Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=E3245;41949129]Start by asking:
"Tell me about yourself", "What interests you?", "What's your most favorite/hated food, music, etc.?"[/QUOTE]
And then end the interview by letting her know your people will be contacting her by the end of the week to let her know if she's gotten the job.
asking too many questions when you're starting to get to know someone will not only make you seem interrogative, it makes the situation seem forced, and it also draws the focus of the conversation on them which can be a good or a bad thing depending on context. it's best to be minimal on questions for the first few dates unless they've made it obvious that they don't mind it - the first few dates are more about being compelling or interesting enough to warrant their continued attention. you want to get them to share things about themselves without having to ask... if you can do that, you'll stand out in her mind. how you achieve that, of course, is up to you. it would behoove one's self to instead ask [I]themselves[/I] questions - questions like what makes me unique, what makes me interesting, what are my most predominant features, what makes me tick? what would make this girl understand that I'm worth her time, that I'm worth getting to know? truth is, you gotta love yourself before you love someone else
[QUOTE=loopoo;41948985]Losing 15lbs in 6 months isn't too hard a goal tbh.[/QUOTE]
Only going to work out 3 times a week. I'm not setting any crazy goals, seeing as school is starting in a week. But yea, 6 months is a long time.. I hope the excess weight is gone by Christmas, but 6 months is my timespan.
[QUOTE=Zerokateo;41948500]Fuck, what questions do I ask a girl to get to know her better? Also how in the world do I seem interesting? I do nothing![/QUOTE]
You already know the answer! Do something. Get a hobby or something you can talk about. You cant just magically make yourself seem interesting, you either are or you arent.
I guess it depends how badly you want to lose weight. If you focused on it and worked out consistently, you could lose it a lot faster, but working out 3 times a week? You've a long road ahead.
[QUOTE=loopoo;41948514]Am I the only one who thinks the girl is a tad bit weird? Especially cause of the whole "Do you have a boyfriend?" "Yes... uh no". Just raises a red flag, and then the re-arranging your box of junk and stuff. I dunno, man. Just feel like she's a bit strange.
[editline]24th August 2013[/editline]
Wait, nevermind. You guys are really young so I guess it's not as weird.[/QUOTE]
Well I explain why she said yes at first. She thought I meant you had boyfriend then realized that I meant like right now.
Also I know you guys have convinced me that it doesn't matter how fast we go but is it weird that I've gone a little bit out of my way to see her like every day. Also the reason I'm like worrying a little is because I really like this girl and don't want to fuck it up. She's been in way more relationship then I have. In fact she the first girl thats actually given two shits about me so I really don't want to fuck it up.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;41949351]Only going to work out 3 times a week. I'm not setting any crazy goals, seeing as school is starting in a week. But yea, 6 months is a long time.. I hope the excess weight is gone by Christmas, but 6 months is my timespan.[/QUOTE]
Do it more imo
go big or go home
[QUOTE=Zerokateo;41948500]Fuck, what questions do I ask a girl to get to know her better? Also how in the world do I seem interesting? I do nothing![/QUOTE]
what do you want to know about her? ask her that
[QUOTE=Furioso;41949314]advice[/QUOTE]
At least I learned something about myself after reading this.
I never ask someone about themselves because I'm afraid it will end up being too interrogative and creepy, thus rejection occurs.
I can't handle rejection very well; makes me tear up.
If you can't handle rejection well because it makes you tear up (I really can't tell if you're joking, so I'll go ahead and take it as if you were serious), you've got a lot of maturing to do, cause you're going to get rejected [I]a lot[/I] in life and not just romance-wise.
[QUOTE=loopoo;41949797]If you can't handle rejection well because it makes you tear up (I really can't tell if you're joking, so I'll go ahead and take it as if you were serious), you've got a lot of maturing to do, cause you're going to get rejected [I]a lot[/I] in life and not just romance-wise.[/QUOTE]
Yes, I'm serious about this and I know. I'm trying my best. I've been rejected for most of my life. Romance, opportunities, even when I was a kid no one wanted to play tag with me. I guess I just dwell on it too much that it gets to my head.
[QUOTE=metallics;41949402]You already know the answer! Do something. Get a hobby or something you can talk about. You cant just magically make yourself seem interesting, you either are or you arent.[/QUOTE]
Well all I do is play video games on the computer and workout..
Also as far as questions went, all I really asked was music and hobbies. So I guess I'll leave it at that and just make small talk, also we haven't gone on a "Date" she wants to hang out first before we start dating ( Does that even make sense? ) but where can I ask a girl to hang out at if it isn't a date?
[QUOTE=SaWAH;41949351]Only going to work out 3 times a week. I'm not setting any crazy goals, seeing as school is starting in a week. But yea, 6 months is a long time.. I hope the excess weight is gone by Christmas, but 6 months is my timespan.[/QUOTE]
You can realistically and healthily lose up to 104 pounds a year, in 6 months you could lose anywhere from 26 to 52 pounds healthily.
