[QUOTE=Tennisball;34304710]Don't try and plan out the conversation too much.[/QUOTE]
Every time I've ever planned a conversation or things to say it's just gone to shit instantly lol.
Update. I asked her to text each other and she sai okay. but later i find out my friend told her I wanted to hit on her. Which I suspect is the reason she gave me her number, out of pity. All she texted me was hi and i texted hi what's up back. I think she doesn't like me and only texted me out of pity. She hasn't texted me all day except for the hi.
[QUOTE=Region;34315754]Update. I asked her to text each other and she sai okay. but later i find out my friend told her I wanted to hit on her. Which I suspect is the reason she gave me her number, out of pity. All she texted me was hi and i texted hi what's up back. I think she doesn't like me and only texted me out of pity. She hasn't texted me all day except for the hi.[/QUOTE]
on the bright side, you still got her number
baby steps man
go beat the shit out of your mate for being a loud mouth or tell everyone he's gay and tried to.come onto you.
[QUOTE=Godline;34316406]go beat the shit out of your mate for being a loud mouth or tell everyone he's gay and tried to.come onto you.[/QUOTE]
I don't know.. He might have actually helped me. Because after he told her, she said she didn't act weird. And she still took my number and texted me hi. But idk. I'm not the best looking guy so she might have done it outta pity
pity bullshit my ass she was just being sociable there is no harm in saying hi to anybody.
try it next time your walking down a corridor and someone catches your eye even if its just a guy who you see in the same spot each week. she expected to get your number or w/e how it worked . don't take all this shit to serious.
[QUOTE=Evilan;34312936]I've never heard of a super super senior before.[/QUOTE]
We just have Primary school then High school. So, 1st year is 12/13 years old and 6th year is 17/18 years old.
I got this girl to use me as a jealousy ploy and suck my dick after buying me food at taco bell, i got a good fucking deal.
If any girl wants to use you as a jealousy ploy i suggest you go along with it cause blowjobs are fucking great
[QUOTE=Godline;34316596]pity bullshit my ass she was just being sociable there is no harm in saying hi to anybody.
try it next time your walking down a corridor and someone catches your eye even if its just a guy who you see in the same spot each week. she expected to get your number or w/e how it worked . don't take all this shit to serious.[/QUOTE]
Alright. So so far i'm doing good? even though she's not textin?
And I don't know if this helps anyone, but I clubbed with a friend for a solid 2 months straight, and his attitude towards girls was basically being a dick, and not giving a fuck.
Somehow, it worked for him.
I tried it, and wtf, it works. Its not like being a dick dick, but being a kind of cocky dick, i don't know how to explain it. Basically dont give a shit what the girl thinks, say whatever is on your mind, and go through with it.
For instance i saw a girl at a party, and she bent over and picked something up, i said quite loud "Damn, id smash the hell out of that ass" and when she looked at me i was smiling and winked at her, i ended up motorboating her in front of the entire party and got her to cheat on her boyfriend
[editline]20th January 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Region;34316839]Alright. So so far i'm doing good? even though she's not textin?[/QUOTE]
In my experience, there are two types of not texting back.
She may genuinely be a bad texter, its possible, there are a small small majorty of girls that have this problem.
Otherwise, she is just not trying to lead you on and not replying. I mean i do that with some girls, they will text me, and ill just use short answers so they stfu and stop texting
[QUOTE=Septimas;34316877]And I don't know if this helps anyone, but I clubbed with a friend for a solid 2 months straight, and his attitude towards girls was basically being a dick, and not giving a fuck.
Somehow, it worked for him.
I tried it, and wtf, it works. Its not like being a dick dick, but being a kind of cocky dick, i don't know how to explain it. Basically dont give a shit what the girl thinks, say whatever is on your mind, and go through with it.
