Long distance is easy.
Just find something to preoccupy yourself with while you wait
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;36441114]Long distance is easy.
Just find something to preoccupy yourself with while you wait[/QUOTE]
Long distance relationships only work when you can pay each others a visit several times a month.
Otherwise it's just painful bullshit.
[QUOTE=-Get_A_Life-;36441283]Long distance relationships only work when you can pay each others a visit several times a month.
Otherwise it's just painful bullshit.[/QUOTE]
if you're able to visit each other several times a month, it probably isn't that long of a distance. several times a year, yes. i haven't seen my girlfriend since january, and won't for another month, but then again in october and probably around christmas. it's hard, but it isn't just painful bullshit.
Going on holiday on Tuesday for a week. Girlfriend going on holiday the day before I come back (for a week as well). Rather annoying timing :/
After our date at the circus, my girlfriend screamed so hard it woke up the neighbors
Then the neighbors called their girlfriends over to try to top us dumb
every time you post it seems to become less believable...
and no one cares anyway
[QUOTE=sHiBaN;36443446]After our date at the circus, my girlfriend screamed so hard it woke up the neighbors
Then the neighbors called their girlfriends over to try to top us dumb[/QUOTE]
[img]http://theultimateplaylist.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/willy-wonka-wilder-300x300.jpg[/img]
Tell us more about your awesome love life.
i'd pay like $10 to read a parody of shiban's overexaggerated sexual adventures written by BDA
[QUOTE=Autumn;36443641]every time you post it seems to become less believable...[/QUOTE]
I guess from how you guys read my posts it seems awfully far-fetched. I understand. But I am telling the truth and I saw it fitting considering the topic of this thread, albeit pretty blunt and concise....
Just to save face, here are some pictures. My neighbors were annoying, laughing and causing noise all night and the circus was pretty awesome actually. If you have the chance, it's better than a movie date imo:
[IMG]http://i13.photobucket.com/albums/a283/shiban/2d2a1101.png[/IMG]
[video=youtube;1gGeFtGKxDQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gGeFtGKxDQ&feature=youtu.be[/video]
[QUOTE=CheeserCrice;36445423]
Tell us more about your awesome love life.[/QUOTE]
I'll be honest, it's pretty drab. At times a rollercoaster of events, good and horrible. At this point in time, sex with my girlfriend would be one of the main points of our relationship and I hope to fix that in the future perhaps. Times are tough and it's hard to juggle a relationship with a great woman with work/school/family.
Ey holmes it's all gravy it's what the thread is for
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36406882]my friend has been slowly chasing after this girl for pretty much the past year
i always told him he was wasting his time, but he never gave up, and eventually he got her to go to prom with him (though it was painful to watch, he did it pretty awkwardly)
she even semi-rejected him at first by saying "I'll go if this other guy doesn't ask me", which I thought was pretty rude
she clearly wasn't actually interested in him, and when he asked her out after prom she rejected him by saying she was busy
he even tried again a little later and she was still busy
ive tried getting it into his head that shes rejecting him and that he needs to move on, but he still says things like "maybe i should call her..." all the time, and he still wants to try to win her over
i dont know how to convince him to give up on her[/QUOTE]
I used to do the same thing. Now I look back and say, "WHY?"
Jo, I think it actually wouldn't hurt to just let your friend naturally phase out of chasing the girl around.
He might pick up on his actions and what you were saying when cooler heads prevail. Unless he's still pretty stuck on this girl for a long long time, in which case you probably should really pull him over and forcefully tell him that he needs to move on. Even then, though, some people are just long gone and can only really pull themselves out alone.
Speaking of which, psychological studies show that crushes only last 4 months tops. Anything past 4 months and the person is actually "in love."
[QUOTE=Reimu;36450826]
Speaking of which, psychological studies show that crushes only last 4 months tops. Anything past 4 months and the person is actually "in love."[/QUOTE]
4 months? I'm fucked.
To be fair I can't find the source for where I found that, and a lot of folks are skeptical about how long a crushing stage really lasts. I mean, plenty of folks have little crushes that pop in and out of their lives for years.
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Of course there's a difference between thinking "Oh she's kind of cute I like her" about someone and thinking Jay Gatsby style.
Let me know when you find it lmao being off by a few months can mean quite the difference :$
[QUOTE=Reimu;36450911]To be fair I can't find the source for where I found that, and a lot of folks are skeptical about how long a crushing stage really lasts. I mean, plenty of folks have little crushes that pop in and out of their lives for years.[/QUOTE]
yeahh, if i'm honest that sounds like complete bull to me. for a start, like you said, some people have little crushes that can last for a very long time, and secondly, there's no set time you can put on it and say "oh well it's been x amount of time, you *must* be in love now"
it's complete rubbish
Honestly psychological studies are really vague at times, there is so much that contradicts to itself and finding a "truth" is really hard. You can never find out any cause, only if there are some correlations or signficant differences.
