Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[dmillerw]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42016969]That's creepy. I wish I had a stalker ex. :([/QUOTE]

No, no you don't.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42015849]If this post is any indication your english isn't too bad. I mean its clear it isn't your native language but I can understand what your saying. Besides you can probably find some Russian speakers especially if you're in London, place is a melting pot of nationalities.

See if your college does any kind of course or club for learning english.[/QUOTE]
I am the only one in the entire college who speaks russian, because there only have been only 2-3 cases of foreign students.

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42016667]I'm going to share my #1 rule with dealing with ex-girlfriends.

[b]Don't talk to your ex unless you can handle yourself.[/b]

Your ex is well-aware that you're jealous of this guy she sat with, and that's why you left. Right now you're making yourself out to be a silly goose instead of a light-hearted badass like you should be. Take a chill pill, and if you want your ex back or whatever, you need to stop taking it all so seriously.

Nah, just be the charming Russian student that has bad English. You're in a great place to be mega popular.[/QUOTE]

To clarify, I wasn't jealous of this guy she was going to sitting with. She's already in a relationship with a girl she met while we were dating.

That doesn't matter now anyways, because we texted again last night. She definitely knew there was something I was keeping bottled up. She confronted me about it asking why I was acting this way and why I wasn't being transparent with her and letting her in on how I was feeling. I broke down and told her that I still liked her but didn't want to say it since she was already with someone else. Of course, she said she didn't have any more feelings for me. I expected that.

I went on to tell her that I still wasn't entirely sure why she just stopped liking me all of the sudden. She said that it just happens when she is with someone long enough. It didnt make sense to me. I said I thought our relationship was fine and when she broke up with me, it came as kind of a shock. She said it wasn't going as well as I thought it was. After a couple of misunderstandings of her thinking I was accusing her of cheating on me and then that I was just trying to find some way to blame it on her, she finally let me in on how she was feeling at the time. She told me that when we were dating, it seemed to her like I didn't feel anything towards her. She said that when she broke her ankle, she wasn't sure if I even cared. When this other girl came along, she said this girl made her feel important and attractive. That was how she lost her feelings for me.

I told her then that the truth was, I really did care about her. She had no idea how much I cared. It seemed to me like when she broke her ankle, she was just pissed off at everything and didn't want me to help. I didn't know what to do. I'll admit that I have been horrible about expressing my feelings towards her. I can be incredibly shy sometimes and I often don't know how to express myself or am too afraid of consequences to act sometimes. She said it was too late now. She said I never expressed my feelings and she didnt feel appreciated. So she left me. I know it was too late my fault but if I had any idea of how she was feeling, I would have gone to the moon to make it better.

She seemed to lighten up a bit after this. She said that I should've tried to make it better. She said that is what every girl wants it to feel special, whether she admits it or not. She eats things up like random cutesy texts no matter how corny they seem. I told her that I ruined my last relationship by being too clingy and overbearing. I was afraid of doing the same thing again and ended up doing a complete 180 this time. The conversation kinda trailed off from there. I think she just went to bed.

Overall, I honestly feel a lot better now that everything is out in the open now. Now there's no bottling things up inside to hide them from each other. More importantly, I feel like now that I know how she was feeling and how that led to our breakup, I finally have some closure. I feel like now I can finally move on for real this time.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

Okay, that probably wasn't a great job of explaining the conversation. I put the conversation in an imgur album if you guys want to read through it all.

[url]http://imgur.com/a/jD8y9[/url]

[bobsynergy]

I'm actually jealous that you got a conversation like that with your ex, with mine it was just "I don't like you any more, ok go home, bye" then she preceded to txt me 30 minutes after calling me best friend (she did this because I'm the only person she txts and basically talks and hangs out with, I guess she didn't want to be alone) and deleted like every picture of me she had. Like at least you know what was up with the relationship and why that happened, with me I can't take that and apply it to another because I don't know why it happened because honestly I can't think of anything that would of caused it as I feel as I didn't do anything wrong and I'm pretty sure I didn't.

