play games. he gets upset because i never want sex and wont just do it anyway. Its making sex feel like an upkeep chore not something to do because we both enjoy it. If i dont feel like ahvign sex i just cant get into it and will probably be too busy stressing about other things to even think about enjoying it. He knows he is being silly when he gets properly upset about it but it still makes me feel bad any time I dont want to and makes me upset and feel like i need to on a regular basis to keep him happy. That and he is sleeping through the day, up at night he keeps saying he will try to fix it but then doesnt, he goes to be early and gets a different weird sleep schedule or whatever or when he does fix it he just goes right back to it the next night. I can understand having trouble sleeping but its cause he isnt doing anything. I had the same problem back home cause I did nothing in the day I wasnt tired at night. Its just one more little thing that becomes a big thing ya know? Hes just not really trying to fix it. I dont know what I want really, im just stressed and him not growing up and acting like and adult moved out doing what needs to be done is just making it worse. I cut him some slack for the first month cause I moved out before him he would need some time to adjust sure but it just isnt happening at any reasonable speed. Everything else wouldnt bother me nearly as much if I wasnt already stressed about work and school and money. I guess i just need to talk to him about it properly... which would be easier if he was awake. He's been asleep since before supper time. Edit: Jesus massive wall of text. Added better paragraph breaks so its easier to read if anyone actually plans to :v:
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41911109]-lots and lots of text-[/QUOTE] In my opinion you should act fast to get him to quit this behavior. Sit down with him and set it to him straight: he needs to get up, get a job, and be more committed to the relationship. Just voice your concerns to him and basically tell him what you told us. If he is still unwilling to change his behavior and still acts like this even after you have a long conversation with him and tell him how he's affecting you, you might need a change yourself. This is just my view on things, and someone may have better advice than mine, so take what I said with a grain of salt for now.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41911109]Jesus massive wall of text.[/QUOTE] hi i'm free and have a hot bod [editline]21st August 2013[/editline] i also sleep a normal schedule
[QUOTE=Secone;41912055]In my opinion you should act fast to get him to quit this behavior. Sit down with him and set it to him straight: he needs to get up, get a job, and be more committed to the relationship. Just voice your concerns to him and basically tell him what you told us. If he is still unwilling to change his behavior and still acts like this even after you have a long conversation with him and tell him how he's affecting you, you might need a change yourself. This is just my view on things, and someone may have better advice than mine, so take what I said with a grain of salt for now.[/QUOTE] Yeah no I know, im definitely gonna talk to him about it and thats not a problem we both communicate pretty good and I'm completley sure he doesnt know how much its been stressing me (since when we are together and doing stuff im happy and dont care) I was just really hoping I could let him get to this one on his own, but oh well guess he needs a push for both our sakes edit: I feel better really even just having written it all out and down since I havent mentioned it to anyone else :v:
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41911109] Edit: Jesus massive wall of text. Added better paragraph breaks so its easier to read if anyone actually plans to :v:[/QUOTE] I realize I can't really offer any advice you aren't already thinking about yourself, but definitely talk to him. I've been thinking about my past relationship lately and kind of realized how actually focused on myself I was. I was so focused on her, that I was focused on myself. Okay that's irrelevant, what I was going to try to say is that if my ex had made things more clear to me, basically said things like you just said to us, I might have realized what I was doing before then. He might just think everything is fine, and I'm not saying to get on his case about it, but you really should straight up sit down and have a serious talk. Make sure he realizes the stress he's causing you and about the sex and everything you just told us, and relationship wise, especially the thing about doing things together. I always thought that my ex and I did plenty together, more or less because she never expressed any sort of problem with it. I know I can't really 100% compare one relationship to another, but examples are how I get my points across best, and as a guy, I would hope I might have some sort of insight on another guy's mindset. I get that he has anxiety and everything, but don't beat around the bush or he won't realize the urgency of all this. Don't make it seem like you're nagging him and you've already got a job why doesnt he etc etc, it's more like you're a team and you're doing it together. I dunno what I'm trying to say there, it's just that if I were in his position I'd just feel like I was falling behind and holding everyone back, which would add to the stress and sort of hit my self-esteem and thus my motivation somewhat, or like I was just