Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Missing User]

[QUOTE=Kopimi;41970503]really her friend of similar height build and hair color was coincidentally wearing her friends clothes and you picked her up and carried her half a mile without looking at her even once to see who she was or how she was reacting and she never said anything during this whole period of being picked up and carried out of nowhere really that really happened katbug[/QUOTE]

What motivation do I have to lie

They're both the exact same height, I think the reason for the clothes was that they just had a sleepover(?) or just happened to be sharing clothes. Their hair is the exact same color (light brown with blonde-ish streaks)

And no, I didn't really look down because carrying someone while running is pretty fucking hard and I didn't want to, y'know, drop my friend. Also, at a glance, their faces are very, very similar.

[rrkpp_]

[QUOTE=katbug;41970584]What motivation do I have to lie

They're both the exact same height, I think the reason for the clothes was that they just had a sleepover(?) or just happened to be sharing clothes. Their hair is the exact same color (light brown with blonde-ish streaks)

And no, I didn't really look down because carrying someone while running is pretty fucking hard and I didn't want to, y'know, drop my friend. Also, at a glance, their faces are very, very similar.[/QUOTE]

yeah its real tough moving those eyes literal millimeters down for a fraction of a second to glance at someone

but who could be sad enough to lie about their love life on the internet anyway

[Leader of Me]

Any advice from last post?

[Missing User]

[QUOTE=Kopimi;41970610]yeah its real tough moving those eyes literal millimeters down for a fraction of a second to glance at someone

but who could be sad enough to lie about their love life on the internet anyway[/QUOTE]

Certainly not more sad than you, bothing me for no reason about something that happened in my life that you couldn't possibly know about. Please consider the fact that you aren't omniscient and that not everything that happens in life is logical.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Kopimi;41970610]yeah its real tough moving those eyes literal millimeters down for a fraction of a second to glance at someone

but who could be sad enough to lie about their love life on the internet anyway[/QUOTE]

to be honest, when I used to pick up my ex, I was pretty focused on looking where I was going so I didn't end up dropping her and looking like a dumbass.

[NoDachi]

I dropped a girl head over heels once. Luckily I managed to grab her legs and she managed to hand stand before hurting herself

shit looked rehearsed

[Loopoo]

Cirque du NoDachi

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Zerokateo;41948500]Fuck, what questions do I ask a girl to get to know her better? Also how in the world do I seem interesting? I do nothing![/QUOTE]
Whenever I see a girl (or girls, shit like this works for groups too), I ask really dumb questions. My favorite is "Hey everyone, quick question it's really important... do you like cats or dogs?" From there I like to crack a few jokes, introduce myself and go from there. The key is to be personable and fun. Be interesting later. Sometimes throw some light compliments in there, but don't go overboard, especially if there's a group.

[editline]26th August 2013[/editline]

If you're already in regular contact, don't even sweat it. She finds you interesting, and if you're really worried about it just start going outside more. If you already spend a ton of time outside, then you're golden.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;41973037]Sooooo, i've been diagnosed with ADHD at 19 and the doctor that diagnosed me gave me two ADHD recomendations, the first one being a stimulant(named Conrerta) and the second one is non stimulant(named Wellbutrin XL) and will get it if the pharmacecy doesn't have the first one(Greece is way behind in ADHD and other disorders in terms of knowledge so this kind of medication is rare).

Anyone with any experience on this matter?[/QUOTE]

I was medicated for six years of my life. Do neither, focus up in school.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;41973077]I dunno man, i'm pretty bad at school and want to do something different in my life instead of being a horrible student and an under achiever all the time.[/QUOTE]

i have very little experience with adhd meds because.. well.. i don't have adhd (i think), but i took adderall for a while and it was one of the most miserable experiences of my life. i was able to focus better than usual but physically i felt miserable, i felt sick constantly and had no appetite. i wouldn't eat at all when i was on the meds, skipped dinner every night because the thought of eating made me sick. aside from that i was shaking constantly and it was awful.
and academically it didn't help me at all because it didn't make me any more motivated to do schoolwork, i just used my new found attention span to play video games slightly better.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

I have a line-by-line script that I rehearse daily for use in any and all social situations. I believe that I have considered and scripted most logical pathways for the conversation to follow, and so should be prepared for the dating world. If anybody deviates from the prepared content, I will simply stop talking and stare at them until they say something on-script again. Or until they leave. Whichever comes first.

[Hammerz]

Once I get to know a girl really well and we basically acknowlege that we like eachother I lose all the drive to go after her and end up flip-flopping between two or three potential partners, but nothing definite. Is it just because I don't know what I want from a relationship or something else? Has anybody had similar experiences? It isn't because I don't like something about her/them, but I guess enjoy the hunt better than the reward. I feel ready for a relationship to enter my life, but I don't want to be hunkered down, idunno.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;41973609]Well i guess i'll try the proposed therapy out and report the bad and good symptoms to the doctor in 3 weeks from now like he told me so.

