• Crossdressing/Transgender Megathread v. Socks are both a running gag and mandatory
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My planned way of comming out to my parents is to be in girl's clothes when the come home someday.
[QUOTE=DiscoInferno;39221483]My planned way of comming out to my parents is to be in girl's clothes when the come home someday.[/QUOTE] Hm.. I've considered that, but if it it were to work like any other attempt I've made of coming out, I'd just freak out at the last minute and change back before my parents ever saw me.
If you know that they won't turn your life into hell and that they would be able to deal with it in time, just tell em in a serious way just to make sure that they understand. No need to turn it into a performance. I find it ridiculous how much I worried about it back when I hadn't told about it but now it feels like the silliest thing ever.
Hey everyone, I feel like this is the best place to ask about this since technically it is about crossdressing. Lately I've been feeling more and more convinced that I should start wearing some girls clothing. By this, I mostly mean basic tees and jeans ( as well as underwear ), but not things like dresses, blouses, skirts, etc. The reason for this is that I'm starting to get a bit fed up with mens clothing and how they almost never fit me. Both in style and size. Anytime I buy small/extra small mens shirts they're always a little too big and baggy on me. I have a very thin/feminine figure and I'd love to just go out and by some womens tees sometime. The reason I'm posting about this is because I'm at a bit of a loss as to what to get. I've been looking all over the place but I'm still a bit unsure. I'm interested in colors like pink, black, purple, white, and soft blues. I also like stripes, long sleeves, short sleeves, graphic tees and hoodies. ( I'm also kind of into short shorts and above knee/thigh high socks ). So with that being said, I'm mostly asking for some tips and guidance on what to get or where to shop. I've spoken with my sister and she said that she'd be more than happy to help me pick some stuff out. However, she wont be visiting until the summer, and as I said, I'm quite tired of my current clothing and want some change ASAP. I would like to be able to go to my parents about this, but naturally I'm a bit shy about the whole thing. This also sort of stems from having some gender confusion/transgender feelings, so I don't really feel like I'm ready to talk to them about it. I know sooner or later though something will have to be mentioned, especially if I want to start buying womens clothes. ( On a side note, my parents are very supportive and open minded people, they're supportive of gays and I have a feeling they wouldn't mind helping me out with this. ) But as I said, it's still a little hard for me to talk about. Anywho, if anybody has any tips on where to start with some simple girly clothing, I'd love to hear them.
Second hand stores. Or just walk to a store and buy some t-shirts.
I live in the middle of nowhere and can't drive yet, I'd probably have to order stuff online. I'm just so unsure about what I want. I really feel like my best bet right now is to just wait to do this with my sister in person, she'd be a huge help. It's just that I'm awfully sick of my current clothing.
So it's been a while. Basically, my dad settled and we talked to my therapist and arranged a meeting with a gender-specialist at a hospital nearby. (which was the most awesome guy ever!) As of lately, my therapist sent the reference to the trans- section over at the main hospital in the capital here, so I'm finally getting on the road ahead to full woman. :3 As for my trans girlfriend, she's waiting until she's 18 to try getting referred there, probably to ease off on her parents and to maybe get to treat her angst and depression first, but we still have some nights when she comes over to my place and dresses up and we just snuggle and get drunk or high and watch silly movies or shows on the couch. TL;DR: I'm on my way to become myself, girlfriend is still waiting a bit, and we're still together, going on a year together soon. :3
[QUOTE=Sir Bubbles;39223752]I live in the middle of nowhere and can't drive yet, I'd probably have to order stuff online. I'm just so unsure about what I want. I really feel like my best bet right now is to just wait to do this with my sister in person, she'd be a huge help. It's just that I'm awfully sick of my current clothing.[/QUOTE] Amazon is usually good, if you'd like some help I've been told I have good fashion-sense :p
eff yeah, hormones. hopefully they'll kick in sooner rather than later...
So Sweden just removed the requirement for people who want to legally change their gender to be sterilised. This is a good day for democracy and freedom. All they need to fix or at least relax is the RLE requirement and even then you only have to start that at the same time as they start you on mones. I love this country a little, in a very non-nationalistic way.
[QUOTE=Neena;39224452]So it's been a while. Basically, my dad settled and we talked to my therapist and arranged a meeting with a gender-specialist at a hospital nearby. (which was the most awesome guy ever!) As of lately, my therapist sent the reference to the trans- section over at the main hospital in the capital here, so I'm finally getting on the road ahead to full woman. :3 As for my trans girlfriend, she's waiting until she's 18 to try getting referred there, probably to ease off on her parents and to maybe get to treat her angst and depression first, but we still have some nights when she comes over to my place and dresses up and we just snuggle and get drunk or high and watch silly movies or shows on the couch. TL;DR: I'm on my way to become myself, girlfriend is still waiting a bit, and we're still together, going on a year together soon. :3[/QUOTE] dat title...?
[QUOTE=TehWhale;39220446]they're bats[/QUOTE] nope they are indeed 'tashes and the colour doesnt really come out due to lighting terribleness but its pink
I want tights decorated with facial hair. [editline]15th January 2013[/editline] I just realized how wrong that sounds.
