[QUOTE=Pepin;36698965]Right. I have to admit that I am a bit biased in my suggestion to continue smoking and lying as it was the decision I made in my last relationship. I really don't tend to lie in general, but this is something I had no problem in lying about, likely because I labeled her reasoning as irrational. I did tell the truth right out the first time she asked, and that was an annoying experience.[/QUOTE]
well the way i see it is that you either try to convince your partner that it is okay, or decide whether you like smoking or your relationship.
i mean if you have to lie about smoking your relationship isn't working
Not to mention the fact that its impossible to hide. You'll smell of it, your breath, your teeth will show it eventually.
[QUOTE=OH-SNAP!;36692775]Posted this in the love advice thread. Guess I'll post it her too.
So I just told my girlfriend that I love her. She says she was scared to say it back, because of her past boyfriends have hurt her after using the "L" word, and she is scared to feel how she felt in the past (we've talked about this before, and I knew she felt this way). I felt I needed/wanted to say it, and I know it's really how I feel about her.
Should I keep saying it every time I say goodbye to her (and other situations couples usually say "I love you," to each other), or should I just wait until she feels she is ready to say it? I'm not sure what to do guys.[/QUOTE]
I said it to her only that one time. Earlier today, she said she felt the same way and then said it back to me. Now we're both happy :)
Oh yeah and we've been dating 3 months now, for those wondering.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36700533]I showed my girlfriend that I still play Pokemon and she seemed ashamed.
I'm not sure if it was because I was playing Pokemon, or that I named one of my Pokemon "WHORE."[/QUOTE]
Does she not understand the neccessity of an HM whore??? WOMEN!
I don't understand why someone would risk a relationship over such a disgusting and harmful habit like smoking, when it is totally unnecessary. He said its only occasional too, why not stop before it leads to addiction, and save your health, money and your relationship?
[QUOTE=OH-SNAP!;36700856]I said it to her only that one time. Earlier today, she said she felt the same way and then said it back to me. Now we're both happy :)
Oh yeah and we've been dating 3 months now, for those wondering.[/QUOTE]
Don't mean to burst your bubble but that's not very long for 'love' imo. It's probably just infatuation. But good for you, I know the good feeling you get when they return the words.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;36701394]I don't understand why someone would risk a relationship over such a disgusting and harmful habit like smoking, when it is totally unnecessary. He said its only occasional too, why not stop before it leads to addiction, and save your health, money and your relationship?[/QUOTE]
The fuck?
Lost my virginity today at 21. Feels pretty good man.
Two girls hit me up very out of the blue, drank and walked for a bit, found an "for sale" house and the garage was unlocked and empty. Ate out both of them and fucked with and without a condom.
My better judgment went out the window because it was so spontaneous but fuck was it good. Well, good and bad. Did anyone else find it hard to keep their hard-on their first time?
that's kind of gross
[QUOTE=.Cheezy.;36701860]Lost my virginity today at 21. Feels pretty good man.
Two girls hit me up very out of the blue, drank and walked for a bit, found an "for sale" house and the garage was unlocked and empty. Ate out both of them and fucked with and without a condom.
My better judgment went out the window because it was so spontaneous but fuck was it good. Well, good and bad. Did anyone else find it hard to keep their hard-on their first time?[/QUOTE]
Have fun with your STD Smörgåsbord!
i dont believe you at all but even if it was true thats a really weird story
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36691622]It's funny because I know your serious.[/QUOTE]
only reason I say this i because both work for me and I can go 45 mins+ so can fiends of mine
I can only imagine what would have happened if that house was visited that day.
"And here is the beautiful and spacious garage, which also includes... threesomes. Anyway, if we go this way, I'll show you the wonderful apple gardens."
[QUOTE=Bread Dog;36695020]Admitted to my girlfriend that I smoked a bit when I was at a party. Boy was that a bad idea... shes pulled the disappointed card on me too.
If I lied to her and she found out, i'd be fucked. If I tell her up front, im still fucked. Women logic, theres no winning :c[/QUOTE]
her reaction is fair enough
you wouldnt want someone you loved to do something so pointlessly horrible for your health. of course she's disappointed
dont be a dick. dont smoke
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[QUOTE=Pepin;36698802]If you want to continue smoking, I advise you either get good at lying, or reasoning, or hiding.[/QUOTE]
what the fuck ????????
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yes i encourage you to be a) very good at lying to your girlfriend or b) rationalising smoking!!
really awesome thinking dude you are a staple of humanity
[QUOTE=thisispain;36701864]that's kind of gross[/QUOTE]
So, for you that is gross but rainbow kiss is not?
