Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III - General

[QUOTE=Amerigo;35825793]Please. It's been three years since I lost my v-card, which is the one and only time I've ever had sex. [sp]It sucked[/sp] [sp]Might have sex with my current girlfriend this weekend though, woohoo![/sp][/QUOTE] Fission mailed. Technically, we did do the deed, but since it had been three years since the one time I last got down and dirty, I'm fairly certain I was terrible. Actually kinda had trouble maintaining an erection, neither of us ended up orgasming, though. She was very reassuring, but I feel like a complete tool and also like there might be something wrong with me. Shit sucks.

[QUOTE=Amerigo;35858104]Fission mailed. Technically, we did do the deed, but since it had been three years since the one time I last got down and dirty, I'm fairly certain I was terrible. Actually kinda had trouble maintaining an erection, neither of us ended up orgasming, though. She was very reassuring, but I feel like a complete tool and also like there might be something wrong with me. Shit sucks.[/QUOTE] There is nothing wrong about that. Only normal.

My friends keep saying I shouldn't ask people that I don't know (basically girls that arn't really my friends) Generally I ask girls that I know a little bit and that I talk to here and there, but should I try becoming friends first or should I make my intentions clear from the start? I've always learned that the best relationships are start not from friendships.

[QUOTE=BLOB Fish Dude;35858352]My friends keep saying I shouldn't ask people that I don't know (basically girls that arn't really my friends) Generally I ask girls that I know a little bit and that I talk to here and there, but should I try becoming friends first or should I make my intentions clear from the start? I've always learned that the best relationships are start not from friendships.[/QUOTE] Unless you want to be 'Friendzoned' (Not date-able), I would recommend asking girls who you know, but dont normally talk to. Thats just my experience however, this may not be true

[QUOTE=areolop;35858401]Unless you want to be 'Friendzoned' (Not date-able), I would recommend asking girls who you know, but dont normally talk to. Thats just my experience however, this may not be true[/QUOTE] Basically I do that. Its not like I'm going to ask somebody who I've never even talked to before.

[QUOTE=Amerigo;35858104]Fission mailed. Technically, we did do the deed, but since it had been three years since the one time I last got down and dirty, I'm fairly certain I was terrible. Actually kinda had trouble maintaining an erection, neither of us ended up orgasming, though. She was very reassuring, but I feel like a complete tool and also like there might be something wrong with me. Shit sucks.[/QUOTE] Sounds about right to me. It gets better with practice. [QUOTE=BLOB Fish Dude;35858352]My friends keep saying I shouldn't ask people that I don't know (basically girls that arn't really my friends) Generally I ask girls that I know a little bit and that I talk to here and there, but should I try becoming friends first or should I make my intentions clear from the start? I've always learned that the best relationships are start not from friendships.[/QUOTE] Haha I ended up dating girls I didn't know all the time. I once saw a hot girl across the room with a deck of cards, so I sat down across the table from her and asked if she wanted to play. I don't know shit about card games lol, but that didn't matter. After a few games I asked her if she wanted to go get some pizza. She said I had to win the next game... did I mention I'm horrible at card games? I lost hard. I told her I was disappointed because I was really looking forward to spending some more time with her... so she decided to go anyway. Start by being bold, and if things go well don't be afraid to be a little more honest. Just don't stare into the poor girl's eyes and say "Your eyes are so beautiful..." because that's generally creepy. Keep things simple and subtle. You can get into the mushy stuff once they trust you a little more.

[QUOTE=BLOB Fish Dude;35858422]Basically I do that. Its not like I'm going to ask somebody who I've never even talked to before.[/QUOTE] Yeah, that is also really awkward and works really bad. For instance if you just ask a random girl ont he street, I did that a few times :v: but only because there were no real repercussions because they were total strangers. It can actually be a lot of fun! When I think about my girlfriends, they were always a friend of a friend of mine. Usually when I hung out with some friends, that particular girl was there but I did not know here to well. After a while we started dating.

[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35854031]no, there is completely a point in getting angry at them. people are shaped by two things: their genetics and their environment. perhaps you expressing your anger with them and even stopping talking to them will help them to not make the same mistake in the future and hurting someone else. that's the entire reason for disciplinary actions for anything in life.[/QUOTE] If you are trying to win this and not understand, then by all means you shall have victory. I will assume you find the logic of "not sleeping with your friends girlfriends" is sound. For most people, You might even say it's common sense? If my assumption is correct, then enforcing disciplinary actions is absurd; it's already common sense. So by "disciplinary actions" you actually make yourself comfortable and not correcting them - you allow yourself to criticize their behavior and somewhat control it, because it makes you feel better. There's no actual need to do that (discipline them) because as I have said (and you, I suppose?), it is common sense. Further more, disciplinary actions, even though I related to that, is irrelevant; you are not their teacher, not their father, not their mother, not their priest nor god himself. You can't discipline anybody, especially when you have decided that anger is a reliable tool when you say "disciplinary actions". If you really want to make a change, the thing you should do is accept what had happened and that is what I have said and am saying right now. Your mind is resisting this change, this chance of someone doing this to you or the people around you, as if you could control it. I have put human nature into the matter to emphasize, as I have said, why getting angry is absurd and not useful in any form, shape or way and not why you should accept this behavior.