For instance i saw a girl at a party, and she bent over and picked something up, i said quite loud "Damn, id smash the hell out of that ass" and when she looked at me i was smiling and winked at her, i ended up motorboating her in front of the entire party and got her to cheat on her boyfriend
[editline]20th January 2012[/editline]
In my experience, there are two types of not texting back.
She may genuinely be a bad texter, its possible, there are a small small majorty of girls that have this problem.
Otherwise, she is just not trying to lead you on and not replying. I mean i do that with some girls, they will text me, and ill just use short answers so they stfu and stop texting[/QUOTE]
Fuck.. Well i guess she's not that interested. In my PE class, all she does it text.
Damn :(
[QUOTE=Region;34303715]Oh and for this:
"Hey can i have your number? You're really cute and i'd like to get to know you..."
If i only met her once in a previous awkward ass conversation i mentioned earlier. wouldn't i sound kinda desperate and even more beta?[/QUOTE]
Dont ever ask for her number.
Thats implying that she can say no, Tell her to give you her number.
Walk up, start a random convo, and in the middle of it just say something like, Oh, i dont have your number. Give it to me
[editline]20th January 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Region;34316918]Fuck.. Well i guess she's not that interested. In my PE class, all she does it text.
Damn :([/QUOTE]
Dont stress it brother, bitches are bitches. Hit on her friends and dont even designate her with a response if she texts you, if you single out all her friends and leave her alone she has a good chance of getting jealous and trying to text you and get a rise
If you treat a girl like shes too much of a piece of shit for you, shes going to go after you
You ever do that?? Know a girl thats way out of your league but you cant stop "liking her"?? You gotta be that guy, thats out of her league
[QUOTE=Septimas;34316921]Dont ever ask for her number.
Thats implying that she can say no, Tell her to give you her number.
Walk up, start a random convo, and in the middle of it just say something like, Oh, i dont have your number. Give it to me
[editline]20th January 2012[/editline]
Dont stress it brother, bitches are bitches. Hit on her friends and dont even designate her with a response if she texts you, if you single out all her friends and leave her alone she has a good chance of getting jealous and trying to text you and get a rise
If you treat a girl like shes too much of a piece of shit for you, shes going to go after you
You ever do that?? Know a girl thats way out of your league but you cant stop "liking her"?? You gotta be that guy, thats out of her league[/QUOTE]
Well at least i stepped up.
It was the first time i ever talked with a girl about something like that.
[QUOTE=Region;34316839]Alright. So so far i'm doing good? even though she's not textin?[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't say your are doing good your just being sociable you had her number you said hi that's it. if you want to make "progress" what ever people call it you need to speak to a person to their face. Doesn't matter about all that bullshit about being confident and not hiding behind your mobile. this girl could be a Fucking psycho. She could make any shit up about you Ohh x sent me a creepyy text etc.etc you understand. all you know at the moment is that she's good looking and she.can't hold a conversation via sms with you. Go say hello to her or stop wasting your credit. if you need sound advice post in this thread I'm banned from the other for treating people like mugs. You don't want to be an anti social mug right?
[editline]21st January 2012[/editline]
btw fuck grammar I'm on a phone and can't sleep though this.Fucking bright screen isn't helping.
[QUOTE=Godline;34317075]I wouldn't say your are doing good your just being sociable you had her number you said hi that's it. if you want to make "progress" what ever people call it you need to speak to a person to their face. Doesn't matter about all that bullshit about being confident and not hiding behind your mobile. this girl could be a Fucking psycho. She could make any shit up about you Ohh x sent me a creepyy text etc.etc you understand. all you know at the moment is that she's good looking and she.can't hold a conversation via sms with you. Go say hello to her or stop wasting your credit. if you need sound advice post in this thread I'm banned from the other for treating people like mugs. You don't want to be an anti social mug right?[/QUOTE]
Well that's the thing. you guys gave me soo much tips on how to talk to a girl face to face, convo starters, etc but i just can't without first getting to know her through text first. I need to man up. I just can't start a convo without sounding like a creeper.
[QUOTE=Region;34317011]Well at least i stepped up.
