I get to stay with my girl for the weekend at her place. I haven't seen her in about a month or two (besides skype -_-) because i've been away at school. So excited :D
[QUOTE=Wickerman123;36009411]I'm not happy about saying that. I know I've fucked up, I know how to fix things, but everything's easier said than done. It's too long a story to explain and depression is a vicious circle. I admit I did self harm, if said girls mum hadn't contacted my parents 2 weeks ago early in the morning, I wouldn't be here.
I never faced up to the fact I needed to see a doctor, I just procrastinated. Off topic but seriously, the best thing anyone can do is talk.[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry it had come to that. Hopefully, you'll find your place soon enough. We all have one in the world.
It fucking frustrates me that parents can't trust me enough to let my girlfriend stay the night
So I think I have a girlfriend.
What do I do now?
none of us have ever got that far dude
you're on your own
[QUOTE=Lexinator;36013886]It fucking frustrates me that parents can't trust me enough to let my girlfriend stay the night[/QUOTE]
How long have you been together? It was 4 months before me and my girlfriend stayed over at each others.
[QUOTE=Hamburgers;36014015]none of us have ever got that far dude
you're on your own[/QUOTE]
I panicked and slapped her, is that an appropriate response?
Jokes aside, I don't have any fucking clue about how this is supposed to work. It feels nice, though. Also, we made out in four different countries a few days ago. I feel a little bad for thinking so, but it feels like I won something that day.
[QUOTE=A Noobcake;36013945]So I think I have a girlfriend.
What do I do now?[/QUOTE]
Surprise butt sex.
[QUOTE=A Noobcake;36014951]I panicked and slapped her, is that an appropriate response?
Jokes aside, I don't have any fucking clue about how this is supposed to work. It feels nice, though. Also, we made out in four different countries a few days ago. I feel a little bad for thinking so, but it feels like I won something that day.[/QUOTE]
As I've said before in this thread, there isn't any solid set of rules about "how it works", just wing it and hope like the rest of us!
[QUOTE=Lexinator;36013886]It fucking frustrates me that parents can't trust me enough to let my girlfriend stay the night[/QUOTE]
Deal with it.
If you're living in their house, you unfortunately have to play by their rules.
[QUOTE=A Noobcake;36014951]I panicked and slapped her, is that an appropriate response?
Jokes aside, I don't have any fucking clue about how this is supposed to work. It feels nice, though. Also, we made out in four different countries a few days ago. I feel a little bad for thinking so, but it feels like I won something that day.[/QUOTE]
Just be a boyfriend, like in those films
[QUOTE=A Noobcake;36014951]I panicked and slapped her, is that an appropriate response?
Jokes aside, I don't have any fucking clue about how this is supposed to work. It feels nice, though. Also, we made out in four different countries a few days ago. I feel a little bad for thinking so, but it feels like I won something that day.[/QUOTE]
There's not any way things work. Things just flow, you know?
[QUOTE=DarkendSky;36017199]There's not any way things work. Things just flow, you know?[/QUOTE]
Its kinda like we're all puzzle pieces, but the puzzle is so big that there's a couple spots you could fit into
[QUOTE=Hamburgers;36017165]Just be a boyfriend, like in those films[/QUOTE]
But I never watched those films... Unless you're talking about Die Hard.
My girlfriend has a huge crush on this vocalist for her favorite band. It's a local band. And he talks to her and actually hit her up before she knew his name, but still when it was her favorite band. So now apparently she is having divisive thoughts us. I almost want to go tell the guy to stop flirting with her and making plans that involve beaches and tents, or to point out to her that he's like eight years older than her and that her parents wouldn't allow it and that it's weird and all that. But those aren't really the issue and I know it. It would be dumb to bring them up because the issue is just that she likes him more than me, or so it seems at the moment, and it doesn't matter what the realism of their thing is; it just matters how she feels about me.
She's said something about how she'd want to live with me and all that, but that, because I was her first lots-of-things, she never really tried other people and that even though she likes me a lot and what-not, she feels like she shouldn't be so sure. So she wants to go date other people maybe, and then come back maybe.
This is dumb. There would be no coming back. Not because I'm being dramatic, but because I'm not going to sit around and wait for her to go fuck a bunch of guys and play around with some creepy older dude then come back to me in a couple years or whatever. I don't have plans to live with her. I pretty much stick to the present, and I like her bunches and bunches. So there would be no reunion or whatever.
We're going to talk it over in the park. If she's only still with me because she doesn't want to hurt my feelings, then this is done with. If she's just attracted to other people as well, that's fine. Not that I'll put it like that. We're just going to talk and see how we stand. I'd prefer this not be a breakup, but if she's not as into me as she is into someone else, then why would we be together?
[editline]19th May 2012[/editline]
Venting feels good. Kinda guilty too, because now I feel like an over-emotion silly-man. Well, if I'm upset enough to post again, it will likely be because of a breakup, and if I don't, it's probably because it got sorted out and I'm happy enough to not need to post.
that's a really mature stance to take, I had a guy be all "man i'm gonna fuk you up with my crew" for his girlfriend approaching and flirting with me and i'm like bro that doesn't solve the issue here
My girlfriend of 16 months and I have to go our separate ways now. I'm graduating in a few and she is a junior. We wouldn't see each other much, and we would be in two totally environments. It's mutual, so no hard feelings on either side, but she was my first "for real, serious" girlfriend, so it is still pretty wounding :(
Anyone else been in this situation?