The wonders of having both dyslexia and ADHD i guess :v:

[editline]26th August 2013[/editline]

And i'd take bad moods and sleep problems over my parents calling me a loser 24/7 and threatening to kick me out of the house without any income and a place to live anytime so there's that.[/QUOTE]

Medication isn't going to magically fix school. The most it will do is get you to stare at a wall the entire class. Wanting to succeed needs to come from you, not a pill.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;41973037]Sooooo, i've been diagnosed with ADHD at 19 and the doctor that diagnosed me gave me two ADHD recomendations, the first one being a stimulant(named Conrerta) and the second one is non stimulant(named Wellbutrin XL) and will get it if the pharmacecy doesn't have the first one(Greece is way behind in ADHD and other disorders in terms of knowledge so this kind of medication is rare).

Anyone with any experience on this matter?[/QUOTE]

yea dont take the medication if you dont feel better using it
sounds obvious, but people get pressured into taking them even if it does them no good
it came to the point where i pretended i was taking pills and throwing them in the trashcan instead

[Rhenae]

I would say try them, and see how they effect you. It goes different for different people, some are way better on them and some people really hate them and it doesn't help. See what happens and go from there

[Missing User]

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;41979114]Aww thanks for the replies, ya'll seem to be nice people.

Yep, i am not feeling like it's going to be the thing that will change my life or anything like that, just need some motivation, be it artificial.

I especially want to get rid of the the hyperactive part of myself.

Well, hope it will work in some sort of way and if it doesn't, i guess i'll try something else.[/QUOTE]

Don't shy away from who you are, embrace it.

If you're putting up a charade of what isn't the true you, how could you hope to ever meet true friends/lovers?

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=katbug;41980289]Don't shy away from who you are, embrace it.

If you're putting up a charade of what isn't the true you, how could you hope to ever meet true friends/lovers?[/QUOTE]

That's deep.

[Missing User]

[QUOTE=Agoat;41980418]That's deep.[/QUOTE]

If everyone's walking around with a mask on people are going to think that that's how they "Should be" and just march in line.

If you act like you really are, someone else just might be willing to take off their mask and join you.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=katbug;41980478]If everyone's walking around with a mask on people are going to think that that's how they "Should be" and just march in line.

If you act like you really are, someone else just might be willing to take off their mask and join you.[/QUOTE]

i love big naps D I C K S Q U A D.

[robmaister12]

So there's this girl, and it's pretty clear that we both like each other. I'll spare you guys a lot of the details, but basically we spent a lot of the summer together watching movies/TV shows, playing TF2, and just chilling. Yesterday, a few days after we had both flown out for our sophomore year of college, I decided to text her that I still really liked her (we dated briefly in the past) and asked if there was any chance of something happening between us. She said maybe because she likes spending time with me but that a relationship scares her.

A little while later, that turns into a yes, because there being distance makes it seem less scary to her, which probably is a good way for her to ease into things. We talk a bit the next day (today), she says that it's mostly intimacy (both physical and emotional) that she's afraid of.

So my question is, is there anything I can do to help her work through that fear? I really like her and I want this to work out, even though the cynical part of my mind is saying that this is all a setup for failure.

[Leader of Me]

I don't know why but I'm a bit annoyed/jealous I didn't get to see my ex girlfriend naked but that's another story for another time. Anyway for some reason I woke up today and just feel this weight lifted off my shoulders, I don't know why but I just feel happy and I've realized that there's someone out there who's better for me etc. Just feels good to be happy for once. I just have this positive outlook all of a sudden, yeah it hurts especially when she said that finding another guy helped her get over me but oh well, it wasn't meant to be. I'm going to go meet some more people on the weekend at this party so it should be good.

[thisispain]

i didnt get to see a whole bunch of people naked but nbd B)

[Jmir 54]

Is anyone else content with their significant other but cant stand their friends?

My gf's group friends are really nice but theyre not really the type I'd like to be seen in public with. The men are mostly overweight neckbeards(two of whom wear fedoras) who like to occasionaly draw attention to themselves by referencing memes or engage in non-typical conversation. The women aren't so bad. Keeping a public image is sort-of important to me because I come from a jock/preppy background and I really prefer to keep to myself so its just ingrained in my personality and were all on a college campus. Everytime gf and I go to the cafeteria and I see all her friends Im just like eueueghhh and try to give off as much passive body language as possible to her to avoid sitting with the loud bunch.

Dont get me wrong her friends are great and have hearts of gold but I wish theyd just quiet/slim down and act normal

[Missing User]

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;41981495]Is anyone else content with their significant other but cant stand their friends?

My gf's group friends are really nice but theyre not really the type I'd like to be seen in public with. The men are mostly overweight neckbeards(two of whom wear fedoras) who like to occasionaly draw attention to themselves by referencing memes or engage in non-typical conversation. The women aren't so bad. Keeping a public image is sort-of important to me because I come from a jock/preppy background and I really prefer to keep to myself so its just ingrained in my personality and were all on a college campus. Everytime gf and I go to the cafeteria and I see all her friends Im just like eueueghhh and try to give off as much passive body language as possible to her to avoid sitting with the loud bunch.