[QUOTE=.Cheezy.;36701860]Did anyone else find it hard to keep their hard-on their first time?[/QUOTE]
it is much harder to keep your boner down than keeping it up, because i have a case of the not gays
[QUOTE=Bread Dog;36695020]Admitted to my girlfriend that I smoked a bit when I was at a party. Boy was that a bad idea... shes pulled the disappointed card on me too.
If I lied to her and she found out, i'd be fucked. If I tell her up front, im still fucked. Women logic, theres no winning :c[/QUOTE]
I think you should smoke whenever you like and not feel guilty about it. Really. That's not a healthy attitude from her. Seems like she's the one wearing the pants in the relationship. No offence.
She's your girlfriend, not your boss. You should stand up to her sometimes.
[QUOTE=thisispain;36701864]that's kind of gross[/QUOTE]
whoah there partner what i think you meant to say is thats kinda HOT
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seriously though i dont think you get to say anything is gross after all that rainbow kiss talk
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[QUOTE=.Cheezy.;36701860] Did anyone else find it hard to keep their hard-on their first time?[/QUOTE]
can we switch dicks? i would kill to have hard-ons less of the time, thinking about football and other boring things gets old
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36703181]I think you should smoke whenever you like and not feel guilty about it. Really. That's not a healthy attitude from her. Seems like she's the one wearing the pants in the relationship. No offence.
She's your girlfriend, not your boss. You should stand up to her sometimes.[/QUOTE]
but a big part of relationship is compromise. you don't get to do whatever you want, all of the time. two people are never going to share identical beliefs so there's always things you'll be opposed at. the correct thing to do is reach compromise or talk it out and figure out what works for both of you. maybe sometimes you'll need to make a sacrifice. and if that's smoking, then shit buddy, she's doing you a huge favour. life is full of sacrifice. this dude's advice is the worst ever. if you wanna smoke whenever you want you should probably find a partner that's cool with it. otherwise it's just not cool.
and if it's a long term relationship, she's the one who has to take care of you should you get cancer. she's the one left with nothing if you die of it. that's a pretty fucked up thing to do to a person, all because you just wanted to smoke.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36703626]but a big part of relationship is compromise. you don't get to do whatever you want, all of the time. two people are never going to share identical beliefs so there's always things you'll be opposed at. the correct thing to do is reach compromise or talk it out and figure out what works for both of you. maybe sometimes you'll need to make a sacrifice. and if that's smoking, then shit buddy, she's doing you a huge favour. life is full of sacrifice. this dude's advice is the worst ever. if you wanna smoke whenever you want you should probably find a partner that's cool with it. otherwise it's just not cool.
and if it's a long term relationship, she's the one who has to take care of you should you get cancer. she's the one left with nothing if you die of it. that's a pretty fucked up thing to do to a person, all because you just wanted to smoke.[/QUOTE]
I don't think he issue is the smoking itself, its that she put up a big hissy fit even though he was sorry and is still trying not to smoke.
There's no trying, only doing. Either you stop puffing smoke or you don't, simple as that.
Also, having a fit over smoking as an excuse that "she cares for you, so you don't die on her when u have cancer cus of it" is bullshit. If she cares that much, let's just eat vegetables, wear gas masks to protect from pollution and cut on sodas as they all potentially have a harmful effect on one's health.
I'm not justifying either one of their behaviours, as I find his way of dealing with it as well a bit childish.
[QUOTE=Seith;36703875]There's no trying, only doing. Either you stop puffing smoke or you don't, simple as that.
Also, having a fit over smoking as an excuse that "she cares for you, so you don't die on her when u have cancer cus of it" is bullshit. If she cares that much, let's just eat vegetables, wear gas masks to protect from pollution and cut on sodas as they all potentially have a harmful effect on one's health.
I'm not justifying either one of their behaviours, as I find his way of dealing with it as well a bit childish.[/QUOTE]
You're being stupid. You're taking what I said and then going to the very extreme of it to try and prove it's wrong? There's a difference between 'wearing a gas mask at all times' and 'not smoking'. Trying to invalidate my argument using extreme examples is pretty stupid too.
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One's totally paranoid and bizarre, and the other is not going out of your way to do extra, severe damage to your body. If you seriously think it's the same thing then you've got mental issues (but we already know that)
And yeah, plenty of things are bad for you. But smoking is much, much worse. It's not weird to cut down on the things that do the most damage to your organs.
[QUOTE=Seith;36703875]There's no trying, only doing. Either you stop puffing smoke or you don't, simple as that.