Now I still follow her on twitter because well I don't like deleting things and I barely use twitter anyways but what I see is like everyday she tweets something about me (nothing bad but it's just vague things that are about me how she thinks about me) it's really the closest thing I can do to get inside her mind and figured out what happened because it just makes no sense to me. Like after everything I don't get how I was supposed to move on from that just like nothing and pretend the other person didn't exist like what shes trying to do (which obviously isn't working). Though the only mini closure I got was basically a friend of mine was talking to her and asked about me because she didn't believe how she broke up with me and she told me that my ex said that we could talk if I wanted. I thought "finally I can get some closure" and when I txted her the next day she said again she didn't want to talk and whatever and so basically the closure was after the txt messages was "fine, but before you pretend I never existed again, have some advice, your going to run out of people who care/cared about you if you treat them all like this, bye" while sure it's pretty shit final conversation it's at least given me some form of closure.

Mainly I'm just ranting because I need to, because to understand how confusing and fucked up it is you need to know the whole story :v:

[RocketRacer]

College situation again - I am 100% I will be like an alien for other students. This college(Thomas Tallis School if you are wondering) has had only 2-3 cases of foreign students, so everyone is local or english-speaking that's for sure.

help me.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

This isn't strictly a social issue, but it's something that a lot of you probably have some experience with anyway, so I could use some perspective:

I am looking at career options and colleges, and it is very stressful! I have to make a final decision on what I want to do with my life before I move next year, because where I move is going to be very heavily dependent on what career field I choose.

If I'm considering a career in architectural or interior design, which are things I've always been interested in and have at least some flair for, then Chicago is the best choice. It is an architectural goldmine, has fantastic schools, and is generally an awesome environment to live in. This field would make me wealthy, and I would be likely be interested and fulfilled by the work I do. The only problem is, as much as I'd love to live in Chicago (because it really is a VERY cool city!), I can't see myself staying there forever, or even necessarily in any busy city environment. And, with a career in this field, busy city environments would be where most of the work is.

The other option is a career in marine technology. I'm not sure in what regard I would like to work with marine technology yet, but I have always seen myself living near and working with the ocean. I don't have any particular flair or interest in the scientific side of things, such as marine biology, but I think I would enjoy enjoy a career related to shipwrighting, design, or even potentially maintenance and repair. It'd be simple work, but fulfilling enough, and more importantly I would love my work environment and the fact that a career in this field would essentially guarantee that I could live by the ocean. But, the kind of work I'm looking at isn't very rich work. I don't [B]need[/B] to be rich, but I need enough money to live comfortably without ever having to worry about making modest ends meet, and to provide opportunities and comfort for whatever family I might have down the road. In this field, I wouldn't be making much more money than an automotive mechanic (in fact, I'd likely be doing almost the same work, except on boats and ships), and I'm not sure if ~$35k per year is enough to make that happen.

The only thing I know for sure is that I ultimately want to live by the ocean. I want a modest house within walking distance of a warm beach, I want to have a boat, and I want enough money to travel and provide for future family without having to be too concerned about making ends meet. Figuring out how to make that happen is really stressing me out, though!

[Aries]

How old are you BDA? You're older than I am, I'm pretty sure. I sometimes wonder if I'm wasting my time, because I thought I really wanted to be a lawyer but now I don't at all. Ever. So i'm just running a restaurant, making fairly okay money but it's not exactly what I want and the closest thing I can think of is an electronics technician in the australian navy.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

I'm 22, but I got a late start on college because of my time in the military, and because I was originally training to be an aircraft pilot. I developed medical issues that landed me a permanent disqualification from flight positions a few years after I started training, so I've been reevaluating career choices, and having a heck of a time making a decision.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42021555]I'm 22, but I got a late start on college because of my time in the military, and because I was originally training to be an aircraft pilot. I developed medical issues that landed me a permanent disqualification from flight positions a few years after I started training, so I've been reevaluating career choices, and having a heck of a time making a decision.[/QUOTE]