Dont get me wrong her friends are great and have hearts of gold but I wish theyd just quiet/slim down and act normal[/QUOTE]

Heavy dudes can be some of the funniest fuckers around, because a good deal of them got that way by simply ceasing to give a Shit. Don't care what the people around you look like, even if you think they're lame the worst they could do is make you look better by comparison.

[pfoot]

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;41981495]Is anyone else content with their significant other but cant stand their friends?

My gf's group friends are really nice but theyre not really the type I'd like to be seen in public with. The men are mostly overweight neckbeards(two of whom wear fedoras) who like to occasionaly draw attention to themselves by referencing memes or engage in non-typical conversation. The women aren't so bad. Keeping a public image is sort-of important to me because I come from a jock/preppy background and I really prefer to keep to myself so its just ingrained in my personality and were all on a college campus. Everytime gf and I go to the cafeteria and I see all her friends Im just like eueueghhh and try to give off as much passive body language as possible to her to avoid sitting with the loud bunch.

Dont get me wrong her friends are great and have hearts of gold but I wish theyd just quiet/slim down and act normal[/QUOTE]

you sound like a superficial jackass

[Parakon]

I don't really care whom i'm seen in public with, it doesn't really define yourself, and usually if you aren't being quiet and brooding over the company you're keeping people will notice you aren't as awkward as your crew.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;41981495]Is anyone else content with their significant other but cant stand their friends?

My gf's group friends are really nice but theyre not really the type I'd like to be seen in public with. The men are mostly overweight neckbeards(two of whom wear fedoras) who like to occasionaly draw attention to themselves by referencing memes or engage in non-typical conversation. The women aren't so bad. Keeping a public image is sort-of important to me because I come from a jock/preppy background and I really prefer to keep to myself so its just ingrained in my personality and were all on a college campus. Everytime gf and I go to the cafeteria and I see all her friends Im just like eueueghhh and try to give off as much passive body language as possible to her to avoid sitting with the loud bunch.

Dont get me wrong her friends are great and have hearts of gold but I wish theyd just quiet/slim down and act normal[/QUOTE]

Sorry thats a really dickish attitude to have. Thinking less of people based solely on their weight/clothes is incredibly childish and shallow of you. If it bothers you that much you can just go find some pretty people that you have nothing in common with to be friends with.

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;41981495]Is anyone else content with their significant other but cant stand their friends?

My gf's group friends are really nice but theyre not really the type I'd like to be seen in public with. The men are mostly overweight neckbeards(two of whom wear fedoras) who like to occasionaly draw attention to themselves by referencing memes or engage in non-typical conversation. The women aren't so bad. Keeping a public image is sort-of important to me because I come from a jock/preppy background and I really prefer to keep to myself so its just ingrained in my personality and were all on a college campus. Everytime gf and I go to the cafeteria and I see all her friends Im just like eueueghhh and try to give off as much passive body language as possible to her to avoid sitting with the loud bunch.

Dont get me wrong her friends are great and have hearts of gold but I wish theyd just quiet/slim down and act normal[/QUOTE]

I had this situation with my ex. She would sit in the cafeteria with the anime club/most hated fandoms club types. In the end, you just learn to be more accepting of people and not be so judgmental.

[Tennisball]

for some context:

[QUOTE=Tennisball;41689204]
Basically, I'm seeing a girl. After our first date she text me and said she wanted to take things slowly due to the fact that she recently came out of a relationship where she was fucked around a lot, and she was still trying to find her feet. I took this as her meaning she was happy how we were on the first date (we held hands and kissed (peck) goodbye) so acted the same when we met again a couple of days later. That was last Tuesday (as in not the one that just went by, the one before) and we haven't seen eachother since (despire me trying to arrange stuff). This Wednesday she revealed to me that she was diagnosed with depression and an eating disorder 6 years ago and she got through it but her ex kinda made it all come back. She's recovering but needs to take things really slowly for the time being. I'm absolutely happy to take things as slow as she needs. I guess our second date where we acted a bit couple-y was too much for her.
[/QUOTE]

This was about a month ago and I've seen her twice since then (both times in the last week). When seeing her it hasn't been couple-y before (i mean, they've still been "dates" and there's been flirting and stuff but i haven't put my arm round her or anything. I don't really know when or how to move it forward?

since that post I've also found out that she was cheated on by her ex. Over the weekend she went to a music festival but had to go home (she hasn't told me why but I think she just found it all to much) and we had quite an affectionate conversation via texts (she was saying things like not knowing how she has me and calling me amazing etc (she's had confidence issues too) so I don't think that type of affection is a problem but I'm just not sure about physical stuff.

guidance?

[Jmir 54]

Y'all are right. I tend to think highly of myself sometimes. I guess it's where I come from that's taught me a skewed view of public appearance