[QUOTE=supervoltage;36371078]I found out I am a true emo; that is, I'm not actually doing all that cutting and stuff, but I truly possess emotional intelligence.[/QUOTE]
use this gift of intelligence that was bestowed upon you to win her parents over!
maybe you should just try and conduct yourselves in secret but that could really horribly backfire for her and get her in a lot of shit with her clearly mental parents and that wouldn't be fair. she's clearly pretty messed up herself anyways
i believe in u
emos unite!!
[QUOTE=supervoltage;36371078]and I found out I am a true emo; that is, I'm not actually doing all that cutting and stuff, but I truly possess emotional intelligence.[/QUOTE]
this is getting weirder and weirder by the minute
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jo we are killing each other here with this post breaking
i don't think it's a good plan to pursue it. like it's already been said, if she's 18 and can't deal with her parents and you're only 16, it's really not looking like it'll work out.
Guys, don't worry about my emo-ism, I learned to manage my emotions. I can comfort M, but it's her parents that need some fixing.
you're 16, you're not going to "fix" her parents
[QUOTE=supervoltage;36371361]Guys, don't worry about my emo-ism, I learned to manage my emotions.[/QUOTE]
um we're not worried about your "emo-ism" we're worried about the fact you have labelled yourself with something called "emo-ism". seriously what are you on about
and yeh what autumn said
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36371438]um we're not worried about your "emo-ism" we're worried about the fact you have labelled yourself with something called "emo-ism". seriously what are you on about
and yeh what autumn said[/QUOTE]
In short, I'm trying to say that I'm fine, but I hate it when I see her parents hurt her like this. I might just have to tell them to show them how horrible they are. But that would make matters worse.. I need to maintain a clear head and think of the best solution.
Everyone has emotional intelligence, it's just some people have more emotional intelligence than others.
For instance, a lot of people can clearly communicate if they're feeling happy/sad, and some can go even further and explain why with ease. Meanwhile, other people can barely explain what they feel.
You've been told the best solution, don't pursue your relationship any further.
Also I think her parents could loosen up if they really understood who you were, but they sound incredibly strict and insensitive. Like Autumn said, I'm pretty doubtful you'll be able to fix them; maybe open their eyes a bit, but not fix.
And honestly cutting herself sends up warning flags for me. I have friends that cut and can lead very healthy relationships, but it definitely is an indicator that there's a lot of turmoil under the surface.
[I]guys guys, i've come to realise that i'm in touch with my emotions, i am emo
but i'm okay, i'm not cutting myself or anything. really, don't worry about me[/I]
seriously though, given both of your ages and the attitude of her parents i think you're really going to struggle to make it work at this point. but if you really do think you love her can you wait for another 7 years?
you could try and sneak behind their back, but they will always find out in the end, and then it's only going to reflect back badly on you, so really, i think you're going to struggle.
Plenty more fish in the sea, all that stuff
Also, how long is a healthy post-break-up period for a girl to go through?
that can depend entirely on every aspect of the person and the relationship
there is no set time
i feel kinda bad because you're clearly a nice guy (and not in a [URL="http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml"]Nice Guy[SUP]tm[/SUP][/URL] way) but this isn't going to work in the long-run
[QUOTE=Autumn;36371652]that can depend entirely on every aspect of the person and the relationship
there is no set time[/QUOTE]
Let me rephrase what I meant then.
What's the big difference between a healthy break-up period and an unhealthy one?
you could say "is still being hung up a year after ending a 3 month relationship excessive?"
or, "after 6 years of being together is she being a bit hasty being over it in a fortnight?"
but you can't just say "how long is a healthy post-break-up period for a girl to go through?"
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or "What's the big difference between a healthy break-up period and an unhealthy one?"
.. right, just another simple love story, right?
I think not. If I have to struggle, I will. I will not let go of her hands. I promised I would take care of her, that I would love her. I'm going to keep it. I struggled my introvertism by going to the chorus, I struggled to make her happy every day.
