Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[rammaster]

[QUOTE=katbug;41980289]Don't shy away from who you are, embrace it.

If you're putting up a charade of what isn't the true you, how could you hope to ever meet true friends/lovers?[/QUOTE]

I usually just lurk in this thread, but that really cheered me up. Thanks, katbug!

[zukriuchen]

[QUOTE=pfoot;41981950]you sound like a superficial jackass[/QUOTE]

liking to preserve a good public image is nothing too terrible

with that said, the reasons he gives for it are quite dick-ish

[Kindlinho]

My dog had to be put down. He was more of a friend than just a dog. It sucks that he won't be there waiting for me to come back from school or under my chair begging for a piece of food I'd be eating, or waiting for me to die in DotA2 so I can pet him for 50 seconds. The only person at home I never minded sharing my room with is gone.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;41981495]Keeping a public image is sort-of important to me because I come from a jock/preppy background[/QUOTE]

hahah
i'd so shove you into a locker

[editline]27th August 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Kindlinho;41989846]My dog had to be put down. He was more of a friend than just a dog. It sucks that he won't be there waiting for me to come back from school or under my chair begging for a piece of food I'd be eating, or waiting for me to die in DotA2 so I can pet him for 50 seconds. The only person at home I never minded sharing my room with is gone.[/QUOTE]

woah thats rough. how old was the poor guy?

[Kindlinho]

[QUOTE=thisispain;41990430]
woah thats rough. how old was the poor guy?[/QUOTE]
10 years and almost a month.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Kindlinho;41990635]10 years and almost a month.[/QUOTE]

man that sucks. you've probably grown up besides him.
i heard getting another dog helps sometimes, but like my friend lost her dog and she never really got over it. it's sad, its like a member of the family dying.

[Kindlinho]

[QUOTE=thisispain;41990798]man that sucks. you've probably grown up besides him.
i heard getting another dog helps sometimes, but like my friend lost her dog and she never really got over it. it's sad, its like a member of the family dying.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I was 10 when we rode to some obscure village to take him home after he was born. So I was there since the very beginning, we raised him from a puppy to an old dog. I remember myself being very reluctant to even touch him while every other family member cradled him. We also had a really old cat (she was like 12 at the time and lived to 18) and when we first brought the dog home, he would piss his pants from fear if he wore any. He was tiny against her. And then a few months later, he was twice the size and started chasing her. Obligatory claw in face every now and then, but they went along nicely. He actually knew the cat's name, so when she once wandered to upper floor (we live in a one-floor flat and there are other families on the other floors), he was looking for her with us.

And we had to make him an enclosed area in the bedroom, because he was pissing all over the house. That's when he developed this habit of urinating on diapers around the house. Which later evolved into pissing on everything, really, so our home smells like urine nowadays. I was the one who managed to teach him some basic commands, others were sort of helpless.

And getting another dog is not really an option..

[Loopoo]

Does anyone else get those days where you'll be looking at photos of yourself or looking at yourself in the mirror and thinking "God damn I'm one ugly son of a bitch", and then those other days when you look at the EXACT same photos and look in the same mirror and think "God damn I'm one sexy son of a bitch"?

It happens to me all the time. Some days I'll think I'm ugly and no one can find me attractive, then the next day I'll be all "Good luck trying to not swoon over me".

[editline]28th August 2013[/editline]

My brain, it's an asshole.

[zukriuchen]

i'm sexy all the time so i know my brain is just tricking me

[HighdefGE]

[QUOTE=Kindlinho;41990635]10 years and almost a month.[/QUOTE]

Man, I know exactly how you feel. My first dog died at 12 from some kind of stomach cancer when I was a kid, and right now my second dog is exactly at 10 and a half as well and I can see she's getting old. The thing about dogs is when you have one for a long time, you never consider your dog as a dog, but as part of your family. The important thing is you spent time with your dog well.

[Yourself]

[QUOTE=katbug;41980478]If everyone's walking around with a mask on people are going to think that that's how they "Should be" and just march in line.

If you act like you really are, someone else just might be willing to take off their mask and join you.[/QUOTE]
Your true self is a moron and there aint no mask big enough to hide it

[Mikebot]

So, I need some advice

There's this new girl, she just moved from Florida, and I've been helping her out around the school, showing her to her classes, etc.

