[QUOTE=Flash;34382229]You sir are an asshole.[/QUOTE]
You sir aren't taking advantage of a potentially emotionally unstable girl who probably wants more than to hold hands with you.
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[QUOTE=trotskygrad;34380652]fucking man up
like (this sounds mean) find a girl that you don't really care about and ask her out.Because you don't really care about her, you won't feel as bad if you mess it up. If you succeed, it'll boost your confidence. [B]Just be sure that said girl doesn't fall madly in love with you.[/B][/QUOTE]
Not mean, ridiculous. That's like getting a penis enlargement - doesn't solve anything and only increases his reassurance that the penis is the cause for his miserableness.
[QUOTE=Seith;34385512]Not mean, ridiculous. That's like getting a penis enlargement - doesn't solve anything and only increases his reassurance that the penis is the cause for his miserableness.[/QUOTE]
no its not
its called getting more confident with the ladies
[editline]25th January 2012[/editline]
P.S
We started looking for our own apartment with my girlfriend today!
[QUOTE=Oxu365;34385625]no its not
its called getting more confident with the ladies
[editline]25th January 2012[/editline]
P.S
We started looking for our own apartment with my girlfriend today![/QUOTE]
... that's not confidence, that's relaying on a skill / physical trait to gain that confidence, which means it's not true confident. That won't help him get confident with the ladies.
[QUOTE=Seith;34385643]... that's not confidence, that's relaying on a skill / physical trait to gain that confidence, which means it's not true confident. That won't help him get confident with the ladies.[/QUOTE]
How the fuck is it a physical trait to ask a girl out? His point was that it'll boost your confidence if you know you can handle asking a girl out and going on a date with her. It'll make you more confident because you know how to handle the situation and not spaz the fuck out when you're on a date with someone you REALLY like.
Oh, I agree then.
[QUOTE=Oxu365;34385767]How the fuck is it a physical trait to ask a girl out? His point was that it'll boost your confidence if you know you can handle asking a girl out and going on a date with her. It'll make you more confident because you know how to handle the situation and not spaz the fuck out when you're on a date with someone you REALLY like.[/QUOTE]
basically yup
the more you come in contact with the opposite sex, the more normal it becomes.
[QUOTE=trotskygrad;34388369]basically yup
the more you come in contact with the opposite sex, the more normal it becomes.[/QUOTE]
Obviously, but I was looking at it from "having sex, with a woman u don't like and then suddenly understanding some women like you" standpoint and not the act of talking to women on a regular basis.
[QUOTE=Seith;34388390]Obviously, but I was looking at it from "having sex, with a woman u don't like and then suddenly understanding some women like you" standpoint and not the act of talking to women on a regular basis.[/QUOTE]
pssh, imo in that sort of relationship having sex is the thing you want to avoid, because it makes them get too close to you, and it hurts both of you more when you have to end the relationship. Unless they're a nympho and sex has little relationship and bonding value to them.
[QUOTE=trotskygrad;34389582]pssh, imo in that sort of relationship having sex is the thing you want to avoid, because it makes them get too close to you, and it hurts both of you more when you have to end the relationship. Unless they're a nympho and sex has little relationship and bonding value to them.[/QUOTE]
So the ability to separate desires such as sex and actual relationships is being a nympho?
You can't have sex without bonding?
[QUOTE=Seith;34392686]So the ability to separate desires such as sex and actual relationships is being a nympho?
You can't have sex without bonding?[/QUOTE]
it's a matter of relativity, if your carnal desires are greater (eg, you are a nympho) the amount of bonding that goes on during sex will be less, logically.
[QUOTE=trotskygrad;34392910]it's a matter of relativity, if your carnal desires are greater (eg, you are a nympho) the amount of bonding that goes on during sex will be less, logically.[/QUOTE]
Although you have a point, there's something more than just those simple ratios (i,e nympho no feelings)
You can't just declare something "logical" over something so dynamic. That separation of sex and having an emotional intimate relationship doesn't have to come purely from these ratios as I can desire sex without seeing myself developing much feelings. It's more about the abundance of women and abundance does not nessecarily mean lower sexual desire. Humans are not always driven by those logical psychological statements..
[QUOTE=Seith;34393188]Although you have a point, there's something more than just those simple ratios (i,e nympho no feelings)
You can't just declare something "logical" over something so dynamic. That separation of sex and having an emotional intimate relationship doesn't have to come purely from these ratios as I can desire sex without seeing myself developing much feelings. It's more about the abundance of women and abundance does not nessecarily mean lower sexual desire. Humans are not always driven by those logical psychological statements..[/QUOTE]
Very well said
[QUOTE=Seith;34393188]Although you have a point, there's something more than just those simple ratios (i,e nympho no feelings)
You can't just declare something "logical" over something so dynamic. That separation of sex and having an emotional intimate relationship doesn't have to come purely from these ratios as I can desire sex without seeing myself developing much feelings. It's more about the abundance of women and abundance does not nessecarily mean lower sexual desire. Humans are not always driven by those logical psychological statements..[/QUOTE]
well of course, that's why I said "it's a matter of relativity"
every statement I make there is relative to others, there are no absolutes.
[QUOTE=trotskygrad;34393666]well of course, that's why I said "it's a matter of relativity"
every statement I make there is relative to others, there are no absolutes.[/QUOTE]
Only a sith deals in absolutes...
[QUOTE=CheeserCrice;34400288]Only a sith deals in absolutes...[/QUOTE]
not really based on a lot of talk in the other girl problem threads
OMG I'M EITHER GETTING A GF OR GETTING FRIENDZONED
WUT DO
absolutes much?
I like absolutes, they are quite useful.
only a Seith deals in absolutes
[QUOTE=Seith;34400884]I like absolutes, they are quite useful.[/QUOTE]
would rate you evil but there is no evil rating
lost the v-card
woop
Tell us, does the world look any different from that side lf the line?
hard to tell from the first few hours
[editline]27th January 2012[/editline]
we'll see if the smug look lasts
I always look smug. How is that possible ?
I still have my v-card basically spotless in terms of my nonexistent service record. im so cool
[QUOTE=CorporalRoss;34421167]I still have my v-card basically spotless in terms of my nonexistent service record. im so cool[/QUOTE]
stop moping in the corner.
I lost my vcard after most people had, you then realise nothing is different other than you've had sex.
[editline]28th January 2012[/editline]
and maybe a slight confidence boost
nothing changed for me after I had sex for the first time
I wasn't expecting anything much to change - even though it was great and fun and a new experience, it wasn't good sex
[editline]28th January 2012[/editline]
both parties improve with time
Couldn't agree with above two posts more. Nothing at all changes in yourself, but you feel closer to your partner. And I've never heard of anyone having an actual good first time. Mine was really bad. Infact something went wrong on the first three times...
it took me a couple of years before i actually really started enjoying sex
i never found it particularly uncomfortable, or awkward, or scary, it just took a while before it was really... enjoyable!
[editline]28th January 2012[/editline]
(which i think is completely normal)
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