[QUOTE=Blaberry;39225885]I want tights decorated with facial hair. [editline]15th January 2013[/editline] I just realized how wrong that sounds.[/QUOTE] I went and searched that it seems there is a moustache version of every possible piece of clothing out there why
hey, how do hormone blockers work? [sp]They stop your hormones from spirol-ing out of control[/sp]
So... has anybody had any experience with GnRH-A medications in place of the more traditional anti-androgens like spiro? I'm tempted to make the switch as it'll mean I can swap out the need for finasteride as well, but shots terrify me pretty badly. Needle anxiety. It'd be nice not to have to go to the bathroom thirty times during a movie, though.
[QUOTE=Pudding~;39226503]So... has anybody had any experience with GnRH-A medications in place of the more traditional anti-androgens like spiro? I'm tempted to make the switch as it'll mean I can swap out the need for finasteride as well, but shots terrify me pretty badly. Needle anxiety. It'd be nice not to have to go to the bathroom thirty times during a movie, though.[/QUOTE] Isn't that normal woman behaviour?
It probably is. It doesn't mean I approve of it! Early in transition when I had bathroom anxiety issues it was a great cause of stress. I'd actively avoid all fluids for hours before going out just so I didn't risk that. And then I'l get superdehydratedlol >.<
[QUOTE=Pudding~;39226642]It probably is. It doesn't mean I approve of it! Early in transition when I had bathroom anxiety issues it was a great cause of stress. I'd actively avoid all fluids for hours before going out just so I didn't risk that. And then I'l get superdehydratedlol >.<[/QUOTE] I was mostly making a joke, honestly I have no idea about any of the whoremoans. I can't be bothered to really look into them until I know for sure if and when I could get them on the NHS or whatever.
what are whoremoans?
say it out loud, if your serious
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I'm a straight boy not interested in transgendering but have a question for you fine folks who are now girls/boys. When you're flirting with someone who doesn't know you, are you making sure they know about you being a boy when you were born or you just don't tell him/her? Honest question, there are people out there who wouldn't do it with a transgender (myself included, no offense) and with hormones treatments giving more incredible results by the day, it's kinda hard to figure out who's who.
its not being a cunt to not want to have sex with someone they arent attracted to
What someone was born as though is completely irrelevant compared to what they are now. And judging them on that past does in fact kinda make them a little bit of a cunt.
[QUOTE=-Get_A_Life-;39228007]I'm a straight boy not interested in transgendering but have a question for you fine folks who are now girls/boys. When you're flirting with someone who doesn't know you, are you making sure they know about you being a boy when you were born or you just don't tell him/her? Honest question, there are people out there who wouldn't do it with a transgender (myself included, no offense) and with hormones treatments giving more incredible results by the day, it's kinda hard to figure out who's who.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Blaberry;39086422]The "correct" response to whether having sex with someone you're in a relationship with is "gay" or not ought to be "Who the fuck cares, I love this person". That's what you'd expect from a pansexual, I suppose, but I have a hunch that most emotionally mature people in a relationship with a trans person will come to this conclusion as well. Maybe I'm wrong.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Sparkwire;39228151]its not being a cunt to not want to have sex with someone they arent attracted to[/QUOTE] its less of an "im am not physically attracted to you because you're not hot to me" and more "I can't get over something in your past that doesn't change what you are now and im afraid it makes me gay" its just a really shitty feeling to hear "oh i totally support transgender people!! but i'd never date you ew gross...." makes you feel like you're going to be alone forever. [editline]15th January 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=-Get_A_Life-;39228007]I'm a straight boy not interested in transgendering but have a question for you fine folks who are now girls/boys. When you're flirting with someone who doesn't know you, are you making sure they know about you being a boy when you were born or you just don't tell him/her? Honest question, there are people out there who wouldn't do it with a transgender (myself included, no offense) and with hormones treatments giving more incredible results by the day, it's kinda hard to figure out who's who.[/QUOTE] regardless. to answer your question i personally wouldn't say anything until i know i can trust them to not tell everyone else and potentially ruin my life
[QUOTE=Sparkwire;39228151]its not being a cunt to not want to have sex with someone they arent attracted to[/QUOTE] It's about people who are attracted to you up until they point where they find out you were born a boy and then go "Well I'm a bigot so I don't care for you anymore", though.
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[QUOTE=-Get_A_Life-;39228007]I'm a straight boy not interested in transgendering but have a question for you fine folks who are now girls/boys. When you're flirting with someone who doesn't know you, are you making sure they know about you being a boy when you were born or you just don't tell him/her? Honest question, there are people out there who wouldn't do it with a transgender (myself included, no offense) and with hormones treatments giving more incredible results by the day, it's kinda hard to figure out who's who.[/QUOTE] I don't see why someone being born in the wrong body would scare you that much. We're not trying to trick guys and girls out there. That's far beyond the point. Transsexuals are not traps. We don't get kicks out of deceiving people. For example purposes, a transgirl wants to just live her life just like any other cis (body & gender identity match) girl out there. We'd like people, like yourself, see past the fact that we're trans and give us a chance just like any other girl.
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