on such a lower level and the relationship is sort of unbalanced in a way. I kinda feel that way now actually, giving someone advice who's in a completely different stage of their life and has already given me a lot more advice :v:. Really sorry for the jumble of thoughts I can't really figure out how to word things. Hopefully you can pick through it and find something useful. Just wanted to help, maybe give a little more perspective on the situation. Hope you resolve all this for the better. [QUOTE=Secone;41912055]In my opinion you should act fast to get him to quit this behavior. Sit down with him and set it to him straight: he needs to get up, get a job, and be more committed to the relationship. Just voice your concerns to him and basically tell him what you told us. If he is still unwilling to change his behavior and still acts like this even after you have a long conversation with him and tell him how he's affecting you, you might need a change yourself. This is just my view on things, and someone may have better advice than mine, so take what I said with a grain of salt for now.[/QUOTE] he pretty much said what I wanted to say so there ya go
Just ask him what he's going to do when the money in his account runs out.If that doesn't get his arse moving I'd seriously consider how long your willing to support him because thats what it will eventually lead up to. How old are you guys anyway?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41911109]I dont know what I want really, im just stressed and him not growing up and acting like and adult moved out doing what needs to be done is just making it worse.[/QUOTE] dont wait for someone to change youll regret it
[QUOTE=Boss;41914486]Just ask him what he's going to do when the money in his account runs out.If that doesn't get his arse moving I'd seriously consider how long your willing to support him because thats what it will eventually lead up to. How old are you guys anyway?[/QUOTE] Im 19 on the 22 and hell be 20 in october
He won't change unless someone hauls him into changing his ways. His current situation makes him feel too comfortable. Right now, he doesn't see it through your eyes and doesn't feel to need to make a change. I still think it's just that he was not prepared to grow up that early and he's reluctant to accept this. If so, then all he needs is the push. Confront him about it and if he can't step up, well, why dwell on it? Like thisispain says, you can't wait forever. Especially for something that might never come.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;41911109]long post[/QUOTE] that's really shitty. i'm sorry things aren't going well between you guys. you can't really know someone until you've lived with them and see how they behave day-to-day. i can relate to his issues with anxiety and sleep problems, for sleeping i started doing a few things. we have blackout curtains up in our room because there's quite a bit of light outside at night and it's difficult for me to fall asleep, i removed one so we get a ton of sunlight in our room during the day so i have a better idea of what time it is when i randomly wake up and it's harder to fall back asleep (i guess this might not be relevant depending on what your curtains/blinds are like). aside from that he should set an alarm for the same time every day and wake up at that time no matter what, if he doesn't set do this then i might suggest you start waking him up when you get up. as for getting a job, if you're relying solely on your own incomes he just needs to buck up and do it, you need to explain to him that he has to if he wants to be able to afford to live there and afford food. but it sounds like there are a lot more issues to your relationship. if you aren't even spending time together or having meaningful conversation anymore then it sounds like you need to rethink your relationship. the sex thing is absolutely ridiculous, he's acting like a child if he thinks that sex is the only meaningful interaction you can have together and worse if he thinks he's entitled to it when he seems to be doing nothing to contribute to living together. don't agree to have sex with him if you don't feel like it, it's not something you owe to him. [editline]21st August 2013[/editline] and tpain is right, it sounds like you can't afford to wait for him when you're the one supporting both of you. it's going to be hard but i think now's a good time to start considering what you're going to do if he continues his behavior.
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Have you guys ever had such a shit week(without crying or whining about it at all(because you understood that it was partially your fault)) that you actually cried when something small yet nice happened because you were so surprised that something happy can actually happen to you at all or atleast teared up it sounds dumb but it happened to me yesterday it's never happened to me before till then haha
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;41922839]Have you guys ever had such a shit week(without crying or whining about it at all(because you understood that it was partially your fault)) that you actually cried when something small yet nice happened because you were so surprised that something happy can actually happen to you at all or atleast teared up it sounds dumb but it happened to me yesterday it's never happened to me before till then haha[/QUOTE] It has happened to me before. Thanks nice people. :)
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