[QUOTE=Amerigo;35858104]Fission mailed. Technically, we did do the deed, but since it had been three years since the one time I last got down and dirty, I'm fairly certain I was terrible. Actually kinda had trouble maintaining an erection, neither of us ended up orgasming, though. She was very reassuring, but I feel like a complete tool and also like there might be something wrong with me. Shit sucks.[/QUOTE] Go back a few times, turned out I was doing it all wrong too. Everybody does.

[QUOTE=cyclocius;35863533]Go back a few times, turned out I was doing it all wrong too. Everybody does.[/QUOTE] Okay, that's sorta what I expected. We talked it out, and she knew what she was getting into with me, and I explained that I was just nervous, and that as I got more comfortable with sex and all that, it would get better. Good to know that's just how it goes.

I need to talk about this or i'll explode of laugh. So a classmate of mine meet this girl, the problem is that he meet her in game, a fuckin browser game called Grepolis. She's like 14 or something and he's almost 20. It gets better, he's every time saying that he have sex with her all the freaking time -the first sexual intercourse he'd.

[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35789073]alright, uh, well let me stop you for a second there. you're a senior. let's assume you're 18. you're gonna be out of high school this is summer. you're gonna fuck a freshman? she's 14 or 15. that's kinda fucked. i mean, people do it, but just don't be that guy. nobody likes the senior (or in your case, high school graduate) who has sex with 15 year old children plus, it just means you're that desperate[/QUOTE] I'm 18 and my girlfriend's 15, is it that big of a problem? When i was 16 i dated a 21 year old girl for almost a year and it went fine until our means of being together (her honda CBR600) stopped working (it broke down massively). It really depends on each individual person, some are more mature, others are less. I've dated and met many more who are at my age and are nowhere near as serious and developed mentally as my current girlfriend. What exactly does it mean to be that guy

[QUOTE=Yahnich;35867037]going by what i understood i only have one thing to say contact the fucking authorities[/QUOTE] They are both happy, i will not ruin that. Also, it could be the only chick he can get.

to what extent is it acceptable then?

[QUOTE=mfb412;35867118]I'm 18 and my girlfriend's 15, is it that big of a problem? When i was 16 i dated a 21 year old girl for almost a year and it went fine until our means of being together (her honda CBR600) stopped working (it broke down massively). It really depends on each individual person, some are more mature, others are less. I've dated and met many more who are at my age and are nowhere near as serious and developed mentally as my current girlfriend. What exactly does it mean to be that guy[/QUOTE] no, maturity isn't something someone can just have, you're talking about an entirely different kind of maturity and saying that because she can act serious when it's time to act serious, she's mature. at 15 years old, a human being is at a certain stage of physiological development, and it is not at all the same stage as that of an 18 year-old. saying she's mature because you feel that she acts mature doesn't change the fact that no matter how old she can seem for her age, she isn't there. her brain, and thus her thought process, her capability to make decisions and interpret what she's seeing, is not the same as yours. in too many relationships like that, someone ends up getting taken advantage of, and it isn't always intentional. i'm not saying you're taking advantage of her, but then again, you could be without knowing it. she doesn't make decisions or read emotions the same way you do. that's why i think it's almost objectively wrong for there to be relationship with that gap. it's more than just a social stigma. [editline]7th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=asantos3;35867252]They are both happy, i will not ruin that. Also, it could be the only chick he can get.[/QUOTE] she's not gonna be happy in four years when she's really dating and has to live with the fact that she was having sex with a 20 year-old at 14. she's almost guaranteed to end up hating herself for that.

My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex. This will be my first time. We decided this weeks ago, but we go to separate colleges, so we're waiting 'til school is over. So this week. I get the necessary supplies, and I'm kinda psyched, to be honest. It's going to be great to be able to show our love for each other. And then.... I get a text. "Oh.... by the way.... my period just started."

[QUOTE=Estolle93;35869866]My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex. This will be my first time. We decided this weeks ago, but we go to separate colleges, so we're waiting 'til school is over. So this week. I get the necessary supplies, and I'm kinda psyched, to be honest. It's going to be great to be able to show our love for each other. And then.... I get a text. "Oh.... by the way.... my period just started."[/QUOTE] Same thing happened to me on our first time, but I think we had to reschedule 4 times before we finally did it.