I hate decisions like this, I think from the sounds of things you need to do a little research into the marine field, exactly how you'd go about getting into it and what job you'd be aiming for. Have a quick poke around the job market and see what that's like and then ask yourself which one you'd be happy to do for the rest of your life in your spare time. That's the one to pick as a job because it's the one that interests you most. (If I'm honest and this is purely my opinion, I'd go for architecture. You can do the marine stuff on the side, save up for a boat or get a sea canoe and just toddle around in the evenings or on the weekends, maybe make a few changes or modifications to it if it catches your fancy, build one from scratch, buy a huge boat and then entirely redo the interior architecture. but that's just me, it's your decision)

[Loopoo]

I remember you were having a lot of trouble with Maths, and found it thoroughly discomfiting? Are you sure Architecture would be for you? I'm kinda in the same boat, picking a career, and Mechanical Engineering was on the table but I was really unsure about chasing it, because I can't stand Physics (Maths ain't too bad, and people tell me Physics is just Applied Maths but my brain just farts whenever I try and do Physics). I guess you could work really hard and still become an Architect, and I'm sure you'd be able to live in a coastal city / town if you really wanted to? Surely you wouldn't have to cement yourself down in a busy metropolis to make a decent living. ~35k a year seems decent enough now, but when you've got all these bills to worry about and a family to look after, you'll be furiously trying to make ends meet most of the time - which I can't imagine is much fun.

Like metallics said, if you winged it for Architecture, you'd be able to perhaps get a little place by a coastal town. Nothing fancy, but something that'd make a great retreat, whereas if you go with Marine Technology, you're stuck whether you like it or not (the salary with Architecture would give you more freedom). I personally think that if Maths isn't too big an obstacle to you, you should definitely chase after Architecture. Like you said, you like it well enough! Only thing putting you off is the fact you'd be stuck in a busy metropolis, but I'm sure after you graduated, you could situate yourself somewhere more suitable?

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

Personally, I'd go for Architecture, purely for the security it's salary would offer (and there's plenty of opportunity to climb the career ladder and better yourself). I'm not too sure if you have to be a Maths whiz, but if you put lots of effort in, no doubt you'd be able to graduate!

[Metallics]

Architecture is more artistic orientated than maths/physics based. It has elements of it but I think you are thinking more along the lines of civil engineering or architeering loopoo.

[Loopoo]

My bad, I assumed it was Maths-intensive cause of all the stress testing stuff or whatever, or figuring out how much load something can take haha (which falls under civil engineering, whoops).

BDA, if it isn't Maths heavy, then you should 100% go for it. The career ladder for it is amazing.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

Architecture, and any kind of engineering, requires a very strong background in math, with all of the most difficult math courses available without going to specialized universities catering the the new generation of Hawkings and Einsteins. I think that, given enough time and motivation, I could theoretically bull my way through it, but I'm still trying to figure out if it's strictly necessary. Having written it all out, I think I may have found the "perfect" job for me: marine architecture/engineering. Designing boats and ships. Now [I]that[/I] would be something I could get super excited about.

Still, I face the same challenges as I do with regular architecture: that mountain of math stands before me, and I'm short the proper climbing equipment! It does sound fun, though, and it's directly related to the field of work I find most interesting. I guess I've just got to figure out if I'm brave enough to take six more years of increasingly difficult math.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=metallics;42021945]Architecture is more artistic orientated than maths/physics based. It has elements of it but I think you are thinking more along the lines of civil engineering or architeering loopoo.[/QUOTE]

Are you certain? Every architectural course I've looked into has had extremely high mathematical prerequisites.

[editline]/[/editline]

Nope, nevermind. Naval architecture is right up there with civil engineering. It isn't gonna happen.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42022035]Architecture, and any kind of engineering, requires a very strong background in math, with all of the most difficult math courses available without going to specialized universities catering the the new generation of Hawkings and Einsteins. I think that, given enough time and motivation, I could theoretically bull my way through it, but I'm still trying to figure out if it's strictly necessary. Having written it all out, I think I may have found the "perfect" job for me: marine architecture/engineering. Designing boats and ships. Now [I]that[/I] would be something I could get super excited about.