Her and I have introduced ourselves to each other, and I have introduced her to some of my friends, just giving her a place to feel, like, safe in considering she's new and all.

I really like her, but I feel as if it would be too soon, and give her some time to get comfortable behind I pop the question, if you feel me

[Heigou]

ask her out now and work your way to the ass

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Jetpack Bear;41998768]
I really like her, but I feel as if it would be too soon, and give her some time to get comfortable behind I pop the question, if you feel me[/QUOTE]

Please tell me you're talking about asking her out in which case just fucking ask her out.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Jetpack Bear;41998768]I really like her, but I feel as if it would be too soon, and give her some time to get comfortable behind I pop the question, if you feel me[/QUOTE]

Last girl I dated I told her really early on that I was into her, and even though it took a little while, it kept things in dating mode instead of potentially going to friend zone. Of course, don't word it weird.

[Jo The Shmo]

hello ive missed the ADHD boat by a bit but I'd like to butt in against fp's popular opinion of "adhd is overdiagnosed and overprescribed so you should never claim to have adhd or take any medication!"
because for some people the diagnosis is absolutely spot on, and the meds do wonders for their life
i would suggest trying them out for more than a week, so you can at least get relatively used to the feeling, and then seeing how motivated you are, if you feel any weird physical effects while taking them, how its affecting your appetite, social life, sleep.
if all is good, continue on. if it's not, you can try out other drugs as well, or of course move on to therapy
but please dont ignore the entire adhd pharmaceutical industry because a few edgy fpers are against it

[editline]28th August 2013[/editline]

actually if all is good you still might want to try some other drugs after a long time. i definitely like the way vyvance feels compared to adderall, but im simply better at working on adderall so ive learned to use it as sparingly as possible and give myself time to really do work when im on it. it does tend to make me quite antisocial though, so im thinking of trying something like ritalin or concerta

[RocketRacer]

uh.

On September the 4th, the college starts for me. The problem is, I just moved from Latvia(it's a shithole) to London, and english is not my native language(russian is). My biggest issue and problem - I will feel like a fucking alien in the college and noone will dare to talk to me, and/or I feel that I won't be able to talk to anyone or something.

[I]yes I am that horrible.[/I]

[Missing User]

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;41993114]Man, I know exactly how you feel. My first dog died at 12 from some kind of stomach cancer when I was a kid, and right now my second dog is exactly at 10 and a half as well and I can see she's getting old. The thing about dogs is when you have one for a long time, you never consider your dog as a dog, but as part of your family. The important thing is you spent time with your dog well.[/QUOTE]

I've adopted two dogs in my lifetime, both were from a rescue. Sure, it sucks when an animal who has emotions and feelings, some would even argue thought equal to a human gets lost to you; but then if you look back you can think about all the joy you brought to their life when they were living and with you; how much love you gave them and they returned tenfold. Don't be sad because you've lost them, be happy because you got to experience their life firsthand and raise them up from what their lives could have been.

I lost a dog whom was very close to me, I believe she was 13 years old- I grew up with her and at the time loved nothing more in the world. Sure, I was sad, but it was her time. Nothing I could have done to make her life better, and now I get to experience it all over again.
[QUOTE=Yourself;41993699]Your true self is a moron and there aint no mask big enough to hide it[/QUOTE]

Rude.

[disseminate]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;42001434]yeah i have that except i never feel attractive[/QUOTE]

i think ur attractive

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;42000668]hello ive missed the ADHD boat by a bit but I'd like to butt in against fp's popular opinion of "adhd is overdiagnosed and overprescribed so you should never claim to have adhd or take any medication!"
because for some people the diagnosis is absolutely spot on, and the meds do wonders for their life
i would suggest trying them out for more than a week, so you can at least get relatively used to the feeling, and then seeing how motivated you are, if you feel any weird physical effects while taking them, how its affecting your appetite, social life, sleep.
if all is good, continue on. if it's not, you can try out other drugs as well, or of course move on to therapy
but please dont ignore the entire adhd pharmaceutical industry because a few edgy fpers are against it

