So here's the deal guys. I'm graduating in a few weeks, and am probably leaving for college after the summer, and yet I just met someone who is off the fucking chain amazing. And I don't know what to do. I want to involve myself with her but I don't want to just cut things off or keep it long distance while I'm away. Should I just say fuck it and go for it, or save myself the troubles?
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;36047359]
Unfortunately thisispain, this does mean no rainbow kiss, but I'm plenty wrong in many other ways that occasionally make her uncomfortable, so I'll do you proud.[/QUOTE]
uh
fuck, am i the fetish ringmaster now?
[QUOTE=TheBigPal;36047819]So here's the deal guys. I'm graduating in a few weeks, and am probably leaving for college after the summer, and yet I just met someone who is off the fucking chain amazing. And I don't know what to do. I want to involve myself with her but I don't want to just cut things off or keep it long distance while I'm away. Should I just say fuck it and go for it, or save myself the troubles?[/QUOTE]
You'll be able to hang out with her all summer, go for it
Met random Japanese bitch at bar, took her out to eat and then cuddle and made out on the seawall. Found out her Dads retired air force (he's Japanese too) so she can get on base. She's studying to be an English teacher , so she can actually speak comprehensible English. God I love Japanese girls.
I misunderstood. She does not have feelings for mister band artist man. She did at one point for a day or so, but that wasn't the deal. It was more of the fact that she thought that she would like a relationship with him, then thought about it and knew that she didn't and that that was silly. For some reason that thought transitioned into her thinking about if she wanted any relationship with anyone. And I suppose she came to the conclusion that she didn't.
She is still attracted to me, and legitimately wants to be my friend because I am her best friend and she'd hate to lose me that way, but doesn't know if she wants to be my girlfriend.
Best friend + physical attraction doesn't necessarily mean boyfriend, but why would she go through the mess of worrying and screwing about like this over what are almost semantics, considering that this feeling is bound to be temporary (and she has admitted that) and would just be a small thing in the relationship normally. Like one of those periods when you're just less into your partner for a bit. Those happen. Right?
Unless I'm being dumb and this thing is a huge deal and she was right to treat it as such.
When we talk though, she still is looking forward to having the summer with me (and I would welcome that as long as she doesn't mean simply as good friends). Neither of us really want to split. But I don't know if she imagines this future where we're together, but only platonically. Because I couldn't do that. I've told her so. Which is maybe a cruel move, because that could make her think (accurately) that we'd only ever see each other if we were still in a relationship, which might make her convince herself that she wants a relationship when she really only wants to still be able to see me. I don't want her to lie to herself and, by extension, to me.
[QUOTE=thisispain;36048394]uh
fuck, am i the fetish ringmaster now?[/QUOTE]
It's like in high-school. If you say that you think a guy looks pretty, then you're instantly full-on gay. Obviously by the fact that you would try fetishes to see if you liked them, you [i]do[/i] like them.
I told my friends about this porno I'd watched recently that was live-action tentacle rape with the rubbery special effects as seen in the old The Thing movie. It was really funny, though I skipped large spans of time since it was two hours long or so. Now they think I was looking up tentacle rape. They don't seem to understand that sometimes you just stumble across stuff on the internet. Happens.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;36049032]It's like in high-school. If you say that you think a guy looks pretty, then you're instantly full-on gay. Obviously by the fact that you would try fetishes to see if you liked them, you [i]do[/i] like them.
I told my friends about this porno I'd watched recently that was live-action tentacle rape with the rubbery special effects as seen in the old The Thing movie. It was really funny, though I skipped large spans of time since it was two hours long or so. Now they think I was looking up tentacle rape. They don't seem to understand that sometimes you just stumble across stuff on the internet. Happens.[/QUOTE]
Don't lie to him dude.
thisispain, you just gotta believe in yourself. You'll be the best darneded fetish ringmaster ever.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36048721]Everytime my mom comes around and my girlfriends over, you know what she just LOVES to talk about?
My shit and everything about it.
She tells my girlfriend when I shit, how it always stops up the toilet, how I don't do it at school and why I hold it at school.
What the hell mom.[/QUOTE]
My mum told my ex about the whole labour process of me being born :/
Lucky for me my ex was a student midwife so it wasn't that much of a shocker. But still, what the hell.
[QUOTE=InvaderNouga;36048514]Met random Japanese bitch at bar, took her out to eat and then cuddle and made out on the seawall. Found out her Dads retired air force (he's Japanese too) so she can get on base. She's studying to be an English teacher , so she can actually speak comprehensible English. God I love Japanese girls.[/QUOTE]
it's odd that you'd put so much importance on her being Japanese. I'd feel pretty shitty if all someone could mention about our time together was how exotic my race was to them.
just to clarify
she's japanese, right?
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36051583]just to clarify
she's japanese, right?[/QUOTE]
No no dude, she's Japanese.
am I right? She's Japanese?
[QUOTE=Parakon;36051518]it's odd that you'd put so much importance on her being Japanese. I'd feel pretty shitty if all someone could mention about our time together was how exotic my race was to them.[/QUOTE]
Dude don't put the pussy on a pedestal . Shit is different out here in the camp Lester projects, I can worry about that relationship shit when I'm done having fun you feel me?