Still, I face the same challenges as I do with regular architecture: that mountain of math stands before me, and I'm short the proper climbing equipment! It does sound fun, though, and it's directly related to the field of work I find most interesting. I guess I've just got to figure out if I'm brave enough to take six more years of increasingly difficult math.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

Are you certain? Every architectural course I've looked into has had extremely high mathematical prerequisites.[/QUOTE]

I suppose my viewpoint is a bit biased (as an engineer), it does have a lot of maths, but it's considerably less than civil engineering which is pretty much entirely maths.

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42016969]That's creepy. I wish I had a stalker ex. :([/QUOTE]

Today I got a message on FB from my very first ex. Stating that she had seen a picture of me and my girlfriend.

Thing is that I don't recall actually ever being photographed together with my previous ex.

So she is probably talking about a picture of me and friend of mine whom was a weekend over at my place.
That pictures description is even referring to me as "bro".

[Splash Attack]

So, we see each other again today and it's like nothing even happened. In fact I would say we were even friendlier towards each other than before.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42021066]
I am looking at career options and colleges, and it is very stressful! I have to make a final decision on what I want to do with my life before I move next year, because where I move is going to be very heavily dependent on what career field I choose.[/QUOTE]

im pretty much in the same boat except i didnt finish school because im a dead beat
i think its a lot easier to decide this stuff once you take classes and start to understand what specific skills you need to further yourself in that career.

i get that the city is important, but i think you could get a start first and see what those careers entail before you decide on making the commitment to move

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=bobsynergy;42020815]I'm actually jealous that you got a conversation like that with your ex, with mine it was just "I don't like you any more, ok go home, bye" then she preceded to txt me 30 minutes after calling me best friend (she did this because I'm the only person she txts and basically talks and hangs out with, I guess she didn't want to be alone) and deleted like every picture of me she had. Like at least you know what was up with the relationship and why that happened, with me I can't take that and apply it to another because I don't know why it happened because honestly I can't think of anything that would of caused it as I feel as I didn't do anything wrong and I'm pretty sure I didn't.

Now I still follow her on twitter because well I don't like deleting things and I barely use twitter anyways but what I see is like everyday she tweets something about me (nothing bad but it's just vague things that are about me how she thinks about me) it's really the closest thing I can do to get inside her mind and figured out what happened because it just makes no sense to me. Like after everything I don't get how I was supposed to move on from that just like nothing and pretend the other person didn't exist like what shes trying to do (which obviously isn't working). Though the only mini closure I got was basically a friend of mine was talking to her and asked about me because she didn't believe how she broke up with me and she told me that my ex said that we could talk if I wanted. I thought "finally I can get some closure" and when I txted her the next day she said again she didn't want to talk and whatever and so basically the closure was after the txt messages was "fine, but before you pretend I never existed again, have some advice, your going to run out of people who care/cared about you if you treat them all like this, bye" while sure it's pretty shit final conversation it's at least given me some form of closure.

Mainly I'm just ranting because I need to, because to understand how confusing and fucked up it is you need to know the whole story :v:[/QUOTE]

It makes sense that I feel annoyed after seeing my exs mom today right? she gave me this look like shes never seen me in her life and walked passed me and just 2 weeks ago she was joking around about adopting me because I was nice and respectful and bla bla bla bla bla. Like this whole situation with them pretending I never existed just confuses me, I never did anything wrong, never did anything to them and it's like I insulted them or hurt my ex or something with the way I'm being treated.

Maybe I should of saw this coming a year ago when she got so drunk at a party she had to have 5 people take care of her because she started crying about how she liked me and didn't know if I liked her back and when she cried saying she didn't deserve me :v: red flags in hindsight. Friends of both of us said "well if she wants to forget and be like that then let her and just do the same because you don't deserve this" but man is it hard.

