• Crossdressing/Transgender Megathread v. Socks are both a running gag and mandatory
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[QUOTE=Jawyen;39108529]Umm, what are they actually demanding from you? Cause it does sound quite odd since I was informed that the whole real life scenario *being a woman in public* should be after some form of transition and is required to get a new identity, not to get the actual hormones.[/QUOTE] nope. RLE is required in the UK to be put on hormones, generally a year full time
[QUOTE=Metanar;39108740]nope. RLE is required in the UK to be put on hormones, generally a year full time[/QUOTE] Is it just me or does that sound rather dumb? What does it actually require you to do?
[QUOTE=Jawyen;39108832]Is it just me or does that sound rather dumb? What does it actually require you to do?[/QUOTE] dress as a girl full time
[QUOTE=Jawyen;39108832]Is it just me or does that sound rather dumb? What does it actually require you to do?[/QUOTE] Going "full time" as the gender you want to be recognised as. I'm not sure how they are supose to measure this, or whether it's based on what you tell them, but I have the date on my deedpoll document to show how long I have been officially known by my preffered name so that might count :)
I can't even change my legal name at this point. The only hope I have is that my psych (who said she would try to) can argue that I've been identifying as a girl at least half of the time which would hopefully speed my next wait up. Not confident about it all though.
RLE Is so fucking stupid I can't even stand it.
[QUOTE=gaminji;39106359]I suppose so. I'm gonna tell him later today, after he's off work. Wish me luck.[/QUOTE] Good luck! And if you back out I'm going to be very disappointed in you. But I will also understand. Do report back to tell us how it went.
[QUOTE=SNNS-SEAN;39103238]Well, I just made a coming-out status on Facebook, at 3AM when nobody's online. I'm kind of scared, and almost want to delete it. My parents are going to confront me in the morning, oh god, I'm so nervous.[/QUOTE] let us know how it goes, we're here for you
What counts as real life experience anyway? I mean I wear pants bought in the women's section a lot of the time, does this count? Would I have to wear makeup? What about underwear? And how does this in any way correlate to the fact that I might feel like I'm in the wrong body? Would people treat someone they see as a man in women's clothing as a girl? I have a hard time seeing that happen.
[QUOTE=id05245;39111095]let us know how it goes, we're here for you[/QUOTE] Read the post like 2 posts under it :v
[QUOTE=Blaberry;39111113]What counts as real life experience anyway? I mean I wear pants bought in the women's section a lot of the time, does this count? Would I have to wear makeup? What about underwear? And how does this in any way correlate to the fact that I might feel like I'm in the wrong body? Would people treat someone they see as a man in women's clothing as a girl? I have a hard time seeing that happen.[/QUOTE] I already wear womens clothing 24/7 but it's not obvious because it's just tops and jeans and underwears and such. Would I have to start wearing fake boobs and a skirt or something? Mental. I'm sure there's plenty of girls out there who'd never touch a skirt or dress in their life and would wear androgynous shiz like I do, but I feel like what I do right now probably doesn't count. Maybe it's more the identifying as a girl when people ask your name and going to the other toilets, or something. Eh I really have no idea.
I had to look up how it works here in IKEA, apparently you have a one year examination, then you start RLE and hormones at the same time. Less insane at least.
ya UK sucks. I got a friend up North who managed to self medicate hormones for quite a long time before the slow-ass NHS Charring Cross gender clinic got to her, and there wasn't really any punishment for it, they told her not to stop now coz it would probably do more harm than good. So maybe that's something I should do too. (they ended up eventually being prescribed hormones like anyone else) I don't see what good a year of being in drag is going to do anyone, it would just remind me all the time of how inferior my body is as I'm sure people would love pointing out it's manly features (such as the FACE). [editline]6th January 2013[/editline] Or I could "go private", but I don't really know what that entails, where to find good private gender clinics in London (preferably) is a mystery to me. Could probably just about afford it though (juuust).
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My girlfriend is going through private treatment because she doesn't want to be publicly humiliated in order to get HRT, but her therapist is a fucking creep. She told me he keeps touching her leg and that kinda shit but he's the only one who's for trans people within a 3 hour radius by car.. I dont know how I could possibly help her
Is there any way you could go see the therapist with her? I'd help with you by her side.
Well, uh. I showed up just as he was leaving work. I told him, albeit I was stopping every couple seconds to steady myself, I was shaking so bad. I explained to him the basis of what this is, how long I've been doing this, and where I hope to take it in the future. I asked him if he had any questions, or if he had any input at all. He stood up(I sat down on a bench with him) and left without a word. I haven't heard from him since, this was around 6 pm today. [sup][sup][sup][sup][sup]depressing page queen[/sup][/sup][/sup][/sup][/sup]
[QUOTE=HorizoN;39108357]I don't even eat lol, apparently that's the problem is that I never feel hungry, never feel motivated to eat at all, never want to anyway. Hell when I eat supper it's usually because I have to, not because I want to[/QUOTE] Its not good to skip meals, you can lose weight even if you eat, eat your daily amount of calories you need(calculate your BMR, basil metabolic rate) and eat the amount of calories you need. Do cardio to burn off 400-500 calories, and you should lose 1 pound a week. Not eating and skipping meals is very unhealthy.