It was the first time i ever talked with a girl about something like that.[/QUOTE]
Be confident man, Dont care what happens.
My life motto right now is whatever happens happens, if i get rejected, i get rejected, its not bad lol. Its not like getting rejected is going to shoot my dick inside my asshole, its just a simple no. Move on.
Now if you get accepted...(;
pussy
[QUOTE=Region;34317098]Well that's the thing. you guys gave me soo much tips on how to talk to a girl face to face, convo starters, etc but i just can't without first getting to know her through text first. I need to man up. I just can't start a convo without sounding like a creeper.[/QUOTE]
The fuck.is.wrong with you.sounding like a creeper Wtf. ok starting Monday try this leave your mobile turned off just for one week anyone punk asks just say you dropped it and its in for repair. it will force you to talk to people you normally text face to face. if anyone needs you just give them your house number and tell them to phone you.
[QUOTE=Godline;34317198]The fuck.is.wrong with you.sounding like a creeper Wtf. ok starting Monday try this leave your mobile turned off just for one week anyone punk asks just say you dropped it and its in for repair. it will force you to talk to people you normally text face to face. if anyone needs you just give them your house number and tell them to phone you.[/QUOTE]
Dude i never ever text. Im usually in a group of 7 that i always hang out with, and not 7 nerds, we all work out. I'm the funniest guy in the group, according to everyone. It's just talking to a girl what kinda gets me. Im ugly as fuck, and some of you are gonna say "aww naaah you're not ugly" but i'm pretty damn ugly.. So talking to girls without having any confidence at all is fucking scary
[QUOTE=Region;34317241]Dude i never ever text. Im usually in a group of 7 that i always hang out with, and not 7 nerds, we all work out. I'm the funniest guy in the group, according to everyone. It's just talking to a girl what kinda gets me. Im ugly as fuck, and some of you are gonna say "aww naaah you're not ugly" but i'm pretty damn ugly.. So talking to girls without having any confidence at all is fucking scary[/QUOTE]
Work out man.
Work out and get a bunch of pussy, and your confidence goes through the roof.
If you also have any mma places and are interested, join them and practice hard. For some reason knowing you can beat someones ass helps with confidence in general life.
Who cares if its awwkard, just talk to her. Talk to her about WHATEVER goes through your head. Hell ask her what her favorite fruit is, then go from there into smoothies, shit like that, progress a conversation.
Start with doing it with random people, register ladies, cashiers, shit like that
[QUOTE=Septimas;34317274]Work out man.
Work out and get a bunch of pussy, and your confidence goes through the roof.
If you also have any mma places and are interested, join them and practice hard. For some reason knowing you can beat someones ass helps with confidence in general life.
Who cares if its awwkard, just talk to her. Talk to her about WHATEVER goes through your head. Hell ask her what her favorite fruit is, then go from there into smoothies, shit like that, progress a conversation.
Start with doing it with random people, register ladies, cashiers, shit like that[/QUOTE]
I wrestle too. And i will try talking to girls more. I Fucking suck at that.
your treating this like its A job interview wake the fuck up what happens if you get a job and a co worker asks you to come the bar after for beers? you gona reply sorry chick I only socialise through sms medium with females. give me a Fucking break. This isn't confidence this is just being socially retarded look for a councillor if you feel you have to.
Hmm.. Well tommorow's weekend. And to be honest, all she said was Hi, and i said Hi back And i didn't text her from there. So i'm not giving up yet. I'l try to text her tommorow, no response = no interested. Why did she give me her number if she wasn't at least a bit interested?
Girls do that sometimes, it isn't a big deal and it definitely isn't anywhere near as big of a deal as you're making it out to be. Just fucking relax dude, that's the first and biggest mistake you've made and continuing to make. You're overthinking the fuck out of everything and blowing it all way out of proportion. She is just ANY OTHER GIRL, you don't know a thing about her and have no reason at all to be worried if you've 'blown your chances' or not, because that right there is exactly what will lead you to blowing your chances.