On the brightside it helps when lifting heavier weights at the gym when your angry at something :v:

[QUOTE=thisispain;42025834]im pretty much in the same boat except i didnt finish school because im a dead beat[/QUOTE]

I believe in you [img]http://www.facepunch.com/fp/ratings/heart.png[/img] [sp]complimenting people on the internet gets you free stuff right?[/sp]

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;42020996]College situation again - I am 100% I will be like an alien for other students. This college(Thomas Tallis School if you are wondering) has had only 2-3 cases of foreign students, so everyone is local or english-speaking that's for sure.

help me.[/QUOTE]

you'll probably be fine. i don't know how common racism is in europe, but in america people are usually really interested in foreigners.
either way there's not much you can do about it, not sure what you're asking us for here.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42021066]This isn't strictly a social issue, but it's something that a lot of you probably have some experience with anyway, so I could use some perspective:

I am looking at career options and colleges, and it is very stressful! I have to make a final decision on what I want to do with my life before I move next year, because where I move is going to be very heavily dependent on what career field I choose.

If I'm considering a career in architectural or interior design, which are things I've always been interested in and have at least some flair for, then Chicago is the best choice. It is an architectural goldmine, has fantastic schools, and is generally an awesome environment to live in. This field would make me wealthy, and I would be likely be interested and fulfilled by the work I do. The only problem is, as much as I'd love to live in Chicago (because it really is a VERY cool city!), I can't see myself staying there forever, or even necessarily in any busy city environment. And, with a career in this field, busy city environments would be where most of the work is.

The other option is a career in marine technology. I'm not sure in what regard I would like to work with marine technology yet, but I have always seen myself living near and working with the ocean. I don't have any particular flair or interest in the scientific side of things, such as marine biology, but I think I would enjoy enjoy a career related to shipwrighting, design, or even potentially maintenance and repair. It'd be simple work, but fulfilling enough, and more importantly I would love my work environment and the fact that a career in this field would essentially guarantee that I could live by the ocean. But, the kind of work I'm looking at isn't very rich work. I don't [B]need[/B] to be rich, but I need enough money to live comfortably without ever having to worry about making modest ends meet, and to provide opportunities and comfort for whatever family I might have down the road. In this field, I wouldn't be making much more money than an automotive mechanic (in fact, I'd likely be doing almost the same work, except on boats and ships), and I'm not sure if ~$35k per year is enough to make that happen.

The only thing I know for sure is that I ultimately want to live by the ocean. I want a modest house within walking distance of a warm beach, I want to have a boat, and I want enough money to travel and provide for future family without having to be too concerned about making ends meet. Figuring out how to make that happen is really stressing me out, though![/QUOTE]

i really don't know much about those specific career fields but the only advice i can come up with is looking for volunteer work that's related to what you want to do (if applicable). even if those subjects interest you academically, school doesn't prepare you well for actual job skills. you should focus on the work skills required and decide what sort of work environment would be most suited to you.

i don't know what your school situation is, but i would recommend taking entry-level classes in whatever subjects interest you. most 4-year colleges will require you to take a few electives that don't have to be related to your major to graduate. you don't have to decide on your major right away, so you should try taking a few classes and figure out what you enjoy before you decide on a major.

that said, i read a psychological study a while back where they found that happiness increases with income up to an annual income of $80k per year, at which point money stops being a concern and a person is able to live comfortably and afford occasional luxuries without counting pennies. that probably would vary a bit based on location, though.

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42019867]To clarify, I wasn't jealous of this guy she was going to sitting with. She's already in a relationship with a girl she met while we were dating.

That doesn't matter now anyways, because we texted again last night. She definitely knew there was something I was keeping bottled up. She confronted me about it asking why I was acting this way and why I wasn't being transparent with her and letting her in on how I was feeling. I broke down and told her that I still liked her but didn't want to say it since she was already with someone else. Of course, she said she didn't have any more feelings for me. I expected that.

I went on to tell her that I still wasn't entirely sure why she just stopped liking me all of the sudden. She said that it just happens when she is with someone long enough. It didnt make sense to me. I said I thought our relationship was fine and when she broke up with me, it came as kind of a shock. She said it wasn't going as well as I thought it was. After a couple of misunderstandings of her thinking I was accusing her of cheating on me and then that I was just trying to find some way to blame it on her, she finally let me in on how she was feeling at the time. She told me that when we were dating, it seemed to her like I didn't feel anything towards her. She said that when she broke her ankle, she wasn't sure if I even cared. When this other girl came along, she said this girl made her feel important and attractive. That was how she lost her feelings for me.