[QUOTE=NeoDement;39111957]ya UK sucks. I got a friend up North who managed to self medicate hormones for quite a long time before the slow-ass NHS Charring Cross gender clinic got to her, and there wasn't really any punishment for it, they told her not to stop now coz it would probably do more harm than good. So maybe that's something I should do too. (they ended up eventually being prescribed hormones like anyone else) I don't see what good a year of being in drag is going to do anyone, it would just remind me all the time of how inferior my body is as I'm sure people would love pointing out it's manly features (such as the FACE). [editline]6th January 2013[/editline] Or I could "go private", but I don't really know what that entails, where to find good private gender clinics in London (preferably) is a mystery to me. Could probably just about afford it though (juuust).[/QUOTE] You aren't the only one is this position. I'm living in London and I dunno whether I should keep waiting on Charing Cross to get back to me. It's already been a few months since I visited a local therapist and I've yet to hear back about the referral. I've already changed my name, and because of some crazy shit going on in my life I'm starting to slightly regret that move :( Self medding is looking very much likely to be my only option. EDIT: I hear this person is pretty popular as a private option in London. The price for consultation is a little too steep for me at the moment, but it's worth checking out if you can afford it. [url]http://www.transhealth.co.uk/dr_curtis.php[/url]
[QUOTE=jsaue055;39105211]immediately, no one dresses like that sorry what drew my attention right away was that the belt is biting into your waist and your using your hands to push out your hips, my advice: achieve work on trying to pass first, then bring in the sexy, that way you can pull it off look at a picture of a cute outfit and reproduce it, vs creating outfits yourself for a while until you can compose yourself that's the biggest mistake I most commonly see ....I wish FFS was a drink for sale at grocery store......sigh[/QUOTE] Are you high? That attire is for going on a night out. Every female I know wears the outfits like that one nights out.
[QUOTE=jsaue055;39119346]The request was to provide a free opinion on an open forum comprised of contributors whose background you know not. An opinion that has no value - a worthless opinion. I was merely providing it, I am I am not wrong or right. All I am saying is reach for goals in stride. Why ask if you are so confident?[/QUOTE] PS - I am on your side
[QUOTE=Levithan;39112716]Is there any way you could go see the therapist with her? I'd help with you by her side.[/QUOTE] That's tricky, because of two reasons. the first would be that she lives like 3 hours away from me by car, so we're in sort of a long distance relationship, and see each other every weekend, and the second and the worst would be that she lives in a rich family, and her dad is giving her hell, because he doesn't approve of her transition and he would have a problem with me since I'm "lower class". So until she moves out and moves together with me, we have to make this work like it is now..
[QUOTE=Raizo;39119763]That's tricky, because of two reasons. the first would be that she lives like 3 hours away from me by car, so we're in sort of a long distance relationship, and see each other every weekend, and the second and the worst would be that she lives in a rich family, and her dad is giving her hell, because he doesn't approve of her transition and he would have a problem with me since I'm "lower class". So until she moves out and moves together with me, we have to make this work like it is now..[/QUOTE] Best of luck, I really hope that works out for you. I still haven't heard from my friend, so I guess that's the end of that.
Thanks for being able to come here with this problem of ours, guys 'n girls. There aren't a whole lot of people I can talk about this with other than you all, so it would be awesome if I would come here and keep you updated, if that's okay!
Trying to find a female name.. Havent really found one I like yet I've used Felicity for a while but it was just a day9 rip thing so it doesnt really feel like [I]my[/I] name. I'll keep looking Scandinavian names are nice.
I've been considering female names as well, but almost every single name beginning with R doesn't sound good to me. :c
Probably my favourite uh modified version, for lack of better word, for your name, would be Rochelle lol I dunno
I dunno what kinda name I'd go with. I like my current name :( I wanna be Sean but I also really dont :v
After some discussion I settled for Jennifer. I think it's a pretty name.
[QUOTE=MasterFen007;39128872]I've been considering female names as well, but almost every single name beginning with R doesn't sound good to me. :c[/QUOTE] Rika is super cute imo [editline]7th January 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Gravity Ponds;39128833]Trying to find a female name.. Havent really found one I like yet I've used Felicity for a while but it was just a day9 rip thing so it doesnt really feel like [I]my[/I] name. I'll keep looking Scandinavian names are nice.[/QUOTE] How about Phoebie c;? But srsly I think Stephanie is a nice female name
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