Don't text her for a while, you need to get your head straight. Actually take the time to internalize what's being said to you here and over the last few pages. Go read the other OP and actually understand what it means to be self-assured, confident and independent of any and all outcomes. No matter what happens, you will learn from it and be more equipped to deal with a similar situation in the future. Once you start ingraining this frame into all of your interactions, you will stop caring how or where they go. Just RELAX.
And seriously, if fat guys can pull attractive women then you can too; it's called confidence, and it is by and large the most important thing any guy could have if he wants to be considered attractive. Having the hottest body in the world means nothing if you're an awkward shit that can't even talk to someone face to face.
And read this, it's long but whatever, it's something I wrote in a thread a while ago and all the same things could be said to you:
[quote]You're in your first year of high school. You have a relatively fresh slate to work with, you're in a pretty great position. Moreso, if you do fuck up, nobody will even remember by the time you get into the senior years when social reputation and all that bullshit actually becomes somewhat important (really it isn't important at all as long as you're being confident in who you are and happy in what you're doing, but it certainly helps).
Trust me, I was a massive twat years 7 through 10, I was the most negative and bitter person in the entire grade, people only knew me as the guy that hated everyone and everything, and I'm honestly not even exaggerating. I came out of that shit in year 11 and now I'm in my final year and people don't even think twice about the person I used to be. Don't worry about the 'repercussions' of fucking up, it's all fleeting, but most importantly it is all experience. ALL failure is feedback. I wish I could have been as lucky as you are now, having been told this advice as you're starting high school rather then 3-4 years later.
Go talk to the girl you like. As outlined in the pasted post above, you can ask her about a whole range of shit and quickly get to know her. Just start with as something as simple as "Hey! I'm just going around getting to know people, I'm ______" with a smile, and take it from there. Girls like being talked to, they don't like being watched from afar as if they're some sort of prey. Just get in there, be friendly, be confident, and stop giving a shit about the outcome. I promise you, this girl will become just another girl to you much quicker than you probably think, don't get so caught up and worried about if it doesn't go well or if she thinks you're a creep (she won't) or whatever. Remember, it is all experience. If it goes well, then bang, nice one. If it doesn't, then you will take away something from it every single time, continually refining and improving yourself until you're able to go up and talk to anyone you want by second nature.
As has been stated, it's really important to hold yourself comfortably and confidently. Not everyone agrees with the 'fake it till you make it' approach to gaining confidence, but I can testify that I was once a very quiet, closed and miserable individual that couldn't look anyone in the eye and walked around with a slouched back, but over time found confidence in myself and many aspects of my own personality primarily from just starting to act confident. I started by watching my posture, having to constantly remind myself to pull my head back up and to stick my chest out (not excessively, you don't want to look retarded, but generally your chest should be ahead of your face and your spine should be straight). Gradually, the reminders in my head became less and less frequent until they left completely and it just became natural to walk around properly. Now that's only one small aspect of looking and feeling confident, but that personally was a big thing for me. Walking around with a puffed out chest and a straight back by no means translates directly to confidence. However, people will receive you a lot better if you are displaying positive body language like this, and you'll find talking to people will go much smoother. That is why the faking it approach works, because the 'fake confidence' will be met by positivity, which will inevitably increase your actual self-confidence which will quickly replace the 'act' you were putting on previously.
Another thing was I found impossibly challenging was eye contact. This is another crucial thing for effective communication, the eyes say a lot more than the mouth does. Just in case you have trouble with this as well: literally just force yourself to look at the person you're talking to, even if you're staring at their nose or lips or eyebrows (or a cycle of all three). Again, over time it'll become more and more natural and you will learn how to read the other person's eyes whilst simultaneously communicating with your own, which will greatly improve all of your social interactions with females and males alike.