I told her then that the truth was, I really did care about her. She had no idea how much I cared. It seemed to me like when she broke her ankle, she was just pissed off at everything and didn't want me to help. I didn't know what to do. I'll admit that I have been horrible about expressing my feelings towards her. I can be incredibly shy sometimes and I often don't know how to express myself or am too afraid of consequences to act sometimes. She said it was too late now. She said I never expressed my feelings and she didnt feel appreciated. So she left me. I know it was too late my fault but if I had any idea of how she was feeling, I would have gone to the moon to make it better.

She seemed to lighten up a bit after this. She said that I should've tried to make it better. She said that is what every girl wants it to feel special, whether she admits it or not. She eats things up like random cutesy texts no matter how corny they seem. I told her that I ruined my last relationship by being too clingy and overbearing. I was afraid of doing the same thing again and ended up doing a complete 180 this time. The conversation kinda trailed off from there. I think she just went to bed.

Overall, I honestly feel a lot better now that everything is out in the open now. Now there's no bottling things up inside to hide them from each other. More importantly, I feel like now that I know how she was feeling and how that led to our breakup, I finally have some closure. I feel like now I can finally move on for real this time.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

Okay, that probably wasn't a great job of explaining the conversation. I put the conversation in an imgur album if you guys want to read through it all.

[URL]http://imgur.com/a/jD8y9[/URL][/QUOTE]
That's so much trouble. Find something else to do instead of fighting with her, because really all she wants to do is this point is be bitter and make you feel bad. And let's be real here, ain't NOBODY got time for that.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42021066]This isn't strictly a social issue, but it's something that a lot of you probably have some experience with anyway, so I could use some perspective:

I am looking at career options and colleges, and it is very stressful! I have to make a final decision on what I want to do with my life before I move next year, because where I move is going to be very heavily dependent on what career field I choose.

If I'm considering a career in architectural or interior design, which are things I've always been interested in and have at least some flair for, then Chicago is the best choice. It is an architectural goldmine, has fantastic schools, and is generally an awesome environment to live in. This field would make me wealthy, and I would be likely be interested and fulfilled by the work I do. The only problem is, as much as I'd love to live in Chicago (because it really is a VERY cool city!), I can't see myself staying there forever, or even necessarily in any busy city environment. And, with a career in this field, busy city environments would be where most of the work is.

The other option is a career in marine technology. I'm not sure in what regard I would like to work with marine technology yet, but I have always seen myself living near and working with the ocean. I don't have any particular flair or interest in the scientific side of things, such as marine biology, but I think I would enjoy enjoy a career related to shipwrighting, design, or even potentially maintenance and repair. It'd be simple work, but fulfilling enough, and more importantly I would love my work environment and the fact that a career in this field would essentially guarantee that I could live by the ocean. But, the kind of work I'm looking at isn't very rich work. I don't [B]need[/B] to be rich, but I need enough money to live comfortably without ever having to worry about making modest ends meet, and to provide opportunities and comfort for whatever family I might have down the road. In this field, I wouldn't be making much more money than an automotive mechanic (in fact, I'd likely be doing almost the same work, except on boats and ships), and I'm not sure if ~$35k per year is enough to make that happen.

The only thing I know for sure is that I ultimately want to live by the ocean. I want a modest house within walking distance of a warm beach, I want to have a boat, and I want enough money to travel and provide for future family without having to be too concerned about making ends meet. Figuring out how to make that happen is really stressing me out, though![/QUOTE]
Work in Chicago, enjoy the city and then retire by the ocean. Or keep an eye out for some work at the beach, you never know what life will have in store for you.

[Aries]

if it helps you, bda, i could ask my friend how she finds her university course to be. she studies architecture!