[QUOTE=InvaderNouga;36052328]Dude don't put the pussy on a pedestal . Shit is different out here in the camp Lester projects, I can worry about that relationship shit when I'm done having fun you feel me?[/QUOTE]
Word
[QUOTE=InvaderNouga;36052328]Dude don't put the pussy on a pedestal . Shit is different out here in the camp Lester projects, I can worry about that relationship shit when I'm done having fun you feel me?[/QUOTE]
is this a serious post
[QUOTE=InvaderNouga;36052328]Dude don't put the pussy on a pedestal . Shit is different out here in the camp Lester projects, I can worry about that relationship shit when I'm done having fun you feel me?[/QUOTE]
oh my god leave
lol
[QUOTE=InvaderNouga;36052328]Dude don't put the pussy on a pedestal . Shit is different out here in the camp Lester projects, I can worry about that relationship shit when I'm done having fun you feel me?[/QUOTE]
Sorry, what?
i can't tell if invadernouga is a military guy or just an otaku who calls his house base
because he cares an awful lot about the chick being japanese
He's military isn't he? He already referenced it once about the girl's dad.
[editline]23rd May 2012[/editline]
Oh. And we broke up today. So I kept busy. Went to the bank and did laundry and set up things to do with people the rest of the week and played video games. Unfortunately it's final exams this week. So I'll have all that quiet time in school with her in a couple of my classes. Just a few more days until summer.
[editline]23rd May 2012[/editline]
I cried a lot when it was happening, but it hasn't really hit me again yet. I'm not thinking about it.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;36061887]He's military isn't he? He already referenced it once about the girl's dad.
[editline]23rd May 2012[/editline]
Oh. And we broke up today. So I kept busy. Went to the bank and did laundry and set up things to do with people the rest of the week and played video games. Unfortunately it's final exams this week. So I'll have all that quiet time in school with her in a couple of my classes. Just a few more days until summer.
[editline]23rd May 2012[/editline]
I cried a lot when it was happening, but it hasn't really hit me again yet. I'm not thinking about it.[/QUOTE]
Virtual Companionship stretches out to ya, man.
Keep it tough, you clearly have it together. Just a few days, mate.
[QUOTE=DarkendSky;36061532]i can't tell if invadernouga is a military guy or just an otaku who calls his house base
because he cares an awful lot about the chick being japanese[/QUOTE]
yellow fever bro, its one of my guilty nerd desires. also ya i live in okinawa.
yeah bro
[QUOTE=thisispain;36063284]yeah bro[/QUOTE]
keep sippin on that haterade homie.
[QUOTE=InvaderNouga;36062712]yellow fever bro, its one of my guilty nerd desires. also ya i live in okinawa.[/QUOTE]
You are everything that is wrong with the American presence in this country. How does it feel having 90% of people around you wanting you to get the fuck out?
easy now jA_cOp
try to stay on topic...
Here is my question.
Why do I care? I had like the worst girlfriend imaginable. Met her on /v/ went out for 6 months. We were each others first (or so she said she lies alot), and it was a roller-coaster for those months. Weave pretend broken up before and either I or her always called and made up. Recently shes been more of a cunt then usually and weve broken up again.
One side of me wants it to be real just to be rid of her but the other side of me wants everything to keep her. Shes everything I hate yet I can't seem to get away. It's like i'm trapped in a cage of my own emotions.
Also, since I moved to my new city shes the only person I know here aside from my older cousin and mother.
"Why do I care?"
i don't know, why do you care?
if this girl's being (in your own words) more of a cunt than usual and you only feel good about your relationship half the time, and bad about it the other half, then finish it and find yourself someone better.
[QUOTE=Gprimeisback;36065511]Also, since I moved to my new city shes the only person I know here aside from my older cousin and mother.[/QUOTE]
This should not be a factor in your decision whatsoever.
It seems that you're considering breaking up with her, so it would seem you haven't got much to lose. Either you dump her, or you do everything you can to improve your relationship. If you choose the latter, the worst case scenario is that you break up.
[QUOTE=~ZOMG;36065825] If you choose the latter, the worst case scenario is that you break up.[/QUOTE]
Which seems like the best case scenario to me :P
[QUOTE=InvaderNouga;36062712]yellow fever bro, its one of my guilty nerd desires. also ya i live in okinawa.[/QUOTE]
yellow fever lol
it's what gets me girls
[editline]23rd May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Gprimeisback;36065511]Here is my question.
Why do I care? I had like the worst girlfriend imaginable. Met her on /v/ went out for 6 months. We were each others first (or so she said she lies alot), and it was a roller-coaster for those months. Weave pretend broken up before and either I or her always called and made up. Recently shes been more of a cunt then usually and weve broken up again.
One side of me wants it to be real just to be rid of her but the other side of me wants everything to keep her. Shes everything I hate yet I can't seem to get away. It's like i'm trapped in a cage of my own emotions.
Also, since I moved to my new city shes the only person I know here aside from my older cousin and mother.[/QUOTE]
dude... keep your options open
talking to girls other than your gf on a regular basis really helps you through these things.
[QUOTE=Gprimeisback;36065511]Here is my question.
Why do I care? I had like the worst girlfriend imaginable. Met her on /v/ went out for 6 months. We were each others first (or so she said she lies alot), and it was a roller-coaster for those months. Weave pretend broken up before and either I or her always called and made up. Recently shes been more of a cunt then usually and weve broken up again.
One side of me wants it to be real just to be rid of her but the other side of me wants everything to keep her. Shes everything I hate yet I can't seem to get away. It's like i'm trapped in a cage of my own emotions.
Also, since I moved to my new city shes the only person I know here aside from my older cousin and mother.[/QUOTE]
maybe go hang out with your older cousin and meet some people or something? also if you feel bad about it like half the time maybe you should just not have a girlfriend
its not like you NEED a girlfriend, which is something a lot of people dont get
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