[QUOTE=Warship;36234229]You could also try repairing her yourself...
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...with your "tool" huehuehu[/QUOTE]
she's too busy avoiding human contact
-whoops-
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[QUOTE=cueballv2themax;36234338]she's too busy avoiding human contact[/QUOTE]
so is she ignoring you?
man up and make her pay attention to you, and ask her what is going on
[QUOTE=Autumn;36234364]-whoops-
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so is she ignoring you?
man up and make her pay attention to you, and ask her what is going on[/QUOTE]
she sat at the end of my bed watching lord of the rings for three hours without noticing i was behind her crying.
i've had enough of her ambiguous bullshit so i just told her that her ignoring me was what made me sad and that "I'm messed up" is not a reason for crying as soon as you see me for the first time in ages.
i think you need to break up with her...
[quote]I just feel sad, trapped inside my own head and completely incapable of communicating. And I suppose in addition the fact that I no longer seem to be sexually attracted to you is scaring me because I am still emotionally attached to you and you’re like in love with me. I wasn’t trying to ignore you.[/quote]
yeah um this isn't good
do it
do it now
[QUOTE=Autumn;36234706]do it
do it now[/QUOTE]
i'm imagining you all standing in a circle chanting this omg
Well your relationship isn't going to go anywhere now, just meet up and break it off.
Well, it was fun while it lasted, now move on :)
i have a feeling that she's crying because she knows it's over, but she hasn't got the balls to tell you so, so she's just blowing it off by saying she's "messed up"
sorry. i could also be completely wrong! but it really doesn't seem like this is going anywhere good, so you're doing both of you a favour by being the one to finish it
but i fear i may make her problems worse, and whilst you may say "oh but she's hurting you" etc yes that's true but i do still love her and i don't want to add to a mountain of shit for her which i don't know the full severity of
[QUOTE=cueballv2themax;36234903]but i fear i may make her problems worse[/QUOTE]
what problems? problems that she can't even acknowledge your presence?
stop kidding yourself!
Regardless a relationship without sexual attraction is not a whole relationship. Quit rationalizing and putting it off, go out with dignity.
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6hB9NTYD0E[/media]
[QUOTE=Autumn;36234916]what problems? problems that she can't even acknowledge your presence?
stop kidding yourself![/QUOTE]
no that she feels trapped in her head and constantly sad plus some strange event that happened when she was 12/13 and the mere thought of drives her to tears but she says she never will divulge...
It is just delaying the inevitable though, you both know it's going to end.
She has all these problems but doesn't want to talk to you about them so what are either of you supposed to do? You'll just carry on not communicating, plus she basically just said she doesn't find you attractive and that's important for relationships.
She should really seek out a therapist if she's being how she says she is.
[QUOTE=cueballv2themax;36234963]no that she feels trapped in her head and constantly sad plus some strange event that happened when she was 12/13 and the mere thought of drives her to tears but she says she never will divulge...[/QUOTE]
Guilt trip/attention call. Don't fall for it, just bail. She'll be fine adn you'll be 110% better off.
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[QUOTE=cueballv2themax;36234963]no that she feels trapped in her head and constantly sad plus some strange event that happened when she was 12/13 and the mere thought of drives her to tears but she says she never will divulge...[/QUOTE]
You can't be the sole source of someones happiness. It doesnt work like that and staying just because you think it'l hurt her is foolish.
[QUOTE=cueballv2themax;36234963]no that she feels trapped in her head and constantly sad plus some strange event that happened when she was 12/13 and the mere thought of drives her to tears but she says she never will divulge...[/QUOTE]
Seriously? How many times have we seen this line used in this thread in one form or another when being afraid to break up with a girl.
You're making excuses for yourself to not dump her. It's not your job to get her life in order, the only person that can work out her problems is herself. You might want to believe you are the most important person in the world and you breaking up with her will causes her to go over the edge, but there's not even the remote possibility of that happening. Seriously, dump her and learn from the experiences you had.
This thread speaks the truth. Go forth, young padawan, and do what must be done.
I don't understand why some people have a huge problem with their emotions sometimes I mean it's not hard
cueball youre like 17 or something right?
shes being way too overdramatic about the entire situation
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;36236449]I don't understand why some people have a huge problem with their emotions sometimes I mean it's not hard[/QUOTE]
I just repress mine.
cueball that's a retarded situation, if I'm remembering correctly you haven't seen her in months and she just cries the entire time you hang out. Clearly she's sending a message, if she was still into the relationship she'd cry on her own time and want to hang out with you instead. And besides that what I gather from "I'm not sexually attracted to you, just emotionally" is "I want to break up but still be friends."
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;36236449]I don't understand why some people have a huge problem with their emotions sometimes I mean it's not hard[/QUOTE]
yeh how dare people have medical conditions or be unable to easily control themselves after a horrible hardship. suck it up faggots!!
[QUOTE=cyclocius;36236493]I just repress mine.[/QUOTE]
AAA advice from cyclocius
[QUOTE=metallics;36235356]Guilt trip/attention call. Don't fall for it, just bail. She'll be fine adn you'll be 110% better off.
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um being extremely traumatized is a serious thing that really happens to people and she's not most likely not guilt tripping you and her behavior is calling for help, not attention.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36238840]yeh how dare people have medical conditions or be unable to easily control themselves after a horrible hardship. suck it up faggots!![/QUOTE]
Good parenting/no childhood trauma master race
[QUOTE=gra;36239687]um being extremely traumatized is a serious thing that really happens to people and she's not most likely not guilt tripping you and her behavior is calling for help, not attention.[/QUOTE]
Nope, most definitely at that age. Bail. If she needs help it's from a therapist, not from him. There's sod all he can do except get pinned down feeling to guilty to move on.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;36239829]Good parenting/no childhood trauma master race[/QUOTE]
um nice one mate
a bit of sympathy goes a long way to breaking down that image you have of being a dickhead
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36239937]um nice one mate
a bit of sympathy goes a long way to breaking down that image you have of being a dickhead[/QUOTE]
Um actually bro I'm sitting here at work bored posting without much care as to what I post. I understand people have problems and issues and all sorts of shit that I can't relate to and I'm sorry they're in their situations.
And to me, boredom is a perfectly good excuse to act like a jackass on the Internet in substitute of my generally kind/understanding self.
You can reply to this if you want but I'm not gonna say anything as I really don't feel like it
So, I got here to get some advice of you guys.
Posted the story in fast threads somewhere before but this place seems more fitting.
There's this girl which I know for nearly 3 years now and I started 'liking' her about one year ago. She was in a relationship and friendzoned me but now I managed to slip out of there and even persuaded her to break up with her BF, because she wasn't happy at all and he's a douche.
Suddenly the next day she made out with another dude and did it again the next day (today, right as I write this.)
She told me she just wants to "play around" a bit, after breaking up and being single again and asked me if I could give her some time, but actually I'm scared that she might start a new relationship with the new dude. Should I attempt to interfer and make my move or wait?
The new dude is 28 and in a relationship himself by the way, the girl im talking about is 18. so 10 years difference.
I was dating this girl for a good 3 months and we were really happy together. Last friday we were totally fine, with pretty much nothing antagonizing our relationship. She told me two days ago that she thought we should break up. She seemed determined to break up and not talk it out, so we broke up. With girls before I've felt angry or regretful after breaking up with them... But I just want to be with this girl again. I asked her why she broke up with me on facebook and she said she felt "caged" at how serious it was getting. And from all accounts, her facebook wall, etc, she seems happy without me. Is it right for me to try and get her back? Is it possible to get her back?
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