[editline]28th August 2013[/editline]

actually if all is good you still might want to try some other drugs after a long time. i definitely like the way vyvance feels compared to adderall, but im simply better at working on adderall so ive learned to use it as sparingly as possible and give myself time to really do work when im on it. it does tend to make me quite antisocial though, so im thinking of trying something like ritalin or concerta[/QUOTE]

in hindsight i made a really shitty post in response to him without really thinking about it.
if you have adhd and think meds are an appropriate way to deal with it, then by all means you should try them out. some people will have bad reactions to drugs, that absolutely doesn't mean they're ineffective (or in my case i was probably being prescribed too high a dosage). but when it comes to psychoactive drugs, they're never a short easy answer to your problem. there are tons of different kinds of meds out there for any disorder and there's a huge amount of trial and error usually involved in finding what drug works for you. aside from that, meds only work while you're on them. if you want to deal with it in the long term you need to develop coping skills as well.

[Splash Attack]

So here's the latest with things between me and my ex. Things have been going pretty decently so far. We have been talking to each other again, and we frequently sit near each other in class. We walk with each other in the halls a lot, too. Somehow though, I keep getting the feeling that she isn't very comfortable around me still. Earlier today, we sat and I gave her a copy of my notes of a class she missed yesterday. She left promptly after copying them to go somewhere else despite us both having a 2 hour break before our next class. Fast forward to after our next class, we walked with each other down to the cafeteria and get some lunch. She meets a friend of hers and decided to go sit by him. (I'm walking with her mind you.) I really didn't feel like sitting with him, being a total stranger, and I thought I would probably have ended up sitting in awkward silence while they spoke. On top of this, with the sort of uneasy feeling between us, I thought it would be best if I went somewhere else and let them talk. So I told her bye and that I was going somewhere else and that was that.

About an hour or so later, I get this text from her and this is how the conversation ensued:
[t] http://imgur.com/HISvT60.jpg[/t]

[del]I don't think she is going to respond, because she probably would have by now.[/del] I don't know if she's mad or upset or what. Really, at this point, I'm at a loss and have no idea what to think. I suppose I'll have to confront her about it in person probably sometime tomorrow.

Edit:She texted me and asked if I would have been intimidated if it weren't a guy. Not sure what she meant by this, but I told her it wouldn't make a difference.

[Kindlinho]

Okay, so as you know, my dog has died. And today sucked. Half-asleep and half-awake I saw a hallucination of my dog sitting under my bed, watching me. Then I was reading the paper in the kitchen, eating my lunch. Suddenly, my mother looks at me and asks silently: "Do you miss him? I miss him so much" and bursts into tears. Facebook message on my phone notifies that the birthday party I was supposed to attend the next week was cancelled. (I don't get to hang out with my friends nowadays)

Then I attended an ice-hockey game. Spent the whole 3 periods sitting all alone, because my hockey friends are out of town right now. Then I got back home and out of nowhere - my former classmate writes me after 5 months and acts like he's a great friend and everything just to start annoying me with "awesome products" and shit like that.

Another message - from my really good female friend (pretty much my only REAL friend) for who I have feelings (and she knows it) - responding to my plea from yesterday, which was basically: "Look, just be finally straight with me."
We've know each other for 4 years and we grew really, really close to each other. Anyway, she was finally was straight with me. Friends-only. Fine, I knew it inside, but I wouldn't let it go until she confirmed it. Then she told me that she's dating this guy again. (I wrote a post about that some pages ago; basically he was acting like an ass towards her)

I didn't even have the energy to be sad, pissed off, or feel anything at all. Now I don't know if I "should I stay or should I go". Her being my only true friend at all, that makes it a rather difficult choice.

All this a month before I'm starting my college era. It's a private school, for which you have to pay (publics are free), so that means a lot of rich people in there. I'm more of a street kid, I get along better with the (what you would call) a middle / lower society class. To top it off I won't be staying in the dorm, but I'll be undertaking a 50-km bus trip every time I'll have school. So that doesn't help me working up relationships either.

It's like everything in my life turned into an enormous clusterfuck and it keeps breaking down into more clusterfucks. Fuck that shit.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;42001391]uh.