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[QUOTE=0lenny0;41952591]I'm reposting this here as i'm starting to doubt myself and i'm not really getting any responses:
My post didn't really get a reply, all it got was some funny ratings even though i was being serious. I'm starting to doubt how good of an idea this is. I just really wan't to do something special and this seemed like a great idea.[/QUOTE]
Have an optimistic to go with your funny ratings.
I know this probably looks impossible or 'funny' for some people, but i think i really got a shot at this if FP would be willing to help. I'm just doubting whether people would actually help if i opened a topic, or continue to rate me funny.
I'm more of a lurker so opening a topic in GD on it's own is a big deal to me.
Do it pussy.
It is done. I guess i wait now.
No progress in moving on just yet and it sucks so bad. Especially when she's got a thing with another guy who lives on the other side of the country and she sends me pictures of him, not to spite me or anything but it still hurts. All she talks about to me is about him basically, and how she feels like she wants to move over there to be with him and her extended family, which I understand except she's only met him in person once when she was on holiday a month ago. It just hurts so much that she has moved on already and I still have feelings for her, I've got borderline personality which doesn't help and sometimes I feel like it doesn't bother me as much and then the next minute I'll be so angry and upset I'll just take it out on something. I've accepted that we aren't going to go out anymore and that it's over forever, the things we've said to each other hasn't helped either, she wants to be my friend and she considers me one of her best friends and I think I do too its just I feel like I should cut contact with her but I'd feel bad and I'm dependent on people to make me feel important, which is another part of my borderline personality. I've asked her how she moved on and she said when she just found him. I've said to myself I'm going to man up but it's harder than I think it is.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;41949351]Only going to work out 3 times a week. I'm not setting any crazy goals, seeing as school is starting in a week. But yea, 6 months is a long time.. I hope the excess weight is gone by Christmas, but 6 months is my timespan.[/QUOTE]
If you work out at the gym then weight isn't the only factor that you'd take into account.
And hitting the gym to do some lifting is good for losing bodyfat since muscle gain improves your metabolism.
Remember to eat right, but don't forget to treat yourself with something good every now and then.
Take this advice from someone whom has to go to the doctor for tests due to the school nurse suspecting something being wrong with me due to my 20 kg weight loss in the last two years.
Welp, the girl I was talking to just got grounded for basically her entire senior year because she was out last night and some guy led her on and she had a bit to drink so he was gonna drive her home. He crashed her car and her parents found out and asdfgfasjkfkfas fuck me. I was just about to ask her on a date next Friday and this happens...
I posted this on SG&S thread by mistake
Do you guys think being drunk and/or high is neccesary to have fun?
[sp]I'm not planning to do that stuff, i just want to know the popular opinion[/sp]
No real reason to have it posted here instead of there? I mean they ARE nearly identical.
But anyway no why would it ever be. If it is you have a problem.
[QUOTE=loopoo;41949172]And then end the interview by letting her know your people will be contacting her by the end of the week to let her know if she's gotten the job.[/QUOTE]
I wasn't in a very good mood when I entered this thread. Your post has brightened my night. Thank you friend.
[QUOTE=Cosa8888;41967753]I posted this on SG&S thread by mistake
Do you guys think being drunk and/or high is neccesary to have fun?
[sp]I'm not planning to do that stuff, i just want to know the popular opinion[/sp][/QUOTE]
no. it makes it easier for me and a lot of other people, but if you NEED that to have fun then something's wrong
and it might be just me, but i don't really like drinking. unless everyone else is also drunk, i prefer to drink just a little bit or not drink at all, or else idk, it makes everything less.. enjoyable
[QUOTE=Cosa8888;41967753]I posted this on SG&S thread by mistake
Do you guys think being drunk and/or high is neccesary to have fun?
[sp]I'm not planning to do that stuff, i just want to know the popular opinion[/sp][/QUOTE]
If anyone actually thinks it's [b]necessary[/b], then they've got some problems to sort out. It's really just another thing to do.
A lot of funnier shit happens when everyone is drunk/high, though... at least in my experience.
Someone in my class has been hitting on me for a while and she's really not that flirty in general.
I just found out that she's been going out with some kid who doesn't go to our school
What do
[QUOTE=katbug;41970423]Someone in my class has been hitting on me for a while and she's really not that flirty in general.
I just found out that she's been going out with some kid who doesn't go to our school
What do[/QUOTE]
nothing
Also, my friend made a (joking) bet with me that during our exercise period, I couldn't run half a mile while carrying her. So, I'm on the track, I see "her" (it wasn't her, just one of her friends wearing her clothes). So I run up behind her, sweep her off her feet, and carry her in the typical "hero standing infront of explosion" hold, and then sprint across the track, not looking down. When I get to the end, I look down to see her reaction, and immediately notice that she's not the friend- She's blushing, and staring right into my eyes; Then she smiled before turning and jogging away. I don't really know her, what should I say to her (if anything).
really her friend of similar height build and hair color was coincidentally wearing her friends clothes and you picked her up and carried her half a mile without looking at her even once to see who she was or how she was reacting and she never said anything during this whole period of being picked up and carried out of nowhere really that really happened katbug
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