[QUOTE=Occlusion;35806255]I asked a girl from my course out a while ago because we seemed to be getting on well. So we went out for drinks and it was more friendly then anything, didn't really feel a "spark", not to be cliche'd, so i left it.
Did i do the right thing or should i have gone on a few more dates before i made up my mind? I've just got next to no money so it was kind of a gamble.[/QUOTE]
You asked a girl out. You thought she was interesting enough for you, attractive enough, didn't you? Then why on earth, if you were the one to go "balls to the wall" by asking her out, is also the one waiting for confirmation?
You don't need a spark, a click or anything to make your move. Stop thinking so much whether she likes you or not, she agreed to date you, she finds you attractive enough to spend her leisure time with you, what more do you need?
Go on another date. Ask her questions, see what she has to offer and if you choice was the right one. Make your move and don't be afraid of following what you feel inside.
[QUOTE=Seith;35806437]You asked a girl out. You thought she was interesting enough for you, attractive enough, didn't you? Then why on earth, if you were the one to go "balls to the wall" by asking her out, is also the one waiting for confirmation?
You don't need a spark, a click or anything to make your move. Stop thinking so much whether she likes you or not, she agreed to date you, she finds you attractive enough to spend her leisure time with you, what more do you need?
Go on another date. Ask her questions, see what she has to offer and if you choice was the right one. Make your move and don't be afraid of following what you feel inside.[/QUOTE]
I think he means he didn't find her that interesting/there wasn't much chemistry, I doubt he feels inadequate. Perhaps they're just not very compatible.
[QUOTE=CheeserCrice;35806533]I think he means he didn't find her that interesting/there wasn't much chemistry, I doubt he feels inadequate. Perhaps they're just not very compatible.[/QUOTE]
Yeah it wasn't like i was going "oh shit she's not gonna like me fuckfuck" the entire date, it went fine and we talked the entire time, it just felt boring to me somewhat. My gut impulse when i got back was "that was good, but i've got other things i'd rather be doing".
Shame that seems to apply for most people i see :/
[QUOTE=Occlusion;35806584]Yeah it wasn't like i was going "oh shit she's not gonna like me fuckfuck" the entire date, it went fine and we talked the entire time, it just felt boring to me somewhat. My gut impulse when i got back was "that was good, but i've got other things i'd rather be doing".
Shame that seems to apply for most people i see :/[/QUOTE]
Then leave it and move on. Better spending your time with someone who you find interesting.
[QUOTE=Occlusion;35806584]Yeah it wasn't like i was going "oh shit she's not gonna like me fuckfuck" the entire date, it went fine and we talked the entire time, it just felt boring to me somewhat. My gut impulse when i got back was "that was good, but i've got other things i'd rather be doing".
Shame that seems to apply for most people i see :/[/QUOTE]
Talking is always boring when it's limited to a certain frame. (i.e we talk to get to know each other, don't know what to say... boring boring boring) Most people are boring, most dates are boring. It's up to your to make it interesting. While there's a chance of you meeting a very intriguing person, the interest would only last for a number of dates and then again it comes back to you to make it interesting.
If that applies to most of your dates.... then.... But let's be honest for a second; is it really boring as in oh shit she's fucking boring, unexciting or is it... you being uncomfortable enough you call it "boring" ? After all, you are the one who asked her out...
If it didn't work out, then move on. The experience gained here is still invaluable and it'll make it easier in the future.
So what happened to "Shake-bake super 8"? I'm interested to hear how that is going.
Not been in this thread since LA shut down, but I need your help!
I've a date tonight, just going out for a meal. But I hooked up with the girl on Tuesday night at a party, we went out, got pizza, went back to hers and I couldn't get it up (Still a Virgin). We ended up falling asleep on my bed, my friends broke in, stole the pizza and she went back upstairs. I asked if she fancied going for a meal in the evening the next day and she said yes.
What do? Also, how do I do oral? I tried, spelling the alphabet but I could never seem to get deep enough in. Plus my jaw hurt.
[quote]I tried, spelling the alphabet but I could never seem to get deep enough in. Plus my jaw hurt.[/quote]
.. what?
Your tongue's for the clit, use one or two fingers to enter her.
[QUOTE=Kirth;35806841].. what?
Your tongue's for the clit, use one or two fingers to enter her.[/QUOTE]
Whoops.
LOL
[QUOTE=metallics;35806613]Then leave it and move on. Better spending your time with someone who you find interesting.[/QUOTE]
But try to fuck her if possible.
[QUOTE=Kirth;35806841].. what?
Your tongue's for the clit, use one or two fingers to enter her.[/QUOTE]
Uh, no it isn't. A tongue can go deeper, mind you.
Do it cyclocius. Taste the gizzard.
[QUOTE=cyclocius;35806965]Whoops.[/QUOTE]
Putting the tongue in is also viable, but some girls don't like it. Plus puttin' in the fingers works well already :v:
Fist all the way
You'll get the hang of it ultimately through experience and practice but to be quite honest, I remember when I first started going down on my ex, I wasn't very good at it but I really wanted to improve for her, so I actually found some fucking, 40 minute long porn/instructional video on how to eat a girl out, with Ron Jeremy and Nina Hartley and Sunny Lane and some other people too. You can learn whilst you fap!