On September the 4th, the college starts for me. The problem is, I just moved from Latvia(it's a shithole) to London, and english is not my native language(russian is). My biggest issue and problem - I will feel like a fucking alien in the college and noone will dare to talk to me, and/or I feel that I won't be able to talk to anyone or something.

[I]yes I am that horrible.[/I][/QUOTE]

If this post is any indication your english isn't too bad. I mean its clear it isn't your native language but I can understand what your saying. Besides you can probably find some Russian speakers especially if you're in London, place is a melting pot of nationalities.

See if your college does any kind of course or club for learning english.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42012718]So here's the latest with things between me and my ex. Things have been going pretty decently so far. We have been talking to each other again, and we frequently sit near each other in class. We walk with each other in the halls a lot, too. Somehow though, I keep getting the feeling that she isn't very comfortable around me still. Earlier today, we sat and I gave her a copy of my notes of a class she missed yesterday. She left promptly after copying them to go somewhere else despite us both having a 2 hour break before our next class. Fast forward to after our next class, we walked with each other down to the cafeteria and get some lunch. She meets a friend of hers and decided to go sit by him. (I'm walking with her mind you.) I really didn't feel like sitting with him, being a total stranger, and I thought I would probably have ended up sitting in awkward silence while they spoke. On top of this, with the sort of uneasy feeling between us, I thought it would be best if I went somewhere else and let them talk. So I told her bye and that I was going somewhere else and that was that.

About an hour or so later, I get this text from her and this is how the conversation ensued:
[t] http://imgur.com/HISvT60.jpg[/t]

[del]I don't think she is going to respond, because she probably would have by now.[/del] I don't know if she's mad or upset or what. Really, at this point, I'm at a loss and have no idea what to think. I suppose I'll have to confront her about it in person probably sometime tomorrow.

Edit:She texted me and asked if I would have been intimidated if it weren't a guy. Not sure what she meant by this, but I told her it wouldn't make a difference.[/QUOTE]
I'm going to share my #1 rule with dealing with ex-girlfriends.

[b]Don't talk to your ex unless you can handle yourself.[/b]

Your ex is well-aware that you're jealous of this guy she sat with, and that's why you left. Right now you're making yourself out to be a silly goose instead of a light-hearted badass like you should be. Take a chill pill, and if you want your ex back or whatever, you need to stop taking it all so seriously.

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;42001391]uh.

On September the 4th, the college starts for me. The problem is, I just moved from Latvia(it's a shithole) to London, and english is not my native language(russian is). My biggest issue and problem - I will feel like a fucking alien in the college and noone will dare to talk to me, and/or I feel that I won't be able to talk to anyone or something.

[I]yes I am that horrible.[/I][/QUOTE]
Nah, just be the charming Russian student that has bad English. You're in a great place to be mega popular.

[Loopoo]

Is Zarjk really that dude in his title? Cause if so, puberty hit him like a freight train.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

And is he really disabled?

[Swog]

-snip nobody gives a shit and i think wrong thread so-

[Deadman123]

he has high functioning autism im p sure.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=loopoo;42016867]Is Zarjk really that dude in his title? Cause if so, puberty hit him like a freight train.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

And is he really disabled?[/QUOTE]

[PuduEbooks]

i need fun things to do in a shit town

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42016667]I'm going to share my #1 rule with dealing with ex-girlfriends.

[b]Don't talk to your ex unless you can handle yourself.[/b]

Your ex is well-aware that you're jealous of this guy she sat with, and that's why you left. Right now you're making yourself out to be a silly goose instead of a light-hearted badass like you should be. Take a chill pill, and if you want your ex back or whatever, you need to stop taking it all so seriously.
[/QUOTE]

Exactly. Making any form of contact with an ex is a fucking terrible idea until you've basically stopped giving a shit about even bothering

on that note I'm fairly sure my previous posts about my sad times were actually read by my ex-girlfriend as I got a very suspicious text from her that was basically a response to that post

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;42016929]Exactly. Making any form of contact with an ex is a fucking terrible idea until you've basically stopped giving a shit about even bothering

on that note I'm fairly sure my previous posts about my sad times were actually read by my ex-girlfriend as I got a very suspicious text from her that was basically a response to that post[/QUOTE]
That's creepy. I wish I had a stalker ex. :(