[QUOTE=Estolle93;35869866]My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex. This will be my first time. We decided this weeks ago, but we go to separate colleges, so we're waiting 'til school is over. So this week. I get the necessary supplies, and I'm kinda psyched, to be honest. It's going to be great to be able to show our love for each other. And then.... I get a text. "Oh.... by the way.... my period just started."[/QUOTE] Real men go for the red rusty goodness. (at least one FPer did that)

So my ex keeps texting me and now were talking after a few months of no contact. She keeps dropping these obvious hints that she wants to get back together. what the fuck woman I thought you hated me I have a girlfriend seriously women are fucked up in the head

[QUOTE=Estolle93;35869866]My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex. This will be my first time. We decided this weeks ago, but we go to separate colleges, so we're waiting 'til school is over. So this week. I get the necessary supplies, and I'm kinda psyched, to be honest. It's going to be great to be able to show our love for each other. And then.... I get a text. "Oh.... by the way.... my period just started."[/QUOTE]It's not that bad with a period, just make sure you don't make a bloody mess. It will feel better for her too.

It might not be as bad, but it surely is not the best scenario for the first time. If you want to have everything alright and such.

[QUOTE=timman;35870055]Real men go for the red rusty goodness. (at least one FPer did that)[/QUOTE] Messy. Not worth the mess. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=highvoltage;35869990]Same thing happened to me on our first time, but I think we had to reschedule 4 times before we finally did it.[/QUOTE] Damn, you people make it sound so formal... do you have some kind of sex diary or something? "Well I can do next Tuesday evening... but only after 7pm..." As long as you actually have the supplies to hand being spontaneous about it is so much better. Especially for your first time, you don't have time to get anxious about it.

Hey, people have tight (lol) schedules, sometimes it can't be helped. Also, people make the first time out to be this huge thing that's supposed to be all romantic and honestly, it's not what it's cracked up to be when you plan things so meticulously. Some of the most romantic moments I've ever experienced haven't had an ounce of planning to them.

[QUOTE=metallics;35871502]Damn, you people make it sound so formal... do you have some kind of sex diary or something? "Well I can do next Tuesday evening... but only after 7pm..." As long as you actually have the supplies to hand being spontaneous about it is so much better. Especially for your first time, you don't have time to get anxious about it.[/QUOTE] I fully agree, spontaneous is so much better. I had my first time during full daylight at midday in my room which was a total desaster and mess. There was barly place on my bed because I had no time to clean up my place. I simply undressed her and we did it, without speaking of doing it. It was great. Besides I cannot plan it ahead, i would die of nervousity.

[QUOTE=mfb412;35867118]I'm 18 and my girlfriend's 15, is it that big of a problem? [B]When i was 16 i dated a 21 year old girl for almost a year and it went fine until our means of being together (her honda CBR600) stopped working[/B] (it broke down massively). It really depends on each individual person, some are more mature, others are less. I've dated and met many more who are at my age and are nowhere near as serious and developed mentally as my current girlfriend. What exactly does it mean to be that guy[/QUOTE] Hahahahaha sorry I don't want to be a dick about this but your oh so mature and serious relationship lasted "almost a year" and only ended because a fucking car broke down. No wonder you're dating a 15 year old, you still think like one.

I feel poor for the girl, usually younger girls date older guys but not the reverse. Well there are exceptions :v: apparently.

[QUOTE=metallics;35871502]Messy. Not worth the mess. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] Damn, you people make it sound so formal... do you have some kind of sex diary or something? "Well I can do next Tuesday evening... but only after 7pm..." As long as you actually have the supplies to hand being spontaneous about it is so much better. Especially for your first time, you don't have time to get anxious about it.[/QUOTE] It was back before I could drive so I had to rely on my parents being willing to drive me to get her. My parents like to make last minute plans with family over my plans and I can't get out of them.

:v: My parents never drove me anywhere, therefore I hate public transportation. I have my driving liscence now but I do not have a car and my parents never lent me their car.

[QUOTE=Estolle93;35869866]My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex. This will be my first time. We decided this weeks ago, but we go to separate colleges, so we're waiting 'til school is over. So this week. I get the necessary supplies, and I'm kinda psyched, to be honest. It's going to be great to be able to show our love for each other. And then.... I get a text. "Oh.... by the way.... my period just started."[/QUOTE] A bit of blood never hurt anyone. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] Actually when I first told my girl I wanted to poke her she said it was bad timing, she had just come on. You can wait a few days right. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] And yeah planning sex is never a good idea. It's more fun to just happen, I think I've probably only asked if she wants to shag a few times. At the same time I've only ever asked for a blowjob once.

So I just found out that my girlfriend.. has also spent evenings reading and looking at pictures of Chernobyl and the Pripyat area. I think my jaw went through the fucking floor.