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42026248]That's so much trouble. Find something else to do instead of fighting with her, because really all she wants to do is this point is be bitter and make you feel bad. And let's be real here, ain't NOBODY got time for that.

[/QUOTE]

I'm not sure if she was just trying to be bitter. I probably have been acting weird around her since we started seeing each other and talking again now that school is back in session. I think we had each other a bit stressed out and she kind of just cracked. I let the cat out of the bag and told her how I felt adn she finally explained why she thought our relationship wasn't going so well leading up to her breaking up with me. I think that made everything better for the both of us. I have closure now as to how and why our relationship ended, and now everything about how I was feeling is out in the open. Like I said, earlier today, we were friendlier towards each other than we have been since we were together. I think now we can actually be at least friends again and I can still move on to someone else.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

In other words, this fight actually made things better between us and I'm okay with that.

[Krinkels]

[QUOTE=Aries;42026802]if it helps you, bda, i could ask my friend how she finds her university course to be. she studies architecture![/QUOTE]

I think [url=http://facepunch.com/member.php?u=398593]D3TBS[/url] is also studying architecture.

[Rhenae]

I dont know much of what your looking at but if you would prefer to avoid maths interior designers can design buildings up to 3 floors :) Thats a much more art based course for sure, really fun too if you like learning about stuff like the psychology attached to colour :) (and if you did want to take a more art based route doing some graphic art classes and such can get you in to being product designer, designing mostly the visual aspects for a bunch of things)

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42026861]I'm not sure if she was just trying to be bitter. I probably have been acting weird around her since we started seeing each other and talking again now that school is back in session. I think we had each other a bit stressed out and she kind of just cracked. I let the cat out of the bag and told her how I felt adn she finally explained why she thought our relationship wasn't going so well leading up to her breaking up with me. I think that made everything better for the both of us. I have closure now as to how and why our relationship ended, and now everything about how I was feeling is out in the open. Like I said, earlier today, we were friendlier towards each other than we have been since we were together. I think now we can actually be at least friends again and I can still move on to someone else.

[editline]30th August 2013[/editline]

In other words, this fight actually made things better between us and I'm okay with that.[/QUOTE]
I recommend you leave her alone, but only because I've done the same exact thing you've done and it led me down a path that I didn't get over for a year and a half.

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42027292]I recommend you leave her alone, but only because I've done the same exact thing you've done and it led me down a path that I didn't get over for a year and a half.[/QUOTE]

To be honest, it would be harder not to. I've said this before, but we have the same major. We have 4 classes together. We spend anywhere from 2 to 5 hours every weekday sitting in the same small classrooms and interacting with group work.We have to interact at some point. Besides, it is usually her who has been approaching me.

I realize there's no hope for a relationship between us. I've accepted that. I feel like I can truly move on and still be friends with her.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42026248]That's so much trouble. Find something else to do instead of fighting with her, because really all she wants to do is this point is be bitter and make you feel bad. And let's be real here, ain't NOBODY got time for that.[/QUOTE]
Oh so in US locals are interested in foreigners...well, a bit of a hope here!

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42029580]To be honest, it would be harder not to. I've said this before, but we have the same major. We have 4 classes together. We spend anywhere from 2 to 5 hours every weekday sitting in the same small classrooms and interacting with group work.We have to interact at some point. Besides, it is usually her who has been approaching me.

I realize there's no hope for a relationship between us. I've accepted that. I feel like I can truly move on and still be friends with her.[/QUOTE]
Even if you run into her, she still isn't your problem. It's fine to say Hello and whatnot when you run into her, but stop texting her, stop worrying about her, and definitely stop having these deep emotional conversations with her. At least for now!

[editline]31st August 2013[/editline]

That awkward moment when you realize you're spending far too much energy on someone who is going to cancel every time anyway. :|

[KGS]

So my Papa Roach thing sort of failed, meh. Got some better news though.
I'm going on a date tonight with the girl from that topic! So yes it was worth it.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;42030087]Oh so in US locals are interested in foreigners...well, a bit of a hope here![/QUOTE]

Why is it even funny? It is a real problem for me :(