It was actually really helpful too, it was called... 'How To Eat Pussy Like a Champ' (lol I know). Available on your favourite streaming adult entertainment website.
tl;dw: Be a tease, start off slow and gradually move towards the main event. Lick/kiss up and down her thighs and her pubis area, then her outer lips, to her vagina, then gradually move towards her clit; first with long, slow licks, then try more rapid, short flicks. Just be really gentle, with everything down there, but the clit especially as it's really quite sensitive and different girls will have different pain/pleasure thresholds. The alphabet thing actually really works too; position your lips around her clit hood (literally just imagine you were sucking a dick, her very small dick aka her clit, and imagine how you would position your mouth around it), then just start writing out the letters of the alphabet with your tongue against her clit. The variety is good, but by the time you've cycled through the letters twice or three times, you'll be able to find what type of motions really work for her and you can just continue those.
Get your fingers involved too, and like with everything (but imo especially with your fingers), ask her how she likes it, or if she likes g-spot stimulation for example. How-to: insert ring and middle finger/middle finger and index finger facing upwards, curl upwards in a 'come here' gesture, and you should feel a round sort of lump with a slightly rough surface. Just move your hand up and down whilst continuing to make that 'come here' movement with your fingers, gradually increasing in speed and pressure.
Again, just start off really gently and make sure you tell her to let you know if anything is uncomfortable, especially as some girls may really enjoy a particular type of stimulation (such as g-spot) but others might find it very unenjoyable and even painful.
tl;dr: Watch the fucking video. Her comfort and pleasure is your priority so always make sure she's comfortable and ask her how she would like it, or if she's as unsure as you are, to tell you if anything feels uncomfortable. Practice makes perfect. GLHF.
[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;35774395]20 years and still trucking the V-card. I'm not particularly jealous of it though.[/QUOTE]
Think I chose a way too strong word. It's more like I keep telling myself I'm old and "backward".
[QUOTE=Charlievrw;35804257]I think i'm in love, I have never felt this way about anyone before and this has really changed my life around, I don't really have anything to ask but I just want to try to spread my joy, this feeling is amazing.[/QUOTE]
Same here, except it tortures me. She gave me kind of a vague answer, and I'm afraid that I may not have a chance, ever. The gist of what she said was that she wasn't ready for a relationship, I think. I'm sure that I'm in love with her, though. No doubts now.
Some advice would be appreciated, I guess.
How would I hint at or blatantly ask my current girlfriend "We should be more intimate" without sounding like a hormonal teenager or a "bawww forever alone" guy?
Once again, high school dating, blah blah
[QUOTE=Chezhead;35814519]How would I hint at or blatantly ask my current girlfriend "We should be more intimate" without sounding like a hormonal teenager or a "bawww forever alone" guy?
Once again, [B]high school[/B] dating, blah blah[/QUOTE]
You're in high school.
Keep it in your pants.
[QUOTE=Forumaster;35814666]You're in high school.
Keep it in your pants.[/QUOTE]
Sure, I'll grow up and leave high school as soon as I can.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;35814670]I told mine "We should find another way to express our love."
Woo, third base.[/QUOTE]
Thanks, that sounds like a good idea.
just start going down on her while you're hooking up and see if she likes it, if not then stop and you can talk it out later
Well, apparently nobody has given her Oral before so she didn't know I was doing it wrong.
Smooth.
[QUOTE=cyclocius;35817765]Well, apparently nobody has given her Oral before so she didn't know I was doing it wrong.
Smooth.[/QUOTE]
Ouch. :/ sorry m8
[QUOTE=Chezhead;35814519]How would I hint at or blatantly ask my current girlfriend "We should be more intimate" without sounding like a hormonal teenager or a "bawww forever alone" guy?
Once again, high school dating, blah blah[/QUOTE]
One of the best ways to get women going is tease them, motion towards what you want to do without actually doing it. If you tease them enough (and correctly), then in the heat of the moment they'll be begging for you to relieve them
Where exactly are you at at the moment though, and what's the next step you're looking to go to?
[QUOTE=Chezhead;35814519]How would I hint at or blatantly ask my current girlfriend "We should be more intimate" without sounding like a hormonal teenager or a "bawww forever alone" guy?
Once again, high school dating, blah blah[/QUOTE]
just make sure shes asleep
pull out your pee pee
and smack her in the face
she'll fuck you
maybe
Just don't be overly hormonal in hopes of getting BJ's all the time. Try to show restraint when maybe she isnt up for intimacy or whatever you guys do
[QUOTE=Chezhead;35814519]How would I hint at or blatantly ask my current girlfriend "We should be more intimate" without sounding like a hormonal teenager or a "bawww forever alone" guy?
[/QUOTE]
you don't need words, words are for tossers and mark from peep show
Why do you need to hint? Are you afraid she'd say no?
She's at your place... On your bed.... What are you waiting for?
this thread is just as stupid as I thought it would be
[QUOTE=Vedicardi;35819870]this thread is just as stupid as I thought it would be[/QUOTE]
Or maybe you just don't belong here.
Because you don't have a sex.
Or a girlfriend.
Or a shit.
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