Can anyone else really not be fucked with a gf? I'm pretty content just doing the work i love to do, playing guitar and hanging out with good friends.
I'm content just waiting for something to happen. Love/sex have never really been at drive for me.
[QUOTE=Occlusion;36020619]Can anyone else really not be fucked with a gf? I'm pretty content just doing the work i love to do, playing guitar and hanging out with good friends.
I'm content just waiting for something to happen. Love/sex have never really been at drive for me.[/QUOTE]
i think that's actually healthier than the opposite.
I've been so lonely of late :(
[QUOTE=Coppermoss;36020557]My girlfriend of 16 months and I have to go our separate ways now. I'm graduating in a few and she is a junior. We wouldn't see each other much, and we would be in two totally environments. It's mutual, so no hard feelings on either side, but she was my first "for real, serious" girlfriend, so it is still pretty wounding :(
Anyone else been in this situation?[/QUOTE]
I read this quickly and for a second I thought that your girlfriend is 16 months :I
Ordering my girlfriend's last birthday gift for next week. When I hinted at it she replied with "There's more than one? :D"
Guess I'm doing something right.
[QUOTE=Dominic0904;36022021]Ordering my girlfriend's last birthday gift for next week. When I hinted at it she replied with "There's more than one? :D"
Guess I'm doing something right.[/QUOTE]
Be mindful of the money spent. That stuff stacks [I]fast.[/I]
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;36020396]My girlfriend has a huge crush on this vocalist for her favorite band. It's a local band. And he talks to her and actually hit her up before she knew his name, but still when it was her favorite band. So now apparently she is having divisive thoughts us. I almost want to go tell the guy to stop flirting with her and making plans that involve beaches and tents, or to point out to her that he's like eight years older than her and that her parents wouldn't allow it and that it's weird and all that. But those aren't really the issue and I know it. It would be dumb to bring them up because the issue is just that she likes him more than me, or so it seems at the moment, and it doesn't matter what the realism of their thing is; it just matters how she feels about me.
She's said something about how she'd want to live with me and all that, but that, because I was her first lots-of-things, she never really tried other people and that even though she likes me a lot and what-not, she feels like she shouldn't be so sure. So she wants to go date other people maybe, and then come back maybe.
This is dumb. There would be no coming back. Not because I'm being dramatic, but because I'm not going to sit around and wait for her to go fuck a bunch of guys and play around with some creepy older dude then come back to me in a couple years or whatever. I don't have plans to live with her. I pretty much stick to the present, and I like her bunches and bunches. So there would be no reunion or whatever.
We're going to talk it over in the park. If she's only still with me because she doesn't want to hurt my feelings, then this is done with. If she's just attracted to other people as well, that's fine. Not that I'll put it like that. We're just going to talk and see how we stand. I'd prefer this not be a breakup, but if she's not as into me as she is into someone else, then why would we be together?
[editline]19th May 2012[/editline]
Venting feels good. Kinda guilty too, because now I feel like an over-emotion silly-man. Well, if I'm upset enough to post again, it will likely be because of a breakup, and if I don't, it's probably because it got sorted out and I'm happy enough to not need to post.[/QUOTE]
this is the best way to handle the situation. i completely feel the same way, just because she's never been with anyone else doesn't meant she can go run around with other guys and come back to you when she's had her fill, that's not at all fair to you. and maybe asking her to only be with you isn't totally fair either, but i would do the same thing; either choose me or have fun with everyone else. no coming back. perhaps it's being emotional, but being emotional isn't always bad. i'd be too jealous, just find someone else.
[QUOTE=thisispain;35999225]how else would i know that it's gross[/QUOTE]
cut their leg off and fuck their artery
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36024240]this is the best way to handle the situation. i completely feel the same way, just because she's never been with anyone else doesn't meant she can go run around with other guys and come back to you when she's had her fill, that's not at all fair to you. and maybe asking her to only be with you isn't totally fair either, but i would do the same thing; either choose me or have fun with everyone else. no coming back. perhaps it's being emotional, but being emotional isn't always bad. i'd be too jealous, just find someone else.[/QUOTE]
She's thinking things over. I have a full day of work and this is going to be loads of fun. It'll either distract me enough that I'm good for the day, or I'll be crying on peoples' sandwiches and my fellow employees will be embarrassed and so will I. I'm pulling for the first one.
The fact that she has to figure out how much of a priority I am to her is kinda telling, but I'd prefer to hope that things work out. Which is naive. She's asking, hypothetically, if we would still be friends after we broke up. I think she's just doing damage control now. I think that, even if she hasn't quite thought it in very tangible terms, she's already decided that we're done, and that she's still thinking only because she doesn't want to hurt me. And being in a relationship that is being dragged out solely because one party cannot admit that they don't want to be with the other person would be awful. We'll give this two more days before I make my own decision just to be done. If it takes her two more days to think about this, then I'm obviously not enough of a priority for it to be clear. And I don't want to be someone's boyfriend simply because I was an inch ahead of the competition. I want to be a clear winner. Otherwise it's just details.
What is stopping you from finishing this, right now?
His feelings for her?
[QUOTE=~ZOMG;36028721]His feelings for her?[/QUOTE]
Are you MindMuncher?
[QUOTE=Seith;36028792]Are you MindMuncher?[/QUOTE]
can't work out if you're having a go at him for contributing to a thread without having a question specifically asked to him
or whether you're having a go at him for trying to assume what someone is thinking (which you do all the time)
either is dumb
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