One of the big theories in Social Psychology is that people do tend to perform well on certain tasks while being accompanied or doing it with other person around them. But on the other hand during certain situations it's the opposite, it all depends on the situation and such.
[QUOTE=Reimu;36450826]Speaking of which, psychological studies show that crushes only last 4 months tops. Anything past 4 months and the person is actually "in love."[/QUOTE]
sounds like shit. swear when i was about 17 i chased this girl around for like half a year for some dumb reason. we're really good friends these days but i had a ridiculous crush on her for aaaaages. it was never love
Is there a way to chemically quantify a level of infatuation in the brain, to be able to even empirically put apart "crush" and "inlove"?
Then this study is invalid and is all anecdotal. Also, the concept of love here is pretty vague. It's just a form of expression in my eyes
[QUOTE=Seith;36460625]Then this study is invalid and is all anecdotal. Also, the concept of love here is pretty vague. It's just a form of expression in my eyes[/QUOTE]
See, you can talk sense, its just people ignore it when you do.
[QUOTE=Seith;36459440]Is there a way to chemically quantify a level of infatuation in the brain, to be able to even empirically put apart "crush" and "inlove"?[/QUOTE]
WHAT IS LOVE
BABY DON'T HURT
DON'T HURT ME
NO MORE
the "crushes lasting longer than 4 months are TRUE LOVE" thing is bullshit, but the reasoning behind it is that your brain releases chemicals (dopamine in particular) when you become infatuated with someone. they can take anywhere from a few months to a few years to wear off. it's sort of like a high, and once it wears off the initial feelings you had for the person do as well.
Damnn.. got broken up for the second time because "I'm not right for her".. the first because she didn't trust me.
Thought I'd let you caring folks know.
The problem about love and the so called theory of "there's no true love" is that people want to live relationships fast and get into relationships fast without learning to love and deluding themselves with fake imediate ideas of love. This is one of the main reason why most people don't notice that special romantic someone even if he/she's blasting fireworks in front of them.
Personally I'd rather sit and wait for someone who notices me - because that's the exact type of person I want for my life - than lose my time with someone who just wants to have a boyfriend fast. Those are the exact people who make me lose interest, but at least some of them are good for the occasional booty calls.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36461523]This is one of the main reason why most people don't notice that special romantic someone even if he/she's blasting fireworks in front of them.[/quote]
i don't think it's a matter of "not noticing" the person, i think it's just someone's interests changing over time. what you're saying sounds suspiciously like the "nice guy" argument of "i've been here for this girl for years and done EVERYTHING for her so now she has to return the favor by going out with me".
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36461523]Personally I'd rather sit and wait for someone who notices me - because that's the exact type of person I want for my life - than lose my time with someone who just wants to have a boyfriend fast. Those are the exact people who make me lose interest, but at least some of them are good for the occasional booty calls.[/QUOTE]
so what you're saying is you won't "waste time" with people who are actively looking for a relationship because you'd rather sit around waiting for the perfect someone to walk into your life?
if you just mean that you're not interested in dating girls who are so desperate for a relationship that they don't care who it's with, then that's understandable, though.
I'm about to start dating a transgendered girl I know from my art class. We tried dating before but it only lasted a day. I'm not great with relationships and I always feel uneasy going into a new one, this one more than others. Is there any tips on how to handle this stupid feeling? Should I just man up and do it?
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One funny rating? :smith:
[QUOTE=CheeserCrice;36461278]See, you can talk sense, its just people ignore it when you do.[/QUOTE]
we don't just ignore seith when he is reasonable. by that logic, we would point out every other time anybody else says something reasonable, but we don't, because that is expected, and we would fill the thread with replies saying "hmm, yes CheeserCrice, that was such a logical and understandable post, keep it up." we do point it out when someone says stupid things consistently and repeatedly.
Does anyone else have anything their girlfriend or boyfriend does that's just so annoying, but you love at the same time?
My girlfriend will sing the most random things, and in a really obnoxious voice, which she knows I hate. For example, last night (or this morning, I suppose) me, her and a mutual friend were playing with a beach ball in the school parking lot after the grad party. She narrated the entire 'game'. in song'....
One thing she hates that I do just to annoy her is taking something cold (usually a beverage) and press it to her neck/back/stomach/face.
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