Also, having a fit over smoking as an excuse that "she cares for you, so you don't die on her when u have cancer cus of it" is bullshit. If she cares that much, let's just eat vegetables, wear gas masks to protect from pollution and cut on sodas as they all potentially have a harmful effect on one's health.
I'm not justifying either one of their behaviours, as I find his way of dealing with it as well a bit childish.[/QUOTE]
It's not like he's smoking around her, and occasionally smoking isn't going to lead to some kind of addiction unless he's weak willed.
I smoke occassionally when I'm drunk, wouldn't do it any other time, so unless I'm drunk 24/7 I won't get to that point.
Perhaps she thinks they're going to be together forever and she'll die alone.
Smoking occassionally at a party isn't going to do noticable damage to your lungs Rusty, and I imagine he isn't going through a pack a night, just a few.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36704177]You're being stupid. You're taking what I said and then going to the very extreme of it to try and prove it's wrong? There's a difference between 'wearing a gas mask at all times' and 'not smoking'. Trying to invalidate my argument using extreme examples is pretty stupid too.
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One's totally paranoid and bizarre, and the other is not going out of your way to do extra, severe damage to your body. If you seriously think it's the same thing then you've got mental issues (but we already know that)
And yeah, plenty of things are bad for you. But smoking is much, much worse. It's not weird to cut down on the things that do the most damage to your organs.[/QUOTE]
My point is that her argument is invalid especially when you say she does this because she cares about him. That's why I had given these "Extreme" examples and claimed it bullshit.
Unless he smokes 1 pack a day, for the most part "having a fit" I would consider drama.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36700533]I showed my girlfriend that I still play Pokemon and she seemed ashamed.
I'm not sure if it was because I was playing Pokemon, or that I named one of my Pokemon "WHORE."[/QUOTE]
huh, my girlfriend and I play pokemon together. I guess we're kind of weird.
[QUOTE=Seith;36704309]My point is that her argument is invalid especially when you say she does this because she cares about him.[/QUOTE]
Seith once again proves that he is autonomous and does not understand human emotion
[QUOTE=Seith;36704309]My point is that her argument is invalid especially when you say she does this because she cares about him. That's why I had given these "Extreme" examples and claimed it bullshit.
Unless he smokes 1 pack a day, for the most part "having a fit" I would consider drama.[/QUOTE]
Well you see, in our generation there is a strong social stigma against smoking which wasn't there in previous generations. Less people are smoking because it has been integrated into their thought process that smoking is going to give you cancer. The girlfriend is probably concerned that if he smokes once, he's going to smoke again, and from then it could be a slippery slope towards smoking several packs a day. There isn't as strong of an awareness of the other health hazards, I mean after all, when was the last time you saw someone's cancer ridden lung displayed on a box of pepsi? As well, the girlfriend could have personal reasons to be against smoking, such as losing a loved one to cancer as a result of cigarettes. I would say that based on her perspective, the girlfriend is expressing her care by trying to keep the boyfriend safe.
[QUOTE=wallyroberto_2;36704747]Well you see, in our generation there is a strong social stigma against smoking which wasn't there in previous generations. Less people are smoking because it has been integrated into their thought process that smoking is going to give you cancer. The girlfriend is probably concerned that if he smokes once, he's going to smoke again, and from then it could be a slippery slope towards smoking several packs a day. There isn't as strong of an awareness of the other health hazards, I mean after all, when was the last time you saw someone's cancer ridden lung displayed on a box of pepsi? As well, the girlfriend could have personal reasons to be against smoking, such as losing a loved one to cancer as a result of cigarettes. I would say that based on her perspective, the girlfriend is expressing her care by trying to keep the boyfriend safe.[/QUOTE]
Would be nice if she actually explained such things
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36705553]I tell my girlfriend I don't want her to drink, and she loves beer. She doesn't drink because I tell her I worry about what could happen and I don't want her to get addicted to it and she tells me she'll never drink unless she's with me, because then she knows she'll be safe. Yay, compromise!
I mean if your going to cut your leg off, and your girlfriend said "No! Don't!" You're not being a bitch, and neither is she. She's just looking out for your well being.[/QUOTE]
Is your girlfriend 14?
Fairly sure she can handle drinking alcohol and not going over the top with it.
[QUOTE=Bread Dog;36695020]Admitted to my girlfriend that I smoked a bit when I was at a party. Boy was that a bad idea... shes pulled the disappointed card on me too.
If I lied to her and she found out, i'd be fucked. If I tell her up front, im still fucked. Women logic, theres no winning :c[/QUOTE]
That's not too bad. Last falling out between me and my missus was because I got on MDMA when we went out and hadn't told her. No sexy time for me that night
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