So yeah to conclude (waffled the fuck on like always >__>) , just start putting yourself out there and gaining all the experience that is right at your fingertips. Put yourself on the line, start building confidence in yourself, hold yourself up and utilize positive body language, and just go talk to people and get to know them.
You really have nothing to lose and so, so much to gain. Not everything will go completely perfectly and smoothly, you'll probably fuck up more times than you don't, but as long as you're able to consistently see all of the failures as lessons, you will be constantly improving and becoming closer and closer to the person you want to be.
SO YEAH BACK TO MY PILE OF ASSESSMENTS.[/quote]
I've been through fucking hell and back. Fuck it, having a girlfriend doesn't turn out what I thought it was to be.
I have been through the worst fucking emotional whirlwind in my entire fucking life. It's horrible. It's been wonderful, horrible, confusing, angering, and depressing, it's just a huge buttfuck smoothie of shit in a fucking cup. I feel like I'm going insane.
I don't really want to get into why - but while having a girlfriend is fun and wonderful -- HAVING ONE FUCKING SUCKS.
I haven't really been able to get any sleep either, I can't fucking see in my peripherals. I'm fucking restless.
If you're not happy with her then leave and figure your own shit out first. If a relationship isn't making you feel as fulfilled and as happy as you want it to, then it's time to reconsider your priorities. It sounds like you were expecting more from a girlfriend than what you ended up getting.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34319809]If you're not happy with her then leave and figure your own shit out first. If a relationship isn't making you feel as fulfilled and as happy as you want it to, then it's time to reconsider your priorities. It sounds like you were expecting more from a girlfriend than what you ended up getting.[/QUOTE]
I didn't expect "titz and big ass 24/777777777777"
I got much less then the standards even I had set which were the average standards. I'm really too embarassed to say what went on when we actually started liking each other -- Nothing sexual, but it just sounds fucking retarded.
[QUOTE=Region;34317241]Dude i never ever text. Im usually in a group of 7 that i always hang out with, and not 7 nerds, we all work out. I'm the funniest guy in the group, according to everyone. It's just talking to a girl what kinda gets me. Im ugly as fuck, and some of you are gonna say "aww naaah you're not ugly" but i'm pretty damn ugly.. So talking to girls without having any confidence at all is fucking scary[/QUOTE]
I'll break a barbell on your head. This simplistic, "I'm ugly" mindset is why the world is so boring. It's what you broadcast, from the inside that effects the outside.
Be the man you love to be, don't be afraid to be great. It's not like there's a set rule for people who can be great.
[QUOTE=AlexGT;34319786]I've been through fucking hell and back. Fuck it, having a girlfriend doesn't turn out what I thought it was to be.
I have been through the worst fucking emotional whirlwind in my entire fucking life. It's horrible. It's been wonderful, horrible, confusing, angering, and depressing, it's just a huge buttfuck smoothie of shit in a fucking cup. I feel like I'm going insane.
I don't really want to get into why - but while having a girlfriend is fun and wonderful -- HAVING ONE FUCKING SUCKS.
I haven't really been able to get any sleep either, I can't fucking see in my peripherals. I'm fucking restless.[/QUOTE]
Like Dark_Light said, figure out your own shit first and get your head straight. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me? I know that sometimes there are things in a relationship that aren't too pleasant. But the way you described it makes it sound like you hate being in a relationship with this girl, but still are just for the sake of 'having a girlfriend'. No offense dude, just my thoughts.
I've been together with my gf for almost a year and I've never ever felt like that. There are bad times but the good times come off a fucking thousand times better.
[QUOTE=AlexGT;34319861]I didn't expect "titz and big ass 24/777777777777"
I got much less then the standards even I had set which were the average standards. I'm really too embarassed to say what went on when we actually started liking each other -- Nothing sexual, but it just sounds fucking retarded.[/QUOTE]
It sounds like you've wanted sexual and she gave you zilch. Tell her what you want or tell her to fuck off.
:o she texted me back saying sup when i said hi.
There's still a chance i guess
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