And I'll keep doing it. I can get through this. As long said have her, I can.
okay then mate. good luck!
My first and only relationship was a woman in a dream made of mud. It rained so much she became a part of the cornfield :tinfoil:
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36371654]i feel kinda bad because you're clearly a nice guy (and not in a [URL="http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml"]Nice Guy[SUP]tm[/SUP][/URL] way) but this isn't going to work in the long-run[/QUOTE]
sidetracking here, but.. that article. i have never read anything i could relate to so well.
a few months back i had some creepy dude acting exactly like that toward me, after wasting three years with the exact same type of person.
[QUOTE=supervoltage;36371731].. right, just another simple love story, right?
I think not. If I have to struggle, I will. I will not let go of her hands. I promised I would take care of her, that I would love her. I'm going to keep it. I struggled my introvertism by going to the chorus, I struggled to make her happy every day.
And I'll keep doing it. I can get through this. As long said have her, I can.[/QUOTE]
Naivety 101
From what I understand, the relationship lasted around a year and my friend and her ex- are still friends.
But the break-up has only been 2 months and I thought the relationship was shorter and the break-up period was longer, so nevermind really :v:.
[QUOTE=supervoltage;36371731].. right, just another simple love story, right?
I think not. If I have to struggle, I will. I will not let go of her hands. I promised I would take care of her, that I would love her. I'm going to keep it. I struggled my introvertism by going to the chorus, I struggled to make her happy every day.
And I'll keep doing it. I can get through this. As long said have her, I can.[/QUOTE]
"love"
Ah what it is to be young.
You're just going to make her life more shitty through your actions. you can't fix her parents, you can't magically whisk her away from them. You can wait until she's old enough to live her own life, or you could just move on.
[QUOTE=supervoltage;36371731].. right, just another simple love story, right?
I think not. If I have to struggle, I will. I will not let go of her hands. I promised I would take care of her, that I would love her. I'm going to keep it. I struggled my introvertism by going to the chorus, I struggled to make her happy every day.
And I'll keep doing it. I can get through this. As long said have her, I can.[/QUOTE]
you're 16.
just saying, most high school relationships don't last through college. you're going to change a LOT in the next few years.
there are PLENTY of other girls out there who don't have serious emotional problems or huge obstacles in their lives preventing you from being together.
also, it's almost offensive to hear someone throwing the word "love" around over an overly romanticized, incredibly short term high school relationship.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;36371966]sidetracking here, but.. that article. i have never read anything i could relate to so well.
a few months back i had some creepy dude acting exactly like that toward me, after wasting three years with the exact same type of person.[/QUOTE]
aye it's a brilliant article. helped me realise a lot about myself
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;36371966]sidetracking here, but.. that article. i have never read anything i could relate to so well.
a few months back i had some creepy dude acting exactly like that toward me, after wasting three years with the exact same type of person.[/QUOTE]
I knew there was a reason I kept this link in my bookmarks for nearly a year.
[url]http://www.physicsforums.com/showthread.php?t=411432[/url]
You will probably be able to relate to this pretty well too. I could, it was a real help.
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I have one more great website for you, when I was reading this article I felt like I was being read like a book, it was super surreal. It made me get my act together and realise sitting for a great girl to come to come along was never going to happen and that I had to get a move on myself.
[url]http://www.succeedsocially.com/shyguys[/url]
I really strongly suggest looking through the other articles. It is without a doubt one of the best websites I have ever discovered.
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If you don't want to read the physics one make sure you read the succeed socially link, I think a lot of people could be helped by reading the stuff that guy has put together.
[QUOTE=supervoltage;36371731].. right, just another simple love story, right?
I think not. If I have to struggle, I will. I will not let go of her hands. I promised I would take care of her, that I would love her. I'm going to keep it. I struggled my introvertism by going to the chorus, I struggled to make her happy every day.
And I'll keep doing it. I can get through this. As long said have her, I can.[/QUOTE]
oh my god listen to radiohead, cry yourself to sleep, and get over it already.
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